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Drunk dating?

I have met a few people who struggle with date anxiety on the first couple of dates. One person uses alcohol to get a little liquid courage. This plan works for some but for others, it is a recipe for disaster. Some people don’t know their drinking limit. Their charming personality starts to become a lot less charming.

Have you ever been on a date with someone who was way too drunk?

Do you think meeting up for drinks as a first date is a good idea? If you don’t drink at all, would it bother you if your date consumed alcohol?

By Wise Diva

148 comments Add your comment

Lee

April 30th, 2014
7:17 am

I would not want to meet for drinks and if i did and the guy was already buzzed that would be the last encounter we had. I hardly ever drink alcohol so to me this would be a major turn off.

Several years ago i went out on a date with a guy now he did not drink that day, but every time i talked to him he was either at a bar going to a bar or had went to the package store, i stopped talking to him, no one has time for that mess. When you ae younger it may seem like you are having a ball drinking “whipping it up” at the club but as you get older being with an alcoholic is not cute… I would say beware of the person you are trying to date that is always drinking… that is not a life you want to have with another..that siht gets old quick
Happy Hump Day

Queen

April 30th, 2014
7:31 am

I drink to drown out my wayward mandingo. He sniffs around a lot. He is not a drinker. I should be happy about that. He says he is from Africa, but he lost his accent recently. Maybe he is from Oklahoma?

Celisea

April 30th, 2014
7:51 am

I don’t drink and neither does my boo. We both use to. Before my boo, I went out with dudes that did have an occasional drink. Most times it was kept to a minimum mostly for my sake. Not that I asked.

Silky didn’t drink because he told me his last incident cured him of that. He said he woke up somewhere unfamiliar and couldn’t remember a thing. He said he put drinking away after that, and that he’d NEVER be caught that way again….lol.

Queen? Are you Mmeello’s Queen? Ut oh :evil: lol

Single and Happy

April 30th, 2014
7:56 am

Hello everyone

While I don’t drink that much, don’t have a problem with my date drinking. Yes I would meet for drinks on the first date, it’s about getting to know someone!! Let grown folks be grown!

SlimNu

April 30th, 2014
8:01 am

Good morning,

Nope, I don’t have a problem meeting for drinks, my date drinking or myself drinking as long as It’s in moderation….No I do not want to be with an alcoholic but I do not want to be with a dry judgemental non-drinker. Honestly, I would not want to be with someone that was going to be watching ever sip I took of some ’spirits’

Single and Happy

April 30th, 2014
8:08 am

Slim, you’ve had 2 drinks the last 3 months, I think you might have a problem (LOL)

hazel

April 30th, 2014
8:19 am

I don’t mind having a glass or two of wine. It’s ok to drink while on a date, as long as you don’t over do it. As long you have control of yourself and what comes out of your mouth. I drank every time we were on a date, but a glass or two. Then I went through a phase where I rarely drank.

Single and Happy

April 30th, 2014
8:32 am

Moderation and control is relevant, don’t exercise either if you’re a lush! be yourself so I can find out sooner than later.

Coach

April 30th, 2014
8:43 am

First date with drinks are cool, however being drunk on a date and you cannot control yourself is never cool. Always being in control of oneself is of the utmost importance. On the contrary drunk words are sober thoughts, soooo getting a bit tipsy and seeing where they stand may not be a bad idea.

Button

April 30th, 2014
8:54 am

Have you ever been on a date with someone who was way too drunk? Yes, he wasn’t sloppy drunk but I could tell he had a bit too much that night. He had an open tab and drinked like a fish, he was buying drinks for everyone at the bar. I LOL everytime I think about that night. I was wild.

Do you think meeting up for drinks as a first date is a good idea? I don’t see it as a bad idea, unless you’re meeting someone under 21. I’ve met for drinks on a first date even if he didn’t drink I did.

If you don’t drink at all, would it bother you if your date consumed alcohol? if it bothers you then you shouldn’t go on a date imo. Most ppl will drink in social settings.

Good morning!

Celisea

April 30th, 2014
9:18 am

I just don’t “get” being drunk. Who wants to deal with a lush?? The kid’s dad was a drinker and that mess got on my nerves. I would drink with him, sometimes, but danggit going by the likka store every other day just wasn’t my thing. And don’t let us pull the grill out, that was just a reason…lol Ever had homemade daiquiris and all you can smell (first), and rum (next)?? Sheesh! I would be like, really dude? You can’t taste the “fruity” in the drink…. Barcardi Rum was his thing.

Thaaaaaaaaank heavens for days/years gone by.

