It  is easy to become relaxed and comfortable when you are in a new relationship.   Things tend to become less sexy after that honeymoon phase ends and you start to let yourself go a bit.  The first casualty of this sort of thing is your attraction to one another.

A lot of guys tell me that their women have become too sloppy or stop caring about their appearance as much.  This can lead to some awkward situations and men get accused of being shallow.  I don’t think a person is shallow for wanting their mate’s appearance to be attractive.

The same thing goes for single people.  I always joke that single girls don’t get days off.  We never know when we may run into someone who could be a potential romance, so leaving the house looking a mess is not always a good thing. Even if you don’t have a new relationship, you should care about your appearance so that you project a polished image.

Do you think you could use a little bit of a makeover?   Have you ever let things slip a bit …

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One of our readers was invited to attend her ex-fiance’s wedding.  The two of them have a really long history, having gone from friends to lovers, and back to friends again.  The problem is that her new guy and his bride-to-be don’t know that they were once a couple.

Should she disclose the fact that they hooked up to her new man?  Should she go to the wedding of her ex?  What would you do?

Do you think that it is appropriate to invite a former flame, lover, or spouse to your wedding?  Would it bother you if your mate wanted  to have someone from their past at an important event like wedding, graduation, etc.?

What is the proper etiquette when your ex is getting married? If there are still some feelings involved, is it best to stay away?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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There is a period of time before you have had “the talk” when you are still keeping your options open.  It’ s common to juggle different people that you are interested in.  You’re single, you’re entitled.  We are all adults, here, right?  Still there is something that changes the dynamic when you are faced with your competition.

The situation was not planned, but my friend Curt was on a date with a woman and they were approached by another love interest.  Awkward!  Thankfully, Curt is smart about who he dates. There were no embarrassing reality tv fight scenes.  There was, however, a little bit of cold shoulder action after the woman left.

So, he does not feel that she had a “right to get mad” because she knew that he was seeing other people.  When you are casually dating, should it really bother you when you find out that they are dating other people?

How much information would you want to know about your competition?

Are you obligated to share details about who else you are …

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I had a bad feeling when one of my friends told me he loaned his new girlfriend some money.  They had only been exclusive for a couple of weeks by then and I worried if this was a red flag.  Things seemed to have fallen apart between them and she still has not paid him back.

I always wonder why so many people who are in dating relationships allow money to become an issue before things are even serious.  Money will eventually be something every couple has to deal with but should it be a big issue when you are just dating?

Would you ever loan someone money if you are dating them casually?  What if you are in a serious relationship?

Have  you ever given someone you were involved with money?  Did it change the dynamic of your relationship?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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One of our Misadventures in Atlanta readers has a bit of a dating dilemma.  He recently found out that one of his exes has been blocking on him with other women.  This particular ex-girlfriend is still friends with him. Well, maybe frenemies is more like it?  She is friendly to his face but when he is not around, she is not really president of his fan club.

Her plan was actually working until one of the women admitted that she stop taking his calls because of his ex-girlfriend.  The ex had done a little embellishing about a couple of situations to make the situation appear worse then they really were.

If you remain friends with one of your exes, is it a good idea that they know about who you are dating now?

Do you think that an ex who is actively blocking your potential romances still harbors feelings for you?

What would you do if you found out your reputation was getting ruined because of someone you used to date?  How would you handle it?

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I was sitting at the bar minding my own business (sort of) when I noticed a couple at a nearby booth.   The lady had a look of disgust and annoyance on her face while the guy sat there patiently.  From the few minutes I observed was being nosy, I realized what an awful personality this woman had.

She was rude to the servers, had her cell phone out and sent text messages, and I don’t remember seeing her smile.  Now the guy she was with was extremely good looking.  That is what caught my attention, at first.  It wasn’t long before I actually felt bad that he had to endure this date.

Then I thought about it and figured he was there because he wanted to be.  If he didn’t know he was asking out a datezilla, then he definitely knew at the end of the night.  The question is, would he ask datezilla out again?

Do you ever notice how some people with the worst personalities and  awful manners manage to have a fan club?  Women who have the charm of a house plant can still have a lot of …

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The debate about asking men out has reared its head again.  The guys were giving my friend Tina a hard time because she made the first move and asked a guy out.  They believe it was bad enough that she approached him first.  Asking him out before he could suggest it first was another wrong move.

I think every guy is different, so there are probably men who would argue either side, according to their own preference.  I am curious about how men react when they are approached by women.  Does it happen often?  Are you surprised when they approach you?

Do you think that a woman who asks a man out is desperate? Does it depend on her approach?

Ladies, when was the last time you asked a man out?  What made you decide to do it?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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I can’t remember where I heard it but someone once said that “Money is a sad reason for people to be together.  It’s also a said reason to break up.”  I wish love conquered all and things didn’t often come down to money, but let’s face it, money matters.

I can remember a couple who started out struggling financially.  They were broke but they were happy and they leaned on one another.  Fast forward seven years and one of them inherited a large sum of money unexpectedly.  The changes I saw in that couple really made me wonder if it was all worth it.

I wondered if it was the money that changed them or if it was the money that highlighted problems that were already there.

When it comes to love and matters of the heart, how does money or lack of money play a role?  Should it matter as much as it does?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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I believe most people have an age range that they target for dating.  We know the youngest we would be willing to try.  What about the oldest?  How many years older you are you comfortable dating?

The difference in age can become a problem but I don’t think it is something that is insurmountable.  A friend of mine dated and married a much older man.  The concern she had was having children with a much older man.  They are now pregnant for the third time and he is in his 60s.   Clearly they worked things out!

If you have not considered dating older, what apprehensions do you have for giving it a try?

How much older would you date?  What is the youngest?  What difference do you think it would make in dating a younger person versus dating an older one?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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There comes a point in every single person’s dating career when you worry about what your friends think about your date.  Of course, we can claim to be adults who don’t answer to anyone.  We like, date, and love who we want and opinions of others should not matter.  The thing is, though, opinions of some of our friends do matter.

I don’t know if I would dump a guy if he didn’t win my friends over.  I would probably take a second look at what they see that I don’t.  Let’s be honest,  we are all susceptible to having clouded judgment from love, sex, or lust.

When you meet someone new, do you ever ask yourself  “What will my friends think?”

Have you ever had to manage a dating relationship with someone who all your friends disliked?

If your reasonable and trustworthy friends weigh in on your dates, do you pay attention to their observations?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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