My husband and I are celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary this week, and I wanted to write a very flowery ode about how much I love him.
What I have learned this week is that I don’t write mushy very well.
I couldn’t find the one I was searching for. I wanted to know “How many couples make it 15 years?” However, I did learn that because we were married in our early 20s (I had just turned 22, and he had just turned 24), we are in the highest risk category of divorce for first marriages.
So really, truly — hooray for us! We made it 15 years!
Anyone who knows us, or who reads this blog with any regularity, knows that my husband and I are polar opposites. On the surface, it’s kind of a surprise that we are even together. He’s grumpy, and I’m cheerful. He’s very picky about with whom he will converse, I will talk to anyone and everyone, including total strangers. He’s formal and solid, where I’m loosey-goosey! He’s strict with the kids while I’m always handing out hugs and treats. He’s great at math so it’s OK that I can’t work a geometric proof.
The other day we went in to sign our taxes. The kids were in the car so we went up separately. I’m usually the one that deals with the accountant and in fact, I don’t think they had ever met my husband before. My husband came back to the car chuckling after signing the forms. He said the secretary asked him “Are you as talkative as your wife?” My husband looked at her and said dryly, “I don’t think two people that talked that much could live together.”
I contend that it is this type of opposing characteristics that actually makes our marriage not just work but keeps it strong. And even though we fight, disagree and often have to compromise, our traits and skills complement one another. I make Michael a nicer person. Michael makes me a neater person. I make Michael a more compassionate person, and he makes me smarter. He contains my enthusiasm to a reasonable level, and I make him a little less Eeyore. Our traits combine together to make us each better people, better spouses and better parents.
I’m not good at gushy but I can say this:
When I met Michael 17 years ago in college, I thought he was the smartest, funniest, most fascinating person I had ever met, and I still feel that way today! I couldn’t be partners with a boring person, and Michael always makes me laugh and always has new, interesting things to tell me. He is a learner and an explorer. He is fearless and unbelievably confident. He makes me feel safe, secure and helps me not live scared.
He is the mayo to my mustard. He’s the cookie dough to my chocolate chips. He’s the peanut butter to my jelly. (I was hungry when I wrote this.)
My anniversary wish is that we have 60 more years to fight, compromise and grow together, and that’s about as mushy as it gets.
How many years have you been with your spouse? How do you “work” as a couple? Does anybody know how many couples make it 15 years?