Do you kiss your spouse goodbye every morning?

Yes, every morning. Actually we kiss good bye every time one of us is leaving for anything. One reason is because we love each other and the other reason is that I never want the guilt and regret of not kissing him good bye if, heaven forbid, he should not return home.

I don’t think it signifies anything. Couples relate differently. Something that works for one couple may not work for another.

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ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ……. Lame topic

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Photius….you and jb ( from yesterday afternoon) should get together…you are both so insightful.

Guess what…if either of you has something clever to say you can ( what we call it) hijack the blog with an interesting topic or question that you want to contribute….let’s see watcha got!
It IS Friday and we are looking for something FUN….that is a hint.

I saw this on a billboard last week and wanted to pass it along;

SOME PEOPLE PURSUE HAPPINESS WHILE OTHERS CREATE IT

When bloggers share something that makes any of us laugh…that would be creating happiness.
I have enjoyed several posts and hope that maybe a few of you have enjoyed mine.

Those that simply read to see what is out there could now step up to the plate and actually do something instead of just whining.

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I am like some of the others, we kiss each time before leaving to go anywhere. That’s usually followed by, “be careful and have a good day.” I don’t kiss the step kids (they would likely stroke out), but I do give them a hug! I think it’s nice to show the emotion and it teaches the little ones that it IS ok to show affection to those you love!

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GO STAN…now that is what I am talking about….LOL

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Kathy, it’s all about attitude, but thank you for that nice comment. I made a promise to myself this year, “no stress, no drama”. So far so good. I love to laugh A LOT……I’ll be turning 50 this year, and I try to have a positive outlook on life. I am amazed by the amount drama people seem to create for themselves. Some seek it out. I have surrounded myself with some very wonderful happy people….

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Its the little things can keep a marriage not just together…but fabulous! Our marriage isn’t a blast everyday…some are just ok. But with the exception of when Jesse is traveling…we kiss every single dern morning!!! I think its very important. I’m not saying there aren’t some nights that we don’t go to bed planning eachother’s demise…in great detail:) But all is forgotten and forgiven in the am and its good! I hope I never get to the point that I let him get away without a lip-lock!! And as disgusting as this sounds….when he travels, we text x’s and o’s!!! I’m sure some of you just threw up in your mouths a little:)

Brush your toothies and plant one on him one morning….he might just come home for lunch:)

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My husband gets up at 5:30 to go to work. While he is getting ready I go to the kitchen and pack his lunch and make his breakfast. We chat while he eats. We kiss goodbye every morning. After he goes to work, I go back to bed for a bit. I have been doing this for almost 14 years. I think with a bit of extra work marriage can be great. I am always disgusted when my girlfriends don’t even wake up to tell their husbands goodbye.

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ps i love the jokes–thanks jj and stan!!! im with you jj–i have made a conscience efort to try and rid my life of drama—i get enough at work where i cant control it…and even there i just try my best to stay out of it all…but at home..no way—i refuse to fight–to argue–i am 56 and have almost finished raising my kids (as finished as you can really ever be lol) and i am doing what I need now…having PEACE as often as i can lol

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I think I will try calling the school in a bit and have them tell E that she needs to clean the bathroom when she gets home….think they’ll go for it:)

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lmao–let me know if it works!!

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Momma Jane – I introduced an alarm clock to my daughter about 4 years ago, when she started high school, and had to get up at “The crack of dawn thirty”. But I usually go into her room, give her a big o’kiss and yank the covers off!!! That gets her up on cold days!!! If that doesn’t work, I sic the dogs on her…..

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Beginning to feel a little better…
I cook a nice meal each night for dinner….we sit down ( as a family) whenever I am home…now for the next 5 weeks….yippee! Since we are both working and split the bills, I do not feel I need to make all the meals for everyone. My daughter is an excellent cook. She loves the Food Network and prepared everything for Thanksgiving except the turkey. She is very independent and self sufficient for being 16, and knows how to handle things around here when it is just her and he Dad.

Michelle, you have a keeper!

JJ…you are on the right track. My daughter’s friend ( who went with us to NYC) has a mother who gets her up. Her mother told me that they drive her to school every day, as she cannot get up in time to make the bus. I gently hinted about how she may want to get started on getting an alarm clock now but I do not think she really understands why.

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Jesse has offered to buy some clothing items for me….he said that if I buy another black shirt he is staging an intervention!!!

