I know exactly how you feel. I am pregnant with my second child, I have a son who is 4 1/2, before I had him, I had a stillborn son at 28wks, prior to that I had 5 miscarriages so needless to say my son was a miracle. I didn’t expect to be able to have another child so for me this baby is a true true blessing from God. My mother in law and 3 friends are throwing me a shower which is wonderful, unfortunately not everyone sees it that way one of them being my older sister who had no qualms about telling me how it wasn’t proper to have baby shower for the second baby I am actually putting this kindly compared to how my sister worded it. A new baby is a time for celebration, I don’t care if it’s your second or your sixth baby and if someone wants to give you a shower then so be it. I can’t believe that this is suppose to be one of the happiest times in my life and my sister found a way to make it horrible. If you haven’t figured it out she is not invited to the shower. I kept alot of big things believe it or not, but about a year ago I gave away most everything, thinking that I got my one miracle and also because I am high risk and was told by the doctors it wasn’t a good idea due to all the complications I have had in the past. My husband and I didn’t plan for this baby but he is on his way. I want him to come into this life feeling loved by everyone around him, I have finally accepted if people don’t want to do that and don’t want to celebrate his life with me at my shower then don’t come. Every baby is a blessing and should be treated equally. There is no greed in a baby shower only celebration. I hope that helped!

I could see giving a small goody bag like a regular guest at a child’s birthday party might receive. That should be plenty if the child isn’t already spoiled.

I have a coworker that worries that people will think bad of her if she doesn’t drink Starbucks coffee everyday..So how stupid is that? Again as others said, if a friend wants to give new mom a baby shower for her second child, why should it bother anyone?