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Blurred line: Lover and friend

Have you ever had a “friend” who you felt a strong attraction to but didn’t want to cross that line? Do you think it is ever worth it to risk the friendship for a great relationship?

I know we have debated whether or not men and women can just be friends, but can they be lovers, break up, and go back to friends? Things can get dicey if the lines are blurred and communication goes bad. Still, I’m a romantic and I would always take a shot at true love.

Do you have a friend who is a former fling?

If you developed a strong attraction to one of your friends, would you tell them?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

234 comments Add your comment

disco

February 17th, 2014
4:38 pm

2C – it’s not really ALL THEM dudes. Just a few regulars. lol. The average dude realizes he ain’t getting nowhere and gets ghost real quick. Some hang around longer for whatever reason. some don’t even live locally but they stay in the rotation. it is what it is. besides, I’ve said it before, any single woman worth her salt has a couple of “flunkies” (for lack of a better term) in rotation at all times.

Single and Happy

February 17th, 2014
4:39 pm

Mrs SC is he married, or still chasing them young girls around, (they will break you) (LOL)

Mrs. SexyCool

February 17th, 2014
4:39 pm

It seems as if the supervisor has also given him money for gas.

Single and Happy

February 17th, 2014
4:40 pm

Flunkies, hmmmm let me think (LOL)

Exiled!

February 17th, 2014
4:41 pm

Disco..you only talk bout the flunkies…Never bout the dudes who hit!

….

Mrs. SexyCool

February 17th, 2014
4:41 pm

Not married…

2CPTG©

February 17th, 2014
4:41 pm

all I can do is congratulate you, disco……”it ain’t bragging if you can do it!”

2CPTG©

February 17th, 2014
4:42 pm

Disco..you only talk bout the flunkies…Never bout the dudes who hit!

well……

disco

February 17th, 2014
4:43 pm

ex – while I’m fairly open and prone to sharing I try to ignore the fact that you keep trying to get up under my clothes. stay in your lane. ijs.

2C – ditto what I said to ex.

Exiled!

February 17th, 2014
4:43 pm

Disco..i can tell ur personality…in bed.

U Loud! :lol:

because u are allergic to dudes with room mates! :lol:

U dont want u hollering to be taped! :lol: u be on utube. :lol:

Single and Happy

February 17th, 2014
4:44 pm

There it is (LOL)

2CPTG©

February 17th, 2014
4:45 pm

disco, I’m not trying to get under your clothes…but like Ex said, it’s always about the flunkies….never about the dude who actually did break you off!

disco

February 17th, 2014
4:46 pm

2C – I’m not bragging. I bet just about every other single chick on the blog got a few on call flunkies. It’s just a woman thing. lol.

ex – hollering is for amateurs. men who want to hear hollering are amateurs. lol.

Dynamic

February 17th, 2014
4:46 pm

@ Single what’s a bigger turn on, a guy who will be there when you need him with no strings attached, or a guy who will remind you of what he did for you and want to attach some strings??

When you say be there for you what did you men? I took it to mean financial, which is why I couldn’t answer your question.

disco

February 17th, 2014
4:47 pm

2C – guess it just be like that sometimes. I’m sorry to let the blog down. I will try to do better. lol.

Exiled!

February 17th, 2014
4:48 pm

U absolutely..utterly …passionately hate dudes who got roommates…

explain that..why..in these hard economic times?! :lol:

@Disco

Single and Happy

February 17th, 2014
4:50 pm

I mean when you need him for anything, your car breaks down and you need a ride, will just be there when you need them.

disco

February 17th, 2014
4:50 pm

ex – I respect the struggle. really I do but I’m not checking for the dude who is struggling when I’m not struggling. He’s not holding me back and I’m not pulling him up. he needs to get up on his own and then holler at me. judge if you must but I stand firm on that.

Dynamic

February 17th, 2014
4:52 pm

Single, if I’m dating a guy then we should be there for each other, and if we are dating it wouldn’t be any strings attached scenario b/c we are in a relationship.

Single and Happy

February 17th, 2014
4:56 pm

Okay dynamic, you’re just not understanding.

Dynamic

February 17th, 2014
4:58 pm

Tell me 2 morrow

Mrs. SexyCool

February 17th, 2014
4:59 pm

S&H – it sounds like to me that Dynamic only has expectations of guys that she is dating.

Exiled!

February 17th, 2014
5:00 pm

Disco..so locals in your city got no chance…right?

all they can do is just sniff!
u trust out of towners when u go out….
see..here is how this works for u economically…
u make the locales pine for ur azz..they dish some dole..hoping to hit….pay some of ur groceries and lighting etc…u dont give them none…they continue to crave….

u let steam when u take a vacation….

its a good strategy if u ask me.
:lol:

here is my email add takpat78@gmail.com

i may luck out.

i got a portfolio by the way; :lol:

Single and Happy

February 17th, 2014
5:03 pm

Mrs SC did you understand what I was trying to say

disco

February 17th, 2014
5:04 pm

ex – I almost typed “close but no cigar” except that you aren’t even close. lol. I don’t profess to know you but I don’t think you’d be my type. I think you’d get on my nerves more than anything. you surely can’t get it on with someone who gets on your dang nerves.

Single and Happy

February 17th, 2014
5:07 pm

Disco, why don’t you tell us what your really think (LOL)

disco

February 17th, 2014
5:08 pm

single – it wasn’t mean spirited. just what I really think. lol.

Mrs. SexyCool

February 17th, 2014
5:09 pm

Yep. You were asking what appealed more – a guy who would always be there to help you out in a bind (no matter what kind of bind) that never had any expectations attached to that assistance. He’s just doing it because he’s got a good heart.

Or – a guy who would gladly help you out, but with an expectation as well as reminders attached to it.

For the record – ain’t nobody – male or female – checking for that second dude – someone who is doing something for you so that they can hold it over your head, expecting something in return, and throwing it up in your face.

Exiled!

February 17th, 2014
5:09 pm

you’d get on my nerves more than anything

@Disco..proly true

After spending my loot, iam usually less diplomatic..so i tend to say the truf. whats truly on my mind…..

like, after smashing i may say..ur ish aint all that! :lol:

disco

February 17th, 2014
5:11 pm

ex – you might say that and all I would do is smile and say “no refunds” or “bring your A money and I’ll bring my A game” or “it ain’t my fault you got used to a lesser grade and don’t know the good stuff when you get it”.

single – how are my comebacks? lol.

2CPTG©

February 17th, 2014
5:12 pm

thinking out loud:

December 31….hurry the up!

Single and Happy

February 17th, 2014
5:12 pm

You got it Mrs SC

Single and Happy

February 17th, 2014
5:13 pm

They’re good, Disco, but stop holding back (LOL)

Single and Happy

February 17th, 2014
5:18 pm

Mrs SC while you might not be checking for that person, sometimes some may feel that’s the only person they can call. sad but true