Comments on: Toddler enters naked phase while siblings find their modesty

By: Sophia

Sophia — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 05:50:33 +0000

My little sister has seen me totally topless.She was 9 and I was 13. I was all wet and didn’t have a change of clothes, so while my shirt and pants were drying, I was in my underwear (no bra, though.) At first I tried to cover up my boobs, but then realized it wasn’t working out trying to keep them covered for half an hour or longer, so I just let it go and told her not to look. But when I was walking around, she said she saw the side of one ’since mine were bigger than hers.’ She showed me hers and said, ’see?’ I nodded and she copied what I had been saying for the past ten minutes. ‘How much did you see?’ Then she added something, ‘Show me on yours like I did to you.’ Since I had been saying that to her and she had been showing me how much, I showed her. I had seen the full view of both hers, though she only had nipples, so I kind or reluctantly showed her mine, nipples and everything. She at first just stared right at them since she had never seen naked breasts before. I just sat down and let her look all she wanted. I mean, it was only boobs. Even after my clothes were dry, I still waited to put on my shirt for a little since it was hot and being topless felt cooler. I asked her if she minded and she just said, ‘It was a little gross at first, but it’ll be okay.’ After that, she saw my boobs a few more times, and if she would have to see them again, I wouldn’t really mind since she already saw nipples and everything in daylight, so she knows what they look like.

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 03:00:27 +0000

A few years ago I was taking my 8 year old daughter swimming at a local YWCA a couple of nights a week. For the first few weeks my daughter was very modest in the women’s locker room. She would only shower with her swimsuit on and she would change in and out of her swimsuit in one of the toilet stalls. Then one night we invited our 15 year old neighbor girl to go with us. Our neighbor girl is a gorgeous young woman and my daughter idolizes her.
After our swim the 3 of us headed to the women’s locker room, and as soon as we got in there our neighbor girl stripped out of her swimsuit and hung it on a hook and walked totally nude to our lockers, and after getting out her bodywash and shampoo she walked over and joined us in the group showers. She was extremely comfortable being nude for a long period of time before we all got dressed and left.

For the next year after that every single time I took my daughter to the Y to swim she became a nudist of sorts. Suddenly she would change out in the open, and would even shower in the nude instead of keeping on her swimsuit like she always had. Actually, it was kind of cute and funny. I don’t mind that she imitated that innocent and harmless thing. But I’ve always made a point to make sure that she doesn’t imitate everything that she sees other people do.

By: Reluctant

Reluctant — Wed, 06 May 2009 19:09:42 +0000

I have 3 kids – ages 4, 2, & 1 – and unless we’re going somewhere or someone is coming over to our house they very rarely wear cloths, and if they do where cloths it’s something they’ve picked out and put on themselves (they tend to go through 2 or 3 mismatched outfits a day). When my oldest was jus entering the nekkid phase I would try to keep cloths on her all the time, but once the other two came along I gave up the fight. It’s just not that big of a deal. Plus it saves me having to do more laundry – since they don’t wear anything for very long we can just put it back up when they take it off – and they are happy to be in control of something.

By: JJ

JJ — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 17:02:50 +0000

Sassyajc – my 12 year old niece still sleeps with her mother. She sleeps with me at my house, and with my Mother at her house……that kid has NEVER slept in her own bed alone…….

And on the topic of parents being their kids’ friends, NOT ME. She has plenty of friends, and so do I. I am her parent. I will be her friend, once she becomes a mother herself.

However, my daughter is always telling her friends I am her best friend. I love that she thinks of me that way, and is proud enough to tell her friends. We have a lot of fun together, and I love having her friends over to our house, but I am not her friend. I am her guidance counselor, financial advisor, life coach, etc, but not a friend. I always think of the movie Mean Girls about the mom who made margaritas for her daughter and her friends. Cracks me up!!!!……

By: mqew

mqew — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 13:00:28 +0000

My 2 y/o isn’t in this phase. The most he’ll do is run around a bit before his bath but that’s only a sec. My neighbor on the other hand has three kids and the oldest, I think he’s 5 y/o, is the nekkid one. We’ll come over for a scheduled play date and he’s nekkid. The first time that happened I was very suprised… now I’m over it. But this article put it in perspective. I didn’t know that it’s a usual phase… well for a 2yo at least.

By: JJ

JJ — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 12:27:59 +0000

I never got out of the nekkid phase either!!! Who said we had to wear clothes???……my brother and his daughters all hang out in the underwear at their home. I walk around nekkid all the time. Freedom. I hate clothes. I hate shoes…….especially with warm weather….My daughter was modest up until about 3 months ago. She was shy around me. I kept telling her we have the same parts, no need to cover up, it’s just the two of us…….

By: Theresa

Theresa — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 03:40:22 +0000

Tiffany — I ALWAYS put the shoes on after we get where we’re going — you have to do it twice otherwise!!

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 03:00:01 +0000

Fun topic here. I remember those days too well…My son, as a toddler would always take off his shoes as soon as he was in the car. It didn’t bother me too much until he started flinging them out the window while we were going down the road. I found that it was easier just to wait and put the shoes on him after we got to where we were going. Mine also loved stripping down to their diaper, and then ripping that off, too. I found that putting on the diaper backwards worked for a while, then they learned how to open the tapes anyway…so THEN we added a strip of duct tape and sometimes some of the old fashioned metal diaper pins on top of that. That worked pretty well!

By: Nurse&mother

Nurse&mother — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 01:04:04 +0000

Sassyajc- I understand where you are coming from. The example that Dr. McKenna gave was say parents and adult children and their friends. It’s sad that in our society, we have to be careful about adults and children. We have a rule in our house that my 11yo daughter is not allowed to have friends over to spend a night if I have to work (work evening shift). I totally trust my husband, but I never want someone to be able to accuse him of anything. I always want to be able to say that I was there the whole time the child was. You never know.

By: Kat

Kat — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 21:38:43 +0000

New Mom: I agree with how you are handling the potty training. I had a friend who put her little one on the baby potty as soon as she could sit up. She learned rather quickly what to do because she was cheered whenever something “happened.” If you’ve got the time to do it, I say go for it!