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Both my wife and I have been gainefully employeed outside the home while raising our kids – she had to be at work by 7am so she always left before 6am. For 16 years I got the kids up and dropped them off at daycare or school, until the oldest son could drive and then they were on their own to get up, and get to school (I would leave breakfast already prepared for them) – never once did we hear that they were late for school or did not go. Unfortunately, my commitment as a father made me late for work sometimes, and after 14 years my employer had had enough of my “lateness” and fired me. Ironically, that was 11 months AFTER my son began driving, and during which time I, too, had begun arriving at work around 7am for those last 11 months. But all worked out well – I found another job quickly that paid more, and the first company continued to pay me for 2 years after they fired me “without cause”…..

Anyway, my wife is now retired; one kid is out of college, and the second will be out of college next year. Just last week I sent the youngest son an email from my office at 6:25am – he wrote back at 7am and said “what are you doing at work at 6:25am – you are the boss and should sleep in!” I replied, “that is why I am the boss and why I want to stay that way, but the bigger question is, why are YOU up at 7 am, when you do not have a class until 10am”? – (he was studying some “more” for a test at 10am). I guess they learned that they do need to get up on their own!

Regarding dressing myself – if my wife ever laid out clothes for me it would be a disaster – she has no taste – look at who she married! Plus, all my suits are black or blue, so it really is a no-brainer for me, just match up a tie with a white shirt and I am good to go! Sometimes I do have on one black sock and one blue sock, but at 0 dark thirty, who can tell? And yes, I try to kiss her goodbye every morning – but since she is usually asleep at 5:30am (she says that is when she sleeps best!) I really try not to bother her, lest I wake up the dogs – and then she is in real trouble, and so am I when I get home!

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My wife does technically make my breakfast and lunch. Though breakfast is cereal and she pours me a container of milk, and lunch is whatever leftovers from the food I cooked on the weekend or night before.

Teacher, Too
I was a fat kid and I loved the seperate desk and chair. The one piece units were tough to work. I barely fit into them.

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I agree..obesity with our kids has hit an all time high. Its disgusting really. I blame too much technology in the home, eating things that come in boxes and parents who are not involved enough in their child’s day-to-day choices. It cannot be that every fat adult or child has some kind of hormonal imbalance!!! Its just not possible! Move their butts some….it breaks my heart to see an obese child.

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You bet my husband and I kiss each other good-bye and give each other a big hug before heading off to work and when we come home in the evening! This became all the more important when we found out two weeks ago that one of my former shipmates was killed in Afghanistan and left behind a very loving husband and 3-year old daughter. Folks, tomorrow is not guaranteed! Your spouse may not be deployed half-way across the world, but you don’t know if that 18-wheeler has your husband’s or wife’s name on it today. By the way, I do work outside the home and fix portable breakfasts and lunches for myself, my husband and my two kids. It only takes a few minutes and not only are we eating healthier but it costs so much less! Some of the lunch places in downtown DC charge $9 for a lousy sandwich, chips, and soda. Unbelievable! Conversely, my husband will iron my uniforms (with military creases no less!). We’ve always worked together as a team and it has served us well. What we found that works is to get into a routine schedule and stick with it.

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I think that working together as a team is the way marriage is supposed to be Active Duty Mom. I just figure that since he works I need to support him the best way I can while I stay home. Making sure he eats healthy meals and knowing that I am always here is important. As for getting up to chat with him, I’ve seen too many lonely husbands. Sometimes they just want someone to listen to them, even if it is just talking about the book they are reading. I don’t ever want my husband to feel as if I am not there mentally for him.

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Who loves you more? The wife who won’t get up to kiss you goodbye or for that matter even come downstairs to acknowledge your home…. or the dog? Try this lock your wife and your dog in the car trunk for a hour, when you open it you will see who truly loves you! :)

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Dave, trust me in that if my husband tried to lock me in the trunk, he would not have to worry about which one loved him more..

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Who loves you more? The husband who lets his preganant wife sleep a few more minutes in the morning, or the husband who locks her in the trunk? hmmmm…tough one.

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Teacher, Too – I like how you explained your significant other (”more than a boyfriend but not yet a fiance”) – that’s exactly how I would describe mine. :)

We always, always, always kiss each other goodbye in the morning. I leave about half an hour before he does, so I get up, shower, and pack my lunch and he usually sleeps a little later (although he sometimes gets up while I’m in the shower and makes me breakfast!). But he’s always up and out of bed to say goodbye to me.

While I was between jobs (last October through this past March), I woke up when he did and made him breakfast every day and then went back to bed for an hour or two. :)

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We give each other a quick peck, say “I love you, have a nice day,” etc before we leave in the morning for work but not when leave during the day (like to go to the grocery store). I actually had never thought about it until I read the topic. My husband sleeps through all methods of alarms so I wake him in the morning. Twice a week he goes in at 10:00 so when I get to work I call back to wake him up. We (my son & I) wake him before we leave on his late days but he’s probably sleep again before I pull out of the driveway.

