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Dilemma: We have a texting problem

I know we have collectively decided as a society that text messaging is a completely acceptable form of communication. Somehow we think is it fine to deliver bad news, be romantic, or even break up with someone in a text message. Yeah, can we go back and vote on this again?

You can’t replace verbal communication because there is nothing like hearing a man’s voice asking to see you and spend time with you. It’s just the best feeling that can spark chemistry instantly! So why are so many people happy to use texting in it’s place?

I know a young lady who is seeing someone new who insists of texting all their important conversations. She protested at first but now she adapted and is missing those actual conversations by phone or better yet face to face.

Would it be unfair to ask the person you are dating to limit the text messages you two exchange?

Do you think texting when you are in the early stages of dating brings you closer or impedes the relationship?

Has texting ever been an issue for you? How did you resolve it?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

260 comments Add your comment

lee

February 4th, 2014
6:48 am

Good Morning,

It used to be romanic for a man to write you a letter, remember them? now we have text messages shrugs sign of the times.. anything important or you feel important should be done verbal. Some people do not like talking on the phone I am one of them, dang it i talk on the phone all day at work last thing i want to do is spend hours on it after work.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
7:42 am

Hey everyone

Yep it’s a sign of the times. While I’ve been told it’s a cowards way to break up anyway other than in person, people have been doing it forever (dear john letters). Now if I’m breaking up with you, do you really think I care how you feel about the way I do it?

Do you think texting when you are in the early stages of dating brings you closer or impedes the relationship? it does neither, what’s wrong texting to say “I love you, I miss you, what do you want for dinner? bring something home” everyone isn’t able to answer the phone every time it ring, which is a another issue with the introduction of cell phone, people think you’re supposed to answer every time it rings!!

Has texting ever been an issue for you? How did you resolve it? easy, I call them!!

“I know a young lady who is seeing someone new who insists of texting all their important conversations. She protested at first but now she adapted and is missing those actual conversations by phone or better yet face to face.” evidently she hasn’t adapted if she miss it enough to say something to you about it.

YesSheIsCute

February 4th, 2014
7:44 am

Top Ten Reasons People Enter Into/Participate in Textationships:

1. use it as a way to keep in contact during a hectic schedule
2. are not good at verbal communication
3. don’t actually want/like to verbally communicate
4. use it as a way of flirting
5. use it as a way of being more forthcoming, bold, blunt, less shy, etc.
6. use it as a way of communicating bad messages/sensitive subject
7. keep distance in communicating
8. keep in contact with someone you really don’t want to keep in contact with for the sake argument (of being able to say you kept in contact)
9. nothing better to do/bored
10. find texting fun more fun than talking (some people actually do)

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
7:57 am

Morning Robert, oh wait that was yes, sorry (LOL)

Exiled

February 4th, 2014
8:23 am

Maybe Yes and Robbie are now hunchin’! :lol:

…you never know folks with the way the blog goes round. :lol:

On topic:

There are times when texting is appropriate and others, when it’s not.

Just depends.

To woo some gal…I don’t know but I think verbal is da best.

But I know the young females don’t mind a dude texting;’hey shawty,can we hang out sometimes?’
They regard that as more cool.

I guess some of us are now Old geezers! I would not use that method on a nice mature lady!

For a fwb type relationship?; ‘I wanna smash today,ur place or mine?’
..nice,quick,short and derty text!

That’s appropriate! :lol:

Good morning MIA!

Button

February 4th, 2014
8:29 am

Would it be unfair to ask the person you are dating to limit the text messages you two exchange? Yes, I would think so, bc for the other person texting might be the only way they can send a quick note. Plus you’re dating so obviously you knew this person is a texter. If texting is the ONLY form of communicating then that would be a huge problem and we would talk about limiting the text messages.

Do you think texting when you are in the early stages of dating brings you closer or impedes the relationship? Impedes it, at least for me it would. For some texting is done from day 1 and it’s acceptable.

Has texting ever been an issue for you? Not really, only problem I had with texting was those chain texts and those early morning texts from dudes that I just met.

YesSheIsCute

February 4th, 2014
8:43 am

Now to answer the questions:

I don’t feel it is unfair to limit the texting. There are times when texting is appropriate (i.e. in a library, in a setting where they cannot talk, sensitive conversation, etc). Sometimes it is fun to have a text conversation. But it is annoying when all people want to do is text as the only form of communication. Wise Diva’s friend just needs to kick him to the curb and move on to someone who she is compatible with. There are guys that prefer phone communication over text. I haven’t met any…but I’m sure there are some out there.

disco

February 4th, 2014
8:44 am

Good morning.

If you are a texter dating a texter then more power to the both of you. if you are one and dating the other I figure the best solution (if the refuse to adjust and adapt) is for the non-texter to either block texts or ignore them completely. Unless they are incredibly slow they will soon realize you aren’t getting the message. lol.

Ex – for some reason when I read your post about verbally wooing a woman I thought “but what if dude stutters”. Lol.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
8:45 am

Hello Yes, my name is single! :-D

disco

February 4th, 2014
8:45 am

I think some people like the text communication just so they have physical confirmation of words. This is why texting keeps up so much mess. Folks show them around and forward them. say it and you can always deny saying it. text it and you can TRY to say someone else had your phone but that ploy is not likely to work.

Button

February 4th, 2014
9:21 am

Yes , they are out there, far few and between but they’re out there. It tickles me to see the way much older generation texting. LOL I guess somethings are addictive.

Button

February 4th, 2014
9:22 am

disco – a good way to use against a person. can’t deny it via text.

Exiled!

February 4th, 2014
9:35 am

DeeDee..naDeee ughDisco!….imamaa reaaally feeling Uuuuuu?

@Disco

2CPTG©

February 4th, 2014
9:35 am

like Ex said, sometimes, it’s appropriate……but, ain’ gon lie, I love a dirty text to get
things poppin……

Button

February 4th, 2014
9:48 am

There was this guy I met at a salsa dance club, we immediately hit it off. The vibe was flowing. He asked for my number, I gave it to him. He texted me later that night. I ignored the text. He texted me again the next day agian I ignored it. After recieving a slew of text from him I replied back telling him catch a clue. Well he didn’t and continued to text until he finally stopped after about a week of texting me. I refused to start talking to him via text although he was FINE as wine I just couldn’t.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
9:49 am

Somehow we think is it fine to deliver bad news, be romantic, or even break up with someone in a text message. – It’s cowardly to break up with someone via text.

Would it be unfair to ask the person you are dating to limit the text messages you two exchange? – Not at all. I do not want to carry on an entire conversation via texting. I desire to hear the tone of your voice, the emotion behind the words, the sincerity in your voice. Texting is cool to convey short thoughts or reminders, not full blown conversations.

