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Dating scene: They crossed a line

I read a very strange recount on Twitter this weekend that horrified me. A woman told the story of how she was dating a great guy, who treated her respectfully, and had great credentials. Sounds like a dream right? Well she became suspect because Mr. Wonderful was not making moves to try to sleep with her. That’s right, the absence of red flags …well apparently is a red flag, well, to some people.

To find out why she wasn’t getting any sexual advances from the guy, she invited him over to get things started herself. Eventually it gets heated with kissing and “stuff” so he tries to pull back. He tells her he likes her and he is in NO rush. She is confused by this and keeps pushing on him to get closer. She starts to wonder if he is hesitant because he is embarrassed about his “size” and proceeds to pull his sweatpants down to expose him. Her suspicions are accurate because he was not measuring up to her standards. Can you imagine how this guy must have felt?! He moved her out of the way asking her “What is wrong with you?” although it was clear that she is bat crap crazy by now. She “dumps” him and hops on twitter to talk about him as if she didn’t do something reprehensible.

At this point, people are basically calling her out for her sexual aggressiveness and said if a guy did that to her, she would press charges. What do you think?

I see how there seems to be a double standard where women can cross the line more often than men, but does it happen often? Do men not complain when they receive unwanted advances?

I don’t know what disturbed me more – the fact that the chick couldn’t just bask in the goodness of a new guy without being suspicious or that she felt pressed to go looking for a shortcoming.

What would you do if this happened to you?

By Wise Diva

664 comments Add your comment

Single and Happy

March 4th, 2014
7:08 am

Hey everyone

What would you do if this happened to you?Hmm have to think about that one!

Do men not complain when they receive unwanted advances? don’t know, never received one.

Purple Reign

March 4th, 2014
7:08 am

I find it more disturbing that she took to Twitter to talk about the guy. Sounds like she had a good guy who wanted to take it slow. Her actions after the fact show that she wasn’t in it for a relationship. If it happened to me I would just chalk it up to her being the wrong woman for me. If it happened to a woman I’m sure he would be charged with attempted rape.

Heidi Golighty

March 4th, 2014
7:10 am

And this is why some women will always be single.
Sounds like she had a wonderful guy that just wanted to take his time with her and now she ruined any type of prospect. She was sexually aggressive and could have had action taken against her.

lee

March 4th, 2014
7:12 am

WoW… She is a messy person, trying to pull down the mans pants then going to internet to tell everyone…There are plenty of chicks that are touchy- feely any time a guy enters the room or if they feel another women is getting attention that they think they should receive. I had to stop hanging out with a child hood friend when we got into our 20’s if a guy showed me any attentions she would have to come over and start rubbing on him like she was in heat. She found herself embarrassed a few times as the guy told her off

Nothing wrong with slowing it down but if months and months went by without evening mentioning the next level – i would bring it up and plain out ask him why? I am not getting any younger I don’t have time to waste like that. lol
Good morning

Heidi Golighty

March 4th, 2014
7:27 am

She could have just asked him why he hadn’t made a move and accepted his response as truth versus molesting him. Wow, what a concept

Coach

March 4th, 2014
8:23 am

Sad. Expose the man on twitter after forcing a sexual encounter. This women sure sounds like a winner. SMH!

Into the Light

March 4th, 2014
8:25 am

Morning, all

Just wow. This woman is a piece of work. Who does that? Assault someone and then brag about it on social media??? smh…

disco

March 4th, 2014
8:40 am

Good morning.

I agree that the woman was petty, childish, out of control and totally out of line to take the mess to the internet BUT I certainly feel she dodged a bullet. No point wasting that much time getting invested in a man with a teeny tiny peter. That joker knew he wasn’t working with anything. he could have just said that on the very first date and given her an out in the beginning. ijs.

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

March 4th, 2014
9:06 am

Soooo she’s admitted to felonious assualt on Twitter? really?

She does realize that cops read Twitter and scan for things like “I pulled his pants down….against his will”

*please note, sender of this post has not committed a felony and is only commenting on the author’s post.

