Comments on: How do you celebrate Mother’s Day — with kids or without?

By: Forgotten

Forgotten — Mon, 11 May 2009 19:42:28 +0000

I’m divorced and now re-married, and have joint custody with my ex, so every other year I spend with the kids. It’s kind of nice… I get the best of both worlds. THIS year, however (the first with my new husband), I spent it cooking breakfast for his mother, planting the vegetable garden alone, and vacuuming up dirt that my hubby tracked in the house the day before. I did get the cute cards that my kids made for me at school. But from my husband (whose children I care for FULL TIME, since he has custody), I got absolutely nothing. Hands down the worst Mothers Day ever.

By: xavier&jaydens mom

xavier&jaydens mom — Mon, 11 May 2009 16:55:21 +0000

Kim,
your kids sound like mine!! My husband, children, and step children behaved just as I expected them to!! Like a bunch of…..can’t say it on here!! But you get the picture. I did receive a card and a picture of my 5 year old from school! I thought that was very sweet! My mothers day dinner consisted of a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, and all HMD wishes came via text messages from friends!! My day was every bit as crappy as I expected it to be.

By: Kim

Kim — Mon, 11 May 2009 06:01:52 +0000

Well, I’d have to say this year was a disappointment for me. I feel as though I work my butt off for my family, and I bend over backwards for my 2 teens, 15 and 17. My son said hmd while he was in another room than me, and at lunch he grunted and puffed when I asked him if he could fix me a plate…please… I worked the night before …overtime too. My daughter 15, sated at her friends house tip 8:00pm because she said she misunderstood me and when she realized I told her I said no for staying longer… She said oop, my bad, and your flowers are crushed so you don’t have any…and when got home her card read that she loved me even though I act like a butt sometimes!….what? You tell your mother this on md? I am a good mother and they have it made. Yes I am one who asks when where and what are you doing and keep up with them in this dangerous world… And this is the thanks I get? I think they need to snap into respect and walk in my shoes. This is the first year they have acted like this, and quite frankly it hurt my feelings. These are my own chidren, not step. My husband got me a nice card and is taking me out to eat on my day off from working overtime, which is very sweet. Sorry to sound upset, but I am.

By: j

Sun, 10 May 2009 20:27:32 +0000

My family generally does not plan anything for mothers day . Its always last minute with no real thought. This wonderful year I received a beautiful card supposedly from my 12,14,17 year old children….signed by there father.

By: shellie

shellie — Sun, 10 May 2009 18:33:25 +0000

Mother’s Day is such a precious day for me as it’s a day I remember my Mom who passed away many years ago now. I use to buy her the most special gift I could find that would put a huge smile on her face and it did not have to be expensive either just special, and we would spend hours at my parents home just enjoying that special time together! I to am a very blessed Mom as I have two children who do the same for me and just being with them, give’s me the most precious gift a mom can get for mothers day.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sun, 10 May 2009 14:00:08 +0000

lol, I have major typos up there. Sock it up to my being pissed!

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sun, 10 May 2009 13:57:39 +0000

So mother’s day is here! I have a beautiful 2 year old princess, I am with her all day everyday and I work from home also. My husband owns a flooring business and I never get to see him. He comes in at midnight, 2 a.m. I have gotten to a point in life where it’s almost like a celebration when he gets home before 10 p.m. I did expect him to say “Happy Mother’s Day” this morning. But, he got up, showered, dressed and out the door he went. As grouchy as he was this morning on his way out the door (our two year old was on the potty crying because the plastic was cold) he said “Looks like your fun has just begun.” I am very hurt over that one. I cook, clean, do the laundry, grocery shop, stay with our child 24/7 never have alone time where I can just sit because once I do everything for the day and then clean up again when she is in bed I stay up super late working. I try to do everything I can for him but I do not know why he doesn’t see that and try to respect and appreciate me more. Not to mention, he had told me last night that he was going to go to breakfast with my mother, sisters, nieces, nephews, brother-in-laws, the go to church and then we would do something together today. I set the alarm last night before falling asleep and somehow it got unplugged? So I missed the one thing I was looking forward to, time with my family and to be appreciated. I don’t expect a gift or even some card that doesn’t make any sense. I just thought that after I have helped him with his business and been everything that he has needed me to be that he could at least be a little nicer. So I sit here all upset and I get a phone call from him (thinking to myself, “he remembered!”) When he tells me that he called his mother this morning and she told him she didn’t want to make him mad but she was not allowed to talk to him or she could be disfellowshipped (she’s a Jehova’sWitness.) We were at her house yesterday and she could talk to him then. But to hell with him I do not care what happened to him this morning that hurt his feelings. I am really hurt right now. Yes, I will be childish over this one. He will not have dinner tonight nor will he have his father’s day that I always go over the top for. It just seems that I always do something for him every holiday but I am left out. I am super upset, the only happy mothers day I got was on Nick Jr this morning. I think I am going to go do whatever I want today. Maybe take our daughter to the aquarium and ride up into the mountains and get a cabin for a night and go on a train ride. That’s my vent!

By: Tara

Tara — Sun, 10 May 2009 04:26:07 +0000

My husband never fails to piss me off. As such, I think I want to spend mother’s day alone. I feel pretty sad about that and wish it was not the case. I wish I could visit my mom but she passed away a few years ago. I still need to honor my MIL so we may go by her house for dinner. I got her a gift certificate and ordered her flowers. BWT, I also ordered flowers for myself.

By: finqta2

finqta2 — Sun, 10 May 2009 02:06:48 +0000

It’s wonderful to hear the beauty and love that so many of you experience. I’m divorced, have a daughter that is 19 years old and can only remember “maybe” 3 mother’s day where I w as recognized. The first two with her father and one when she was ten and a gentleman friend I was dating bought gifts and addressed them from her to me. My daughter has been working since 15 and I honestly I have been a great mother to her (as my family and friends have often told her how blessed she is – I had a great teacher – my mother). I even helped her get her first apartment this year and because I know it can be difficult starting out, I pay the utilities and buy the food. I’m not certain how she got so selfish and she ALWAYS has an excuse, mother’s day, my birthday, valentine’s day, etc;. I thought at this point it wouldn’t hurt anymore but it still does. And this year – same thing. I really should blame myself for not accepting the reality of it all. This year I decided to do something for myself. I got up this morning, felt absolutely great about myself and anticipated a fun weekend for me and by me (not anything real elaborate but just something I needed and wanted). Well trying to help her … I exhausted my funds I set aside for this. I’m extremely heart broken. I guess if I’m not recognized throughout the year I really shouldn’t expect anything but I just keep hoping and trying to be a good mother.
To all the mothers – I wish you a truly loving mother’s day and to those single father’s … a happy mother’s day to you as well!

By: Talluie

Talluie — Sat, 09 May 2009 04:07:33 +0000

Jim…….that’s so very sad and I’m truely sorry for your loss. What your wife may need now is to feel comforted and very loved. Just really be there for her. Some beautiful flowers would be a loving gesture. I was also thinking that another possibility would be to buy a star, in honor of your baby, for your wife.There are a couple of place that you can do this – http://www.starregistry would be one of them. My heart goes out to you and your wife and wish you both peace…………………