Good morning.

disco

February 4th, 2014
9:50 am

button – I guess I dodged a bullet by completely blocking texts. I’ve met countless guys, given them my number, don’t hear from them. run into them later only to have them say they texted me. later for them.

disco

February 4th, 2014
9:52 am

leggs – your post made me think of the sex/city post it episode. I guess dude gets creativity points for breaking up on a post it. lol.

Button

February 4th, 2014
10:01 am

I would never want to recieve or give bad news via text. As for breaking up via text, well it depends on the lenght of the relationship and besides if texting was our only way of communicating then breaking up via text is where it’s at.

disco

February 4th, 2014
10:03 am

button – re bad news by text. I had a death in the family. Received a few phone calls about it but you know how some folks are more reliable than others. before I had a chance to check with other sources to confirm the information my son said “it’s on facebook. It’s official”. I had to laugh.

Button

February 4th, 2014
10:03 am

disco – I can’t block text, actually I wouldn’t want to bc of the much need for it throughtout my day. In the past I would tell a guy I’m not a texter and that dude would still text. Some dudes just don’t listen. smh

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
10:07 am

disco ~ I would go to my now ex with that post it and shove up his nostrils (lol). I’m kidding…

disco

February 4th, 2014
10:08 am

button – depending on your phone / provider you can either block them all, block specific numbers or limit incoming only to your contacts. You have options.

Button

February 4th, 2014
10:09 am

disco – Ain’t it true! facebook has confirmed lots of death.

Button

February 4th, 2014
10:22 am

being romantic via text, I can dig it. I like recieving those luvy duvy text.

2CPTG©

February 4th, 2014
10:24 am

I like recieving those luvy duvy text

shoot me one first……and I’ll reciprocate

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
10:24 am

I luv them too, Button. Only catch, I’d like to hear them in person as well. If that’s the only way one can be romantic, we have a problem.

disco

February 4th, 2014
10:26 am

button / leggs – meanwhile I’m the chick thinking “mmmm hmmmm. He probably just sent that to every chick in his phone”.

2C – are you getting any hits from your blog solicitations? Just curious. December 31 will be here before you know it.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
10:32 am

Leggs, what’s a good way to break up when it’s unexpected?

Button/Disco, how facebook confirm deaths (LOL)

disco

February 4th, 2014
10:36 am

single – my post was just to represent how much (and how quickly) folks love to broadcast information. Also, how quickly some folks (in this case my son) are quick to look for said broadcasted information. lol.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
10:37 am

Single ~ I can’t say what’s a good way. It all depends on the emotional maturity of the person you’re breaking up with. If s/he is known for tantrums, over the phone should work. If s/he is known for punching your lights out, over the phone should work. If s/he is known for damaging property, over the phone should work.

It depends on the psychosis of the person you’re breaking up with (lol).

2CPTG©

February 4th, 2014
10:37 am

disco….these blog gals know it’s just fun and games (for the most part, anyway)……it’s them gals lurking in the shadows…. :shock:

but umm……keep playin’ wit me, I’mma mess ’round and meet you at that lil gas station/hang-out/lunch counter, that’s in every hood in America, and be waitin on yo ass, and call you by yo name!

disco

February 4th, 2014
10:39 am

2C – I’m not sure how that sounds. Flattering? Stalkerish? How did you mean it? lol.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
10:39 am

Disco, most of the time it’s without finding out the facts, while I have found out some folks have died on facebook, most of the time it’s because folks are giving out their condolences, and I go some where that I can find out for fact if it’s true. Now how about a friend of mine that’s been dead for 2 years still posts from time to time (LOL)

Button

February 4th, 2014
10:41 am

Leggs/disco – see I’on even think like that. If we are in a relationship why would I even give a thought to who else is he texting this too?

2C – when I see you Imma ^&*&^%#&*( to you and surp it up!

Exiled!

February 4th, 2014
10:41 am

like recieving those luvy duvy text

..hoiw bout the m0rning after texts….”babe..that was off da chain last nite..my lower back is tingly, u da best!”

disco

February 4th, 2014
10:43 am

button – because many men have been in simultaneous relationships and many women have been sitting back not realizing that their man was in simultaneous relationships. lol.

2CPTG©

February 4th, 2014
10:44 am

disco, all in love, lil mama….I don’t stalk nann female….no need to…..but take it as a compliment, tho…

2CPTG©

February 4th, 2014
10:45 am

Button….you did say yo booty still clap when smacked, right? just trynna get a visual…..you know how to look back at it?

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
10:46 am

Button ~ I never said I thought that. That was all disco.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
10:48 am

Leggs, isn’t texting over the phone (LOL)

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
10:50 am

Disco, you need to trust a little bit more :-D

Button

February 4th, 2014
10:52 am

Leggs – my bad, then I’ll say this – yes hearing it in person is all good too! getting it via text randomly is all good.

disco – can’t forget the ladies, shoot there are some ladies having simultaneous relationships too. lol ie DNA who’s the baby daddy!?

Exiled – man those are the boom in da morning text…confirming what I already know lol

disco

February 4th, 2014
10:54 am

single – what makes you say that? I think I trust sufficiently. I just don’t put much past folks. lol.

button – of course. i’ll let the men worry about the ladies in simultaneous relationships especially since depending on the level of the relationship a lot of men likely won’t care too much anyway.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
10:56 am

Good point, Single (lol). HUSH!

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
10:57 am

Disco, trust enough to feel like your’e the only one until evidence, (real evidence not your gut) shows other wise.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
10:59 am

Legg, of all my breakups, where they were in person, over the phone, by letter or text, none of them were in the best situation whether it was me giving, or getting the bad news. So a text might be better, then you want have to see or hear me cry (LOL)

disco

February 4th, 2014
11:00 am

single – technology changed the game. Sure before all the gadgetry a brother could mack but calling each and every chick and running his lines was time consuming (he had to be sitting somewhere at a phone hoping she was somewhere sitting at a phone at the same time). Typing the lines once and sending it out in one blast is a lick. Dude can now juggle more efficiently. He can better gauge receptiveness and interest (based on speed/ frequency / context of replies). He can then use the data collected to determine where best to place his “real time” efforts.

single – I’ve explained before that I trust people to do what I expect of them. now my expectations vary from person to person. Besides, don’t act like “trust” ain’t game. I know. lol.

