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New romance? Get off social media

I have watched so many romances get derailed because they don’t understand how social media works. If you are a jealous person, prone to getting an attitude over minor stuff, stay off social media when you have a new partner.

Actually, working on your jealousy issues should be your first order of business but until you slay the green dragon, know your limitations! The innocent flirting on Facebook, the random tweets from someone you don’t even know in person, can lead to a ridiculous fight.

One friend decided he would unfollow his new girlfriend because she had too many male friends and social media connections. While he trusted her, he didn’t like the “slick” comments he would see. I think it was a smart move because they were bickering over it too much.

Do you believe that social media and technology makes it even harder to get a new relationship started?

Have you experienced any setbacks in dating because of social media habits?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

384 comments Add your comment

YesSheIsCute

February 24th, 2014
6:09 am

First!

Good morning. I have had a former boyfriend as a friend on facebook. It was a non issue because he was rarely on it and also he didn’t have a ton of girls making slick flirtatious comments (I don’t really know for sure I wasn’t on his page like that it was mostly techie/software engineering/computer science stuff and it still is).

I don’t think it becomes an issue unless it’s one of those people that conveniently has a lot of opposite sex friends lusting after them that are disrespectful (or worse unaware) of your relationship and insist on making slick comments on your s/o’s page that pop up in your news feed. Additionally, that green-eyed monster/crazy is no joke. If you know you are erratically jealous or crazy (and you know this!), either delete the s/o from your friends list, delete your page or block their updates from showing in your news feed. The End.

Single & Happy

February 24th, 2014
6:54 am

Hey everyone

Ready to go have fun in the sun :-D

Since I don’t post my life history and my every thought, nothing to see on my page but pictures. And I’ve only dated one person that was on my page, she didn’t post either so no problem. Now if you’re the type to go looking, you will find what you’re looking for!!

lee

February 24th, 2014
6:55 am

Good Morning,
I once dated a guy that we were face book friends, tons of women that tried to out do the others posts telling him how hot he was– i didn’t have an issue with that –thought they were sad and desperate . what i did have a problem with is when he told some chick how hot she was and kept calling her babe… hmm.. needless to say we don’t date no more and i hope he happy.

Celisea

February 24th, 2014
9:08 am

Social media and dating should not be in the same sentence. IMO, you got some growing to do if you’re mixing the same. Heck, I don’t really do “social media” anyway, so ummm nothing much on topic.

Off topic: Fogo de Chao again this weekend, this time we had a group of about 16. Man o man, we had the best time. Good eating, great friends, good company….just don’t get no better than that. We had to make reservations for this past weekend, coming right out of Valentine’s Day and still didn’t get the time slot we wanted. It was a bit early, but we were all able to accomodate. A great time had by all.

Alright, I’m back and back to work. I have a ton of work to get from under. You kids have a fantab day. Oh, and I think it’s cute that I’m so insignificant, yet “that other girl” is mentioned all day. Like I said before, apparently, Imma bad gurl!!! I sniggled and got the warm fuzzies from getting mentioned so much….hahahahaha :mrgreen:

Celisea

February 24th, 2014
9:09 am

“….mix the two.” not mxing the same

Leggs

February 24th, 2014
9:11 am

I think using social media to speak on your relationship, update your status, peep into other people’s accounts is ridukulous! Concentrate on your dang relationship and get off FB, Twitter, Instagram or whatever it is people are on. Too many people posts their every move, their every thought, their every complaint with everything. WHY, WHY, WHY!

Went to casino in Alabama, only won $30. One employee told me people have been coming in droves possibly with their income tax earnings and many of the machines have been tapped out and that’s why not many people have been winning. One person in my group won $500. Must admit, I wanted to snatch that stank looking wig off her head but I walked away (lol). Some people don’t care how they look in public, but I digress….

Good morning.

2CPTG©

February 24th, 2014
9:26 am

I seriously doubt anyone over 30 has a problem with social media being a disruption in their relationship, or lack thereof;

single & Happy

February 24th, 2014
9:31 am

Leggs the same reason they come here and do it, the only difference is on the social networks it’s not anonamous

disco

February 24th, 2014
9:34 am

Good morning. if folks are into social media, that’s their business. if they are single, dating, married – same same. Their partner knows what they do, they can accept it or not accept it. it’s not that serious.

Re “that girl”. amazing that her life is so full and fabulous and yet she still finds time to check in and see what the peons who are immature, immoral, ghetto and wear cheap underwear are doing. Amazing….

single & Happy

February 24th, 2014
9:40 am

Disco, (slapping your hand) don’t start.

