A newly divorced man wants to get our help on dating in Atlanta. He was coupled up and married since high school, so he literally has zero experience being a single man in Atlanta. He said that he is dating game is rusty! Do you ever feel the same way too?
What should you do if you don’t know the best way to approach a woman, show interest, and pursue her? You don’t want to look like a tool or anything. I think a lot of women would appreciate a simple and genuine introduction. It also depends on the type of woman you want to approach. Some women in Atlanta are a bit…how shall I put this, rude? Yes. Rude. This makes it even more challenging for men.
What kind of advice do you give someone who has not dated since high school?
Do you think there are “baby steps” someone can take before hitting their stride?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
My friend Eva is back on the dating scene after ending her two year relationship. Her first couple of dates with new guy are going pretty well. After a fun at home date, new guy made a comment about a few signs of her ex that seemed to have lingered.
Apparently, Eva has not packed up old photos, got rid of his extra pair of running shoes, and oh yeah, his dog is still at her house. From his perspective, the ex is pretty present considering he is her past. It is giving him the idea that her ex comes and goes as he pleases in her life and her house (she assured me this is not the case).
It got me to thinking about how important it is to do a cleansing after a relationship. A literal cleaning of the old life you had with them helps to move on. Buy fresh sheets, take down couple pictures, and for the love of everything holy, return all pets.
Do you hold on to items from your last relationship? If you are dating someone new, would you put conceal or get rid of
One of my guy friends has a girlfriend who has a bad habit of intentionally flirting in front of him. Thomas said that he believed it started as something harmless that she would do in a joking way. Lately, he is starting to think she is doing it to get a reaction out of him.
Thomas can be laid back and relaxed and it takes a lot to get a “reaction” out of him. I believe this is the kind of thing he would dump a girl over. He said that he is used to women putting him through little tests, but this jealousy test is not something that sits well with him.
I can’t imagine putting that much energy into making a man jealous, but I suppose this is a way to get some attention.
How would you handle a date that purposely tried to make you jealous? Would that be a deal breaker? How do you know when it has gone too far?
Do you think jealousy has its place in a relationship? Is there such a thing as a healthy dose of jealousy to “show” you still care?
By Wise Diva,
One of our readers wanted to get advice about when she should bring up the marriage topic. She has been dating her boyfriend for less than a year and feels pretty confident about things. This is why she is anxious to start talking about a future. She just doesn’t want to bring the one to bring it up!
Do you believe that a woman who talks about marriage too soon is a turn off to men? What if he is already thinking of her as his future spouse?
In my experiences, marriage usually makes its way into conversations rather organically. I don’t remember being the one to bring it up. Admittedly, there was a period that I was no interested in marriage at all, so I sort of avoided that when I could.
If you are really excited about a possible future with someone, can bringing marriage into the forefront actually delay or derail a relationship?
Should you drop hints or subtle comments about marriage to get the discussion going?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating
In the last few months, I have watched a couple of situations unfold on social media that basically squashed any chance of a happy relationship. From Instagram photos causing a serious rift with a married couple – to Facebook comments becoming a problem for a single guy. Social media mistakes are more common on the dating scene these days.
Why do you think so many people get into hot water with social media? So many things are misconstrued and misinterpreted. You would think that exercising good judgment would be the way to go, right? Common sense seems to be not so common!
Have you ever dumped someone because of a social media mistake? Has anyone ever questioned you about your own actions on social media?
Do you think we will ever figure out how to navigate social media without destroying our potential romances?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
It’s funny how you may not be able to pinpoint the traits of someone you consider ideal, but you can definitely describe who is NOT ideal. There is something to be said about knowing what you want and don’t want. I think most people are reasonable about it, while others.. not so much.
We all have different things that “just does it” for us, whatever that means. It’s interesting to think about why some things are complete turn offs while other things could draw you in. It is also funny how one man’s/woman’s turn off can be another man’s/woman’s turn ON.
For instance, I always say that a man with an extensive vocabulary and book collection could make me swoon instantly. Another woman would think he was a complete square, Herb, or nerd. She would assume was dull and boring. I’m here for it. ALL day. Yes.
A guy who feels the need to constantly brag or boast of his looks, sexual prowess, or wealth just makes me twitch. I become overwhelmed with the urge to roll my
Hello everyone! Today we have guest bloggers. That’s right, plural. The blogging duo includes my sister and her friend Brian. Check out what they had to say then weigh in: What do you think happened to the art of dating?
I guess it would be extremely appropriate for me to define dating before I continue. In my opinion, dating is how you get to know someone with whom you may be interested in pursuing a relationship. Dating used to be the initial phase and was followed by exclusivity (becoming monogamous). Then “talking” replaced “dating” and dating became exclusive.
Enough of the history lesson! Nowadays, there is not much dating going on. People are going from hello to hookup! Now, I may be old fashioned, but I when I was dating, I wanted to know enough about a girl to make sure she had been a girl her whole life. I mean, at least tell me your last name. Show me some baby pictures or something!
Dating was an art form. In most cases, a man had to
Many of us work really hard and long hours every week. This can obviously make dating a bit of a challenge. Carving out time for a social life is important, though. All work and no play keeps perpetually single!
There are other ways that our jobs can impact our dating options. My friend Carl makes extra money as a bartender. A lot of his shift is spent shamelessly flirting with women, much to his girlfriend’s chagrin. His last girlfriend could not handle it and he met his current girlfriend while tending bar. I wonder how long before she also takes issue with his workplace flirting.
Have you ever dated someone who worked way too many hours? Was it a real struggle to get them to leave work? How do you manage to balance work and play so that you get go on dates?
What would you do if the person you were seeing had a job that made you uncomfortable? Do you bring it up or respect their decision to hustle for money they way that they see fit?
By Wise Diva,
I was having dinner with my friend Ellen recently and we got on the topic of dating without guilt. Ellen has this bad habit on taking on head cases or “projects” when it comes to dating. I think she qualifies for saint status, at this point. She does not know when to cut her losses and move on. The red flags are there, yet she decides to give it time.
While Ellen has a big heart and enormous patience, I would say that most of her dating is done out of pity. I see a lot of single people that do this. It sort of becomes this savior complex because the relationship is about sympathy. Not chemistry, not sex, not even money. When a person is dating someone out of pity, they have an overwhelming sense of guilt about dumping them.
I admit that I have done this before and it did not end well. I didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. I tried to ignore the lack of chemistry or connection. The reality is, though, you do both of you a disservice if you date out
We may have a lot of strip clubs and Waffle House restaurants but that’s not what got us named the nerdiest city in America! According to Movoto Real Estate, Atlanta offers a virtual Nerdvana to those who are into gaming, tech, sci-fi conventions, etc.
Obviously, my first thought was how this impacts our dating scene. Sidebar: I have been on a hot nerd hunt since I moved here and sometimes they can be oblivious to shameless flirting. The question is, though, are nerds having a hard time getting dates?
If anything, I believe that a lot of people feel compelled to downplay their nerd quotient so they can appear “cooler” or more hip. I am proud to be a nerd with a love of science and tech, but some ladies don’t highlight their intelligence. Is it because girl nerds aren’t attractive or desirable?
Have you ever downplayed your intelligence to appear cooler? Do you think that showing your full nerd personality is too risky?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta