Have you ever met someone great, thought you two had potential as a couple, and then they revealed surprising news? It’s a tricky thing to navigate when you have already invested time and emotions. What do you do when something from their past comes out and it’s a doozy!
My friend Vanessa found out that her new man has a criminal past. Most of it happened when he was a juvenile but she is disappointed that he waited so long to tell her about it. I kind of get why he didn’t lead with this information right away. When it comes to letting those skeletons out the closet, it’s important to put the past in the right context. Lying by omission, leaving out vital details, or downplaying things is not helpful.
I think you gain credibility with your partner if you cop to the skeletons sooner rather than later. Have you had to deal with a surprising detail about your date’s past? Did it change your perception of them at all?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta