A reader shared with me that she had some young neighborhood kids talking about sex to her 8-year-old son! Some little 2nd-grade girl told him she wanted him to rip off her clothes and have sex all over her.
(Where has this kid been hanging out?? Who is she hearing this from – older sibling, TV? Is she watching “Dynasty!”)
Later, some other boys in the neighborhood started describing to her little guy the actual act. This poor kid is just trying to ride his bike! He’s not the least bit interested in all this!
I really think this mom handled it well.
She talked to her son about what it meant and told him the act was only part of it. She also had her husband talk to the boys. He told them he didn’t want them talking to their son about sex anymore, and they said OK. She said she’ll say something to the little girl as soon as she sees her.
She told the big group of neighborhood kids that when they were playing at their house there was to be no touching anywhere a bathing suit would go. That was all off limits. Apparently the kids have starting “pantsing” each other – pulling down a kid’s pants as a joke.
I’m sad that her son was exposed to sex at such a young age and in such a way. But I think she did a very good job opening up lines of communication with him about sex. I also think she did a good job setting limits with the neighborhood kids about what is acceptable behavior around her children and in her house.
Have you had kids tell your kids about sex? How old were they? What did you tell your child? Did you confront the other children? Should you tell their parents or give them a chance to cut it out? Should you tell the offending kids your child can’t play with them anymore? (This would be all the kids in her neighborhood.)