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Attracted to the crazy?

Like a moth to a flame, my friend Ron somehow manages to find the craziest chick in the room to pursue. When all signs point to an emotionally unstable woman, Ron sees someone exciting. I have even noticed a pattern that some people have where they are quiet and reserved yet are drawn to the unpredictable, wild types. Is that opposites attracting or a masochist who can’t help themselves?

If you happen to like a lot of drama, unpredictable behavior, and possibly a side of freaky, then you could be the type attracted to the wild ones. They can be exciting and different but also exhausting and tiresome. You have to decide if all that excitement is worth it in the end.

I don’t want to always be ready for a relationship war, but I certainly went through that crazy phase. In my old age, I have found that peace and quiet in a relationship is a beautiful thing!

Do you find yourself consistently bringing people in your life who are full of drama? How do you know if their brand of crazy is too much for you? Where do you draw the line of dating someone wild and free?

Who was the most wild and crazy date or relationship you had? What did you learn from it?

By Wise Diva

276 comments Add your comment

Lee

April 22nd, 2014
7:01 am

Good Morning,
I would not say any of the guys i dated were wild, but they were crazy… its funny how my girl friends would tell me that i was too picky but yet i would find the guy with issues every single time doesn’t matter how much money he make what he does for a living — i find them. What s more important is how can i change this — tried many different kinds of back grounds , education, no education it does not matter i find crazy … or maybe i am crazy , now thats something to consider..

Single and Happy

April 22nd, 2014
7:47 am

Hey everyone

All my girlfriends have been crazy in some form!! Just the way it is :-D

Lee me and friend was having a conversation about all my exes being crazy, and she said what’s the common denominator of all those relationships. I replied: all them mfs were crazy!! (LOL)

Button

April 22nd, 2014
8:20 am

Men are always labeling women as crazy. I think every man has had a crazy in his life lol

Good morning!

Button

April 22nd, 2014
8:21 am

Single- All of your exes were crazy? Now who’s really the common denominator? LOL

they say crazy ppl have no inhabitions.

MadDog

April 22nd, 2014
8:42 am

I’d have to say that you DATE crazy, but you don’t marry her. Better to go for the more stable and dare I say, almost boring type, to trade vows with. My first wife was and is beautiful, body like a porn star and she knew it. For the first 6 year of dating and 5 years of marriage, my sex life was off the chain. 4-6 times a week an 9 times over one particular weekend. She acted like every time I touched her sent her into some amorous fit. We violated most every public indecency ordinance you can imagine.

But they get bored looking for new fixes, new highs and upping the bar as they go along. We had kids and suddenly she decided she wanted to travel…a lot….with or without me..and we had two daughters. I suspect (though I have no proof) she probably had a few ‘friends” at the places she traveled to and she really lost interest in me, so we divorced.

I’m now married to a classy, even keeled, loving woman that can’t come clse to the sexiness of my previous wife, but I know she loves me in and out of the bedroom. She is nurturing, thoughtful and appreciates when I cook, clean and buy flowers for her. While we don’t have the outlandish “perks”, I’m convinced that I let the wrong “brain” make my initial decision and learned from my mistake. She is a jewel and I love her for what she is and she loves me as I am. Lesson learned.

Tall1

April 22nd, 2014
9:01 am

Don’t do the cray cray. They be cray cray.

disco

April 22nd, 2014
9:03 am

Good morning.

Am I attracted to the crazy? heck yeah because I am the crazy and like attracts like. lol. now having said that, there are all different kinds of crazy so pick your poison. I am/was/can be the loud, ghetto, don’t start none won’t be none kind of crazy. I am not the clingy, hide your shoes and car keys so you can’t leave kind of crazy. I am attracted to the he’s so funny kind of crazy and the knock a ninja out kind of crazy. I’m not checking for the posted up on the rooftop with a telescope trying to peer through an open window to see what I’m doing kind of crazy or the sitting outside my job trying to make sure that I’m really there kind of crazy. pick your poison.

