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Device free dates

There are some restaurants that ask their patrons to lock up their smart phones and tablets so they can enjoy the dining experience. Imagine sitting down and looking at one another and actually communicating! If you ever go out at night, look around and see how many couples are sitting together talking and how many are busy checking their devices.

It’s kind of sad, actually, because some people can not see how disconnected they are from people right next to them. It is even worse when you are on a date and the person can’t put their electronic device away and focus on you.

A friend of mine runs a business so he has two phones and a tablet around him. He thinks that he is able to multitask but his date thinks he is rude. He expects her to understand and says he is communicating with her even though he has his phones out on the table. Communication is not the same is connection. It is hard to connect to someone who is distracted.

Do you ever have a problem with phones on a date? When you are on a date with someone, I don’t think that is time to check text messages, emails, or Facebook. Why do so many people feel the urge to do this on a date? Does it mean they are bored?

Would you ask someone to put their device away on a date?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

392 comments Add your comment

Purple Reign

April 1st, 2014
5:06 am

It means that they are rude and bored. Leave the phone in the car. What person, mature person, is hooked on Facebook and Twitter over age 25?

YesSheIsCute

April 1st, 2014
5:16 am

Good morning! A lot of people have let their mobile devices make them rude. I have to admit I’m one of them. Good thing about traveling internationally, you can’t use your phone unless you want to have a $1,000+ phone bill. As far as being rude on a date goes, I haven’t been on a date in awhile but I at least keep the phone away… that to me says I’m not engaging you and you have better things to do on an electronic device. So please excuse me while I leave you and your electronic device to your “date”. By the way is it rude to check your phone after that special moment? I’m asking for a friend…

Heidi Golighty

April 1st, 2014
6:21 am

Good Morning.

I think it’s rude to be on your phone if you are out with friends or on a date. If someone calls say a few words and then tell them you will call them back later. Oh, and don’t even think about texting when you’re out with someone

Lee

April 1st, 2014
7:00 am

Good morning,

Its rude.
I was out to dinner and this chik and guy sat directly in front of me, i noticed she was so engaged with her phone she didn’t even notice he was sitting there with his arms crossed looking some sort of way, he was steaming hot looking if i wasn’t on a date i would got his attention and made off with him. lol

I had problem with guy not putting his phone away, i simply asked him, if i needed to leave to give him privacy –thats when he looked up and had a confused look so i repeated myself, he put the phone away and said” no i didn’t need to leave”.

Unless you have small kids at home with a baby sitter that you need to be available for leave it in your car, or pocket.

Single and Happy

April 1st, 2014
7:04 am

Hey everyone

Morning Yes

while it’s something I don’t do, I don’t talk or text that much. To others it’s just what they do.

Heidi, why do you even have to say a few words, put the phone on silent and let it go to voicemail.

Single and Happy

April 1st, 2014
7:05 am

Lee, so you were being just as rude by not paying attention to your date!!

YesSheIsCute

April 1st, 2014
7:30 am

Morning Single! I’m so hype….I don’t know why…

Single and Happy

April 1st, 2014
7:33 am

Yes send some of that hypeness over here :-D

Lady~

April 1st, 2014
8:09 am

Good Morning Crew! I have made strides in this area believe or not………….#workinprogress hahaha

Lee

April 1st, 2014
8:21 am

Not at all single, me and my date were talking about that couple, I had my date laughing ;)

Single and Happy

April 1st, 2014
8:26 am

Lee, still not paying attention to each other but rather the other couple. If I’m out on a date with someone and they want to spend more time paying attention to what others are doing, then that’s going to be the last date for us. But that’s just me!

Button

April 1st, 2014
8:29 am

Never had this problem but I do see it happening from time to time when I/we’re out and about. Some ppl are addicted to their devices. what I have seening as of late is ppl taking pics of their meal I guess to upload on instagram/facebook.

Good morning!

Lady~

April 1st, 2014
8:33 am

Button the plates are a hot mess dot com lol

disco

April 1st, 2014
8:53 am

Good morning.

Dang single. Loosen up a bit this morning. lol.

Frankly I’m irritated by folks who are too attached to their gadgets, phones in particular. Can’t stand folks who walk around work all day with their phones, don’t understand why folks take their phones in the restroom with them, don’t see the need to sit your phone on the table while you are trying to eat. and all that constant texting, I’m sure it could be important but I honestly doubt it. the whole phenomenon is kind of crazy to me.