Brand New Bluzgirl

March 4th, 2014
9:08 am

Morning!

I can’t believe this woman. Once he pulled back and said he wanted to go slow, she should have just asked him what was up. If a man did that to me, then yes, I would press charges. He could easily press charges, but I don’t think men want to go through all of that.

Plus…his teeny tiny peter wasn’t showing at full potential. Who knows how big it could have been while hard?

Brand New Bluzgirl

March 4th, 2014
9:10 am

Please tell me she didn’t say who he is on Twitter…he could charge her for more (slander?)

disco

March 4th, 2014
9:12 am

I’m not an attorney but I will play one on this blog for today. I will also play juror. She invited him over. There is a good chance that he had some idea of why he was invited over. Even if he didn’t I will argue that he did. He also had the opportunity to deny said invitation. He did not. He came over of his own free will. He was not kidnapped and brought to the scene. I will argue that not only did he know what the invitation entailed but that he was onboard with said plan. He does not deny that things got hot and heavy which reinforces my argument that he was a willing participant. Now I’m sure the defense counsel will argue that “no means no” and I agree but my client insists that at no point did this gentleman actually say “No”. he punked out but he didn’t say no. ladies and gentleman of the jury, what says you (now remember I am the jury) – we find the plaintiff (the chick) innocent of the assault charges but guilty of just plain being simple, tacky and an all around dingbat.

Button

March 4th, 2014
9:12 am

whoaa, what a crazy lady! Curious: was the guy even aroused?

Yes, if the situation was reversed she would be pressing charges. smh

disco – you had me up until the point of —>That joker knew he wasn’t working with anything. he could have just said that on the very first date – was he supposed to say “I have a lil teeny weeny you wanna try it out to see how you like it” lol

Good morning!

Button

March 4th, 2014
9:16 am

disco – I will not have you as my lawyer or juror lol

you’re saying it’s his fault he was schexually assulted by having his pants pulled down against his will. There is NO way she is not guilty of said crime.

Single and Happy

March 4th, 2014
9:19 am

Disco, you can play attorney all you want, but she’s confessed to the crime!! Make that part go away counselor (LOL)

disco

March 4th, 2014
9:19 am

Button – my guess is there are a ton of dudes who know that they are on the “itty bitty P committee”. These men know from past experience that the D alone is not enough to get them anywhere. These men put in work. They are generally nicer, more chivalrous, more generous. These are the men that go above and beyond. They know women are more willing to overlook that shortcoming if they excel in so many other areas. Thing is they need time to sell those other areas so they stall doing the do for as long as they can. You can almost hear the apologetic tone in a “short” man’s voice. yep. it needs to come up in conversation.

Brand New Bluzgirl

March 4th, 2014
9:20 am

We don’t know if he said no or not. I’m sure he never wanted her to pull his pants down. He stated he wanted to take things really slow. He wasn’t ready for that.

Disclaimer: I do not want any sympathy for the following post…just stating this as a response to disco…

When I was date raped, I willingly went to a party and willingly drank. He took his gf home and came back…I don’t know if I said no as I was throwing up and half unconscious. He continued to have his way with me. Was that my fault?

Into the Light

March 4th, 2014
9:20 am

Good morning.

This woman is a piece of work. She knows good and well if the tables were turned she would be pressing charges.

lol@button. Yeah, as pick up lines go, “wanna see my teeny peeny” is probably not on the highly successful list.

Purple Reign

March 4th, 2014
9:22 am

disco, first date convo? lol

disco

March 4th, 2014
9:22 am

Hey. A very similar defense has worked for many a man over the years. he called old girl up at 3am and she went over. What happened next she must have wanted or she wouldn’t have gone there. I’m not saying it’s right, I’m just saying juries have ruled that way before.

Single – you did note that I was the attorney and the jury. I would have been the judge but figured that would have been doing too much too early in the morning. lol.