Button

February 4th, 2014
11:04 am

disco – I’m not big on trust either. I’ve said it countless times that I trust no one but at the same time I’m not going to beat myself up over what someone else does, might do or will do. Heck we’re all capable of doing things to other people whether intentional or not. Heck we’re only human born to make mistakes. hmm that’s my favorite song. When i used get a text from a guy that last thing I will did was wonder who else did he send this to. I know at valentines day he sent it to all the ladies. lol

Button

February 4th, 2014
11:07 am

the word trust should be tossed out the window.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
11:08 am

Disco, if someone keeps saying trust me then it’s game (LOL) Also technology is what gets most of these so call players caught, don’t know how to delete text, sends multiple texts, but forget to make it where the receiver can’t see who else you sent them too or reply only to you, don’t know how do delete pictures, pocket dials, or having your phone next to the bed while you’re smashing the other chick and she hits redial, should I go on (LOL)

Button

February 4th, 2014
11:09 am

disco – @ 11:00 you put a lot of thought into this lol j/k

YesSheIsCute

February 4th, 2014
11:09 am

Wow this conversation went south real quick

disco

February 4th, 2014
11:09 am

button – really that’s my argument against text messages in general not just as they relate to men and/or relationships. I hate the notion of getting a generic azz random azz message sent to everybody. Folks have told me they texted me holiday greetings or birth announcements or whatever (naturally I didn’t get the message – lol). I asked a cousin for a pic of her baby and she had the nerve to refer me to facebook. I told her I would not be mailing a baby gift until she sent me pictures personally. Wish I would get a facebook account just to see a baby. Please. She sent me pics. lol.

Button

February 4th, 2014
11:10 am

Single/disco – folks been cheating, two timing way before text/cell phone been around.

disco

February 4th, 2014
11:12 am

button – yeah. I think about random stuff like that all the time. a benefit of my pessimistic nature.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
11:13 am

Disco, even though I do text, and face book, there are certain people that I will always call to say happy birthday or any other announcement too.

YesSheIsCute

February 4th, 2014
11:14 am

@Single and Happy I had someone send me a pic of him talking about this is for you but had it as a group message to other numbers in various area codes. I sure did reply to all and said nice pic Bryan. LOL I started to write nice pic Brandon instead but I figured the reply all was enough. They just don’t know how to put those thinking caps on sometimes.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
11:15 am

Button, yes they have, but technology has made it easier to catch them, especially with all these spy apps, gps and other things.

Button

February 4th, 2014
11:15 am

disco – I get it, well as it’s been said to me numerous of times to get with the program or be left behind scammbling(sp) lol

I feel you though regarding text if it’s not for you it’s not for you. Not everyone is into texting every doggone thing. Some ppl live breath eat text. my only qualm is those forsaken chain text, it grates my nerve!

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
11:17 am

Yes I had those mass text, if you reply back then you start getting all these text asking who you are (LOL)

Button

February 4th, 2014
11:18 am

Sinlge – and before technology they went the old fashion way and either followed the perp or hire a PI.

I like the show Cheaters.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
11:19 am

Button, with invention of Facebook, I don’t get the chain text, or emails anymore. Now every thing is lets see if you will re-post this (NOT!!)

disco

February 4th, 2014
11:19 am

yes – see that text right there would have given me an attitude TWICE. lol.

single – yet there are so many dopes out there who still get duped. smdh.

actually I didn’t “hate” texting back in the day. I think I was cool when it was pay per text because usage was minimal. When free texting became the norm folks lost their daggone minds and I had to nip it in the bud. I found out quick that you can’t ask people not to text you.

Exiled!

February 4th, 2014
11:19 am

Disco…that 11:00 am, first paragraph, explains why u’re single,not attached and why ur Red neon sign reads,”Free to mix and mingle,Holla!”…:

ur explained the game and shows u so hip to it! :lol:

Exiled!

February 4th, 2014
11:21 am

@Button…11:09..i hadnt even read ur post..

u got it on Disco.. :lol:

nobody is gon catch Disco..trust!

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
11:22 am

Button, I get a laugh off cheaters sometimes, but if you got to hire a PI or call cheaters, you arse already know what’s going on, why not just leave. which most on that show don’t do even after “catching them”. Also, in the big city sometimes it’s a little hard to “follow the perp”. Now all I have to do is call and ask you where your at while sitting there looking at you (LOL)

disco

February 4th, 2014
11:24 am

ex – it’s as simple as that huh? go figure. lol. folks ask me all the time why I’m single. Now I know to respond “because I’m hip to the game”.

I think more of why I’m single is based on the fact that I don’t like a lot of people and a lot of people don’t like me. that decreases the odds on both ends. A guy summed it up years ago by saying I was one of those people you either like or you don’t. there’s generally no in between with me.

Button

February 4th, 2014
11:36 am

Single – dudes and dudettes are straight up busted! lol

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
11:37 am

Morning Gang!

Yes, running relationships via text is a sign of the times. Some things never change though. If you want something to really pop off, you gotta put in that face-to-face time, and preferably set that time up via telephone conversation. I just don’t see total, actual plans being made via text, but I guess it happens. I personally would not accept a date via text or carry on an entire “conversation” via text. Again, I get some folks do, it just wouldn’t be me. Some men do it and some women are accepting of it. Shrugs

Texts are great for quick confirmation of things, like a time or address, or a “hey stuck in traffic, but be there in 10 minutes”, that stuff. A flirty, even dirty text within an established relationship is nice.

Would it be unfair to ask the person you are dating to limit the text messages you two exchange?

I don’t see how it’s ever unfair to ask for what you want in a relationship! If you would like less texts and more one-on-one, more back rubs, more dinners at home, more sex, more etc, the other person cannot read your mind. Open up your mouth and ask for what you want. They have the option of saying yes, no or making a counter offer!

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
11:38 am

I used to love watching Cheaters until the rumors started spreading that most of the show is fake, they hired actors, the scene when Joey Grecko (whatever his name is) was stabbed on the boat and thrown overboard was staged, I became suspect. HOWEVER, I like to be entertained and some of those scenes are hysterical. Sorry, I love a good fight. I especially liked the one when wifey found her hubby taking a canoe ride with her best friend. That one was funny watching her roll up on them in a canoe. I’m laughing remembering it.

Button

February 4th, 2014
11:40 am

disco – I bet underneath all that rough shod is a sweet lady yearning for affection probably burst at the seams if a guy winked and blew a kiss at you from across the room.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
11:40 am

“I don’t see how it’s ever unfair to ask for what you want in a relationship!” Excellent point. If you’re feeling some kind of way about something be true to yourself and speak up. Too many go with the flow because they don’t want to come across as pesky, needy, hard to please, etc. SPEAK UP PEOPLE!

disco

February 4th, 2014
11:41 am

I’ve never watched cheaters. Heard about it a lot though. primarily from the friend who claims she watches tv based on where she is in her life. Her line up was something like this: we’re having a baby. whose wedding is it anyway. cheaters. divorce court. lol.

