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Dating: Physical preferences

Have you ever noticed the physical traits of the people you are most attracted to? Do they resemble the people who you actually date? I
have seen many guy friends date one type but gawk at women with vastly different physical appearances. Do we know why we are physically attracted to certain people?

We could probably explain why certain physical traits are hot to us and others are not; I belief our preferences are influenced by many different things. That alone is not problematic. The problem begins when we take our preferences too far and overlook great people who don’t look like our fantasy. Many women overlook guys who don’t meet their height preference and miss out.

What are your physical preferences in a date? Do you tend to date close to that prototype?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva

173 comments Add your comment

Exiled

May 9th, 2014
7:39 am

Rare First!!!

My preferences are; at least 5′6 tall,nice legs,average body(not fat,not Slim skinny),kinda articulate,def not ghetto in speech and easy on the eye(not knock me dead pretty)..we can talk bout that later!

Now,I do gawk at a busty chest,knock me dead pretty,Big booteey and those gals who dress kinda provocatively in ‘look at me’ style.

I won’t date that type nor marry them but I can see a one off,getting off chance encounter being a manly possibility. Lol

For obvious reasons,the pretty,look at me type gals are being looked at by the next man. They attract a lot of eye traffic. I am walking with ms very busty,big bootey,pretty,knock me dead and every man is looking in our direction,at her,and musing,’ I wanna smash her if I can get the chance!’. And that’s my gal!

No mum! :lol:

I ain’t gotta handle that attention.

I am just gon gawk at her from afar and feed the eyes! :lol:
Howdee.

Celisea

May 9th, 2014
7:47 am

MMeelllo aren’t you married already? You said you won’t date or marry the obvious “easy on the eyes” type,right? I’m sooo confused…lol

Ooh, you’re talking “if you weren’t married”….gotcha

Anyhoo…I have nothing on the topic.

Celisea

May 9th, 2014
7:48 am

It’s uuuuurly :mrgreen:

Lali

May 9th, 2014
8:04 am

I don’t have a physical prototype, I have dated across the board physically. Attraction is a lot more than just physical qualities for me, I can’t just look at someone and feel attracted. So many other things come into play.

Single & Happy

May 9th, 2014
8:13 am

Hello all

Everyone that I’ve dated I’ve been physically attracted to. I well date anyone that I’m physically attracted too. That’s where it all starts. Now after getting to know them we may not stay together, but that has nothing to do with the physical side.

Lee

May 9th, 2014
8:25 am

I will not date “you so fat walmart has to grease the doors for you to enter” or “your teeth so rotten that I smell your breath from across the room ”
Good morning

Kat

May 9th, 2014
8:26 am

“I belief our preferences are influenced by many different things. (believe)

Choose based on the qualities you value most. Honesty, integrity, trust, etc. Looks fade, and “beauty” droops.

disco

May 9th, 2014
8:51 am

Good morning.

I most definitely have physical preferences. Do I only date folks who meet those preferences? No, but to be honest I’m likely not really checking for the guys who don’t. sure, I’ll go out with them, kick it with them, hang out but that’s probably where the bucks going to stop. I’m all for positive personality traits but quite frankly I’m too shallow for them to carry all the weight. great guy but fat, it sucks to be you. great guy but short, it sucks to be you. great guy but scrawny, it sucks to be you. great guy but broke – oh wait. broke isn’t a physical trait. lol.

disco

May 9th, 2014
8:57 am

Re: rejecting a particular demographic and thereby missing out. I get the point but who is to say that a person is missing out just because they opted not to settle for something that they don’t desire?

Also, to be keep it real, if a person starts out as someone I’m physically attracted to and then let’s themselves go – judge me if you must – but I’m out.

Single & Happy

May 9th, 2014
9:07 am

disco, some people do miss out, those are the ones always complaining bout, can’t find someone, always picking out the wrong one based on physical attraction. and considering it settling when the find someone that has 9 out of the 10 things they want, but the one is a physical thing, but don’t consider it settling when the meet someone that has 1 out of the 10 things they want and that one happens to be the physical!

disco

May 9th, 2014
9:13 am

Single – my point is that no one can really say you missed out but you. if you don’t feel like you missed out then to heck with the next person telling you that you missed out.

Single & Happy

May 9th, 2014
9:16 am

Disco, if you’re complaining, then you missing out. And that’s usually why the next person is tell you that you’re missing out. That’s my point (LOL)

disco

May 9th, 2014
9:25 am

Single – I complain (sometimes) about not meeting anyone I’m interested in. that doesn’t mean that I’m missing out because I’m not checking for the guys that are checking for me. I simply operate on the belief that they aren’t for me. NOW I can agree that you might be missing out on having WHAT you want (in this case a relationship) but I won’t agree that you are missing out on THAT particular person. can we now be in agreement?

