We are a fairly relaxed household. We, of course want our children to be respectful to all adults, but we have never required them to say “Ma’am” or “Sir” to us. It just seemed way too formal when they were toddlers and preschoolers.
However as “Dude” has become fashionable, it has slipped into our family’s lexicon. I know that I say it especially to Walsh when he does something clearly without thinking, such as “Dude, you’re getting water everywhere.”
And it seems that Walsh has picked it up in return often calling his father “Dude” mostly when they are talking about movies or video games, as in “Dude, I just got to the XXX level on Lego Star Wars.”
I don’t really recall anyone saying it if we’re having a serious discussion.
So what do you think? Do you require a “Ma’am” or “Sir” when your kids speak to you? What about to other adults? Is “Dude” an OK name for parents in relaxed, playful family time? What about any time?