Button

February 4th, 2014
11:42 am

Leggs- yes they are fake just like wrestling but entertaining.

disco

February 4th, 2014
11:42 am

button – I’m nice enough. Only called sweet by the little old lady set. A wink is just creepy and a kiss from across the room would not be very well received either. I’d probably think it corny.

Button

February 4th, 2014
11:44 am

disco – hmmm sounds like reality for some lol first you have a baby then get married somebody cheats and then divorce lol

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
11:45 am

Heeeey, where’s my post

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
11:45 am

“…probably burst at the seams if a guy winked and blew a kiss at you from across the room.” – the visual cracked me up. Naw, that’s not happening with disco. I immediately thought of Felix the Cat with that brick of hers (rofl).

Button

February 4th, 2014
11:45 am

disco – lol imma call you ruff and tuff wit ya afro puff rock on witya bad self.

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
11:46 am

On topic: Never mind…lol I’m not retyping what’s pretty much already been said.

probably burst at the seams if a guy winked and blew a kiss at you from across the room I believe we call this “googly eyed.” LOLOLOL Or misreading, perhaps wishing?? LOLOL

Button

February 4th, 2014
11:47 am

Leggs – disco just have’nt met the right guy yet. She has a tuff exterior/persona but inside she’s puddy.

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
11:48 am

Googly eyed gal :mrgreen: Riiiiigggghhhhhttttt

Button

February 4th, 2014
11:49 am

at least 2C has a chance —2C are you crossing out the days on your calendar for your chance with disco?

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
11:50 am

As for Cheaters being fake, I always thought quite a bit of it was staged. It’s so cheesy. But when I really want a laugh, I watch it!LOL!!

I actually assume most things on tv are fake or staged to a certain point. Even some news is edited to be conveyed a “certain” way.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
11:50 am

“…and a kiss from across the room would not be very well received either. I’d probably think it corny.” – Me too. I would feel some kind of way about that. His usual m.o., wouldn’t find that attractive coming from a stranger.

Button ~ no doubt. I think you post might have been better if you said she’s pudding inside and not puddy (lolololol). Whew, that was funny!

disco

February 4th, 2014
11:51 am

button – trust. I’m tough inside too. therein lies the real problem. since I’m not going to be or pretend to be less tough I need a man who is tough enough. They hard to find. there are some punk azz men out here. lol. then I find men try to be/act tougher thinking that’s going to get them somewhere with me. they don’t even understand the strength it takes to deal with me. I’m a self-confirmed piece of work.

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
11:53 am

then I find men try to be/act tougher thinking that’s going to get them somewhere with me. they don’t even understand the strength it takes to deal with me.

That’s cause they thought they read “googly eyed.” ,

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
11:55 am

or even putty (lol).

disco

February 4th, 2014
11:56 am

Like 20 years ago a cousin predicted that I was going to be that mean little old lady that scared all the neighborhood kids. talking about I’d have a backyard full of balls because the kids would be scared to retrieve them. yeah. She got jokes.

Button

February 4th, 2014
12:05 pm

Leggs – puddy pudding putty either one will do.

Leggs – now you know darn well if a good looking guy were to do that you’d be all gooshy. stawp playing lol

disco – yes it’s hard out there meeting presentable men but it’s not impossible. They are out there but with a jacked up attitude or to have that spirit of negativity always spewing from your pores will repel the good guys. Not telling you how to conduct yourself but to be a self professed “piece of work” is not going to get you very far, mof nowhere. You have a sharp mind and quick wit with a cool sense of humor maybe turning the piece of work tude to a piece of jewel might be a good thing.

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
12:06 pm

Off topic:

I don’t know if anyone heard The Bert Show, but it was hiiiilarious, they mimicked last night’s Bachelor episode. I mean they had Juan Pablo to a tee! I guessing that was Bert. Juan was smooching and feeling some chick up. I missed that part, but I was channel surfing when he was apparently rethinking his actions and talked with her in private. He told that chick that it was wrong (whatever went down as his daughter might have been watching and that he needs to keep fair to the other ladies and not do that kind of thing again.

I was laughing sooo hard. When I looked at the car next to me, they were looking at me laughing just as hard. I think we were both listening to Bert. Hiiilarious!! Kristen usually grates on my nerves, but she was spot on today, in playing that chicks part…sobbing and going on. ON NATIONAL TV OVER A DUDE THAT AIN’T YOUR MAN, THAT A GAZILLION WOMEN ARE FIGHTING OVER!!

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
12:10 pm

Button ~ seriously, I wouldn’t. I’ve been blown kisses many times, it does nothing for me coming from strange men.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
12:11 pm

Wait, Celisea. Are you saying she was crying because he wouldn’t continue to smooch and feel her up? She wanted him to sex her and he wouldn’t and she’s crying???

disco

February 4th, 2014
12:14 pm

button – a lot of people share your perspective. I say, changing me will not change them. what’s out there is out there. btw, I didn’t say it was impossible to meet men or that there weren’t good guys. I think I said that there were a lot of punk azz men out there. that’s the truth whether I’m positive, negative, mean, nice, pleasant or stank acting.

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
12:16 pm

Leggs, apparently there were in the ocean getting hot and heavy, on a group date. I guess they got a few minutes away. Well, some time later, I guess she thought everything was cool or got her a few cool points and he went left. She was taken aback, you could tell. He was like, “ummm, we shouldn’t have done what we did, my daughter might have been watching, plus it’s not fair to the other ladies”, I guess to steal away. Boy, she reacted that he gut punched her.

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
12:18 pm

I didn’t see the whole smoothing scene. But from Kristen and Bert, and the post convo I saw, I’m pretty sure that’s what went down.

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
12:18 pm

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
12:25 pm

Hmmm, she realized she’s not no where near being #1 because he’s looking out for the interests of the other ladies and his daughter. Stop that damn crying because you decided to get on a show and vie for the affections of a man along with 800 other women.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
12:25 pm

Dang disco twin, I’m that old man hollering you kids get off my grass (LOL)

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
12:27 pm

Exactly. Bert ‘nem called her all kinds of dumb bots

disco

February 4th, 2014
12:27 pm

single – and like I said, my cousin said this a long time ago. If nothing else, I’m consistent. lol.

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
12:29 pm

I’ll be happy happy happy when we have a new hire for this third portfolio. I have my nose to the grind. Uuuugh, back to work. I can’t steal but a few dern minutes away.

At least they’ve narrowed it down to a few final applicants, from what I hear….yaaaay!

