Jon & Kate may split; Aunt Jodi says marriage is over

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I know some of you guys don’t want to talk about Jon & Kate, but there are just too many articles floating around about them right now to ignore the topic.

Entertainment Weekly has a big sit down interview with both Jon and Kate and they act like things are fine.

But then People online has published on the same date an article that says “Kate Gosselin Admits to Struggling with Her Marriage.” (The print magazine with more comments comes out on Friday.)

People online reports:

” ‘I don’t know that we’re in the same place anymore, that we want the same thing,’ she says quietly. ‘I’ve been struggling with the question of ‘Who is this person?’ for a while.’ ”

“Kate does have hope, however, that her marriage can be saved. ‘I will never give up hope that every member of our family can be absolutely happy again,’ she says.”

One of the commenters on the EW story linked to Radar Online to an interview with Kate’s brother and his wife Aunt Jodi. They say the marriage is over. It has actual footage of them talking.

It also says that brother Kevin and Aunt Jodi gave the only print interview to Star magazine so I assume that means money was involved.

UPDATE: Here is another story from The Associated Press on Access Atlanta saying it’s tough being in the spotlight.

What do you make it of it all: Which headline is right? Is the marriage over? Can it survive? What do they need to do to save it? (Probably stop filming a TV show.) Are they willing to do it? Is it all just a publicity stunt to amp up rating when the show returns on May 25?

121 comments Add your comment

veronica lee

May 14th, 2009
3:55 am

Hi, I’m visiting from MBC. Great blog.

PHR

May 14th, 2009
7:36 am

I’m so sad about this. I loved their family. You could tell at the end of the last season that Jon was over all of it. All I can think about is their poor children. I can’t imagine what it is doing to them. So sad!

JJ

May 14th, 2009
7:44 am

So what? I feel bad for the kids, but this is what happens when you allow cameras in your face 24/7 and you are seeking some sort of fame.

I am so glad I am not a celebrity. I like my quiet, peaceful life.

motherjanegoose

May 14th, 2009
7:53 am

I do not watch the show.

Here is what I cannot stand….when dirt shows up on public figures and they flat out deny anything happened. Later the truth comes out and YES there was a problem.
Do they not think something will eventually surface and leak ( if there is a problem) or are they so above the rest of us that they think we will be stupid enough to believe anything they tell us, in order to protect their reputation?
My family has it’s own set of problems but we do not have the papparazzi ( sp?) following us around…thank heavens AND most of the world could care less about our issues…LOL.

RJ

May 14th, 2009
8:02 am

I don’t watch the show anymore, but I hope that they can work through their differences for sake of their children. For one, they need to get rid of the cameras and focus on their family. They definitely need marriage counseling. Marriage is very difficult but you have to put the needs of your kids above your own.

Photius

May 14th, 2009
8:21 am

More people in America can tell you with great detail all about Jon & Kate but don’t know that the USA will soon have 70,000 boys in Afghanistan fighting a war with no plan. Keep it up, people….. Who cares about Jon & Kate? Why waste your time on this junk especially when there are matters of substance facing us….

HB

May 14th, 2009
8:42 am

There are so many tabloid articles that we can’t ignore the topic? We just have to gossip about this couple’s marriage? Really?

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

May 14th, 2009
8:50 am

Hey HB and Photius — I can understand your complaint, but Jon & Kate are one of the most frequently searched topics on this blog (”Aunt Jodi” is searched for all the time) so I’m just trying to connect you guys to information that people are literally “searching” for.

Hey you guys get to vote for tomorrow: I’ve got three possible topics —
1. Field day: Not competitive enough anymore?
2. Pet Peeves: Top Pet peeves for your spouse
3. Six Flags: When is the right age to take your kids? Tips to have fun. Also memories from you going as a kid. (And I have video and photo gallery from the New Monster Mansion ride — you will remember it as the Monster Plantation.
I may make this a poll!

Jesse's Girl

May 14th, 2009
8:57 am

Good Lord….I have some Six Flags stories! I sang there while in high school!!! First french kiss at Monster Plantation….yeah baby!! Ah, the memories!!!

So…their marriage is in trouble? Gee…I can’t imagine why. Poor kids…maybe they can get a multi-kid deal on hourly counseling rates:)

JJ

May 14th, 2009
8:59 am

I vote for Six Flags…..more flags, more fun!!!!!