Shole is quiet in here today…lol Well, I’m off to eat my breakfast and get my gind on.

Toodles!!

Celisea

April 30th, 2014
9:19 am

Okay should have been…

“….all you could smell (first), and taste (next) was rum?”

2CPTG©

April 30th, 2014
9:43 am

drunk dating? ….maybe after a few dates, but not the first one….

Elijah (The Durty Burd)

April 30th, 2014
9:51 am

Good Morning!

Diva you need to quit avocating that folks send their representative on dates. If you like to drink don’t hide it on first date, this will let the person know if they can deal with it. We have way too many folks out here
perpetrating during the dating process.

I will drink on the first date, 2nd date, 3rd date because that is what I like to do! Now, if you cannot handle your liquor and make a fool of yourself, then you will go to the next column. Or maybe I’ll stick around to see how wild she can get in the bedroom. lol

SlimNu

April 30th, 2014
9:52 am

Single – That’s exactly why we wouldn’t work out…I’d blow your mind up with you trying to keep count. lol

Button

April 30th, 2014
9:59 am

Durty- I’ll stick around to see how wild she can get in the bedroom. lol>>> I see you like drunk nookie. :)

SlimNu

April 30th, 2014
10:01 am

Durty – There’s nothing wrong with a little sloppy drunk loving……with someone you’ve already been with. A stranger, not so much. (at least not for me)

kimmie a.k.a Smooth Operator

April 30th, 2014
10:03 am

Morning Gang!!

My hubs & I met for a drink on our first date and you see how that turned out!! I’ve never gone out with a guy that got drunk on the first few dates and I have never done that. The only time I’ve ever gone overboard drinking or a guy has done that with me is after we were well-established and it was in the confort of home, never out.

I don’t have a problem with folks that don’t drink, just as long as they don’t try to put that off on me or try to put me down because I do. I enjoy some wine or a nice drink occasionally and I’m going to continue to. I’m grown and I don’t have an alcohol problem. We have a well-stocked bar in our home and my husband enjoys the occasional beer or drink. If you come over and you have a problem with that, then guess what you can do? My hubs parents don’t drink – his dad is a pastor. He respects the fact that we are grown and it’s our home.

Button

April 30th, 2014
10:04 am

I would never ever leave my drink alone with a date in fear of having it roofie. I remember going on a second date with a guy. He was so nice to already have my glass of wine on the table when I arrived (and it was my favorite which means he listened to me when I talked) but I didn’t drink it. I thanked him for ordering my drink and told him that I was on meds and I don’t mix alcohol with meds. Even though he may not have roofied my drink, I wasn’t taking any chances. tsk tsk tsk.

Elijah (The Durty Burd)

April 30th, 2014
10:05 am

Button… You know you like a litte drunk loving as well…. Are you still getting it in? You have kids right?

SlimNu..What does one cross from being a stranger to someone you’ve already been with?

Elijah (The Durty Burd)

April 30th, 2014
10:09 am

drinkingtogethercanaddspicetothebedroom just ask Celisea… Ole boy was hitting that everyday after a taste of liquor and bud….lol

I like to see folks drink a lot, its like a truth serum you will now get the real person not their representative.

SlimNu we need to meet for drinks! lol

Bluzgirl

April 30th, 2014
10:10 am

Morning everyone! Been crazy busy at work and in my personal life. Super stressed lately, but all good. Big changes going on here at work…good changes…but stressful nonetheless!

Anyway…I have been THAT girl before…the one who overdid it. I had a couple of beers or wine (don’t remember) before going out to calm my nerves. I made the mistake when I went out with Mags to overdo it.

I really don’t want to be THAT girl anymore. I believe I can manage it moving forwards. A couple of drinks is no problem, but there has to be a limit…

I do like to see how a guy drinks early. I am a drinker, but I’m not an alcoholic. I’ve been with alcoholics before and will not do that again. Only social drinkers…

Elijah (The Durty Burd)

April 30th, 2014
10:12 am

2C… Dude any tornado’s in your area?

Button

April 30th, 2014
10:14 am

SlimNu- bar full of strangers + alcohol = one night stand

Durty – I never said I didn’t like/do it. btw what does having kids have to do with drunk loving? I don’t think any of my kids was conceived while intoxicated.

SlimNu

April 30th, 2014
10:14 am

Durty – I thought it was self explanatory…someone I already know DUH…versus meeting someone out, then going to some spot afterwards for some Ijustmeyoudrunkenlovin

Single and Happy

April 30th, 2014
10:16 am

Slim, yea that’s the reason (LOL)

2CPTG©

April 30th, 2014
10:17 am

Durty….it’s a beast out here, bruh…..folks are literally out in canoes playing in this ish….