MJG…I fix breakfast for my husband & son in the morning (I rarely eat breakfast), I lay his clothes out and 90% of the time I fix his plate at dinner. We all eat together on the nights that my husband works a “normal” schedule so as soon as I’m finished cooking, I fix all three plates and take them to the table. Some nights he gets off at 10:00 and I may or may not be awake when he gets home. If I’m awake, I heat up his food for him. If not, I leave his plate on the stove and he will heat it himself. I’m a light sleeper so I usually wake up when he unlocks the door and he’ll stick his head in the bedroom door and chat a second but I don’t get up. If I don’t wake up on my own he doesn’t wake me.

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I don’t think my wife has kissed me, period, in 10 years. I’ve kissed her, but she hasn’t kissed me back.

Oh well, still waiting…

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My boyfriend and I give goodbye kisses every single time one of leaves the house no matter what, even if one of us is sound asleep… He’s a firefighter and works 24 hours on shift, 48 hours off shift so this can make it a little tough but when he’s on shift I make sure I stop by the station if I can to get that kiss. I agree with motherjanegoose, I don’t know what I would do if something happened and I didn’t get that last kiss . . .

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Moved from NYC. A friend knew one of the people whose husband did not come home the evening of 9/11/01, he got up too early for her to kiss him goodbye. He tried leaving her a phone message which she got later on – she never did kiss him goodbye. To do it over, it would be a kiss each and every time. That is how I feel about my hubby heading out. Life can be too short, enjoy every moment as if it could be the last and unwrap each day like a precious gift because it is. Blessings to all.

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We also always kiss each other hello when we come home from work or being gone for anything more than just running down the street to the store. I can’t wait to see my husband after we have been apart.

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Unless I’m sick or she’s sick then its just a hug.

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My Wife and I do not kiss much, or hug much. She is not the affectionate type. That being said though, she is a very loyal and caring woman, and I have learned to accept that affection is just not a part of her personality. We have been married 19 years.

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I’m divorced now, but for the 16 1/2 years we were married, we always kissed good-bye, and hello! Even when we worked together at the same big company, when we got to the parking lot, we kissed good-bye, and when we got to the car in the evenings, we kissed hello. I did the same with my kids. I had to drive them to school, and they got kissed whether they liked it or not, and they got an “I love you”, too. As adults, they now tell me how much it really meant to them. I now have a 5 1/2 y.o. g’dau that is in K-garten, and although I am not up when she leaves for school, I tell her every night at bedtime, and I kiss her hello when she gets home. (I live with them.) It’s wonderful to hear that sweet little voice say “Grammaw, I love you MORE!” (About which we playfully argue…who loves who most!) She is a loving child, and I don’t want to change that about her.

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I am the first to leave in the morning, and every morning on my way out of the bedroom, I kiss husband good bye and tell him I love him. Usually I get a sleepy I love you too.

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My family is big with “I love you’s”. My mother would not let us go to bed, leave home or hang up the phone without saying it. My siblings and I all picked up on it and instilled it in our kids, too. It is so sweet to hear the little two year olds say I love you to any and everyone they see! :-D I even say to my in-laws so now they say it to me but not necessarily to each other. I guess it’s just about how you were raised.

When I was a teenager a lived with my uncle and aunt for a while and my aunt (uncle’s wife) NEVER said I love you to anyone. I know she loved me like her own, she just wasn’t comfortable saying it. I would still say it to her and she would say “ok” or “I know”. The last time I saw her was at my mother’s funeral and by then my aunt was very sick with cancer. Before she left to go home she told me first that she loved me and was proud of me. She died the next month and I was so glad to hear her say it that one time.

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For 25 years my husband and I have kissed and hugged each other bye each morning or anytime that one of us leaves. The same goes for our two kids. Also at the end of a phone call (The whole family) does the ” I love you” thing. My outlook on life is SHOW YOUR LOVE.

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I know this sounds ridiculous but I CANNOT go back to sleep if anyone wakes me up. I am in the stage of my life where I am having serious sleep issues. I have had a complete physical but nothing showed up. I have taken every known sleeping pill and none work for me. They say, “do not get up, as you will be dizzy…” Not me, I am sitting in bed 2 hours after I took Ambien CR and wide awake!