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

May 14th, 2009
9:05 am

While we definitely want to hear about JG making out in the Monster Plantation ride — now called the Monster Mansion — Save the stories!! No sharing yet about Six Flags! This is why I don’t tell you the topics in advance — Also vote on my cute little poll that I took the time to make! That’s the official vote count!

Jesse's Girl

May 14th, 2009
9:07 am

I also worked at Splash Water Falls for about 10 minutes. Then I saw the hair product sludge/waste on the surface of the water and thought again….I’ll take singing out in the hot sun ANY day!!!:)

Jesse's Girl

May 14th, 2009
9:07 am

OK….make out story officially saved for tomorrow!!!!

sd

May 14th, 2009
9:31 am

I don’t understand why everyone hates the “Octomom” but thinks these folks are fine. Is the line at 9 children being too many?

I have a lot of trouble with this fertility treatment business when it comes to these multiple births.

Jesse's Girl

May 14th, 2009
9:35 am

I have seen Jon and Kate (the show) exactly ONE time…..but I am constantly assaulted with their mugs everytime I go to any grocery/convenience store!!! It only took one time to hear her de-ball him on the show to know that it would turn into Jon and Kate plus 8…every other weekend:) I want to throat punch the octo-mom too.

Jesse's mama

May 14th, 2009
9:38 am

I agree, this is what happens when you do reality T.V. However I also think it could all be just drawing attention to drive up ratings for the new season. Think about the timing here. What nobody has brought up is the way Kate treats John. I watch the show and anyone that does knows she’s not loving and sweet to her husband. I don’t condone his behavior but I can’t say I blame him for not being happy. She needs to take a look at her behavior. Raising eight kids can’t be easy but she’s making it worse for herself.

Michelle

May 14th, 2009
9:42 am

I think if they truly want to save their marriage, they need to get out of the public eye. They need to quit trying to get a high dollar lifestyle for free. They need to start living a “normal” life. I agree with most of you, the kids are the ones who will suffer through this!

lisa

May 14th, 2009
9:47 am

Well here it goes after wathing the show for so long I just knew it was a matter of time before Kates behavior torward her husband caught up with her. There are these controlling crazy woman out there that think everyone should put up with them. Well destiny has a way of letting you know you can’t and time to eat humble pie!!! There is only soo much men can take. I was a small version of Kate (not as controlling) but, didn’t stop and think sometimes of how I spoke to my husband. Well my husband finally put in me in my place when he called me out on it. We went through a very hard 3 months and we almost split but, thankfully we got counseling and worked it out. That was 6 years ago. I really learned that you shouldn’t really treat people like they are nothing. Especially your husband! He is there to be your husband and friend not a child!! I wish all these over controlling woman out there step back and think because their taste of humble pie awaking will happen to them to!! I hope Kate realizes her ways!

JJ

May 14th, 2009
9:50 am

I honestly don’t give a rat’s butt about Jon & Kate’s marriage. It as ZERO affect on my life. I don’t care how she treats him, or how he treats her. ZIP NADA NIL, I don’t care.

My life is full with my one child, four animals, one reptile, a house and a full time job.

Aubri

May 14th, 2009
9:51 am

I am just sad that yet another marriage is on the rocks. I’m not sure where they will go from here but I can’t begin to imagine dividing the assets and figuring out the whole custody thing. I can’t imagine being a single parent to one or two let alone 8 kids! I do think we should be less judgmental of them and their lifestyle choice. But we do have grounds to be judgmental of Jon. He seriously needs to grow up! His behavior is reprehensible!

Kathy

May 14th, 2009
9:56 am

Jon and Kate breaking up…..SURPRISE SURPRISE. I am so sad for all those kids. I hope they each take a good look in the mirror to find the answers to “what went wrong” and not blame each other or anyone else.

Looking forward to the Six Flags stories!!

Audrey in Georgia

May 14th, 2009
9:57 am

It looks like “Jon and Kate Plus 8″ is going to become “Jon and Kate Plus 8 In Treatment” and
later it will become “Jon and Kate Plus 8 Intervention.” I hope they work things out.

