When you are in a committed relationship, making your partner happy should be important to you. Most people want to please their mate and make sure their needs are being met. What happens when what they want freaks you out? Or is beyond your personal boundaries?

How do you make someone’s fantasy come true if what they really want is your own version of hell?

When you are in a relationship, how much are you willing to compromise?

Do you think a good partner should push you beyond your limits and encourage you to explore new things?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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I have a friend who can be completely oblivious to when someone is flirting with her. She is a beautiful girl with a really big heart, but sometimes a guy has to go to great lengths before she actually notices. Men lose interest with her because she is slow connecting the dots of their efforts.

I don’t know the root cause of her dating blind spot, but I can’t count the times I’ve heard her say, “Wait, was that a date? Or my personal favorite “I think he is just being nice to me”.

Of course men can be kind without an ulterior motive, but most single people have some kind of agenda on the dating scene. Which brings me to the part of dating I do not enjoy: figuring out what the dating agenda is when there are so many signals. I try not to give up out of sheer frustration or laziness but who has time to figure out motives?

If you are unsure about whether or not you are on a romantic date, or if you are unclear about someone’s intentions, what do you do? I tend to be …

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The dating scene in Atlanta has its pros and cons. There are a lot of sexy people in the city, plenty to do, and many places to be seen. The drawback? There are a LOT of sexy people, A LOT to do, and TOO many places to be seen.

In other words, it gets rather competitive at times. Women become ruthless and pull out all the stops to get the attention of men they deem most valuable. Men go through great lengths to project an image of wealth, upward mobility, and begin to compete with each other to land the “hottest chick” they can find.

With all this competition going on, it’s hard to tell if anyone actually wants to date or just enjoy the hunt and sport of dating in this city. Am I being too critical? Do you believe dating in Atlanta is competitive? Is it a problem or a great thing?

Happy Tuesday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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We can never truly be sure of what people see when they look at us. Single people often make all sorts of assumptions about each other based on appearance and the image people project. What kind of image are you projecting, though?

Interesting enough, I think a lot of times, people are projecting the wrong image and end up attracting the wrong types. If you were to see yourself, would you approach you? Do you appear welcoming and approachable?

Have you ever wondered how other people see you? Do you think the image you are projecting is getting you the results you really want?

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Everyone likes the idea of meeting someone great, liking them, and them liking you back. The thought of having to make compromises, concessions, or God forbid actual changes does not bode well for single people.

We all believe we are wonderful creatures and anyone who dates us should accept us as we are! Why would you change to please someone else, right?

Realistically speaking, how many people in a long lasting relationship can actually say they made it work by staying the exact same person? A friend of mine has a woman who is trying to give him a makeover. Simple stuff, really, nothing particular major. Personally, I think she has made his image a lot more polished. I noticed the changes almost immediately and I remarked how nice his new look was.

His boys are giving him a hard time, however, for switching up his style to appease his woman. Although, he tells them that he really likes her “suggestions”, they still believe that she just took the first step toward …

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Today’s post is courtesy of a fellow dating blogger, Brittany Manson who writes Alone in Atlanta column:

Guys work hard for everything they feel is worth having: the best car, the best job, the nicest house, the cleanest image, etc. However there’s one aspect that it appears they’re not working as hard for anymore: The right woman.

Sure, they feel one (and in some guy’s cases more than one) is worth having, but how much effort is put in on the job of finding a good woman?

Phone calls turn into text messages, date nights out turn into late nights in…To the unsuspecting eye, it seems that guys are getting lazy when it comes to working for women. But are guys getting lazier or are we as women getting easier and so much work isn’t required for us anymore?

It’s no secret that the ratios aren’t necessarily in our favor. Meaning available guys are scarce. So to make our chances better, we make the job easier: we don’t stress “dating” as much, we continue to text even though we prefer …

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If you meet someone at a bar or a club, is it really fair to judge them for going out too much? I mean, it stands to reason, if they were not outgoing, you never would have met them in the first place, right?

It is interesting how the things we find appeasing and attractive in the beginning of a relationship can be the very same things that wrecks a romance. You love their sense of humor and quirky behavior until you don’t anymore. Great sense of humor becomes “never taking things seriously” and quirky behavior starts to look a lot like a weird freak with strange habits. Ahh, you have to love how familiarity breeds contempt, no?

But I digress. If someone goes out too much, is that a turn off? Do you prefer the type that sticks close to home and is low-key?

I once had a guy I was seeing complain that I was on the go way too much. He much preferred that I go home more and demonstrate my domestic duties for an imaginary family that I don’t have yet. Yes, this was an actual …

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We all have done things we are not proud of..at all. The romantic crimes we committed, those bad decisions, or the shady behavior can sometimes come back to haunt us later. Do you think it is better to cop to it and let the truth about your past come out?

When you are dating someone new, do you usually share the good and not so good – in order to give a true, honest assessment of your character?

Do you want to know as much as possible- skeletons included- or do you prefer to operate on a need to know basis?

Has someone shared their past with you and it led to a break up?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures In Atlanta Dating Blog

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Women can never predict who will be attracted to them. Sometimes I am so confused when a guy asks me out because I wonder how he decided I was his type?

Aside from looks, what makes a woman attractive to men? I think a lot of women believe that good looks are enough to keep a man interested. Obviously it keeps them interested for a period of time, but something else keeps them around.

What is it about women that makes women irresistible?

Ladies, what is it about men that you find irresistible besides looks?

What keeps you interested and willing to open up yourself to another person?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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I have a friend who tells me that he has noticed a disturbing trend in the last few months. A lot of the women he has met turn out to be rather argumentative. He is not opposed to debate and spirited conversations, but he flat out refuses to engage in an argument about politics, religion, etc.

I am somewhat surprised that he has managed to attract or be attracted to someone who is argumentative. He is laid back, extremely mellow, and is not one to be excitable. Is this a case of opposites attract?

Do you think that there is a difference between debating and arguing?

Have you ever dated the type of person who seems to enjoy fighting, or arguing? Has anyone ever told you that you argue way too much?

I have to ask, I’m sorry: Are you a lover of a fighter?!

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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