Are fancy Easter outfits still important?

When I was growing up in Atlanta in the ’70s and ’80s, having a fancy Easter outfit for church was very important. You often had gloves, white patent shoes and little patent purses to accompany a fancy dress. My mother still has all my Easter dresses hanging in my childhood closet. You can tick them off year by year.

Rose and Walsh in their Easter outfits 2008. The baby was sleeping.

I know women my age whose mothers toiled for months hand-smocking Easter dresses for their little girls. I don’t know any friends doing that today.

I do want my children to look nice on Easter Sunday, and it is fun to get a special dress for the occasion. However, my girls pretty much need to be able to wear the dress for the rest of the spring and summer. I’m not going to buy a dress so frilly and uncomfortable that they wouldn’t want to wear it to church each week.

Last year I bought the girls matching floral Hanna Andersson dresses.

This year we hunted at a bunch of stores but didn’t find anything we loved. Finally my mom came across bright floral sundresses with reds, pinks and oranges in both girls’ sizes.

I don’t feel as strongly about Walsh having something new, and he may re-wear his adorable orange checked dress shirt and blue sweater vest from last year.

Is it important to you to have your kids wear fancy dress outfits for Easter? What do you like to accessorize with – hats, gloves, purses?  Does it matter as much for little boys as little girls?

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JJ

April 8th, 2009
7:47 am

Easter is just another religious holiday that I do not participate in. My daughter gets an easter basket, but that’s about it. We may go to my Mom’s for Easter, but she’s getting tired of cooking a big meal. So we will probably see my mom, and go out to eat. That’s about it. It’s just another Sunday to me.

I’ll enjoy reading the comments today, but I’ll probably just lurk……

Razz

April 8th, 2009
8:15 am

I don’t have kids but I use to hate when my mom would make my sister and I wear matching dresses..we’re six years apart! But getting all dolled up is fun when you’re a little girl!

Kathy

April 8th, 2009
8:21 am

I share JJ’s sentiment….just another Sunday for us. We fill Little E’s Easter basket and spend the day doing something fun as a family. We are not church goers so no fancy clothes for us.

DB

April 8th, 2009
8:35 am

For a couple of years there, recently, you couldn’t FIND a dress for a 14-17 year old, or the ones that you could find were tight, slinky jersey, sequined or glittery junk that looked like prepubescent cocktail dresses that weren’t appropriate for church, anyway. The dresses this year for juniors and adults are actually atractive. (And I saw some darling dresses at J. C. Penney’s the other day that had the dress and a matching American Girl-doll-size dress, so that the girl and her doll would match. So cute! My daughter just laughed and rolled her eyes, and said “You would have had me in that soooo fast . . .!”)

New Easter clothes are only important if they are a tradition in your family and you make them important. In our family, it was a fun tradition (at least, for me!), and a wonderful excuse for new clothes. I have tons of darling Easter pics, complete with shiny news shoes and hat for the daughter, and a new outfit for the son. I even took some classes “back in the day” and learned how to smock and do some minimal heirloom sewing (another lost art – knowing how to sew.) I was never “Easter dress” competent, but I did eke out some cute sundresses and a couple of Sunday dresses.

But then again, my kids were never permitted as teenagers to wear jeans to church service, either (they could to youth group stuff, of course). I knew all the arguments that “God doesn’t care what you wear”, but in our house, I DID care, so no jeans. I can’t even bring myself to wear slacks to church, but my daughter will occasionally change it up and wear dress slacks with nice top. I always maintained that it was just as easy to throw on a nice outfit as it was a pair of jeans.

We’re going to the 6 AM sunrise service, and then having a large family afternoon lunch at our aunt’s in Roswell, which will be fun — lots of woods and nooks and crannies to hide Easter eggs for the little ones!