Oh. and single. We’ll get the confession thrown out. the trauma of seeing such a small peter obviously gave my client post-tramautic shock. She wasn’t thinking clearly.

disco

March 4th, 2014
9:27 am

Purple – I’m just saying that me, myself, personally (lol), I don’t have time for that. that’s something a person needs to know and the sooner the better. granted not everyone feels that way but I do.

Bluz – I am notorious for “blaming the victim”. Was it your fault? Not totally. You did not molest yourself. you did however put yourself in an unsafe position. You did surround yourself with people who obviously didn’t care much for your well being. You did drink excessively and admittedly lose your wits because of it. You do have to accept responsibility for those things. having said all that, he was still wrong.

Single and Happy

March 4th, 2014
9:27 am

Disco, trauma (LMAO) yea I saw you are attorney and jury. open the door for all kinds of appeals (LOL)

disco

March 4th, 2014
9:30 am

Single – all in tuesday morning fun. the average male who is assaulted by a female rarely even presses charges anyway. apparently the shame is unbearable. Who knew?

Button

March 4th, 2014
9:30 am

disco – you’re saying it’s the man fault he is not well endowed. Reality check! he didn’t design his own body! None of us do unless we go for cosmetic surgery. So should women announce on the first date that she is huge down there too? C’mon, all this “size” is so shallow.

Brand New Bluzgirl

March 4th, 2014
9:31 am

disco – The thing is…I surrounded myself with people I thought I could trust. He was just a dirty weasel. For many years, I blamed myself…then, it hit me. It wasn’t my fault at all.

disco

March 4th, 2014
9:33 am

Button – so I’m shallow. shrugs. lol. btw, if men could design their own bodies I doubt any of them would pick the tiny peters. ijs.

Brand New Bluzgirl

March 4th, 2014
9:33 am

I would never expect a man to tell me about his peter size before we get down and dirty. I’ll see it and give him a shot. He may not live up to my standard, but it’s what else he does that counts.

Button

March 4th, 2014
9:34 am

ITL – aint that some silly mess to announce you penile size on the first date? lol whew I’ve bout heard it all!

YesSheIsCute

March 4th, 2014
9:37 am

Good morning everyone. Good morning Single! Any pics from your vacation? I’m going to Panama City Beach this weekend. I’m hype :D

About this topic. Wow just wow.

disco

March 4th, 2014
9:37 am

Bluz – that’s the difference between us. I’ll see it, know it ain’t gone work and tell a dude to put his clothes back on. now, he could have saved himself that embarrassment by mentioning it sooner. lol.

Button – I will talk about any and everything on a first date. there is no script. What comes out, comes out. plus, the type of person that I will ultimately end up with his the type of person who knows and respects that all kinds of crazy may fly out of my mouth at any time. if you need prim and proper, you don’t need me.

Button

March 4th, 2014
9:38 am

disco – yes, if size is all that matters. You can rock an elephant trunk but if your heart aint right that elephant trunk doesn’t matter.

Button

March 4th, 2014
9:40 am

disco – well if you talk about any and everything on the first date, I wouldn’t be surprised you don’t get a second date. Esp if it’s about size of the D. or your honey pot.

Brand New Bluzgirl

March 4th, 2014
9:41 am

Size only matters a little big. Now, when I was hanging out with Mags, I knew he’d be big because he’s a big guy…probably 6′7 or 6′8. There was no way he’d be working with a teeny peeny. I was right!!! Dang…why did he turn out to be a big D with a big D?!?!

disco

March 4th, 2014
9:42 am

Button – you are going deep today. I am remaining shallow. You ever heard the phrase “yellow-wasted” or “yellow gone to waste”? the same thing applies with man-parts. Sometimes they are just gone to waste.

Button – because a lot of people are fake on their first date. bringing that so-called representative that they swear they don’t bring out. I bring me and you just never know what you are going to get with me. I do alright. I’m certainly not going to spend two hours talking about dude’s hopes and dreams. lol.

