I do want my children to be giving (and not just be willing to give away things they don’t want), but I was a little disturbed when my son tried to give to his buddy 10 of the Lego men we had just bought for him. (It wasn’t just to borrow, it was for keeps!)
His little friend spent the night a few weeks ago, and I heard negotiating going on in the basement. My son was more than willing to give his best little buddy one-fourth of the Lego men he had just gotten. (The set cost close to $50.)
I stepped in and suggested he give his friend a few Lego men but not 10. They settled on 3.
I was talking to my girlfriend the other day and she says her second-grade daughter routinely wraps up new toys that she has just gotten and gives them away as gifts to her friends at school.
The mom said even though it kills her, she lets her do it for two reasons. A. She wants her to be a giving person and B. She figures eventually she’ll figure out “Hey, I’m giving away all my good toys.” She admits the only problem with this theory is her daughter keeps receiving so many toys from her and other family members that she never quite feels the pain of her giveaways.
She also said they make a point at Christmas and birthdays to give away to charity the same number of old toys as they get new.
I’m all for giving away to charity, and we definitely model and talk about giving a lot. However, I have an issue with my child giving away to a non-needy child the toys I just bought for him.
Does your child give his current/new toys away to friends? Do you let him? Do you think it reinforces the concepts of giving? Do you mind if it’s something expensive you just bought for him?