If anyone is so inclined, try to watch “Extreme Home Makeover” on Sunday. A relative of mine was the builder for the house, which had the build-out a couple of months ago — QUITE a eye-opening production, believe me. It’s for a couple who adopted handicapped children in addition to their own three kids – the house is actually pretty normal, for the most part, and it had a record number of people attending the “Move That Bus!” ceremony where they present the house to the musician — who also appears as a surprise for one of the children. Hint: The child is blind. ;-)

DB

April 8th, 2009
8:38 am

(I don’t understand something: For those who don’t believe in Easter, and it’s just another Sunday, why do you bother celebrating it at all with an Easter basket?)

workingmom

April 8th, 2009
8:39 am

I definitely remember getting the “Easter outfits” as a child. Back then, we were twice a year church goers (Christmas and Easter) so it kind of made sense to get a fancy new dress. Now, my family regularly goes to church. Ironically, we rarely go on Easter as we are usually out of town. We’ll catch the sunrise service on the beach (where shorts and flip flopds are normal.) So no, we do not buy into the special Eatser dress. If we did, it too would have to be something that could be worn all season.

jct

April 8th, 2009
8:41 am

After being dressed up for ’special’ religious holidays as a child, I swore I would not do this to my children (well step son). Step son goes to church on Easter dressed like any other Sunday as I do. I have never understood why at Easter you had to have a new outfit.

I have tried to instill the sacrifice and more importantly the rejoicing that he rose instead of easter eggs, candy, baskets and a new outfit. We have spent more time trying to instill why this is a holy week.

I guess we have have different ways of looking at the Easter season.

JJ

April 8th, 2009
8:51 am

I celebrate the changing of the seasons. I guess that makes us pagans, as we celebrate Mother Earth and the changing of the seasons.

Michelle

April 8th, 2009
8:52 am

When we were kids, I remember getting a new dress. We usually wore a cute little hat with them, or one other accessory. We didn’t do the mathcing purse, shoes, and gloves. When we were older, we changed our tradition from going to church to going to an Easter play/musical That went through the last days of Christ and his resurrection.

I honestly haven’t been to church since moving to GA (almost 5 years now). I need to get into the practice. I’d really like to be able to expose my son to the “true” meanings of Christmas and Easter, not just the secular “fun” stuff.

As for the practicality of going all out in the Easter dress, I wouldn’t. In today’s economy, we need to keep our clothes for as long as possible! They already outgrow them SO fast!

DB

April 8th, 2009
9:13 am

Growing up, yes, my kids had new Easter outfits. My daughter loved new clothes, and my son didn’t really care what he wore — I just pointed and he put ‘em on. Easter was a great excuse to get a new outfit because last year’s spring clothes had definitely been outgrown! And they needed new shoes, too — so why not nice ones? The Easter outfit became the spring/summer “dress up” outfit, so it couldn’t be too Easter-y. It’s an important tradition only if you make it one, and it was for me. Of course, I’m from the old school where I can’t even bring myself to wear slacks to Sunday service, and my kids were never permitted to wear jeans (except to youth group, or things like that). I always maintained it was just as easy to put on a nicer outfit as it was to pull on a pair of jeans. I know, “God doesn’t care what they wear . . .” Well, God doesn’t care about whether or not they eat with their elbows on the table, either, but they aren’t allowed to do that, either!

(And JJ, if you’re going to celebrate Ostera (the Spring Equinox, the one that actually is a fertility celebration where the tradition of Easter eggs originated), you missed it — it was March 21st. The next one is Beltane, on May 1st. So either you’re too late for Ostera, or amazingly early for Beltane!)

BTW, try to catch the “Extreme Home Makeover” that is airing Sunday (Easter) evening. My cousin was the builder on project, for a family who adopted handicapped children after raising three of their own. The presentation of the house had a record number of people attending, and it was a bittersweet event (not giving it away). However, there is a surprise appearance by a famous singer that most of us actually like (!), as a surprise gift for one of the handicapped children who likes to play the piano. Hint: She’s blind :-D

Stacey

April 8th, 2009
9:28 am

As a child we went to church every Sunday and we always got new Easter dresses & shoes. My sister is > than 2 yrs older but we never got matching clothes as I always caught her hand-me-downs. If anything, we might have the same style of dress but different colors. I had long, thick, curly hair and Easter was the only day that I wore my down. We always had Easter speeches then came home and hid real eggs that we dyed the night before.