Time to disconnect from the electronic world, you guys have a great week

Button

February 24th, 2014
9:41 am

Do you believe that social media and technology makes it even harder to get a new relationship started? I don’t think so. I’m not a social media butterfly and making the rounds seeing who’s friends with who and who’s poking/flirting with who would be so much energy. Social media can destroy a relationship and if I were to have fb or any other social media site I wouldn’t friend anyone I’m dating.

Good morning!

disco

February 24th, 2014
9:42 am

sorry single – my bad. peace out and have a grand vacation.

2CPTG©

February 24th, 2014
9:43 am

Re “that girl”. amazing that her life is so full and fabulous and yet she still finds time to check in and see what the peons who are immature, immoral, ghetto and wear cheap underwear are doing. Amazing….

disco, my sentiments, exactly…..seriously, who actually reads this thing when they aren’t here? or goes back to read a previous day?

2CPTG©

February 24th, 2014
9:43 am

Single, enjoy yourself, my brother.

Celisea

February 24th, 2014
9:45 am

disco – DAMN SKIPPY!!. I believe it’s called “I can do whatever the hell I want to do, who gon check me?!?!?!?” And yeah I said it and yeah I read it and yeah I laughed at the retardedness of it. Someone not even blogging but folks spend time talking about them. And for the record, it takes a millisecond to read insignificant comments and bs. Not the same as reading something relevant. And if you must know, I log in to blog not check up on you, boo. I’m not a simpleton. But I’m wearing boots to high step the bs. Sooo can’t help but read it. Got it, boo?!?!?

Leggs

February 24th, 2014
9:47 am

Single ~ I’m cracking up because reading my post and Celisea’s I said the same thing, we do it here. You’re so right!

Celisea

February 24th, 2014
9:48 am

I find it weird a chick analyzing every word I say…..hahahaha

And sweetie, I went back this morning…..not while “wit ma boo.” Oh and if u have a smart device, the blog is just a click away.

Toodles!!!

disco

February 24th, 2014
9:48 am

circle circle, dot dot – I been got my “candy” shot. I’m good.

Leggs

February 24th, 2014
9:49 am

OH SNAP. Didn’t see all that.

disco

February 24th, 2014
9:53 am

2C – how was your weekend? Did you get your game back?

Leggs – did you get any reading done this weekend? I almost pulled that book off the shelf but decided that if I’m going to re-read something I think it will be gap creek.

Leggs

February 24th, 2014
9:57 am

disco ~ I read a little on my ride to the casino. I have the book at my desk hoping to read some during my lunch time. That’s indicative that the book is damn good when I bring it to work!!!

2CPTG©

February 24th, 2014
9:58 am

disco, Saturday was cool, got a lot of stuff done in my yard, and in/around the house..yesterday it rained all day, so I sat in and watched TV, and the Daytona 500 — Happy for Dale, Jr….

2CPTG©

February 24th, 2014
10:02 am

and as far as my game, disco…..I won’t necessarily say I lost it, I just think me and my boos have grown apart, and they’ve chosen another route. I won’t hold it against them – however, I don’t think they’ll find another blog boo like me!

the doors of the church are now open…..will there be one?

kimmie

February 24th, 2014
10:03 am

Morning Gang!!

Social media can only mess with your life if you allow it. Grow up.

That’s all I have to say on the subject!

2C – What did you do in your yard?

disco

February 24th, 2014
10:05 am

leggs – good for you. hate you didn’t win at the casino. My last visit to a casino and I hit the jackpot twice. of course I was playing the 2 cent machine. Lol. even with that, the jackpot was $300. I cashed out 308 and 316.

2C – I saw grudge match (finally) on Friday night. Stallone remains one of my oldhead crushes. I might have to let deniro go. he’s not holding up so well.

2CPTG©

February 24th, 2014
10:08 am

kimmie….I always start the spring off by putting down fertilizer, and lime, in any dead spots I may have…I also give it a low cut to get rid of the “tops”…kinda like clipping your dead ends…

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MsAtl

February 24th, 2014
10:09 am

Leggs- Lol at you wanting to snatch the wig off the winner’s head. You could always take your $30 and buy her a new one.

My ex-husband and I were FB friends until I left, then I blocked him. He was extremely active on FB. The last man I dated was on my FB also, but he barely signed on. I don’t do anything on social media that I wouldn’t do in “real life” and I don’t let social media mess up my life. I agree, if there is jealousy involved, it is probably best not to be connected on social media.