Tami

May 14th, 2009
9:58 am

I had heard something a few months back about Jon & Kate not being as close to Kevin & Jodi any longer, as well as a whole slew of friends/family probably due to the show, etc. I’m not sure what to believe about this story any longer. But, if Kate’s brother & sister-in-law are speaking up about it, they MAY know more and have more details than we’ve been getting. I think the marriage is salvageable IF they take a break from the show (or quit altogether) and get their family life straightened out. I began to notice changes in Kate during this last season. I wasn’t getting that usual “warmth & fuzziness” out of the whole group, but was somewhat reassured when they had their marriage renewal. However, a renewal played out on reality TV can sometimes spell gloom & doom. I hoped I was wrong in my thinking with these two, but I guess not. It’s all very sad. The marriage is fixable, but they may not want to fix it now. Somehow in the middle of all of this, they forgot to focus on the children and not themselves. Now look at the mess they’ve created.

MountainDawg

May 14th, 2009
10:01 am

I don’t care for the show too much, but watch it with my wife sometimes (as she enjoys it). This could be a ruse to boost ratings for their (overrated) show, but they’re being totally selfish if this is true. Although Kate’s an annoying harpy, marriage is for life & divorce (save for infidelity) is a sin & destructive to families!

David S

May 14th, 2009
10:09 am

Wow, two parents find themselves unsatisfied with the wonderful girls they already have and thus violate the will of god again and create 6 more kids. Then to pay for their new burden they turn to the materialistic and superficial world of entertainment and exploit all of their children not just to pay the bills, but for extreme material enhancement.

They no longer have a relationship with each other and their children, they now have a relationship with the exploitive entertainment industry and the television viewing audience. They no longer live as a family, but as characters on a reality show (and those always go well – just ask Jessica Simpson and Nick).

Should it really surprise anyone that this family has failed? One can only hope that this couple, along with the disgrace that is the Octomom, will wake everyone up to the downsides of IVF and other manipulative methods of reproduction. Just a brief glimpse of these two in action shows that they were not well-suited or really prepared to be parents of any children, let alone the litter they now have.

One has to feel sorry for the kids, especially the older girls. They have clearly been regarded as inadequate from the day these two set their sights on more children. Fortunately for them, they are the older ones and will be in position to get away from this disfunctional cirsumstance sooner than the other six.

Its funny how folks now condemn the horrible exploitation of the Dionne quints in the 50’s but yet glue themselves to their televisions in the 00’s to watch the same kind of exploitation of these kids. Yes, our civilization is definitely evolving.

motherjanegoose

May 14th, 2009
10:15 am

If you want to keep me off the blog tomorrow LOL please choose Six Flags….( I hear clapping now).
I did not grow up here, so my only experience at Six Flags has been as an adult and I did my best to send my kids with friend’s kids when they got their FREE tickets from reading. I reciprocated and took their kids somewhere else, on another day.

I am never about paying to stand in line and sweat LOL. I do like Dollywood, as it is cleaner, cooler ( trees everywhere) and more FAMILY oriented. Even grandparents have fun without any offspring. I know others who just think it is too country! The food and music is great.

Mark

May 14th, 2009
10:16 am

Kate is more interested in being on TV than she is in her husband or any of his opinions. That’s obvious.

Hotrod

May 14th, 2009
10:25 am

Nice honest post Lisa! Thanks for that. You are spot on. When I would stop by the show and watch it for a couple minutes, I could tell this relationship is extremely cold. While they are being interviewed there on the couch sitting together, you can tell he is wishing he was anywhere else but there.

With half of the marriages failing , another 30% in a bad marraige like Jon and Kates, I think the institution of marraige needs to be overhauled. My opinion is that the lust thing is fooling couples that this is what makes a happy marraige and they get married.

Rule of thumb #1 : If one marries a supermodel type person with zero common personality traits, 99.9% divorce probability awaits you.

Rule of Thumb #2 : If you think the person can or will change after you
marry them, 99.9% divorce probabilty awaits you. Here is proof, have you ever seen someone after 20-30 years and they say ” you are just like the way you were high school”. People really don’t change much personality wise from puberty on. Some experts say it is set much earlier. It aint changin.

Rule of thumb #3: Don’t have 8 kids and a reality show if #1 or #2 apply to you. It just keeps the stupid cycle going.

Kar

May 14th, 2009
10:32 am

I’m surprised how many people seem to be practically encouraging Jon to step outside of the marriage even before rumors of the bodyguard fling. Usually the sympathy is squarely with the wife.

Do people really dislike her enough to be ok with adultery?