As a teenager, we were what we called CME (Christmas, Mother’s Day & Easter) church goers and we only got something new if we couldn’t wear what was in our closets. When I married my husband we attended church every Sunday except CME because all of the CME attendees arrived early and there were no seats and parking spaces. :-) We recently changed churches so we plan to go this year but my son will not get a new outfit. I haven’t decided yet if I will make him dress up or if he will just wear a polo and khakis as he does most Sundays.

catlady

April 8th, 2009
9:40 am

I always got new clothes for Easter, as did my Mom. Some of her hats and matching purses–wow! When my kids were little they got new things also, although more practical. My sister in law did smock a dress for my oldest one year, and I treasure it.

I worship on Saturday now, so Sunday is not so special. I will probably be working in the yard, and thanking God for the wonder He has given us. I will probably sing “church” songs, like I usually do, as I work. “Up from the grave He arose…”

I think my daughter may have gotten my granddaughter a new dress, but with times so hard, maybe not.

Happy Holidays to all bloggers, Christian and Jewish!

catlady

April 8th, 2009
9:42 am

You want to make someone mad, let one of those Christmas/Easter worshipers show up early and get “my” seat!

jct

April 8th, 2009
9:52 am

@DB

I remember the first time I wore slacks to church. It was three years ago. It was a mid-week service that I attended straight after work. I was so uncomfortable. I thought the walls would fall in on me. I grew up in a very orthodox congregation where women were not allowed to were pants to church.

Looking back on it now makes me laugh. I sometimes now even wear pants on Sundays. It’s funny how things that get taught to us as a child can mess you up as an adult.

nurse&mother

April 8th, 2009
9:53 am

Catlady you crack me up. LOL.

Easter was a special holiday and we certainly got new dresses, shoes and purses. We never got into the hats and gloves, though.

Now, I usually do not get a new Easter dress, but I do get a new one for my daughter. In the past, hers has been very fancy (usually Strasburg), but this year she is bucking my system (almost 12 yo).

My son has always gotten a smocked shortall (no, I didn’t smock it myself, Strasburg did). This will be his last year wearing one as he is getting a little big. Also, my husband has banned them. I’ll let you know who wins on Easter Sunday. :-)

Denise

April 8th, 2009
9:58 am

I got a new pink or yellow dress with white patent leather shoes each Easter. My favorite picture of me was at Easter when I was 3 or 4 (I’m 36)has me in a yellow dress with my hair as big as life because I begged my mama to roller set my hair so I could wear it hanging. LOL! None of my dresses were too fancy to wear other Sundays so it was just a new outfit to add to the collection of “Church Clothes” that I already had. I hated the patent leather shoes because by the time I was 10 I wore grown women sizes and white shoes made my feet look longer than the Easter bunny’s.

I liked getting a new dress each year because we didn’t buy a lot of new clothes. We had uniforms for school so we only had to buy after school and summer shorts and t-shirts. Nothing special and probably from K-mart. Just sometihng to replace what we outgrew.

nurse&mother

April 8th, 2009
9:58 am

I love being Episcopalian because we have people wearing anything they want (and feeling comfortable about it) from dresses to blue jeans. I will admit, I never wear blue jeans. I HAVE worn dress slacks, though. I am more inclined to wear pants when it is awfully cold outside and I have to leave the house at 7:40 am.

Easter is a whole other ballgame. Usually don’t see jeans on that day.

Joyce

April 8th, 2009
10:16 am

We just got my son’s Easter suit last weekend. It’s a real suit with a jacket, (well, almost; the pants have an elastic waist) as I think he’s getting old enough to not wear the vest suits he’s had before. He looks like a little man! It’s definitely something he can wear other Sundays to church. Maybe I’ll save extra-fancy for his First Communion next year, if we can afford it.

As to the question, I agree with someone else who said that it’s a good excuse to replace the outgrown “church clothes”. Growing up, I remember that all of us, boys and girls, got new outfits for Easter Sunday. I think they were mostly “regular church clothes”, and my mom would get us girls a hat or something like that to make it Easter-y.