Single & Happy

May 9th, 2014
9:28 am

Naw disco this is my day do run you off (LMAO)

Yea we’re sorta of the same thing, I wasn’t think a particular person, I was thinking in generally. Usually when it’s someone telling you that you are missing out on them, it’s usually more than just the physical that you’re not attracted too.

disco

May 9th, 2014
9:31 am

Single – last night I’m talking to this guy I’ve known for years. we hang out here and there. he’s made slight suggestive comments that I simply dodged or ignored. Last night he got bold. During the conversation I commented that I didn’t know any guys worth bothering with. how come dude got hot under the collar and was like “you are going to stop saying that to me. who am I”? LOL. my first thought was “you ain’t nobody” but I recovered. Gave him some song and dance about messing up the comfort of the friend zone.

2CPTG©

May 9th, 2014
9:34 am

nice booty, petite, pretty…..

Single & Happy

May 9th, 2014
9:37 am

Disco, I had the same sort of conversation, a friend was going on about what type of man she wanted, and I asked did she have anybody like that in her life, she thought about it for a minute and said I was. I said but yet you wouldn’t date me because of my height. She admitted that she’s considered it several times, but she’s more worried about what 2 particular friends will say than it was about my height.

Exiled

May 9th, 2014
9:58 am

Now,if there is a woman I hate,it is a drop dead,gorgeous gal,nice legs,model(with 1 kid type) like body,beautiful smile,nice lips and great personality But

…such an airhead,know nothing,clueless and shallow gal.

What a waste of DNA!!

Exiled

May 9th, 2014
10:02 am

and the fat,busty chest,Big bootey,short gal with rickety legs,ugly ran by a tractor,dark skinned face is a Wizard at calculus,algebra and the sciences and got a perfect SAT score!!

2CPTG©

May 9th, 2014
10:08 am

disco…….

DuShawn

May 9th, 2014
10:13 am

I have always been attracted to dark-skinned, chocolate women with high cheekbones, small waists and thick hips, thighs and legs, but for some reason I tend to end up with the peanut butter colored girls. I’ve always enjoyed putting them together and making a Reese’s cup.

Reio

May 9th, 2014
10:19 am

Morning all.

I must say that when it came to dating, I’ve never had a preference. The only caveat to that would be my discomfort with fat women. If you’re overweight? Well, I’ll let you work on that while I ease on down the road. Sorry.

I can go for the Beyoncé type or the Popeye cartoon ‘Olive Oyle’ type as well. Skinny as a rail. Never really gave a rip. And if I were still single, I’d still not give a rip. Attractive face? Fine. Not so attractive face? Fine too. I just don’t give a chit. Big breasts? Ok. Small breasts? Ok. I mean, what does it matter?

disco

May 9th, 2014
10:21 am

2C – you rang?

Single & Happy

May 9th, 2014
10:21 am

People always talking about beauty fades, I was just thinking most of the folks that I know that were nice looking young and have taken care of themselves are still nice looking, the ones that aren’t didn’t TAKE CARE of themselves!

SlimNu

May 9th, 2014
10:23 am

Morning,

I’m usually attracted to darker Godiva chocolatey smooth brothers with goatee’s. The lighter guys don’t’ really do it for me.

2CPTG©

May 9th, 2014
10:25 am

yes, I did…..ummm, based off your “preferences,” we may not be a match on NYE….wanna “lower” the bar a lil bit, and we may work out just fine…

2CPTG©

May 9th, 2014
10:26 am

I’m usually attracted to darker Godiva chocolatey smooth brothers with goatee’s.

pssst…..pssst…..c’mere, ma, lemme holla at you…

disco

May 9th, 2014
10:27 am

Single – or they could have that “ugly duckling in reverse” thing going on. lol. start off as a homely kid and grow up fine OR start off as a cute kid and grow up busted. It happens.

disco

May 9th, 2014
10:29 am

2C – see? we were only supposed to hang out / kick it on NYE. I’m an open minded girl. I can kick it with just about anybody.

Slim – I’m with you on the dark skin tip. I can get with lighter shades of brown but those high yellow brothers… no can do.

Single & Happy

May 9th, 2014
10:35 am

Disco, both still have to do with taken care of yourself. The fat homely kid that, starting working out and lost weight, the handsome guy/beautiful girl that got hooked on drugs are alcohol, there are usually underlying reason

Disco, what about brown skin with green eyes (LOL)

Hey Slim.

kimmie a.k.a Smooth Operator

May 9th, 2014
10:36 am

Sup Gang, happy end of the week and the last day!!

Many women overlook guys who don’t meet their height preference and miss out.

This has always been one of my pet peeves! Miss out on what? Believe me, I’ve done the “give the ______(insert undesirable physical trait) a chance” thing before. It did not matter. Bottom line, if your personalities clash it does not matter what they look like. But by “settling” coming out of the gate, getting with someone you have no attraction to, things are doomed from the start. You are forcing something that’s not meant to be. You are “missing out” by wasting your time when you could be with someone you click with better from the get-go. Plus, I’ve noticed that the universe has a way of working things out for everyone. I’ve met guys that were a little shorter than I would have liked, but they had other things going for them that were so strong, it pulled me in and made me forget the height thing. Nobody was forcing anything. It was no “sigh, let me go on and give this shorty a chance thing, may as well since nothing better has come along”. Nobody deserves that.