Kristin

May 14th, 2009
10:33 am

I’ve seen exactly 15 minutes of this show (I’ve been bombarded with their image though)

It’s sad any time a family falls apart, kids are resilient but I feel that they thrive better in a happy intact household.

She was just so emasculating towards her husband that it was uncomfortable to even watch. It’s sad that she sacrificed her family for the sake of 15 minute of fame.

jablonski

May 14th, 2009
10:40 am

WOW, big surprise. She treats him like GARBAGE. I hope she has a miserable life because she is a miserable person. Joel McHale on “the soup” made one of the funniest comments on this show. The clip was one of that “b*tch” wearing Jon out and McHale said “check out next seasons new show Jon: Minus 9!! Funny and TRUE!

MountainDawg

May 14th, 2009
10:46 am

jablonski – LOL! Good analogy to Joel McHale/”The Soup”…he does a good job of laying into the whole “reality TV” genre. “Kate” is indeed a battleaxe of the 1st order.

tracher

May 14th, 2009
10:46 am

Who cares? Seriously. What does this have to do with anything?

Scott in Atl

May 14th, 2009
10:48 am

I’m sorry, but I have no idea who these people are….Is this from some soap opera or something? It is amazing how fixated people are on this drama though…I think they are bored with their lives so latch on to other peoples drama. Maybe they should work or play harder- you only get one shot at this life, people!!!!

cubalibre

May 14th, 2009
10:49 am

I’ve never watched this show– the only portions of it I’ve seen are the clips they show on “The Soup” (which I do watch, EVERY week). I realize that editing can leave things out, skew the context of comments or actions, and slant perspective towards a particular conclusion. But even the best editing can’t create things out of thin air, and from the clips I’ve seen, Kate is just flat-out disrespectful of her husband as a person (e.g., the clip where she snapped at him for breathing while she was talking– painful to watch). I can dig that having 8 kids could send someone over the edge at times, but Kate just seems to be unhappy and dissatisfied in general, and to dislike her husband in particular. This surely hasn’t escaped their kids’ notice, so maybe the Gosselins would be doing everyone concerned a favor by splitting.

Decatur Mom

May 14th, 2009
10:52 am

Sad the spectacle those parents made of their family and children. I don’t see how any marriage (or family) could withstand the constant invasion of privacy.

tracher

May 14th, 2009
10:52 am

If you want to discuss something important for mothers in the AJC today, look at a commentary by Linda Meric of 9to5 National Association for Working Women discuss paid sick days for all employees – this would specifically help low-wage working moms maintain their jobs without a loss in pay when their children are sick. These are the kinds of things mothers should be discussing – not Jon and Kate. Support mothers and stop judging people. http://www.ajc.com/opinion/content/opinion/stories/2009/05/14/mericed_0514.html

dawgdan

May 14th, 2009
10:54 am

I’m really glad I’m not the only one that noticed the ridiculous way she treats Jon. That woman is a total disgrace to all hardworking and loving wives and mothers out there. Any woman that looks up to her as a role model should be ashamed of herself. Yeah, she’s a mom of a slew of kids – so what? Behind the scenes, do you really think she’s a full-time mom? I wonder how many nannies they have?

Good for Jon. I feel bad that he’ll be buried under a mountain of child-support for the rest of his life, but a man’s sanity and pride is worth it. That poisonous, greedy, snake of a woman needs to just fade away.

lugin

May 14th, 2009
10:56 am

I think the family should go on Dr. Phil- seriously.

nypeach

May 14th, 2009
10:57 am

David S. you are spot on! Great assessment; I totally agree. They sold their souls to the devil for some coins and now they are reaping the consequences. The only thing that can save this marriage is to kick the cameras out and bring the therapists. THis is so incredibly sad for the kids…and like David S., I could never understand why the twins weren’t enough. I’m sure they had a tough time conceiving the first time, so why not be happy with the double gift they received? Jon and Kate are a perfect example of American society: we are greedily gobbling up anything that comes in our path and demanding more…more kids, more stuff, bigger houses, faster cars. At some point you stop and realize that all of this greed has damaged every relationship you once held dear. I pray for this couple that they hold on just a little bit longer and make their family their first priority again. and JJ, if you don’t give a hairy rat’s ass, why are you even taking the time to blog?

cubalibre

May 14th, 2009
10:57 am

Jablonski & MountainDawg, y’all beat me to it! Who needs to watch these crazy “reality” shows when Joel McHale shows us all we need to know about any of them?!? I think he’s the best host of that show yet!

the Voice

May 14th, 2009
11:00 am

Dr Phil? You are kiddin right…you mean that moron that gets troubled people on his show and magically in 1 hour cures all their ills after embarassing them to death. Yeah he will do them a lot of good.