Bluzgirl

April 1st, 2014
8:56 am

Very rude to check your phone while on a date. Unless you have young kids at home, a sick relative, or a wife going into labor any minute (ha!), the phone needs to be put away.

I have been guilty of checking it in the bathroom and sending a quick text or making a quick call. I wouldn’t do it in front of him, though…

Single and Happy

April 1st, 2014
9:00 am

Bluz, young kids at home, = babysitter with a special ring. sick relative, are you a doctor? wife going to labor, umm if you’re out on a date, do you really care!!

disco

April 1st, 2014
9:01 am

I have one guy friend who is constantly asking “do you mind if I get this”. I always say I don’t mind. one day I should say I do mind and see how he reacts. lol. personally, I don’t care about him taking a call. It doesn’t hurt my feelings, it doesn’t disrupt my day, it really doesn’t affect me at all. now I will say that I’m probably more irked by texting than talking. I think folks realize their talking is rude or a distraction. I also think that many folks think texting is perfectly acceptable. After all, they can text, listen and talk all at the same time if need be.

Single and Happy

April 1st, 2014
9:02 am

Disco, you know how we love to point out what others are doing, not thinking what we’re doing is just as bad.

Fay

April 1st, 2014
9:05 am

Mornin

Yes its rude and I usually put my phone away unless its something we are both trying to research on a smart phone.

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2CPTG©

April 1st, 2014
9:17 am

two phones and a tablet, cause he runs a business? dude please.

at any rate…..

disco

April 1st, 2014
9:18 am

Single – sometimes you know what you are doing is bad but you just don’t care. for instance, back when I was dating a dude with daddy/daughter syndrome I would not let him talk to his daughter when he was at my house. I told him he could step outside, talk in his car, do whatever he had to do but he wouldn’t be sitting on my couch talking to that chick. countless folks told me I was wrong for that and all I could say was “so?”

Lady~

April 1st, 2014
9:20 am

what’s daddy/daughter syndrome Disco?!? How long did y’all date?!?

SlimNu

April 1st, 2014
9:21 am

Morning (said while texting, updating fb)

Bluzgirl

April 1st, 2014
9:23 am

Single – I agree with you. It is hard to have a good reason to have your phone sitting out on a date. If there is some kind of important call you are waiting for, then just explain it before hand and leave the phone alone until that call…

disco

April 1st, 2014
9:24 am

Lady – I’ve discussed it to death on here. men with adult daughters that they can’t seem to cut loose.

Slim – funny.

Lady~

April 1st, 2014
9:24 am

oh adult gotcha I must agree with you~

Single and Happy

April 1st, 2014
9:25 am

umm disco, this was his grown daughter right?? what was so bad about that?

disco

April 1st, 2014
9:25 am

btw – hey bluz!!! not that you are an afterthought just that I neglected to say hey earlier. lol.

Bluzgirl

April 1st, 2014
9:28 am

Hey disco!!! It’s just one of those mornings…

Single and Happy

April 1st, 2014
9:29 am

disco, I wouldn’t care if it was a young child, if you got to constantly be on the phone with them, then you need to go be with them.

Reio

April 1st, 2014
9:30 am

Morning all.

disco – Makes sense to me. You would rather not put up with it. I understand. He can either adjust or haul azz. Simple.

Now, this is the sort of thing that used to cause me to re-think a date. years ago there were no cell phones. Just pagers and beepers. I don’t recall ever having a problem with this, either me or my dates. But this is the sort of thing that would cause me to stop seeing someone. Had it happened, I would let her know how I felt about it. And if she either disagreed, or, agreed but continued to allow us to be interrupted by them, she’d get the boot. Yes she would. Over something as trivial as this.

It wouldn’t have mattered to me how she felt. She’s doing something I don’t approve of, gets told about it by me, but decides to continue? Well, I’d just let her be on her merry way. Move on. Makes no sense to me. For a man, we can just find another one to start a relationship with. For women? Not quite as simple. Doable, but a bit more tricky. I would just move on though. That’s better for both.

disco

April 1st, 2014
9:30 am

Single – you do not want me to go down the list of what is wrong with that/her/the situation. it might be entertaining and all but at the core it’s just a daggone shame.

Single – young children aren’t going to be an issue for me because I am avoiding those men like the freaking plague. lol.