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
12:34 pm

I got it….them chicks on the Bachelor are what? GOOGLY EYED!!!

:mrgreen: I like that, googly eyed. Did this word derive from Google? Things that make you say hmmm

I’m gone back to work….later hahahahaha

2CPTG©

February 4th, 2014
12:40 pm

Button, hell nah, ain’ crossin’ off no days waitin on disco…..shiiiiid…..hell ain’ nobody confirmed whether she’s even worthy…she could be blowing smoke for all we know….

SexyCool

February 4th, 2014
12:42 pm

M is a texter. It doesn’t bother me one bit.

I know someone that managed his rotation via text message. He would start his day off copy/pasted the same “good morning” message to his current roster.

Button

February 4th, 2014
12:54 pm

disco – yup there are some punk ass out here for sure even on Mars. lol

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
1:01 pm

Googly eyed existed way before Google.

Exiled

February 4th, 2014
1:06 pm

Disco…if u ever go to the gyno ask him..just confirm this..a good D on the regular is kinda like a glass of wine err now and then.
Good for your blood pressure and emotions.

When they say ABW.more often than not;
she got No man
she got baby daddy,child support issues
She ain’t got D in a while
Her money short
Her job ain’t good
Some of her friends got men,she jealous,won’t admit it
Her car note is due
Her cable is off
Her lights got cut

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
1:11 pm

Yeah, I know….

Cause somebody smile or respond nicely to you, don’t mean they’re googly eyed. Y’all know how dudes say when a man is nice some women think they want them. Well, this is what I’m saying. Cause someone respond, don’t mean they’re ready to give up the drawers…..lololol IJS Dudes though (I know) that keep their radar us cause they think they got it like that or they think women are just so quick and easy, are often misguided. Misreading friendly or having fun for googly eyes is coming from a place of wishfullly hoping, from within

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
1:12 pm

How did I get on googly eyes? Oh, I know….from a post earlier. Sort of took me there

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
1:13 pm

What’s ABW?

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
1:22 pm

I thought a black woman?

Exiled

February 4th, 2014
1:24 pm

folks whose car windows won’t open and have to open the door to get their order..they crack me up! :lol:

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
1:25 pm

Okay, gotcha

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
1:26 pm

or angry black woman…

Exiled

February 4th, 2014
1:28 pm

Angry black woman

MsAtl

February 4th, 2014
1:32 pm

Afternoon All

Can’t stay long. Massah is still behind me with the whip!

While there is nothing wrong with “some” texting, I would not want that to be our primary means of communication.

Exiled

February 4th, 2014
1:36 pm

Massah….behind with the Whip?

Ouuuuch….in a sexy nice way!
…u home?

Enjoy! :lol:

@MsAtl..

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
1:36 pm

LOLOLOLOLOL…..Lawd

I’m gone for real. Thanks, I needed that laugh

MsAtl

February 4th, 2014
1:45 pm

Ex- Lol. I wish! No, work has exploded. I haven’t even been on the site since before our snow storm. On a good note, my argument in the Georgia Supreme Court went well.

Robert

February 4th, 2014
1:50 pm

I can only speak for myself. I do not “text”. I act like a “grown man” not like a little boy still playing with toys (playstation, Xbox, facebook, etc.). Real men do not text. I hate to see grown men texting other men just to say “what’s up”? Texting was invented for women who do not have anything better to do with their free time or fingers. With my free time I would rather read a book and relax.

Why would a man want to give away his “power” by texting all the time just like he is a woman? I will call my woman on the phone and tell her – Baby I a on my way – please fix me something to eat. lol…

Exiled

February 4th, 2014
1:51 pm

:lol: :lol:

Get them MsAtl!

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
1:53 pm

Why would a man want to give away his “power” by texting all the time just like he is a woman? I HAVE THE POWER

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
1:54 pm

So it really wasn’t the hair that did Samson in, it was his texting (LMAO)

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
1:57 pm

“Real men do not text.” – So not true! “I hate to see grown men texting other men just to say “what’s up”? – How do you know that? Why are you reading their texts?

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:00 pm

“Baby I a on my way” – that’s why people text, auto correct…I’m just messing with you.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:04 pm

Leggs, hell I’m surprised he said please (LOL)

Robert

February 4th, 2014
2:04 pm

@Leggs – “Real men do not text.” – This is true. If your man is texting he is either a “youngin” (20-30) or immature. Real Men (40-50) do not need to text unless they are trying to act like a “youngin”. You can tell a real man by how they carry themselves (walk, talk, act, etc.).

I hate to see couples on a date and both are on the phone texting. If I was on a date and my woman pulled out her phone to text she better have a good reason (childcare, etc.). My woman has never seen me on my phone texting. If she did she would wonder what is wrong with me?

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:09 pm

“Real men do not text.” – This is true. – Again, this is not true. Everyone, except you texts. Not talking about carrying on a convo, but sending a quick text is definitely done by the average bear. You’ve let us know you’re not average so it’s nice to meet someone who doesn’t text.

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
2:10 pm

I act like a “grown man” not like a little boy still playing with toys (playstation, Xbox, facebook, etc

Leggs – :lol: Hey girl, you know I beg to differ!!

disco

February 4th, 2014
2:10 pm

robert – if nothing else I respect your ability to remain true to yourself. lol. even with that your posts leave so much to be desired. So under 40 and over 50 men are just a waste of skin huh? those 40-50 year olds can be told by their walk even though some are starting to shuffle at that age? Is the shuffle part of what makes them real men? lol.

Robert

February 4th, 2014
2:11 pm

@Single and Happy – “Why would a man want to give away his “power” by texting all the time just like he is a woman”

The “Power” I am talking about is trust and respect. I can leave my phone on my dresser or night stand table without “fear” of my woman checking on me. I do not have a password. I want my woman to feel like there is nothing I am hiding from her in my phone.

Most of my male friends (married, unmarried) have “trust” issues with their phone. I do not want that kind of relationship. If I can not trust you to respect my privacy then you are not the woman for me.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:11 pm

“I hate to see couples on a date and both are on the phone texting.” – I hate to see this too.

“If I was on a date and my woman pulled out her phone to text she better have a good reason (childcare, etc.).” – I agree. When on a date, no need to pull out your phone, let the call go to voicemail. If the phone is blowing up, excuse yourself saying you must take this call (from a family member). Otherwise, voicemail it is. It’s rude to talk to another while out on a date with someone.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:13 pm

kimmie/Single ~ :lol: :lol: :lol: At least he uses his manners. He could have bellowed for her to bring him a sandwich.

disco

February 4th, 2014
2:13 pm

robert – just because you trust she isn’t looking doesn’t mean she isn’t looking. Some folks snoop because they are suspicious. Some snoop just because they are nosey. Some snoop by accident. Yep. By accident. Perhaps she has no intention of snooping. Needs to make a call, realizes her phone is all the way downstairs and decides to use yours since it’s right there. next thing you know….