Single and Happy

April 22nd, 2014
9:16 am

Button all them mfs were crazy!!

disco

April 22nd, 2014
9:21 am

Single – I hear you. common denominator my behind. sometimes you know that you are not the problem. of course, other times (if you are honest with yourself) you know that you quite likely are the problem.

Button

April 22nd, 2014
9:22 am

Single – are you crazy too or nah? lol

There’s crazy and qwazy- I get my lil crazy on from time to time but it’s the fun crazy. Like crazy in love stuff. I don’t condone qwazy stalking or qwazy abusive.

disco

April 22nd, 2014
9:29 am

I don’t watch sports. I think it’s crazy when a guy not only watches the game but he’s watching several games simultaneously. Dude got picture in picture, changing channels at commercials, got multiple tvs in the room and a game going on the laptop. listens to games on the car radio. is he a freaking bookie??? total game overload and he thinks each and every one of those games is important. Ask me – crazy. lol. of course, this is a crazy that I’m willing to overlook and tolerate. (the game part, not the bookie part – lol).

DuShawn

April 22nd, 2014
9:43 am

Well….I’m convinced that sumthin is seriously wrong with my ole lady. Some of things that we consider normal, are actually insane. For instance, I call home from the office the other day and innocently ask “Sweetheart, I skipped lunch, what you cooking for dinner”, her response without a moment’s hesitation…”I’m cooking this muffuggin puddy…you hungry?” I’m like, this chick crazy for real.

Single and Happy

April 22nd, 2014
9:45 am

Button yes I am cause I’ve even went back to some (LOL)

disco

April 22nd, 2014
9:51 am

Blog gents: any of you ever date a partner’s sister, cousin, someone close to him? if so, did it affect the way you treated that particular chick? were you less “grimy” with her out of respect for you boy?

Single and Happy

April 22nd, 2014
9:54 am

disco, does just having sex count?

disco

April 22nd, 2014
10:00 am

Random: we talk about deal breakers all the time. most often they are legitimate, level headed, responsible type deal breakers. Anyone have any straight shallow deal breakers like I can’t date a (perfectly wonderful in all aspects) person because they have crooked teeth or a receding hairline or their ears are too big or something like that?

Single – it counts. Did you treat old girl like everyone else (you ran through – lol) or did you take into account that she was close to your homey?

Single and Happy

April 22nd, 2014
10:05 am

Disco, it was her idea, and it took her a long time (some years) to get me to hit it. I was and still am very close to the whole family.

SlimNu

April 22nd, 2014
10:06 am

disco – I cannot date a dude that has long fanga nails…nuh-uh.

Celisea

April 22nd, 2014
10:11 am

Let’s define “crazy.” Because (and again), most dudes that run up on the “right one”, are the ones screaming bloody…i.e. CRAY CRAY. I do believe there are some men and women that fit the “crazy” profile, unsolicited visits, stalking, showing up where you are, going through your stuff, tracking you, showing out in public, etc etc etc.

Now, let’s be crystal clear here, if you provoke and don’t really know what lies beneath, you get what you deserve, and getting what you deserve is NOT cray cray. Don’t be that dude, that MITCH that play all sorts of games, try to hem her up, so forth and so on, and you find out she’s that chick that’s too smart for what you pulled off with your other chicken heads. Don’t be surprised when you hands back a double helping of you dished and undoubtedly deserved. Mmm hmmm, talk about her if you wish, with ya boys but you already know, you ran up on the right one and didn’t expect to have it thrown back at you. I always say, “a small helping of cray cray, keep the bums and jokers away.”

Y’all or you (hahahahahaha) have a grrrandtastic fantabulous rest of the day. Don’t get tired turning that crank now, keep this thing moving!!! hahahahahahaha

Single and Happy

April 22nd, 2014
10:11 am

slim, what about short with french tips??

Celisea

April 22nd, 2014
10:12 am

I meant, “….screaming bloody mary.”

DuShawn

April 22nd, 2014
10:12 am

For me its hairy leggs. I’on care how fine she is, them leggs got to be smooth.