Since there are many weeks I am working and traveling 7 days per week, I cannot sleep in and catch up. Thus, I prefer not to be kissed goodbye every morning at dawn thirty and not be able to go back to sleep. I never sleep in past 7:30 or 8:00 ( when I do not have to go to work) but I do not want to be awake before 5:00 every morning either. Guess it is just me. If I did not have to leave the house and/or travel for business, maybe I would feel differently.

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For the past 24 years, we’ve kissed goodbye every morning, except when he’s out of town. Then I get a call!!

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Good for those of you who get your hubby or wifey going in the morning! Get up! He/she is up and going to work!

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My wife gives me what I like to call a mouth hug every morning.

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My husband and I kiss every morning. When he used to have to leave the house at 6AM and I was still asleep he’d still kiss me. Sometimes I would remember it, sometimes not. Now that he’s unemployed and usually still asleep when I leave I do the same. When I get home from work he comes outside and greets me and helps me grab my stuff. We’ve been together for 29.5 years (married for almost 21) and I can’t imagine not cuddling on the couch or hugging each other just for the heck of it. I’ve always felt so safe with his arms around me. I can’t even fathom what I would do if the other stuff some folks mentioned were to happen.

New Mom… enjoy it while you can! My now 16 y/o daughter was 10 when she discovered an unopened pregnancy test in my bathroom. One of her best friends was over and they were giggling and giggling… so much so I just HAD to see what was up. So I poked my head into her room and when I asked what was so funny my daughter (always blunt and to the point) said “Why do YOU have a pregnancy test???” I told her that a few years before I had thought I might be pregnant. They got hysterical. I mean rolling on the floor, laughing so hard they were crying hysterical. Finally my daughter caught her breath enough to say “Mom, PLEASE just tell me you don’t do anything when I’m home.” (She was 10! Where else was she going to be but home?) I said “Well, if you want me to lie to you I can, but…” That’s when the “Eeewwww! Gross! Oh my God!!” started. From that day on whenever my husband and I kissed or hugged in front her she would say stuff like “Hey! Stop that! Ewww! C’mon guys, that’s gross!” Which, of course, made us do it even more! A little over a year ago she and her first serious boyfriend broke up. When they started dating she stopped saying anything to us about it. I guess she figured out that all that hugging and kissing can be pretty fun!

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Momma Rose: When my daughter was seven years old, she heard a phrase on the radio, “unprotected sex”, and asked, “What’s that?” Believing in full disclosure, and since she already knew what sex was, in rudimentary terms, I told her. She sat there, wide-eyed in the car, and then said, “Have you and Daddy ever had unprotected sex?” With two kids, my response was a smiling, “At least twice!” The next question: “In MY house?!” Response: “Umm, I think it’s MY house, honey, and yes, of course, because that’s what married people do to show they love each other.” She sat there and digested it for a bit, and finally declared, “Well, just don’t do it around ME!” I assured her that that wasn’t going to be a problem.

Why do these conversations take place in cars when you’re trying to drive, gauge reactions and be coherent, all at the same time?!

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WOW! I am truly impressed by all of the romantic folks out there!

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My parents have been married for a large number of decades (if I print how many my Mom will get me!). They kissed every day he wasn’t out of town….I can remember my Dad standing at the door (they always met at the door), yelling “I’m here at the door, where are you?” (The answer back then was usually in the kitchen with us children). Mom would go to the door and kiss him to which my brother and I made all the usual obnoxious noises, grunts, etc. When Dad came home he would go to my Mom and kiss her, then head up stairs to get changed out of his suit. Then we he came back down he would go kiss her again!

These days Mom is the one being kissed at the door. She is also the one going to kiss him before she changes out of her work suits. And when I catch them I still make all the obnoxious children noises for old times sake! To which the answer “Get over it!” “You don’t like it you can go back to your house!”

I think JG is right, its the small stuff that keeps it together. My parents still love (and still love to aggrevate) each other after all these years. They raised two productive, caring, responsible, loving children (that both got divorced).

They must be doing something right!

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Theresa!!! I have not received a cent for my comments ( no matter who thinks they are relevant or ignorant) BUT I have never received an e-mail from Theresa that has asked me to stay away and please leave the blog alone. I have received several other e-mails from Theresa and she knows how to reach me in case she wants me to SHUT UP. I WILL ALWAYS follow her directions, as she is in charge!

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Mother Jane Goose… you are funny :-) I think you need your own personal blog.

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I have a question. What is the proper manner when leaving or arriving home. For example when my partner comes home from work should I get up and kiss him first or do I wait until he kisses me, the same goes for when either one of us is leaving….

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