Comments on: Should Baby No. 2 get a shower?

By: BabyShower101.com

BabyShower101.com — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 19:31:30 +0000

Baby “Sprinkles” – showers for 2nd and 3rd babies – are definitely gaining in popularity. http://www.babyshower101.com/baby_shower_sprinkles.html has lots of information about how these baby showers differ from the typically more elaborate baby showers (for first babies) that are being hosted today.

By: penguinmom

penguinmom — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 16:38:25 +0000

I don’t think an older sibling should get presents on the baby’s 1st birthday. He/she will likely help open the baby’s presents, will get to eat cake, will probably play with baby’s presents some (especially if they are close in age).

I could see giving a small goody bag like a regular guest at a child’s birthday party might receive. That should be plenty if the child isn’t already spoiled.

By: FCM

FCM — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 16:03:27 +0000

Only on the very child (under 4) who would not understand should get a birthday present on the baby’s 1st. It prevents rivelry and bad feelings to the new baby.

By: HB

HB — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 15:46:12 +0000

I agree uconn. I do bring big brother/sister gifts when the new baby is born (I think that helps older sibling see becoming a big brother as something to be celebrated), but definitely not for first birthdays. That is when they need to learn that some days are totally about someone else (and baby won’t receive gifts on big’s birthday either).

By: uconn

uconn — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 13:09:23 +0000

Um why do the big sister/brother need to get a gift on the other child’s birthday? Shouldn’t they learn its not all about them and that birthdays are special days?

By: Becky

Becky — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 12:33:33 +0000

Anonymous, I think that some people are to concercened with petty stuff..Yes, I worry about what others think (sometimes), but I’m not going to worry all of the time about others..Life is to short for a bunch of pettiness…

I have a coworker that worries that people will think bad of her if she doesn’t drink Starbucks coffee everyday..So how stupid is that? Again as others said, if a friend wants to give new mom a baby shower for her second child, why should it bother anyone?

By: JJ

JJ — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 11:59:09 +0000

FCM when I was pregnant, my friends threw me a shower, and they were sure to include my step-daughter. A few brought gifts for the “Big sister”. I thought that was so sweet.

By: JJ

JJ — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 11:57:28 +0000

Catlady, yes we had alcohol at our showers. Obviously the pregnant woman didn’t drink, but the rest of us did. We even had alcohol at her first born’s birthday party. We ALWAYS have alcohol when we gather. And it’s custom when we all get together, the host/hostess has tequilla and we all do a shot when everyone has finally arrived.

By: Elizabeth Ball

Elizabeth Ball — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 05:38:05 +0000

While an actual baby shower for a second child is probably not that common, people do still buy gifts for a second baby. A survey on baby gifts found that 91.2% would buy a gift for their eldest neice or nephew so he/she didn’t feel left out (when his/her younger sibling received gifts).
http://www.itsinthestarsonline.com/verve/_resources/Nieces-and-nephews-receive-most-expensive-baby-gifts.pdf
Hope this helps!

By: FCM

FCM — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 00:57:26 +0000

One thing to remember when siblings will close in age like this is that big sister doesn’t understand. Caring adults who ‘get it’ will bring a small something for big sister so that baby doesn’t get everything. Same thing at the first birthday, there should be a small present that big sister can open too….Grandparents are PERFECT for pulling that off, so are GODPARENTS. ;o)