Dushawn – I’m like you, my preference was pecan brown dudes of average height with nice teeth & nice haircut. Seems lighter dudes always were the ones interested in me. My hubs is on the lighter side and bald. Got everything else I liked!

kimmie a.k.a Smooth Operator

May 9th, 2014
10:38 am

Single – Your 10:21, I agree. You can’t just be born pretty and do nothing. You gotta do SOME maintenance!LOL!!!

disco

May 9th, 2014
10:38 am

Single – fat and ugly? skinny and ugly? Still ugly. There’s things you can control and things you can’t. lol.

Single – don’t start on me with the “devil eyes”. ewww.

Hey kimmie!!!!

kimmie a.k.a Smooth Operator

May 9th, 2014
10:40 am

Hey Disco!!!

2CPTG©

May 9th, 2014
10:43 am

I think my time is up here…..think I’mma go holla at them gals over on the Momania blog…..y’all picky asses….

Single & Happy

May 9th, 2014
10:45 am

Sometimes fat ugly becomes slim a pretty, because of other enhancements,IE: different hairstyle, makeup tips, now wears contacts.

Same goes for skinny and ugly that’s filled out now.

settle for
To accept in spite of incomplete satisfaction. Most of the time it’s outsider that are saying you settle, if you’re happy, how could you have settled?

disco

May 9th, 2014
10:48 am

2C – picky I may be but you ain’t gotta worry about my worrisome azz kids. lol. go on over there to the mommy blog.

kimmie a.k.a Smooth Operator

May 9th, 2014
10:48 am

Some folks have looks that hold up better over time than others. Usually those are traits that are not an extreme to begin with. Like I’ve seen some chicks that had big boobs and butts & a skinny waist in high school and all the dudes were drooling over them. Now they are sagging and spreading, and that started fairly quickly too, before some were out of their 20’s. But the ladies with an average to slimmer build are HOT now!!

Single & Happy

May 9th, 2014
10:50 am

Disco, another example. ole girl was young skinny, no hair, bucked tooth, ashy skin. all this because no one ever taught her to take care of herself, she grows up puts on a few pounds, finds out she can get her short hair styled, gets braces, goes to see a dermatologist. now she’s looking a lot better.

disco

May 9th, 2014
10:51 am

Single – we usually tracking. Why are we off today? me thinks we are both being contrary or we are taking the long road around to agreement.

I think you can be perfectly happy although you may have settled. That’s when the term “settled” is often changed to “compromised”. You accepted not getting one or more things you wanted though you are still relatively content overall.

Single & Happy

May 9th, 2014
10:53 am

Kimmie unfortunately not all learned that that great bod you had in high school is now going to take some work to keep up as you get older. metabolism slows down, so you can’t eat everything and do nothing

kimmie a.k.a Smooth Operator

May 9th, 2014
10:53 am

Single – “Settle” does get a bad rap sometimes. I agree, if you are happy then in my opinion you are not settling. And eff what other say.

disco

May 9th, 2014
10:54 am

Single – I still say you are talking about things that can be changed. I’m sure you also know some chicks that no cosmetic counter / weave shop in the world is going to help. if you don’t, I do. lol.

SlimNu

May 9th, 2014
10:54 am

2C – Last time I checked, you weren’t that dark…you’re in the walnut color spectrum. ;-)

SIngle – howdy doody folk!

disco – Kid from Kid n Play light just ain’t for me….even Shemar Moore does nothing for me. I’m into the Morris Chestnuts, Idris Elba types.

Single & Happy

May 9th, 2014
11:02 am

Disco, I do know what you mean, I was looking at this commercial the other day of this woman running for senate thinking damn she’s ugly then they showed a picture of when she was younger, and I was like damn she was ugly then too (LOL)

Disco, I’m not saying that will work for everyone, but it has worked for alot of people.

Single & Happy

May 9th, 2014
11:02 am

Slim, I’ll be darker this summer :-D

DuShawn

May 9th, 2014
11:02 am

I don’t understand the term “settled” as it relates to dating. You like who you like…….and hopefully they like you back.

disco

May 9th, 2014
11:04 am

Slim – I’m also no fan of the so-called “good hair”.

Single – like I said, I think we are both leaning toward contrary today anyway. lol.

Single & Happy

May 9th, 2014
11:07 am

Du, there are people who will settle, “a piece of a man is better than no man at all” “as long as he knows where homes is, I don’t care about him cheating” “well at least I got a man” you see where I’m going with this.

Single & Happy

May 9th, 2014
11:08 am

Disco, told you I’m trying to run you off (lmao)