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:15 pm

Now, that I can understand Robert re: power.

Robert

February 4th, 2014
2:17 pm

@disco – “those 40-50 year olds can be told by their walk even though some are starting to shuffle at that age?”

I am 40+ and I still can dunk a basketball with both hands. “Yougins” call me “old school”. I bet you could not carry my “jock strap”. Go back and play with your toys (playstation, Xbox, etc.). You can not handle me.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:18 pm

Umm Robert I have a password on my phone so in case I loose it, someone won’t have all my information, just like I live alone, but I have password on all my electronics that have any vital information on them. All of the women I’ve dated have never picked up my phone to try and look at anything. so I don’t have that problem.

Leggs, you’re right about that, that’s just rude, has nothing to do with being a real man or woman.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:21 pm

Uh uhh I better go play with my GI Joe, because Mr. Mature only knows how to settle things one way (REAL MAN) LMAO

disco

February 4th, 2014
2:21 pm

robert – by “you” I hope you meant those young’ins. lol.

single – no. you have a password on your phone because you are not a real man and can’t keep your women in check. whew. I’m cracking me up.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:23 pm

I am 40+ and I still can dunk a basketball with both hands – I’m cracking up because that has absolutely nothing to do with shuffling.

Exactly, Single. That’s all it boils down, rudeness!

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:24 pm

by “you” I hope you meant those young’ins. lol. – I thought the same thing because you’ll probably squash Robert making him run to the hills w/his tail tucked down tight in that jockstrap.

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
2:25 pm

Leggs, you’re right about that, that’s just rude, has nothing to do with being a real man or woman.

Single/Leggs – you are right, that’s just rude date behavior.

I’ve had to get on my kids about that. They are not allowed to bring any electronics to the dinner table, whether we are at home or out. You are supposed to give your fellow diners your full attention. That is our time together as a family. I’ve told them when they start dating to follow the same rule. If it is something important, excuse yourself of course.

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
2:27 pm

My husband is a real man and he plays Playstation and Xbox in his leisure time. Heck, he’s a lawyer, needs time to unwind, don’t want to get some book and read all the dang time!!

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:28 pm

I thought the really good dunkers use only one hand? No? Or is that a layup? :wink:

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:29 pm

Disco, I was reading this article where someone had a lot of information on their phone, and got a took it in for replacement and BestBuy I think, well they didn’t bother to wipe it, and the tech used their credit cards

“I can dunk a basketball with both hands” Hmm basketballs don’t fight back (LOL)

Robert

February 4th, 2014
2:30 pm

@disco – “just because you trust she isn’t looking doesn’t mean she isn’t looking”

That tells me she is looking for attention and I will give her a big hug and kiss to comfort her feelings. Women are emotional and need lots of reassurance.

The worst thing a man can make a woman feel is being “used” or “played” especially if she has experienced “trust” issues in her past.

Men must understand that we are “healers” and most women bring baggage into the relationship.

Relationships are “fragile” and requires “special handling”.

disco

February 4th, 2014
2:31 pm

single – basketballs don’t fight back. LMAO……

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:32 pm

Just clowning, I know the difference between a dunk and a lay up!

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
2:32 pm

Women are emotional and need lots of reassurance.

:lol: I am rolling over here!!!

2CPTG©

February 4th, 2014
2:33 pm

I see Button never answered me…..it’s cool, tho….

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:34 pm

Kimmie, that’s what my PlayStation is for,

Leggs, they use one hand and have their tongue out (LOL)

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:36 pm

That’s the picture I had in mind, Single!

disco

February 4th, 2014
2:36 pm

robert – if you think that a woman who is found rifling through your personal information simply needs a hug then you got bigger issues. chick be selling your identity on craigslist while you sitting there rubbing her feet to make her feel better. lol.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:37 pm

Disco, ordering that Prada purse, and smiling all the time (LOL)

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
2:37 pm

Single – I got news for ya. You not a real man, at least that’s what Robert says. Imma have to let my hubs know what’s up too!lol!!!

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:38 pm

Flying from half court. If you use both hands won’t you reduce your flight and fall short of the basket…ijs.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:38 pm

Kimmie, seeing as how I’m not trying to get with Robert, I guess it really doesn’t matter what he thinks (LOL)

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
2:40 pm

Single – No way I would have credit card info on a phone.

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
2:40 pm

Single – LOL!!!

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:41 pm

Same here, kimmie! My personal information is not on my phone.

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
2:42 pm

I don’t even know where my cell phone is majority of times. No passwords, minimal text messages. I figure if you can text me you can call me. I will play playstation every now and then. I hope I get to keep my man card.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:43 pm

Kimmie it’s not even the credit card, I said I never would either, but there are times I’ve needed to look at my bank information, make a transfer, pay a bill before it’s late, the little things we don’t think about and do off impulse. all that information is stored for the right person. That’s why Blackberrys are still the safest phones on the market, and why they don’t allow access to everyones apps.

disco

February 4th, 2014
2:44 pm

kimmie – go home, pop your hubs in the back of the head and tell him he’s an old janky game-playing, text messaging buster. lol.

purple – nope. not according to the rules. please relinquish your card immediately. I will pass it along to robert’s woman and she can sell it on craigslist. maybe you can buy it back?

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:44 pm

No purple, come over here and sit at the lil boys table with me.

Robert

February 4th, 2014
2:45 pm

“Men must understand that we are “healers” and most women bring baggage into the relationship”

This is the best thing that a man can do for his woman. How can a man become a “healer”?

1. Be the “Head of the Household” (get married, pay the bills)
2. Give your woman her “Power” back (trust, respect, love)
3. Don’t let technology rule your life (phone, pc, etc.)
4. Treat her like she is your “Best Friend”. (laugh, talk, play)
5. Turn off the TV, phone, pc and tablet. (Spend quality time)

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
2:47 pm

Single – Dang you are right, I have looked up bank info.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:47 pm

Purple when I’m home I’m like that, If you text me, I may not see until the next day. if my phone doesn’t ring.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:48 pm

Okay, now if you do #3 isn’t #5 irrelevant??

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
2:50 pm

single- Aww man, i’m on the way.

disco- I bet she’s head of household.

disco

February 4th, 2014
2:51 pm

1. being head of household is all good but REALLY be the head. Be the man OF the house and not just a man IN the house. even with that, single men can heal too.