Purple Reign

March 4th, 2014
9:42 am

2C, when you go out with disco in 9 months just whip it out, she likes that sort of thing lol

Who is to say that the “chick” in this story was even attractive. Some guys have something to show some have things that grow lol! Can a penis be judged in a flaccid state? lol

Single and Happy

March 4th, 2014
9:43 am

disco, thing about it, they may not need a victim here, she confessed to the crime. People are doing stupid stuff on the internet, yesterday saw an article where this girl cost her dad an 80k settlement by posting about it on facebook.

2CPTG©

March 4th, 2014
9:44 am

who mentions their peter size, disco? be honest, if a dude even remotely brought that up, y’all would run for the hills….

Exiled!

March 4th, 2014
9:45 am

If it happened to a woman I’m sure he would be charged with attempted rape.

@Purp…damn right bout that!

well,he dodged a bullet..crazy,thirsty,low hanging fruit with dangling,heavy cobwebs….

If the guys was not even feeling that sexual..it means he was not aroused….whose peta measures up to those requirements it is jes resting anyway? :lol: ….and she goes on tweeter? seriously…what adult sane woman does that…

she needs to hang out near fulton/dekalb county jail and watch for those folks getting released who are as anxious to get in..i guess thats the no#1 thing on their minds..so their petas are Ever ready..! :lol:

no story here…u dodged a bullet buddy..
Next…

Single and Happy

March 4th, 2014
9:46 am

See now disco, if you asked me about my size on the first date, I’d either take it out and show it to you, or you can feel and see if I measure up (LOL)

disco

March 4th, 2014
9:47 am

Button – all this can tie back into yesterday’s FWB discussion. what are you dating for? looking for a relationship? Looking for someone to hang out with? looking for someone to sleep with? looking for a sponsor? Looking for someone you click with?

Single – again, I’m only cracking jokes about dude being short. I could care less about the chick being dumb. If some over ambitious DA somewhere wants to make an example out of her well then it sucks to be her.

Button

March 4th, 2014
9:47 am

disco – sorry to go so deep but you asked and I had no other choice but to answer. lol

disco – I know you’re kinda rough around the edges but to say it’s his fault his pants was pulled down and he was exposed is like saying when a woman is raped it’s her fault bc of what she was wearing.

Exiled!

March 4th, 2014
9:49 am

Now in defense of Disco, Iam not That dude!

If she invites me over and I accept..I am smashing! :lol: (fingers crossed) :lol:

(swiss, whats the finbgers crossed emotico?)

off for an errand..tweet me!

disco

March 4th, 2014
9:51 am

Button – I already made that point with bluz. no, it’s not necessarily one’s fault when bad things happen to them but one does play a part in their own demise when placing themselves in uncompromising positions. Be smart about some things. This is why parents tell kids not to get in cars with strangers. This is why mothers teach daughters not to leave their drinks unattended. This is why as girlfriends you adopt the stance “we come together, we leave together”.

Single and Happy

March 4th, 2014
9:53 am

Hey yes, I took a few, haven’t had time to post them

Button

March 4th, 2014
9:53 am

disco – we don’t know what kind of relationship they had other than they were dating. Why does everybody have to just be out for schex and not looking to enter a wholesome relationship?! Just bc you like em in and out don’t mean everyone else does lol

Single and Happy

March 4th, 2014
9:56 am

Button while ole girl may have went about it the wrong way, at least she got it out the way and can move on the next one.

Into the Light

March 4th, 2014
9:56 am

Oh boy, another blog rumor. YES and 2 are hooking up this weekend.

Button

March 4th, 2014
9:57 am

disco – your agrument has no merit. There is no way in hades it’s his fault he was exposed! I know you like to go against the grain but I don’t think so.

disco

March 4th, 2014
9:58 am

Button – we know she wasn’t happy with their so-called relationship or it wouldn’t have gone left the way it did. That’s what we know. as for me liking them in or out, that’s neither here nor there. all I’ve ever expressed on this blog is that I’m woman enough to admit that sometimes that’s all there is whether it’s by design or whether one party got played because someone ran some smooth talk game on them.

Button

March 4th, 2014
9:59 am

Single – I hope the next one is even smaller lol