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Sexting before the first date?

We have all done a little flirting before the first date. Apparently some folks have taken that to another level by sending naked pictures, asking for naked pictures or getting dirty with their texts. Doing all this before the first date has even happened is the definition of “doing too much” in dating.

Seriously, you are making a boatload of assumptions by taking it there before you have spent any face time; and NO, I’m not talking to FaceTime on your smartphone! When you first meet someone, you may not be certain you even want to have a second date. Why would sexting someone that soon sound like a good idea?

Maybe I’m old school but if a guy sent me a naked picture before I wanted to see one, you go into the creep category and get that instant renaming in my phone as DON’T ANSWER DUDE.

Have any of you ever had premature sexting? Was it a deal breaker? If you want to be taken seriously, why risk it with a dirty text that is so ill timed?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

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lee

February 12th, 2014
6:39 am

I never sexting hell i would not know what to type i guess i could make something juicy up like “hey you stud muffin can’t wait to tie you down and play see if this burns, I have the candles lit” shrugs

I had one guy send me his natural picture and i told him to “have a good day” , he was like “wow really” and i was like “yes really”… he was much younger than i , i do not care for porn of any type its a big turn off for me, and if you seen one peanut you have seen them all, yours is not that special

Everyone stay safe, sounds like it is still pouring here, off to work i go..

Purple Reign

February 12th, 2014
8:53 am

It happens even before the first date is discussed sometimes and sometimes the woman initiates it. If I were to get actual naked pictures to soon it may or may not be a deal breaker. Depends on my overall thoughts on her.

YesSheIsCute

February 12th, 2014
9:01 am

Good morning everyone!

I don’t know why men feel compelled to send these types of pictures. I’m guessing because there is a market of women who want it otherwise they wouldn’t be so ready to ask for and send them. I told a guy that I was no longer interested because he sent me an unsolicited pic of his manhood. Not Cool. And DO NOT expect me to be so ready to send that either. I don’t even know you!

Celisea

February 12th, 2014
9:01 am

Why not, right? The average person…not all, but most, nowadays freely indulges in intimacy ahead of knowing the person. This is the world we live in today. Well the world other folks live in, cause I believe in standards and whatnot and bump “the times are changing.” I find it hypocritical if one (not you, Diva) can blast someone over illicit pics, but gives it up date one….IJS Let’s keep it in persective here. Folks look at you as if you’ve grown two heads if you ain’t smashing….take yesterday’s example. A drive up and down the road solely for smashing and if no smashing soon? Bump you then…IJS So, while I agree with Diva’s statement of expecting to be taken seriously, let’s not act like sending illicit pics is that far removed from having sex with folks and you don’t even know their middle name yet.

And yep, there are some dudes….still….that recognize a good woman. They may be the standard or how they’ve done it, but if you want to be taken seriously and let folks know that’s the only way you’ll roll, if they like you, they’ll wait…..trust!

So, umm yeah, get on away from me with the rachetness (i.e illicit pics). You better dang know me well, I mean weeeellll, before getting that comfy. IJS

I guess LEE is the only person on the road….hope you get there safely…

Celisea

February 12th, 2014
9:06 am

I just looked at my paystub for Friday….woo woo woo woo (said like Martin). I NEVER look early cause I already know, but I wanted to see what I’m looking like after taxes. Not bad, not bad at all. :mrgreen:

Celisea

February 12th, 2014
9:09 am

And what am I gonna do with my money? Move most to my savings :mrgreen:

2CPTG©

February 12th, 2014
9:51 am

anyone else on the playground?

Purple Reign

February 12th, 2014
9:59 am

Mighty quiet this morning.

Single & Happy

February 12th, 2014
10:06 am

Hello All

Yes I guess since you only date men, you think they are the only compelled to send these. Women send these all the time. I’m on team, do you .

Single & Happy

February 12th, 2014
10:08 am

Purp, 2c almost everyone’s off today

2CPTG©

February 12th, 2014
10:12 am

yeah Single, I see……us Floridians are here!!!!

Single & Happy

February 12th, 2014
10:15 am

2C wish I was in Fl, Key Largo to be exact :-)

YesSheIsCute

February 12th, 2014
10:45 am

@Single hmmmm interesting……

Purple Reign

February 12th, 2014
11:05 am

Singlt, I agree with you. Women do it often, they might not send a naked picture but they will sext some steamy stuff.

Leggs

February 12th, 2014
11:20 am

Power went out for about 10 mins just as I was cooking breakfast. I ran and put on my long johns top and bottom. Thankful it came right back on. Now, I have no cable connection. It could be worse.

I have had plenty ask for those type pics, but I would never oblige. I’ve never received penis pics (so very thankful). Had a friend that wanted to show me her pics sent by her suitors. Had to let her know I wasn’t interested in looking at strange D.

Good morning.

Leggs

February 12th, 2014
11:31 am

Anybody still here?

Single & Happy

February 12th, 2014
11:31 am

Leggs, ran to get your long johns (LMAO)

2CPTG©

February 12th, 2014
11:38 am

Leggs, I’m still here…..call kimmie, and see if she’s recovered from last night….and Slim…

Leggs

February 12th, 2014
11:43 am

Single ~ nothing like being in a cold house. NYers always have a pair of long johns tucked in the back of their drawers. Yes sir, grabbed those and blankets. Glad I didn’t have to use them. Now, if only I had some TV to watch.

