Comments on: Tape a pacifier to a baby? What are better crying solutions?

By: Nicole

Nicole — Tue, 12 May 2009 22:30:53 +0000

I cannot believe that ANYONE would even consider taping a pacifier to a baby’s mouth!My daughter is ridiculously attached to her pacifier. It is a nice option to have for soothing her in those times of need, but there were nights when she was conjested and her insistance on having that pacifier caused me to worry about her getting air. She also will only take MAM pacifiers. I have found some really cute ones in this brand such as pink Rock and Roll ones. I plan to use the “Binky Fairy” method as shown on the TV supernanny when it comes time to get rid of the pacifier. It works similar to the tooth fairy idea. The child willinging gives up their pacifier to the “binky fairy” who takes the pacifer to another child who needs it more. The next morning when the child wakes up, the pacifer is gone from the fairy’s basket, but a present is in its place. I hope this method works when the time comes!

By: Nadia

Nadia — Fri, 08 May 2009 20:25:28 +0000

Maybe we need an entire topic devoted to cosleeping…

Cosleeping is not for everyone. If you are a light sleeper and all the little baby noises will wake you up, then, you will not get quality sleep with a baby in the bed. I was the opposite. I slept much better with my baby next to me. We bought a crib and ended up not setting it up for any of the kids.

As for “quality time”, if you are talking about sex, it did not affect our sex life at all. We had more than one bed (and floor and couch and futon). If you are talking about hanging out with my spouse, our bed was never a place where we had conversations. We sleep or have sex in our bed (and I read in bed).

By: sd

sd — Fri, 08 May 2009 16:35:14 +0000

“SD I encourage you to do a little research before you automatically side with the AAP.”

I don’t actually have an opinion on it. Just thought I would post theirs for discussion.

IN my case, I didn’t want my son in the bed because he was so tiny and I toss and turn A LOT during the night. I have been known to wake up flinging my arms at nothing even.

By: Penguinmom

Penguinmom — Fri, 08 May 2009 16:19:46 +0000

One thing that struck me in this story is that this was a Neo-Natal Nurse! How could she not know that taping a pacifier in was a Bad idea?!?

A continuously crying baby can be incredibly frustrating. That is why parents of newborns need additional support from those around them so that they have the opportunity to possibly get a short break.

My sister used to set the baby carrier on top of the washer. The vibrations seemed to sooth her son.

By: uconn

uconn — Fri, 08 May 2009 13:28:31 +0000

Kathy –
Thanks for your thoughts.. Like I said i don’t have kids yet, but as of right now I am in the same opinion as you, they (kids) need to do what they will always do… :)

By: nurse&mother

nurse&mother — Fri, 08 May 2009 05:31:56 +0000

Kathy, you are certainly welcome to your opinions, but infants are not born to be able to sleep through the night. They actually need to be waking up somewhat frequently. This is mother nature’s way of helping to prevent SIDS. When babies are in a much deeper sleep (bottle feeding also helps to facilitate a deeper sleep), their risks of SIDS increases. When babies sleep lighter, they are better able to arouse themselves if they were to become asphyxiated or entraped in bedding etc.

As for time with the hubby, we just moved the little guy into his crib temporarily. There ARE other places to get intimate besides the bed, you know.

Anyway, long story short, you guys are all entitled to your opinions regarding co-sleeping. I am merely suggesting that you look at the research before you dog those of us who prefer co-sleeping. You may be surprised at what you learn. I attended Dr. McKenna’s conference 2 years ago and was amazed at his scientific research. BTW, it was a medical conference.

Good night all!

By: nurse&mother

nurse&mother — Fri, 08 May 2009 05:17:54 +0000

SD I encourage you to do a little research before you automatically side with the AAP. You can’t always judge a book by its cover. Did you know that the panel is made up of only about 5-6 people? It sure sounds like a lot more by the sound of the name. I think the main reason that the AAP discourages co-sleeping is because it lumps some risky co-sleeping practices with safe ones. For example, persons who are obese, smoke or are intoxicated are not recommended to co-sleep with their infants. Also, it is not recommended that parents sleep in anything other than a bed. Erroneously, these risky sleep practices have been included (and make up the majority) in the statistics regarding deaths associated with co-sleeping.

You really should check out Dr. James McKenna’s research. He really is a very educated man who has poured YEARS into his research on the subject.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Fri, 08 May 2009 02:56:12 +0000

Okay….I know I will get vilified by all of you who believe in the co-sleeping/family bed with my comments, but I just have to chime in. We read The Baby Whisperer books and one of her main philosophies is “Start as you mean to go.” In other words, if you don’t want your child in the bed with you in the future, don’t ever start it. How do any of you actually sleep or have “quality time” with your hubbies?!? And what about when the alarm goes off early in the morning? Do your kids get up too?!? When Little E was a newborn she made so many little noises when she slept that I could not have her in the same room with me when I was trying to sleep. I was constantly listening to those noises and I would not sleep. We tried putting her in a pack & play in our room when we brought her home, but on day 3 we started putting her in her own bed and she has been there ever since. If she gets up in the night (which rarely happens), I go lay with her until she goes back to sleep and then I go get back in my own fabulous Sleep Number Bed. Sorry girls….I just don’t get the family bed thing. Little E and I are together playing all day long…I just don’t want or need her in our bed. Momma needs her sleep!

By: Jean

Jean — Thu, 07 May 2009 23:29:55 +0000

If that nurse did this to one child, I wonder what she’s done to the babies she took care of at the hospital. Maybe a check of her history would be in order. My heart hurts for that poor baby.

I had three kids in four years, and happily none of them were long term criers. They didn’t take pacifiers, either, though my middle one would hold on to the hem of her shirt or dress and suck her thumb. You learn to deal with it. I watched a lot of 3am MTV in those days.

As to colic, when my oldest was born an old lady I knew told me of a fool proof remedy: take a drop of olive oil on your finger and rub it gently around the baby’s navel in a counter-clockwise direction. This will soothe the baby. She swore by it. Does it work? I don’t know. My kids never had colic.

By: Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso — Thu, 07 May 2009 22:32:27 +0000

There all kind of typos in that entry – so sorry!!