Lady~

April 1st, 2014
9:30 am

Slim, Disco is pretty extreme lol I couldn’t imagine telling him you couldn’t talk to her in my house but the amount of times all the time I would give a side eye but I would pick and chose my battle see during that time I would be playing on my phone lol #dead

YesSheIsCute

April 1st, 2014
9:31 am

Thanks Fay! I’m gonna go check those out. I’m so excited. My daughter is going on a spring break vacation to Florida with her friend’s family. I’m about to have my house to myself for henry county’s spring break. I won’t even know what to do… I see myself going to bed early as normal :lol:

2CPTG©

April 1st, 2014
9:33 am

being in IT, and needing constant access to the ‘net, and other mediums, I can say folks that have to have their phone visible is fulla ish….you can set various tones, and vibrations to alert you to something serious, or pressing….ye’en gotta have ‘em front and center just to show folks you got ‘em….hell, doctors are still able to get by on just using a beeper, so your carwash/detailing business ain’t that serious!

Single and Happy

April 1st, 2014
9:35 am

Lady, why extreme, she know’s what she likes, and what she doesn’t like, let it be known upfront.

Yes, home alone hmmmmm

Bluzgirl

April 1st, 2014
9:36 am

disco – I have a friend who is engaged to a man with an adult daughter. They are on the phone all the time. Before he moved in with my friend, she had to set boundaries on how often they talked when they were together. Now that they live together, he can talk to her anytime, but I think it has lessened some.

Lady~

April 1st, 2014
9:39 am

Single I agree just seems extreme to me but I dig her stance trust~

2CPTG©

April 1st, 2014
9:39 am

speaking of these daddy/daughter sitautions……seriously….who wants to talk to their kids THAT much? I’m of the mindset, no news is good news……if I don’t hear from ‘em, then I know they’re straight……

SlimNu

April 1st, 2014
9:40 am

Lady – I gather that you meant to address Single in your 9:30 post.

Single and Happy

April 1st, 2014
9:41 am

2C some people don’t let the kids grow up

disco

April 1st, 2014
9:42 am

Bluz – all I really took from that is he moved in with her. ugggh. that just burns me up.

2C – honestly I don’t think I had an issue with the frequency of how much he talked to the daughter, I had just already made up my mind not to like her. I refused to meet her although he tried. steady talking about “but if you meet her you’ll like her”. I was like nope. I can already tell she’s not my type. lol.

kimmie a.k.a Smooth Operator

April 1st, 2014
9:43 am

Morning Gang!!

Single, lighten the heck up!! What’s up with you today man, got yo draws in a bunch? Lee & her date were people-watching, what’s wrong with that???

Yeah, it’s rude. Nobody is THAT busy or has THAT much going on that they can’t chill for awhile on a date. And no, I’m not talking folks that have young kids with a babysitter or a sick parent, stuff like that. I really do think it’s a symptom of boredom. You really don’t WANT to form a connection with that person. But you can say, hey I’m out with them, I took them out to dinner or whatever, so that ought to at least get me some sex later. I also think some folks just have poor manners and hometraining. Period, point blank.

Lady~

April 1st, 2014
9:43 am

no Slim I meant you sis no biggie lol

Single and Happy

April 1st, 2014
9:47 am

Kimmie, if you want to people watch, go to a park or to the mall, but to be out on a date, and making jokes about others is rude, but like I said, that’s just me.

kimmie a.k.a Smooth Operator

April 1st, 2014
9:48 am

seriously….who wants to talk to their kids THAT much?

2C – I’ve never understood that either! In fact, maybe I’m just different, but as close as my mom & were, we were not on the phone with each other like teenagers. I actually can’t recall ANYONE I just had to talk to on the phone 4 or 5 times a day. Not even a boyfriend. Dang, just don’t get it!

kimmie a.k.a Smooth Operator

April 1st, 2014
9:49 am

Single – I still say lighten up. :)

Bluzgirl

April 1st, 2014
9:50 am

disco – Well…they are both in their late 50’s…she got a job down in FL, so she went ahead and bought a house. He stayed here a little bit to finalize his business and sell a bunch of things and then he moved down there. They’ve been together for 6 or 7 years, I think. That’s a different situation than when I let my loser ex move in with me while he was unemployed and broke!

YesSheIsCute

April 1st, 2014
9:52 am

Actually when my grandmother was alive we used to talk a lot during the day…. I sometimes would have 3 voicemails from her in one day. But she was all I had at that point in time of my life so I guess that’s different.

disco

April 1st, 2014
9:53 am

Kimmie – when one of my little cousins left home for college we used to joke that she was going to flunk out because she spent so much time on the phone with her momma. I mean it was nothing for them to talk 10-15 times a day or more. before class, on the way to class, in between classes, after class. it was crazy.