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Ended it, now regret it?

Have you ever had one of those break ups that kind of confused you? One minute you are absolutely certain the person is not right for you. It literally can not be more clear that you two are not meant to be. So you decide to end the relationship and attempt to move on. Then out of nowhere you go through this regret phase. What is that about!

What do you do if you broke up with someone and you start to want that old thing back? Do you give it time and hope it is just a sex deprived haze that has your mind clouded? Do you call them up and try to hash things out?

Has an ex ever returned to your life after a break up and told you they never should have ended it? What did you do? What should you do?

Happy Monday!

By Wise Diva

348 comments Add your comment

Lee

March 31st, 2014
7:06 am

Never had any regret about breaking up, once i am done with you — im done! i already gave you enough chances. I have one guy calling and texting me now on “how much he misses me” awe thats nice but no we will never go out again –that bridge is burned down now–to bad to sad for you! With the next person I meet they only have one chance, too old to give chances to bad behavior. by now you should know better.

Good Morning.

Single and Happy

March 31st, 2014
7:48 am

Hey everyone.

Do what makes you happy, Life is to short to walk around with a chip on your shoulder.

YesSheIsCute

March 31st, 2014
7:52 am

Good morning everyone! Good morning Single.

I just had that happened to me this weekend. I was lying down listening to music and thinking dang, as busy as I am and as much as I have to accomplish before July, I do miss just sometimes being in the arms of someone who loves you. Oh well, it’s a new week! :lol:

Single and Happy

March 31st, 2014
7:53 am

Lady~

March 31st, 2014
8:07 am

Interesting after 4 solid months apart without communicating (& this is the 1st ex I have took back) we have been going and growing strong since late December to presently. I don’t regret following my heart and giving our relationship another chance.

YesSheIsCute

March 31st, 2014
8:11 am

Congratulations Lady! Sometimes people need time apart to re-evaluate what’s really important to them and whether it’s worth growing and trying again. I’m glad it worked out for you. How long were you together before you broke up?

Button

March 31st, 2014
8:12 am

a person becomes a habit that can be hard to break imo. You develop patterns with the person even though you know that person and the relationship is just not right for you. you sulk over him/her bc they are not out of your system yet and you want to get back to what you’ve become accustome to doing. I’ve been there, done that and it’s just the way it is for some. I won’t go as far to say I regret breaking up with anyone but I have said I wished things didn’t end the way it did.

Good morning!

Button

March 31st, 2014
8:17 am

Nothing wrong with giving a person a second chance, but I can’t give a third!

Lady – good for y’all!

Lady~

March 31st, 2014
8:19 am

Exactly Button! Thanks!

Lady~

March 31st, 2014
8:22 am

Yes, Thanks! Prior a year and a half….

Lady~

March 31st, 2014
8:27 am

but it was a rocky one filed with tension and unresolved issues with both of us also family drama. I’ve learned to keep folks out your business and I’ve finally mastered not giving AF what anyone thinks or says. Folks and their opinions don’t matter but don’t get make wrong I value strong valid advice but nip picking I ain’t got time for. I know the ends and out of my relationship and it works for us~

disco

March 31st, 2014
8:38 am

Good morning. I have to say I probably have more regrets associated with not getting with someone than I do with ending it with someone.

Button

March 31st, 2014
8:50 am

Lady – unresolved issues can wear you down. I like to get it out and move on rather than sweep it under the rug pretending that it never happened. My ex was good at sweeping things under the rug. It burned me up which would cause another argument.

Lady~

March 31st, 2014
8:57 am

Yas, Button, that was one area we both had to contend with with moving forward. These issues don’t disappear and you have to deal and own your mess~ I promise our tension has subsided and we even communicate better and openly. Its not perfect but finally our good days outweigh our bad and we talk issues head on together versus apart. Some days I am really impressed and through some patience some other stuff have come full circle that I was trying to force in the start.

CoolShadow

March 31st, 2014
9:04 am

I think it depends on the nature of the breakup (amicable split vs. nasty blowup) and timing. The regret factor can be a mixed bag in that you might need space to sort things out or you know that the breakup was inevitable and necessary. A couple of breakups I do regret and there are a few that I never looked back. One of those breakups I regretted at the time I did attempt to reconcile but was rejected; over the course of time that rejection proved to be the better outcome for me.

Button

March 31st, 2014
9:08 am

Lady – keep at it and try not let it go to default mode – back to regular programming so to speak. No one is perfect and with relationships you have to pick your battles.