2. give woman her power back? That’s assuming she had it / lost it to begin with.

3 / 5 if technology rules your life you have addiction issues. get help.

4. this one is iffy. it can be semantics. Still, I could see me at a push come to shove moment reminding dude that he is my husband NOT my friend. We have roles for a reason. my hubs has a role and my friends have another role. Dude needs to stay in his lane.

Button

February 4th, 2014
2:51 pm

2C – what was your question?

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:53 pm

Purple what game you like to play, maybe we can play together (LOL) I like the first person shooter games, don’t do sports. (LOL)

Now why can’t you do #s 1,2, and 4 and still have technology in your life? sounds like someone needs to learn how to balance THEIR life and stay out of others!!!

disco

February 4th, 2014
2:53 pm

I wonder how much a man card would go for? lol. shoot, I might buy a couple. I know a few fellas who need to man up by any means necessary.

Reio

February 4th, 2014
2:55 pm

Afternoon everybody!

Had a chance to peep in. Usually yall tombout some’n nasty by now. Maybe I peeped in too early.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:55 pm

Kimmie, that’s how a lot of people end up getting their identity stolen, they don’t think about those little things. I know people who refuse to put their credit card info online, but have no problem going to any restaurant and handing over the debit card to a stranger who disappears with it. I will only use a certain credit card when I’m not paying cash.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:58 pm

Disco, the way you go on sometimes, I thought you already had your man card (LMAO) ………………………………oh wait you said some you need to give out (LMAO)

2CPTG©

February 4th, 2014
2:59 pm

nevermind Button……

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:59 pm

Single ~ I’ve never done any of that on my phone, probably because I couldn’t. I now have a smartphone, and still will not do any of that on my phone (lolol).

Robert

February 4th, 2014
3:01 pm

@disco – “2. give woman her power back? That’s assuming she had it / lost it to begin with”

Most women are far more advanced than men are regarding relationships. Since woman are more mature and experienced than men they will make mistakes along their journey such as fall in love at an early age, kids, etc. All her emotions are turned-on (love, pain, hurt, etc.) and she will need a man who can help her to feel “loved” and regain her “Power”.

Men “lust” (20’s-30’s). Most men do not fall in love for the 1st time until they are in their late 30’s or early 40’s.

disco

February 4th, 2014
3:02 pm

single – all jokes aside, I have told more than a few men that I’m more man than they are. That’s not usually a good conversation but you can shut a brother down if he takes you there.

disco

February 4th, 2014
3:03 pm

robert – my point is that contrary to popular belief, all women are not bitter and contrary to your belief, all women are not broken.

Exiled

February 4th, 2014
3:03 pm

Purple is here?

Hey Purp!

….begs the question,’where is Durty?!’

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
3:06 pm

Single- I play first person shooters! LOL I won’t used my debit card in places where I can’t see the transaction being done.Only use the credit card for travel or equipment. “C.R.E.A.M. dollar dollar bills ya’ll!”

disco- you want your husband to be your husband and not your friend? You want a man’s man, a strong man, a man that will pick you up and put you on the wall, the jealous type,Eat the cake Anna Mae, EAT the CAKE! Just kidding..maybe. Can I have my man card back?

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
3:10 pm

Hey Exiled! Who is Durty?

Robert, do you wear glasses?

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
3:11 pm

PR ~ don’t worry about that man card. According to Robert, there aren’t any men on this blog so you’re in good company.

disco

February 4th, 2014
3:12 pm

purple – that’s why I said that one was tricky. shoot, I’ve got friends. The vows don’t say I now pronounce you friends. lol.

leggs – re those man cards. What else are the little baby boys going to put into their starter wallets?

blog gents – when y’all were kids and got that first wallet, what did you put in it?

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
3:14 pm

disco ~ bet most put a condom in it.

disco

February 4th, 2014
3:15 pm

leggs – I don’t know. I’m thinking they probably weren’t even that old yet. I bet they had little paper credit cards (that came with the wallet) and probably a couple of dollars a grandfather or uncle gave them along with the speech that a man needed to keep a couple of dollars in his pockets.

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
3:18 pm

Disco – I don’t know about other boys, but my son(13) has had many wallets and does not know what to do with them. He’ll put money in it for 5 minutes and the next thing I know the wallet is on the floor empty. Same goes for my daughter. She now uses her ipod case as a wallet – tucks money between the ipod and the case.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
3:18 pm

oops you said kids….probably a bandaid

disco

February 4th, 2014
3:20 pm

So…how old were you fellas when you got your hands on your first condom? I’m not talking when you played water balloons with them.

leggs – a band aid. That’s a good one. (some of) the blog gents are of a certain generation. They might have had baseball cards in their wallets. lol.

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
3:26 pm

Leggs, but isn’t he on the blog as well as the rest of us men?

disco

February 4th, 2014
3:28 pm

purple – the key isn’t men, it’s “REAL” men.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
3:31 pm

disco already answered (lol).

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
3:32 pm

disco- my first wallet was a plastic one at a very young age, I think it hand the Incredible Hulk or Captain America in it. I didn’t have anything in there at all except for some pennies or change I found. Once I hit 5th grade I got a real velcro wallet (trifold), had a few bucks and a picture of my parents. High school still had a velcro wallet but this time i had pictures of girls in the little plastic holders, had a condom that never got any usage. That condom stayed in there longer than the pictures.lol That lifestyle condom left a circle print in my wallet. It was cool to show off that you had a rubber in your wallet. LOL now don’t ask the circus that was the first time I tried putting a condom on. :)

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
3:34 pm

O/T: did you guys hear about the 18 year that went in for breast augmentation, wound up in a coma for 3 months and is now brain dead. She was only 18. Anybody want to read the story?

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
3:36 pm

Leggs, how did her breast turn out?

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
3:37 pm

She IS only 18….

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
3:38 pm

PR ~ don’t make me laugh, does it even matter now.

Button

February 4th, 2014
3:39 pm

Leggs – what a sad thing to happen to that girl. All for the sake of vanity. Why would an 18 yr old need breast aug? unless she has kid(s) already she should still be perky. Heck even if she has kids she can still be perky unless she’s a tear drop and didn’t like the look.

Button

February 4th, 2014
3:41 pm

or was she asymectical and wanted to lined it up. so many questions.

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
3:42 pm

Leggs, let me be clear I am not fawning over an 18 year old. I just wanted to know if the boobies turned out nice, did they complete the surgery is she brain dead with a nice rack? I mean chicks can be 18 and work at a strip club right?

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
3:42 pm

I wonder if the male nurses visit her often?

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
3:44 pm

Just found the article, she looks totally different before and after the surgery. I don’t think plastic is worth the health risk associated with it.