SlimNu

April 22nd, 2014
10:17 am

Single – I know you’re just trying to be funny. Surely you already know the answer to that.

Single and Happy

April 22nd, 2014
10:18 am

slim you man you can’t get with metro sexual (LOL)

DuShawn

April 22nd, 2014
10:19 am

Slim – what about just one long pimp pinky nail?

Sassy Me...juicy fruit ;-)

April 22nd, 2014
10:19 am

I don’t date cray cray or tolerate that behavior. I’m sure we’ve all had our moments..some more than others but I just can’t get with that. I’ve heard several guys state that they like when their girlfriends go off the deep end err once in a while…keeps isht interesting they say.

I also think people will try you to test your boundaries to see what they can get away with…so if you allow cray cray…then you must like it.

Button

April 22nd, 2014
10:21 am

SlimNu – @long fanga nails, me either esp the one long pinky nail when all the others are short.

I think Imma do something crazy this week. maybe pop out of a cake or something lol

Sassy Me...juicy fruit ;-)

April 22nd, 2014
10:22 am

I cannot date a dude that has long fanga nails…

Yuck…and if they’re long AND dirty…double yuck. I cringe when I see that…then I’m wondering, “Who they hell you touching with those“…

disco

April 22nd, 2014
10:24 am

So…. those of you who won’t date long nail dude. would you at least ask him to cut them short or would you not even give him the time of day to begin with?

Button

April 22nd, 2014
10:25 am

crazy ish I’ve encountered: dude starring down when I open my eyes from taking a nap. Dude called me a total of 59 times in one hour. he called every minute but skipped one minute must’ve missed dialed lol.
Dude wanted us to get matching tattoos saying stuck for life.

Celisea

April 22nd, 2014
10:29 am

And let’s be honest here, THERE ARE MANY THINGS THAT FIT THE CRAY CRAY CATEGORY. Many!! So that would beg the question, if folks “don’t know”, is it not considered cray cray? Is it only cray cray when folks know?

Celisea

April 22nd, 2014
10:30 am

Is it cray cray cause it’s on display, or is it cray cray cause what you’re doing is just plain crazy?? Is it cray cray cause you’re hiding or hiding it, or is it not, cause you’re keep it under wraps.

Things that make you say HMMMMMMM

Toodles!!!

Bluzgirl

April 22nd, 2014
10:32 am

Morning all!

So wish I had today off also! Dragging my booty this morning!

Psycho in Seattle was just plain crazy! Literally! He definitely earned his name. He was untreated bipolar. I should have known better, but I feel like he was brought into my life to really see what happens to an untreated bipolar creative person.

I’ve told my crazy stories on here. I can get crazy, but it’s definitely 99.9% of the time provoked…Like disco said, “don’t start none, won’t be none.”

Celisea

April 22nd, 2014
10:32 am

Do you try reverse psyCRAYlogy cause someone peeped your crazies? Now THAT’S cray cray if I EVER saw it. Gon make someone else try and look like cray cray cause someone kicked the box open on your brand of crazy.

Just sooo many scenarios!!

Kat

April 22nd, 2014
10:33 am

Crazy people don’t know they are crazy, often they have explanations that are just as crazy as they are.

Celisea

April 22nd, 2014
10:33 am

Hahahaha…..UNLEASH THE KRAKEN!!!

SlimNu

April 22nd, 2014
10:33 am

Single – I didn’t know that the term Metrosexual meant having french tips…Now if he gets a manicure with some clear top coat, that’s one thing…but french tips HEYAL NAW.

Dushawn – Sorry but i’ll have to pass on even ONE long fanga nail. That’s just creepy and too pimpish for my taste.

Celisea

April 22nd, 2014
10:33 am

I’m laughing out loud….at maself…cray cray?

I’m gone!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit ;-)

April 22nd, 2014
10:36 am

would you at least ask him to cut them short or would you not even give him the time of day to begin with?