Leggs

February 24th, 2014
10:12 am

disco ~ had to laugh at deniro not holding up too well. I have to agree, but to his defense, he always looked old (lol). I watched many hooping in hollering to then turn around and spew profanities. So many don’t know when to stop, but that’s the draw of gambling (lol).

disco

February 24th, 2014
10:13 am

Re jealousy. Naturally it’s not limited to social media. If jealousy is a problem it’s likely going to be a problem everywhere. Dude be asking you why the deacon was looking at you in church last Sunday. Old girl want to know why the server at the restaurant is smiling at you. jealous folks just can’t help themselves. lol.

kimmie

February 24th, 2014
10:13 am

2C – Okay cool, sounds good. I used to do the same when I cared for my lawn. Imma try to get hubs to get the yard men to step it up a knotch this year.

Leggs

February 24th, 2014
10:14 am

2C ~ where the heck are you that’s Spring…I kid, I kid. With your nice weather, it’s spring and summer all the time.

disco

February 24th, 2014
10:15 am

leggs – I used to really really love deniro in his day. I felt guilty, like I was turning my back on him now that he’s old and shuffling. sort of like when I watched pain and gain. The movie came on and I was oooh-ahhhing mark Wahlberg until the rock showed up. I forgot about Wahlberg the whole rest of the movie. Guess I learned a lot about myself. lol.

kimmie

February 24th, 2014
10:16 am

I’m so ready for spring it’s not even funny!!

disco

February 24th, 2014
10:25 am

2C – you still here?

kimmie

February 24th, 2014
10:26 am

Disco – Quit doing yo men dirty!!! Turning yo back during their time of need just cause they can’t walk as fast!! LOL!!

disco

February 24th, 2014
10:29 am

kimmie – for a split second I was like “huh” then realized you were talking about deniro. It is what it is. I still got love for the man but his sex appeal is gone. they just need to let him play boss roles from here on out.

kimmie – last night I had a guy friend nearly in tears talking about another guy who called me talking about his nightly soaks in Epsom salt. i’m’a have to leave these old cats alone for real.

2CPTG©

February 24th, 2014
10:33 am

kimmie

February 24th, 2014
10:37 am

nightly soaks in Epsom salt

Disco – LOL!! Naw, you don’t strike me as ready for the rocking chair just yet!! Me neither!

Leggs

February 24th, 2014
10:37 am

disco ~ when you say in tears, you mean from laughing or from jealously that another man is calling you talking about his soaks? Scratch that, he must be tearing up from laughter because I know no man is going to be on the phone with whining like a punk.

disco

February 24th, 2014
10:39 am

2C – since I was clowning you about being off your game I’ll confess that my own game is slipping. Either that or I need some fresh meat. Lol. So you know I was fishing for someone to meet me in Orlando. guy 1 said no but tried to convince me to meet in DC. No haps. Guy 2 gave the same old song and dance about not wanting to take off work. This is why I cut him loose in the first place. Why have a zillion days off and never use them. and what’s the point of all that over time if you never do anything? guy 3 (and guy 3 is funny). guy 3 was like “I’d like to but I might be getting ready to go to jail”. Can I tell you I bust out laughing!!! He’s got some pending charges and is waiting to see how that plays out. meanwhile, oldhead 1 and oldhead 2 are probably both wondering why I haven’t asked them. lol.

2CPTG©

February 24th, 2014
10:41 am

“I’d like to but I might be getting ready to go to jail”.

that’s some realness for ya ass right there!

2CPTG©

February 24th, 2014
10:43 am

I think my game has evolved, disco; cause I still get the ones I want…..

disco

February 24th, 2014
10:45 am

2C – I don’t really judge my game because I don’t want any of these jokers. lol. the real test will be trying to pull something I want (if/when I ever run across something I want). re old boy’s pending charges. That is real right there but it didn’t stop me from laughing.

Into the Light

February 24th, 2014
10:51 am

Morning, all.

I don’t put anything very personal on FB…I try to keep it light and airy and fun. I’m allergic to drama. :wink:

Leggs, did you play 32??

Leggs

February 24th, 2014
10:56 am

ITL, no table, just machines!

Into the Light

February 24th, 2014
11:10 am

I thought of the blog last night. …. I had asparagus with dinner. :oops:

kimmie

February 24th, 2014
11:13 am

Light – Funny, we had asparagus too!! :lol:

Leggs

February 24th, 2014
11:15 am

I’ve never cooked asparagus and probably only had a taste of it about 3x in my life.

disco

February 24th, 2014
11:17 am

So… kimmie – have you been bike shopping?