My brother has been in the hospital this week for testing and surgery. He is hoping to get on the heart transplant list fairly soon so he is pretty medically fragile at this point.
While I was visiting with him Wednesday night before his surgery, he made a big point to tell me that he wanted me to know that should something happen and he end up in a vegetative state that his wife is to be the one to make the decision to pull the plug, not our mother. (He had told our mother this earlier but he wanted a witness to help enforce his decision.)
He said that he didn’t want to be a burden to his wife, and he knew that our mother would never pull the plug on him.
I joked that I would actually want mother to be in charge of my plug pulling because I think Michael would pull it immediately. “What, she’s been in a coma for a day. Pull that plug!”
I know there are directives you can leave so the hospital knows your wishes, but for now let’s stick to the question:
Who would you trust more to make the decision of whether to pull your plug: Your parents or your spouse?