Jesse's Girl

April 8th, 2009
10:42 am

We went shopping just yesterday for the kids’ Easter outfits! We are going super casual this year….no ruffles and frills. No suits and ties. Just comfy, classy and cool. The ladies in my family never wore hats for Easter… HAPPY BIRTHDAY THERESA!!!!!! HOPE IT IS A BLESSED ONE AND THAT YOU GET TO DO SOMETHING SPECIAL JUST FOR YOU!!!!

MIchelleJ

April 8th, 2009
10:49 am

Growing up, my brothers and I always got new clothes for Easter. We attended church most Sundays and were in Easter programs so the clothes definitley got worn again. However, for my kids, we go to a church that allows casual dress, so my kids don’t have many/any “dress up” clothes, but I did get them slacks and a new shirt since they have outgrouwn the ones from last spring. I am trying to take some of the commerical celebration out of Easter & Christmas and ensure they know that we are celebrating the birth and reserruction of Jesus. Santa and the Easter Bunny are fun, but not the real reason for the season.

Theresa

April 8th, 2009
11:53 am

Thanks JG — Michael took the day off. He made me breakfast in bed with pancakes, bacon and chocolate chip muffins (I told him he didn’t have to make pancakes and muffins.). We’re taking the kids to park as soon as it warms up enough. In the meantime, I’m balancing my checkbook in peace!! (Got to go through three months — got a little behind!)

JJ

April 8th, 2009
12:12 pm

Happy birthday Theresa!!! I hope you have a fun day at the park. What a great way to spend your birthday, Outside with the family!!!!!

DB

April 8th, 2009
12:42 pm

Happy Birthdy, Theresa! You got a lovely day to celebrate it — enjoy it!

@jct: The really scary part is that I don’t feel “messed up” because I don’t feel comfortable wearing slacks to church! For me, it is just the way it is. I don’t care if anyone else wears slacks, but they just aren’t for me, I don’t feel attractive in pants. Even in the 70s, when everyone else was wearing jeans, I was wearing skirts just because I loved skirts, Call me a rebel . . . !

@nurse&mother: I’m Episcopalian, too, so that excuse is out the door! :-)

Now, I’m off to stock up on marshmallow peeps and caramel Cadbury eggs for the kid’s Easter baskets (yes, even at 18 and 20, they still get baskets — mostly because I enjoy doing them! My husband gets one, too!)

sd

April 8th, 2009
1:17 pm

Its never even crossed my mind. I only have a son, so this sort of thing has never been an issue.

FCM

April 8th, 2009
1:33 pm

@ Theresa–Happy Birthday

@ jct – The idea of a new dress for Easter dates back to over a century…when you got maybe 2 -3 outfits period. You would have had your servcable wool all winter and in the spring would have made a new poplin or gingham. Easter is not the official mark of Spring, but in the more climate controlled environs of today, we often use it as the ‘excuse’ to ring in spring and get a new outfit.

I *think* that just like non-church going folk celebrate Christmas, they celebrate Easter. That is they partake of the secular side of the holiday—the colored eggs, candy, baskets and retail entrapments.

As to the question at hand. When they were little (infant/toddler) I bought rayon/petticoated church dresses she wore maybe 2-3 months for church and photos. Then went to sundresses for the hot months….Plaid ’school’ dresses for fall (yes to church) and velvets or silks for Thanksgiving through March. Right now I am looking for a dress that makes sense for my older one, a bit more grown then the tulle but not like she is teen either.

That is just how I like to do it. I have seen the kids in all types of dress….shorts, denim, and dressy at church.

As for me, I have not found an ‘Easter Dress’ in years. I will wear something I wear to work like I do every Sunday.

We have not been to church of late. Just being lazy I suppose, and the kids miss it. They asked to go this weekend. My parents’ are here but my Mom already started her holiday ‘fussing’ (you won’t do this, the kids won’t do that, we want…..) and I decided I did not feel like playing that game this year.