SlimNu

April 30th, 2014
10:28 am

Button – If I were on a first date and the dude told me he was on meds and couldn’t mix it with alcohol, I shole would be wondering what was wrong with him. :lol: Would you have felt offended if he asked you???

Single and Happy

April 30th, 2014
10:28 am

bar full of strangers + alcohol = one night stand where’s this bar at??

Bluzgirl

April 30th, 2014
10:29 am

Slim – Could be antibiotics. ;-)

Bluzgirl

April 30th, 2014
10:30 am

Now…alcohol did give me courage to go after Cutie Pie and I don’t regret that one bit! Even if it’s done for now… ;-)

Single and Happy

April 30th, 2014
10:32 am

Button, why did you feel you had to lie to the guy, why couldn’t you just tell him the truth!

SlimNu

April 30th, 2014
10:33 am

Bluz – I’d still want to know for what…your herpes outbreak? :lol:

Bluzgirl

April 30th, 2014
10:33 am

Slim – True dat! Lol!

Button

April 30th, 2014
10:34 am

SlimNu – I wasn’t even thinking about what his come back was going to be. I was in self preservation mode. But had he’d asked then I would’ve said asprin or tylenol, which I really don’t mix with alcohol anyway.

Bluzgirl

April 30th, 2014
10:35 am

In Button’s situation, I would just tell him that I have a policy to not drink a beverage that has been sitting there before I got there…

SlimNu

April 30th, 2014
10:38 am

The focus is usually on chicks that get too drunk on a date…how about you fellas….Ever let the lickka get the best of ya’ll on a date?

Bluzgirl

April 30th, 2014
10:38 am

Any man should understand and respect that a woman has to look out for herself

Button

April 30th, 2014
10:40 am

Single – that bar is in every city.block, corner.

Single – I didn’t want to tell him the truth bc it wasn’t about truth or lie it was about me not wanting to drink that drink.

Single and Happy

April 30th, 2014
10:43 am

Slim there have been very few times that likka has got the best of me. now if you go on vacation with me, you will see it happen, but hell I’m on vacation!! (LOL)

I didn’t want to tell him the truth bc it wasn’t about truth or lie it was about me not wanting to drink that drink. which was why just say the reason you didn’t want to drink it.

Button

April 30th, 2014
10:43 am

Single – why make the man feel bad after doing such a nice gesture? I didn’t want to make the man feel bad for doing something so nice so I said what I said and ordered water and carried on with the evening, win win.

Single and Happy

April 30th, 2014
10:48 am

that bar is in every city.block, corner. wow it’s just funny of all the bars I’ve been too, I’ve never been to that one!

Button

April 30th, 2014
10:48 am

Bluz – i coudda wouldda shoulda said xyz but in the end we didn’t go any further but had we trust he would’ve known about that night and we prolly would’ve lol about it.

2CPTG©

April 30th, 2014
10:49 am

nah, Slim, I’on let nothin get the best of me, once I start feeling tipsy, I’m done…..I hate that drunk feeling….

daddy swiss

April 30th, 2014
10:49 am

“how about you fellas…?”

Slim — I enjoy a lovely beverage or 5, particularly back in my single, man-ho days. But as a dude, you do have to know your limit. And by limit I mean you have to know how much you can drank before your w@ng passes the f__k out. lol

Button

April 30th, 2014
10:50 am

Single – maybe you have maybe you haven’t.

Bluzgirl

April 30th, 2014
10:50 am

This weekend, I partied with the neighbors pretty much all weekend because it was roomie’s birthday. Well…it was cool Fri and Sat to get a good buzz on, but Cutie Pie was a hot mess on Sunday also. It was a turn off to see him WASTED by 3:00 on Sunday afternoon. It could have just been because it was a “special” weekend, but dang…it was a turn off. The rest of us did drink some beers on Sunday and maybe got a minor buzz, but nothing like him. We laughed and laughed at him.

SlimNu

April 30th, 2014
10:52 am

dswiss – I don’t know which is worse, the wang passing out or having whiskey dick…meaning it’s so buzzed that it stays up but never comes. :oops:

Button

April 30th, 2014
10:52 am

Swiss – seems like too much of anything will make your (men) w@ng passes the f__k out :lol:

SlimNu

April 30th, 2014
10:53 am

Bluz – Is Cutie Pie single now or does he still have a gf?