Amy

May 14th, 2009
11:03 am

The real sad part about this is those 8 beautiful kids. Regardless of their marriage situation, those kids have been raised well. I have had doubts in my mind that their marriage would last the whole time. Having 8 kids (6 of which are the same age) can take its toll on a couple. Doing a reality show only added fuel to the fire. They probably would be a much stronger couple if they had skipped on the reality show (perhaps only doing an every two years update) would have been a better choice. I don’t think John liked being on TV and he didn’t like losing his anonymity. Kate wanted to be in the spotlight. That’s where their differences begin. Yes, being on the reality show gave their kids experiences that they may not have otherwise had, but at what cost? The cost of now having to live in a broken home?

JJ

May 14th, 2009
11:06 am

NY Peach, I’m a regular on this blog, that’s why.

Amy

May 14th, 2009
11:07 am

Nypeach… well said!! 2 was enough…they were playing a game of russian roulette with fertility treatments. If they wanted just one more child they could have adopted. There are WAY too many children in this world that need to be adopted.

Amy

May 14th, 2009
11:08 am

Of course.. those sextuplets are all precious little individuals…

Jane

May 14th, 2009
11:11 am

I Never understood why Jon and Kate got a show in the first place. There are so many other families out there who use fertility drugs and have 3 or more children at a time. What is so special about them? They enjoyed all of the publicity and money they earned from their show which is a complete boring mess.

Dave-in-Conyers

May 14th, 2009
11:12 am

My wife and I have enjoyed watching “Jon & Kate Plus 8″ from the beginning. It’s been a joy watching the kids grow up and develop their individual characters. My wife will tell you that I said that Jon looked ready to bolt early in the programming. Kate is a shrew and Jon is between normal and too laid back. Kate needs to tone it down about 5 notches. Hate to see a split and hope that all of this brouhaha is simply media generated for their (the media’s) profit. Looking forward to seeing their next season … fingers crossed.

Now if Matt and Amy, Little People Big World, can get some controversy going between the two of them and creating a stir in the media circus, their next season would start off as sensational too; beyond what it already is.

Jesse's Girl

May 14th, 2009
11:16 am

Ha!! So apparently I am out of a really cool loop! There appears to be a HUGE contingency of peeps out there that only get their Jon and Kate info from Soup!!!! My neighbor…who reads Theresa daily…called me to tell me about all these clips on YouTube. Needless to say, I checked it out! OMG!!!!! The fall out from the unused coupon is HORRIBLE!!! No….I do not condone cheating at all. Get divorced before you lay with another. HOWEVER…..if the man found someone to reattach his balls….its completely understandable. This woman needs therapy. I don’t know how the male crew members don’t check on their “boys” after every taping.

DB

May 14th, 2009
11:18 am

I don’t watch the show, but it’s hard to avoid the fallout when it’s all over the covers of the gossip magazines in the supermarket checkout line! I don’t presume to make any judgements on anyone’s marriage — marriage is a private thing, and what goes on behind closed doors or when the camera is turned off is pretty much real life, not that life that is put on display in carefully planned segments. To presume that we “know” these people because of a t.v. show is presumptuous in the extreme, and pretty naive.

I think Kate, in the People article, is only expressing what almost everyone who has been married for several years may often feel: “Who is this guy/girl I married?!” People are human — they are not always wise and careful. Sometimes they do stupid things. Even my mother, who is dealing with my failing father, has commented in bemusement, “I don’t even recognize the man I married” — after 54 years of marriage. It’s not lack of love — it’s just bewilderment in the face of change.

Most marriages, I think, go through a spot where, sometimes, we just have to pretend our way through the rough spots to get to the other side. We hold on to what we remember is good and right about our marriages, grit our teeth and get through the trouble. Most of us, however, have the luxury of not having to do it under a microscope with millions of people chiming in from the sidelines on what we are doing wrong and how to fix it!

We should not make the mistake of confusing a TV show with real life. I wish them the best, and hope they are able to weather the storm.