Single & Happy

February 12th, 2014
11:46 am

Leggs, I have long johns and I’ve never been to NY, I was just laughing at you running to get them because the power went out (LOL) does your power go out often and stay out long?

Leggs

February 12th, 2014
11:54 am

Power doesn’t go out often, but with all the ice on the wires, I’m not surprised. I cannot stand being cold and a house w/o heat gets cold quickly.

Single & Happy

February 12th, 2014
11:57 am

Leggs I feel you there (LOL)

Leggs

February 12th, 2014
12:03 pm

And my johns are right here by my side in case I have to put them back on (lol).

Leggs

February 12th, 2014
12:04 pm

Ummm, doesn’t read right without the word “long” in front.

Single & Happy

February 12th, 2014
12:07 pm

until you pointed it out, I didn’t even notice it.

Leggs

February 12th, 2014
12:08 pm

But back on topic, why would someone want to start sexting before a first date. Doesn’t that set the tone for what’s wanted rather quickly?? What happened to getting to know someone, their thoughts, beliefs, aspirations before sex even comes to the table? The world is moving too fast and those jumping on the bandwagon usually get bruised trying to jump back off. Slow down people.

Single & Happy

February 12th, 2014
12:11 pm

Leggs, with this day of technology, everyone wanting to share everything with everybody to make themselves feel important. Everyone is jumping on some bandwagon.

Leggs

February 12th, 2014
12:14 pm

I suppose. Social media is a BEAST!

Single & Happy

February 12th, 2014
12:19 pm

Leggs, not just social media, but media all together, I mean wth is trending, what does # mean? they report it, and those that didn’t know about it start doing it. The only people that get bruised by it are the ole skool people for this generation, and the next, sexting and other things that we find objectionable will be the norm

Purple Reign

February 12th, 2014
12:22 pm

Leggs, check your email. I’m going to send you your first penis picture. The rules don’t apply since we aren’t going out on a date. If the picture looks like a horse penis, it’s because it is. LOL( for the record I can’t recall ever sending a picture of my penis to any one, shirtless yes sexual organs no)

into the Light

February 12th, 2014
12:24 pm

Afternoon, all.

Purple Reign

February 12th, 2014
12:24 pm

Afternoon, ITL

Into the Light

February 12th, 2014
12:25 pm

Purp, you been in the animal husbandry book (illustrated version) again?!! :lol:

Into the Light

February 12th, 2014
12:26 pm

@Leggs: Did you get a bottle of Amarula to try??? I thought of you and Sassy on Saturday as I was drinking my coffee and wondered if you had tried it yet.

Leggs

February 12th, 2014
12:30 pm

Good afternoon, ITL.

Single ~ yes, all media. When did the # sign become hastag? Why?

Purple ~ Thanks, but I’ve seen how endowed a horse is (lolol).

Leggs

February 12th, 2014
12:33 pm

No TV, so I’m going to watch Walter Mitty then Lone Survivor.

Into the Light

February 12th, 2014
12:34 pm

Totally random: I had the craziest dream last night…..I dreamed I was stuck in the snow and a long=-ago ex had to come rescue me. Only instead of taking me home, he took me to his house WITH HIS WIFE AND KIDS! Oddly enough, only a month or so ago, I dreamed that he and I were at a conference together and ended up, um,. yeah….. Wonder why he is on my mind so much….

Celisea

February 12th, 2014
12:35 pm

Orlando Bloom is soooooo sexy….mmm mmm mmm

Into the Light

February 12th, 2014
12:39 pm

Argh. I’m just about TV’d out. I’ve got cabin fever already, and our office will be closed tomorrow, too. *sigh*

Leggs

February 12th, 2014
12:40 pm

He may be on your mind cuz you’re possibly horny and miss his touch? One month ago you guys ended up doing the do and now you find out he’s married with children. Perhaps your mind wants you to be the wife w/kids.

Single & Happy

February 12th, 2014
12:50 pm

ITL it’s this weather, makes the hormones go crazy

Leggs, I’m still trying to figure out what it means (LOL)

Into the Light

February 12th, 2014
12:50 pm

LOL@Leggs. Maybe you’re right.

Where is everyone today???

Into the Light

February 12th, 2014
12:51 pm

Hey Stamps! you working today, or home all cozy and warm?

Leggs

February 12th, 2014
12:54 pm

From what I’ve seen thus far, The Secret Life of Walter Mitty may be a waste of my time. I’m going to give it a little more time to capture my interest.

Single & Happy

February 12th, 2014
12:54 pm

ITL I’m home :-)

Into the Light

February 12th, 2014
12:56 pm

I’ve been having a Murder She Wrote marathon. I don’t know what it is about that show, but I just love it. Always have.

I think I’m going to cook some lunch. Cajun chicken sausages with grilled zucchini and tomato sauce over rice. Yeah, that sounds good to me. :)

Into the Light

February 12th, 2014
12:57 pm

@Stamps: Did you put the TP on the holder, or you still putting it on the edge of the tub? :lol:

Single & Happy

February 12th, 2014
12:58 pm

It’s on the holder right now, but when it runs out probably go back to the tub.

Leggs

February 12th, 2014
1:00 pm

Has anybody seen this crazy movie? What is it about besides a love interest he fantasizes about? Is he a mad scientist? Is he like Underdog that goes into telephone booth and saves his city, or Superman eradicating evil in Gotham City. Wait, that’s Batman.

Leggs

February 12th, 2014
1:01 pm

Bask in it being on the holder, bask in. You’ll love it, I’ll guarantee it (lolol).