I read a very strange recount on Twitter this weekend that horrified me. A woman told the story of how she was dating a great guy, who treated her respectfully, and had great credentials. Sounds like a dream right? Well she became suspect because Mr. Wonderful was not making moves to try to sleep with her. That’s right, the absence of red flags …well apparently is a red flag, well, to some people.
To find out why she wasn’t getting any sexual advances from the guy, she invited him over to get things started herself. Eventually it gets heated with kissing and “stuff” so he tries to pull back. He tells her he likes her and he is in NO rush. She is confused by this and keeps pushing on him to get closer. She starts to wonder if he is hesitant because he is embarrassed about his “size” and proceeds to pull his sweatpants down to expose him. Her suspicions are accurate because he was not measuring up to her standards. Can you imagine how this guy must have felt?! He moved her out of the way asking her “What is wrong with you?” although it was clear that she is bat crap crazy by now. She “dumps” him and hops on twitter to talk about him as if she didn’t do something reprehensible.
At this point, people are basically calling her out for her sexual aggressiveness and said if a guy did that to her, she would press charges. What do you think?
I see how there seems to be a double standard where women can cross the line more often than men, but does it happen often? Do men not complain when they receive unwanted advances?
I don’t know what disturbed me more – the fact that the chick couldn’t just bask in the goodness of a new guy without being suspicious or that she felt pressed to go looking for a shortcoming.
What would you do if this happened to you?
By Wise Diva