The Easter Beagle will drop by with his basket hiding. It won’t have much candy…the other side of the family will send more than enough via US Post. We may go to church. Then we can come home, have a nice dinner, if it is pretty out I might set it up on the deck. Just a quiet peaceful way to reflect on the sacrifice. No nagging, arguing, or people complaining they cooked all day.

However you spend the day (family, church, secular, or just as another day)….be blessed.

FCM

April 8th, 2009
1:39 pm

oh! As to my childhood Easters. My mother made most of my dresses. They tended to reach the ankle (and Shirley Temple curls)…I thought I was so grown in that…..Until I was in 3rd or 4th grade and realized I was dork. Then I started getting store bought dresses that I thought made me look older with jute sandals with a heel…yep I’m dating myself here.

Later it just became something pretty and light colored that was more tailored to who I saw myself. That showed I had a tiny waist….you know belted, with shoulder pads…..With bone colored shoes, because I have long skinny feet–Denise you were not alone. Big bangs, or whatever it was we did in the 80’s to our hair.

LOL we do not want to see those photos!

JJ

April 8th, 2009
1:41 pm

The Easter Beagle, CUTE!!!! My daughter sets an empty basket outside her bedroom door on “easter eve” and the Bunny fills it up over night. When she wakes up, it’s the first thing she sees………candy, candy, and more candy. Actually, DVD’s, CD’s, hair bobbles, a gift card, etc. She doesn’t like chocolate bunnies…..strange kid!!!! She usually gets me a basket too…….I love “Robin Eggs” and malted milk balls…….she likes Starburst Jelly beans……

Stacey

April 8th, 2009
1:43 pm

Happy Birthday, Theresa! Hope it’s the best yet!

I just started wearing slacks and pants suits to church in the last couple of years. I still won’t wear jeans to service (I do wear them to meetings) but a lot of people do. At my former church fourth Sundays (every month) are dedicated to the youth and even the pastor wears jeans and polos 4th Sunday. Even though we have adopted a more casual dress code I still try to make sure my son always has a nice white shirt, black or navy slack and black shoes that fit for more formal occasions. His legs and feet grow so fast right now that some pants that he wore to school last week might be too short next week! Arrgghh! :)

Theresa

April 8th, 2009
1:44 pm

I want to report that my mom bought me an Easter dress for my birthday– It coordinates with the little girls’ dresses. Mine is a black and white floral with hot pink sweater and belt — the hot pink picks up in the dresses.

I’ve been having a terrible finding clothes that fit — my chest is still way out of proportion from the nursing — she found a sundress with an tube top back to it — it’s odd but it’s comfortable!! and actually fits everywhere —

You do know that...

April 8th, 2009
2:06 pm

…when nursing, you are supposed to alternate sides, right? Then you would be proportional!

new mom

April 8th, 2009
2:06 pm

Happy birthday Theresa!
So you got an Easter dress for your birthday, huh? my birthday was last week, and growing uo I would get my easter dress as my birthday present…I didn’t think it was fair, my sister got a dress too and it wasn’t her birthday! Ha ha, poor me :)

HB

April 8th, 2009
2:09 pm

I always enjoyed having a special Easter dress growing up. Always a pretty spring pastel or white with no or short sleeves, but never overly frilly — maybe a nice eyelet trim to lace it up without making it uncomfortable. Maybe a litlle dressier than other dresses, but not by much. It usually became my favorite of 2 or 3 church dresses worn through September.

My grandmother a couple of years ago actually sounded a bit disappointed that I hadn’t bought myself a new Easter dress (probably hadn’t had one specifically for the holiday since I was 13 or so — in my early 30s now). I explained that living further north now, it’s not usually practical. It’s often still too cold for a spring dress, and a new cold weather dress just isn’t worth wearing once and then storing until fall. She seemed ok with that explanation.

new mom

April 8th, 2009
2:14 pm

I didn’t mean to hit enter…my husband swapped laptops with me and I’m trying to type on this tiny one!

Anyway, we always got dresses growing up too. They were never over the top, just pretty pastel dresses that we usually wore into the summer. We got our daughter a sundress that will probably make another appearance around mother’s day!

