Our guest blogger today is Jesse’s Girl! And she sent in a doozy! Here’s what she wrote:
I don’t like him….I can’t help it. Lord knows I have tried. I have turned the other cheek. I have vented to Mr. Jesse. I have vented to other friends. I have journaled and prayed. Nothing….and I do mean nothing…changes the fact that every time I see him, I want to thwop him upside the head.
Who has earned such eye-rolling ire you ask? Its my friend’s husband. The man has actually been known to cause hives…serioulsy. Now I must say…I love my friend. I love her like my sister…and if I thought for a hot-second that she read anything other than pre and post planning, I’d never post this. There are only 3 people in the world who know my true identity….and they all know I would hunt them down and slice them like a filet if they ever snitched:) And my friend’s husband doesn’t read anything longer than a tweet. So I feel pretty safe asking for the sage wisdom and advice of Momania’s regulars (and visitor’s!) on how best to handle my ever increasing FHI’s…..Friend-Husband-Issues!
A little FH history…..He has…
1. Cheated on her
2. Never changed a light bulb, used a hammer, or cut the grass a day in his life.
3. Has never finished anything he started…including (sadly) Seminary.
4. Has no respect for my friend…or any woman for that matter.
Now…I know my liking or not liking my FH is not a prerequisite. And in the grand scheme of things…this is a rather unimportant bump in life’s road. But my quandry goes even deeper I think. I struggle with the notion that my sweet, caring, beautiful, giving and faithful friend allows her husband to get away with such BS! Perhaps my disdain has less to do with him and more to do with her? Cause’ you best believe that Jesse would NEVER pee normally again if he behaved in this way!
I have tried to bring this up to her….but its so very difficult to find the words. I can see what it does to her when he acts childish. But I can also see the love she has for him.
So my question…..should I go on keeping my mouth peacefully shut? Or the next time she cries about this or that…should I lovingly intimate that its she who is perpetuating this by not taking a stand? Now, my Momania junkies….you may talk amongst yourselves:)