2CPTG©

March 31st, 2014
9:11 am

nothing to add……..

Lady~

March 31st, 2014
9:11 am

yes that is the theme picking my battles and you are right no one is perfect but I refuse to get back to that stalemate we were prior. I can’t and he knows I am not playing or settling for BS. But a conservative effort I am all for.

disco

March 31st, 2014
9:13 am

2C – my main man!!!! I’ve been laying in the cut too. waiting on a topic change or some fresh voices or something. lol.

SlimNu

March 31st, 2014
9:14 am

Good morning all, Monday came too soon but at least it’s not raining or snowing! :-)

disco

March 31st, 2014
9:18 am

hey slim. at this point mother nature can do what she chooses but I am done with winter. I don’t care if I have to be the idiot walking around in shorts and sandals in the snow but I am done with winter clothes.

Reio

March 31st, 2014
9:18 am

Morning all.

Don’t really know what to say here. Do what you want to do. I wouldn’t go back. But that’s just me.

SlimNu

March 31st, 2014
9:19 am

disco – I think i’m almost feeling like you, at least subconsiously. I went to AL to visit my sis & niece and ended up leaving my little jacket there. So today i’m just rocking a scarf lol

YesSheIsCute

March 31st, 2014
9:19 am

SlimNu it did come to soon! :( I feel like I didn’t get to fully laze about like I wanted to.

2CPTG©

March 31st, 2014
9:21 am

waiting on a topic change or some fresh voices or something

gotta tell y’all about this UGLY chic I met this weekend…..

disco

March 31st, 2014
9:26 am

2C – well, let’s hear it but first….. how ugly was she? lol.

SlimNu

March 31st, 2014
9:30 am

Button

March 31st, 2014
9:30 am

2C – well let’s have it.

Purple Reign

March 31st, 2014
9:40 am

2C, was she ugly but fine? If so just hit it from them back and don’t take her out in public, draft her as a slump buster and keep her in the D-League.

disco

March 31st, 2014
9:42 am

First – good morning purple.

Second – smdh.

Third – lol.

2C did get ghost right quick. Maybe he had to drop the ugly chick off at work.

Button

March 31st, 2014
9:46 am

Purple – what’s the d-league?

2CPTG©

March 31st, 2014
9:46 am

how ugly? dark skinned, with slant like, cat eyes…..but FINE as all outdoors….lawd, this gal fine…..

Purple Reign

March 31st, 2014
9:49 am

Button- D-League is like a step below the minors.

2C, little short fine but with short hair and a face only a mother could love?

disco, he can’t let that fine go to waste, use it for what it’s worth! Good morning :)

disco

March 31st, 2014
9:50 am

2C – you gone have to clarify. What part is ugly? The dark skin or the cat eyes? ijs. I’m guessing fine as all outdoors simply means “bodied up”. (purp I tossed that in there for you – lol).

disco

March 31st, 2014
9:50 am

Purple – now I’m going to have to ask you to clarify. You got issues with short chicks and short hair? lol.

2CPTG©

March 31st, 2014
9:51 am

at any rate….I actually knew of this gal maybe two weeks ago…she’s a friend of one of my football teammates….so during a water break, I hear this gal talking ish about me being the shortest dude on the team….mind you, it’s dark out, so I only hear a voice, and don’t see anyone….I get closer, and then I see them cat eyes…but still don’t see her…so I’m like da hell is “that”???? and it’s her….she’s sitting in a car, so I can’t see her body, I just know upon first glance she scared the ish outta me….

SlimNu

March 31st, 2014
9:53 am

2C – So is it safe to say you don’t like really dark-skinned chicks?

Celisea

March 31st, 2014
9:56 am

Silky….that’s the only time I ever doubted myself. But, I’m guud cause I didn’t go back, I kept with my decision to walk. I laid out my deal breakers up front, and while I needed a talk to settle or ease my suspicisons, chuckle chuckle, ha ha (from him) in my mind equates to “blow off” and we all know, Celisea don’t take too well to that. Ummmm yeah that’ll get you the boot quicker than actually “fiiiinding” something…lol That window of time without him, I went from doubt to being “de-Silky’tized”…..lol And as I went through detox (lololol), I knew I made the right decision. Just had “Silky” all under my skin, my thoughts, my being. So once I was fully cleansed of him, had a clear head, I knew it was the right move. Not to mention him being “GREEEEAT” at everything!