We got our daughter some easter goodies from target’s dollar spot–some books, sidewalk chalk, postit notes (i know, weird…but she loves them!) and instead of a new basket, we’re filling some pastel chip bowls and metal pails that will be used throughout the year. I’ll probably fill a couple of last year’s baskets too, I just already feel like we have tons of this stuff around here and she’s only 18 mths (and there’s only one of her, for now!) But we are definitely going to church, for us it’s not just a tradition but hopefully the meaning of the holiday that we want to instill in our daughter, and remind ourselves of too.

Denise

April 8th, 2009
2:16 pm

Happy Birthday, Theresa! Thank you for giving us a space to share (or argue) ideas on various topics. Many blessings to you!

Theresa

April 8th, 2009
2:35 pm

I’m not lopsided — my chest is just larger than the rest of my frame — so I size that fits my hips and shoulders is too tight across the bust still (we stopped nursing seven months ago and still haven’t deflated!)

thanks guys for all the lovely wishes!!

Stacey

April 8th, 2009
3:15 pm

Happy Belated Birthday, new mom!

Theresa…I have a suggested “Fun Friday” topic (since Friday is when we tend to all go off topic). Everyone can describe there most hideous old picture. FCM made me think about it when she mentioned that no one wants to see the photos of Easters past. I was in elementary school in the 70’s and I DEFINITELY have some doozies!

new mom

April 8th, 2009
4:00 pm

Thanks Stacey! I was in elementary school in the 70s & early 80s, but I can’t quite bring myself to say how old I am now. To anyone! It just doesn’t seem possible….

I am on board with the picture topic, but I might not have much time to describe all the feathered hair, short shorts, and jelly shoes since I will be trying to get the house cleaned for Sunday’s lunch. And I can’t clean too far in advance, with a toddler doing her best to destroy everything she sees!

nurse&mother

April 8th, 2009
4:03 pm

Happy Birthday Theresa!!!!

null

April 8th, 2009
6:27 pm

I’m not a Pagan, so I don’t celebrate Easter.

Jesse's Girl

April 8th, 2009
7:59 pm

Way to go Null!!! Having a purpose is great…

Penguinmom

April 8th, 2009
11:28 pm

I guess of all this, what I’m blown away by is Theresa’s mom still has her old Easter dresses!?! Wow! I don’t think I have a single dress that my daughter has worn. Always pass them on or sell them.

We don’t dress up usually for church but my daughter likes to wear a dress on Easter. She will have a ‘new to her’ dress that she’ll be able to wear the rest of the spring/summer. My sons have worn ties rarely on Easter. I actually haven’t thought about Easter outfits this year much recently (bought the dress in February). I may wear a dress but probably will end up just going to church in jeans as usual.

Tiffany

April 9th, 2009
8:31 am

Theresa, I believe we have childhoods in common! My sister and I always had a new dress for Easter- when we were younger we had the hat and the white patent shoes with the matching purse. The purse was always my favorite. Sometimes our dresses matched when Mom could find both sizes. Our Mom always had a new outfit too. We would always go to church on Easter…I’m thinking my family was the Easter and Christmas type too. My Dad did not like sitting through the long services…but he would usually go on holidays. For my children I have always gotten a new outfit for them for Easter. When the girls were younger we did the more ruffly dresses-they are so perfect for pictures-and the cute matching accessories. Now they still get a new dress and shoes, but it is something that can be worn again to church or as a dressy outfit. My younger daughter will be wearing a cute sundress with one of those cute Easter hats, and some new shoes which we will hopefully shop for today. She likes the white dressy shoes with somewhat of a heel to feel more grown up. Older daughter loves new clothes at any time so I am sure she will be dressed nice. When my son was small I used to dress him in those cute little dressy short sets…sometimes a little dress shirt and tie with nice pants. Now that he’s older he will be wearing a polo shirt and khaki pants…that is pretty much his usual church outfit, but I always get him at least a new shirt and shoes if he needs them to wear on Easter. As for myself, I am still looking for something to wear. I do like to have something new to wear on Easter. At my church it is a mix of new Easter outfits and regular church clothes for the adults…but most of the kids seem to wear new clothes. Theresa hope your birthday was good- HAPPY EASTER to everyone!