If I can look at your hands and see that your nails are long and dirty then why can’t you… Eeeeww…just the thought gives me the willies…

disco

April 22nd, 2014
10:36 am

Hey bluz!!!!!

Slim or anyone – so…. aside from the long fingernail any other traits or behaviors that you consider “pimpish”?

disco

April 22nd, 2014
10:38 am

Sassy – just asking hypotheticals to keep things going. maybe you met dude in the wintertime and he had gloves on. you liked how he looked. He called and y’all talked for days, weeks, months whatever before you finally got around to going out. he sounds great, you are all excited and then when you get to the restaurant and he picks up the menu he has these freddy Krueger nails. Do you bounce or discuss the nails? lol.

Single and Happy

April 22nd, 2014
10:43 am

Slim I don’t know, I’m just funnin :-D

Bluzgirl

April 22nd, 2014
10:46 am

Hey disco!!!

Long fingernails are a no go! If he has just a long pinky nail, I’m going to assume he has it to push drugs up his nose…

Sassy Me...juicy fruit ;-)

April 22nd, 2014
10:49 am

~disco–you reached kinda far with/for that one. I’m sure I would’ve seen his hands looong before said date..however, just to go along…

It’s just a date…and he would not touch me with those. Either way, I just can’t with long nails..that’s so moist…

disco

April 22nd, 2014
10:51 am

Sassy – far reaching is what I do. besides, in “my scenario” you haven’t seen his hands, just his hands in his gloves. lol. heck, at this point he could be missing his hands.

Speaking of missing hands – anyone seen the movie dom hemingway with jude law?

Celisea

April 22nd, 2014
10:52 am

A few other “cray cray” items, that we can lay to the men, but it’s the men that use these reasons to leeean on women bringing the cray cray.

-Men that pretend to be women…..behind a keyboard :evil:

-Men that stalk women in the name of tom fuggery, but deceitfully display guud guy to the world. Ya fangs showing

-Men that mistake all women for chickenheads, cause you’re accustom to bottom barreling

-Men that are shocked that everybody ain’t a chickenhead (i.e. she won’t put up with your BS, thus SHE crazy)

-Men that say you swear you’re all that, cause you ain’t a chickenhead (i.e. your cray cray beat out his cray cray and now he’s looking like ummfufu)

-Men that pretend to be from other places in the world (i.e. Africa, Italy, Antartica)

Therefore, everything you do, he will label as cray cray. Yet and still, he’ll never turn the mirror on himself to see his own brand of crazy.

Celisea

April 22nd, 2014
10:53 am

Okay…I’m gone to work. Y’all reaching with fanganails….lolol

Elijah (The Durty Burd)

April 22nd, 2014
10:53 am

Good Morning!

I will endulge in some crazy from time to time, I will not let it go past 6 months. I find that quite a few ladies have some crazy in them unprovoked . Disco, BluzGirl, Celisea and Button just to name a few #CRAZY… lol

Disco I’ve never dated a closed friend of mine relative, I avoid that like the plague. They knew in my younger days, this relationship was not going to last. hehehehehe!

kimmie a.k.a Smooth Operator

April 22nd, 2014
10:54 am

Sup Gang!

On topic – I consider myself low on the crazy scale. Yet I had 2 exes that would use the “you crazy” label as a copout when I didn’t buy their bs. Anyway, there are just some folks that wouldn’t know how to act if their SO was not a certain amount of crazy. That’s just what they are used to and are attracted to. Fine, I just don’t want to hear you complaining when it gets old down the line.

Hey Disco!!! – I would not date one dude because his voice was more feminine than mine. He was very handsome, good job, we got along great, but I just could not get past that voice! When he called the house and my mom answered and told me it was some lady on the phone, I knew that was the last straw!

Don’t like long fingernails on a dude or big lips & jacked-up teeth.

SlimNu

April 22nd, 2014
10:55 am

disco – I don’t like that pimpish talk…Don’t ask me to describe it but ya know it when you hear it. lol Not into dudes that wear do-rags out in public (unless they put one on under their motorcycle helmet)