Anyhoo, I don’t want to be no hypocrite so let me hush bout the man I (thought) I loved, cause we all know Christians only should be, and is only good for living like a piece of wood. Lifeless! Nothing! No feelings! Men? What or who is that??? (lolol) Bet’not like no man!! Should take all kinds of kicks and licks and jabs. Good thing I wasn’t “saved” when my kid was conceive, Lawd what kind of woman would that make me???? Just funning….hahahaha

Alright, breakfast gone, banana wasn’t ripe enough….too hard, and it’s time to get on my grind. I opened up my emails and I have at least 10 things to do already…….sigh. But, always, always happy happy happy to have a job.

Until tomorrow……Toodles!!!

2CPTG©

March 31st, 2014
9:57 am

so after the game Saturday night, my home boy is like “Tee Tee” wanna holler you (her actual name!) I’m like who da hell is Tee Tee….he told me, and I said, “that mullet faced chic”??? he bust out laughing…he said yeah….I’m like dawg, you know damn well, I ain’ bout to holler at her ugly ass…he said…”cuz, have you seen her up close?” I said, dawg, ain’t nothing to see! he said, man, I know she ain’t all that in the face…but dawg, she fine as hell….and plus, she like to cake dudes..so I said, ok, I’ll at least see what she working with….
so I get close to shawty….lo and behold, shwty was thicker than some Louisiana gumbo….nice ass, well proportioned physique, all that…..but she was hideous from the neck up…..

Purple Reign

March 31st, 2014
10:00 am

disco, I don’t have problems with short women. Short hair, depends on the whole package. :)

disco

March 31st, 2014
10:00 am

2C – mullet face? now that there is a new one. so old girl was the old shipwreck/dream boat combo? Too funny but the real question is what you gone do? did you get her number? give her yours? hooked up with her already?

Sassy Me...juicy fruit ;-)

March 31st, 2014
10:03 am

dark skinned, with slant like, cat eyes

~2C–Was she ugly b/c she was dark skinned?! Could she have been ugly if she were lighter complected? I’m asking b/c that was the first thing you pointed out…

So she had an ugly face and a bangin’ body…if she was that fine you prolly still got with her anyway :lol:

Lady~

March 31st, 2014
10:06 am

Waving @ C~ What’s poppin’ chica?!? Howdy Sassy too! :)

Celisea

March 31st, 2014
10:07 am

Hey Lady, what’s crackalackin?

What’s poppin? Life, gurl….I AM GUUD!

Hope all is well on your end :mrgreen:

Celisea

March 31st, 2014
10:08 am

Re Silky, I ain’t NEVA smitten enough to not watch and see what’s going on. Never. Try if you must and see if I don’t keep my word. So, Silky learned and was sniffing and moping around until he realized “dang, she meant it!” Get on away from me with shenanigans….got no time for that. And to think, all I got was a shift in his behavior. Mmm hmmm, my gut don’t EVA lead me wrong.

Ladies, watch it, watch around you, shenanigans will getcha!

K…gone!

abc

March 31st, 2014
10:09 am

As the old song: “Don’t it always seem to go, you don’t know you’ve got ’til it’s gone.” Like, the grass looked greener from over there, but now I’m standing in it, it’s giving me an itchy rash.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit ;-)

March 31st, 2014
10:10 am

Oh…on topic:

What do you do if you broke up with someone and you start to want that old thing back?

Once I’m done…I’m done..I don’t back track. Usually by the time I’ve decided to end a relationship, it’s been dead for some time and we’re just going through the motions. I’ve checked out emotionally and want out so why stay….

Do you give it time and hope it is just a sex deprived haze that has your mind clouded?

Dizniyee is a dime a dozen…and one for the price of two on Thursdays n Sundays so that would never be an issue…plus I’m cute :mrgreen:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit ;-)

March 31st, 2014
10:11 am

Waving back at yoU Lady :lol:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit ;-)

March 31st, 2014
10:12 am

the grass looked greener from over there, but now I’m standing in it, it’s giving me an itchy rash.

LOLOL @ “itchy rash”….

disco

March 31st, 2014
10:18 am

Sometimes the grass really is greener on the other side though (literally and figuratively). lol.

I say if it’s green grass you want AND you don’t want to put in the work to make your own grass greener, you just want to ease in and benefit from some already cultivated grass, then bring you’re A game and make it do what it do.