April

April 9th, 2009
11:27 am

I believe worship should be treated as a special event. You are going to an important and special house. You would not wear jeans with holes in them to the White House; why is it ok to wear them to church? That does not mean fancy dresses and heels every Sunday, but it does mean looking your best – neat, clean, and as if you at least tried to look good. My kids do not always get a new outfit for Easter – it may be a hand-me-down or something left from another special occasion. We do try to look a little more special than other Sundays. After all, We are there to celebrate the resurrection of Lord. Isn’t that an event worth dressing for?

Kat

April 9th, 2009
1:00 pm

April – Exactly – we are there to celebrate the resurrection of the Lord, NOT a fashion show. Get off your high (though fashionably dressed) horse.

April

April 9th, 2009
9:21 pm

I simply answered the question that was asked. If you feel that the clothes you wear to Walmart or to work in the yard are appropriate for the occasion, please feel free to wear them. My family chooses to show respect for the setting and the occasion by looking nice. You may choose to show respect – or not- in other ways. We are never the most “fashionably” dressed people there, nor do we try to be. Why does attention to detail and care in grooming equate a “high horse”? I stand by my answer that dressing nicely on Easter is a sign of respect for the occasion and a celebration of the day.

DB

April 11th, 2009
9:10 am

@April/Kat: Why is it that the same people who would happily spend two hours getting ready for a party, and probably spent half a day getting made up for their wedding, then turn around and wear jeans to church on the holiest day of the year? Ah, well, at least they’re in church . . .!

motherjanegoose

April 11th, 2009
11:19 am

Home from NYC and thrilled to be in a little peace and quiet. WAY TO MANY PEOPLE! We decided we like Boston better!

Our family has always attended church and we even visited a Cathedral in NYC. While I agree that God is pleased to see us no matter what we wear, I think it is respectful to clean up and show up in something appropriate. With the formality of the Cathedral fresh in my mind, I wonder if any of the parishioners throw on flips flops and and T-shirt for church. I am disheartened with the generally casual attitude of folks today….no manners and a come as you are attitude. IF YOU DO NOT LIKE ME THE WAY I AM, THEN GET OVER IT. To me, this is rude and insensitive. It also shows one’s lack of culture. Would you attend a wedding in sweat pants? Would you go to a symphony in jeans?
If someone were fixing a formal dinner and you arrived in a wrinkled t shirt, burping and farting all through the meal…that is just plain rude.

Not everyone feels the same way….I understand.
We worship because of our faith (s) and the ultimate sacrifice that was made for us. Easter is a day to celebrate the joy we have because of our faith. If we are too bothered to show respect and dress in reverance ( this does not mean it has to be a new outfit but I once sat behind a teen , on Easter, in jeans with her thong sticking out of her pants top and we could see more than I wanted to see in church) then do we really appreciate the gift that was given for us? It also bothers me to see girl and women wearing revealing sundresses ( which are FINE for a summer party or at the beach) and the ushers trying not to oogle them in the sanctuary. They are white as a sheet ( to tan yet) and shivering …what is up with that? CHECK OUT MY BOOBS ON EASTER SUNDAY!

Call me old fashioned but my daughter does not wear jeans to worship and my son also knows to be dressed appropriately. I have said this before LITTLE EARS ARE BIG LISTENERS….also…LITTLE EYES CAN SEE A LOT….if you do not set a standard for your children, they will not acquire it on their own.

I hear it all the time from business owners….kids today do not know how to act. They come with a college degree and an attitude. When I was working at Wal Mart during high school and college we could not wear jeans to work and we had to wear those funky smocks and vests. The men wore ties. NOW folks dress up less for church than Wal Mart.

We have become a casual and disrespectful society and this frightens me. A tide is hard to turn!

DB, I am with you!

April

April 11th, 2009
9:26 pm

Thank you, MGJ, for putting my thoughts much more eloquently than I did.