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
3:46 pm

Leggs – That’s sad that the surgery didn’t go well. I have a niece that at 16 wanted a reduction, but the doctor said to wait a few years after she completed puberty and fully developed. She was very large and played sports and her back was killing her. She’s now 26 and even though still curvy, she kind of grew into her chest. She is very tall and beautiful. She has not ruled out doing it down the line though.

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
3:49 pm

kimmie, this 18 year old is a mother to a little boy and from the pics in the article she seemed very loose. I think she wanted the breast for the wrong reasons.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
3:49 pm

Leggs @ your 2:59, give yourself time, you will.

Disco, used first condom, 18 after my son was born (LOL)

Purple those first person shooters release a lot of stress (LOL)

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
3:50 pm

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
3:53 pm

PR ~ never thought you were fawning. Exactly, she looks drastically different. It is so sad what happened to her.

At 18, those things are still perky. Too bad she didn’t realize that over the years she’ll grow fat and have a nice set.

Robert

February 4th, 2014
3:53 pm

@Purple Reign – “Robert, do you wear glasses?”

Who is this clown? Why? It depends on the situation (driving, etc.)

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
3:54 pm

Leggs, but all of the other fat negates the boob fat. Hispanic women blow up, they are only fine for 4-7 years max.

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
3:55 pm

The clown is the one who still answered the question….I’m in your mind now!

disco

February 4th, 2014
3:57 pm

purple – who you telling? I had a friend who got a reduction. Surgery went well. the problem was that her stomach was huge. You didn’t notice it some much when her boobs were even more huge but with the boobs gone the stomach was just out there. I wonder if doctors warn chicks about that and try to sell tummy tucks. lol.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
3:57 pm

Single ~ had to go back and read what I said at 2:59. You probably have a point there, right now, just learning how to navigate this phone. Had for one month.

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: I’m laughing at you PR because you definitely have a point. I’ve seen first hand.

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
3:58 pm

Who is this clown? Why? It depends on the situation (driving, etc.)

Blog shenanigans are unending….SMDernH

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
3:59 pm

disco, what about that below the belly fat? Is that covered in a tummy tuck? If not it should be.

Button

February 4th, 2014
4:01 pm

Purple – Hispanic women blow up, they are only fine for 4-7 years max. hmf that’s a LIE!

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
4:03 pm

Sorry, Button. Not all, but you must admit that a lot do. Wait a minute which part was a lie the 4-7 years max or the blow up part?

disco

February 4th, 2014
4:06 pm

purple – that is some nasty stuff right there. I do not know how it gets to that point but removal of that should be free of charge. it should be considered community service or something.

button – it may be a stereotype but as with most stereotypes there is some truth to it. a lot of them do not age well and part of that is because they can pack on the pounds.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
4:06 pm

Button, I was about to say the same thing, cause you have to remember Hispanic is a culture, not a race to start of with, and I’ve seen some fine a$$ older women from central america.

Button

February 4th, 2014
4:10 pm

Purple – all of it.

Single – :wink: right on it.

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
4:13 pm

Even have been known to play playstation and send a text or two, as a man I apologize..

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
4:16 pm

Funny story, I was in Fl in Radio Shack, I had on t-shirt from couple resort in Negril. the guy asked me what I knew about Jamaica and I told him. then he said he was from Ja, and he looked Mexican. well two Asian guys walked in and started talking to him, I swear if I had my back turned I would have sworn I was in Ja, but I was the only black in the store (LOL) I’m saying that to say we think of a lot of things as being one race because that’s most of what we see. I mean you hardly ever see any black Cubans, but there are a lot of them. Why is this, because they are turned back when found at sea because they think they are Haitian, and don’t find out they are Cuban until they get them on the boat and check their papers, then they have to take them back.

disco

February 4th, 2014
4:20 pm

single – I won’t even say folks think it because it’s all they see. I think a lot of folks think it because they don’t care to see. they don’t bother to ask people who they are or where they are from. I used to hang out with a guy who was quick to say “Mexican this or Mexican that”. I forced him to realize that not everyone who looked Mexican to him was. He got in the habit of asking and was shocked when folks would say where they from. me? I’d be sitting there all smug like “I told you so”.

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
4:23 pm

disco- if you look at my family portraits we cover the entire spectrum of color. Individually people never think we are all from the same family.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
4:25 pm

Disco, I was in Vegas talking to this girl and I asked her nationality, she said she was part native american and part Mexican, I was like um aren’t those almost the same thing, I mean if you look at the people, from the north america to south america they all really looked the same. I wasn’t trying to be offensive and she said yea your right (LOL)

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
4:26 pm

Single, she was just trying to jazz it up a bit for you! lol

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
4:27 pm

Personally, I’m plenty aware of black Cubans. But wouldn’t I likely NOT see them IN AMERICAN cause they live in Cuba? Wouldn’t that be the reason we don’t see many? Or any others from other countries for that matter. Cubans live in Cuba, Mexicans live in Mexico, Bahamians live in the Bahamas, so forth and so on. We see Americans only (mostly) CAUSE WE LIVE IN AMERICA, right? What does any of this have to do with what folks look like….if they “look” Cuban. I don’t look for Cuban looking folks, cause most of them are in Cuba…and Miami, but I don’t live in Miami either. So, I don’t for them. I know where they are, on the map though. :mrgreen:

I mean we see foreigners here and there, but that’s a small number to the folks back in their countries.

Maybe I missed something during class….lololol I just laughed hard.

Toodles…night night

disco

February 4th, 2014
4:29 pm

purple – I was at a party hosted by some people from Nicaragua. I swear I looked at some of their family photos and saw people who looked just like some of my relatives. I mean totally uncanny. one of my cousins jokes that people can never quite figure out what she and her kids are. They just have “interesting” skin tones and hair textures that throw folks off. lol.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
4:29 pm

Purple she was a beautiful girl, just didn’t have enough a$$ and tata’s for me (LOL). I know how some people love to say I’m mixed with this and that. Hell you A$$ still black (LOL) “My father was Dominican, and my mother was Nigerian” but both of them were darker than me (LOL)

DuShawn

February 4th, 2014
4:31 pm

“Personally, I’m plenty aware of black Cubans. But wouldn’t I likely NOT see them IN AMERICAN cause they live in Cuba?” Its a lot of Black Cubans in Miami.

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
4:32 pm

I said that…..

disco

February 4th, 2014
4:32 pm

single – when I’m hanging in Hispanic circles I am constantly asked if I’m Dominicana. I went to st. maarten once and everybody kept asking me if I was from st. lucia. I put st. lucia on my list of places to go just because I figure I have to check out the place where people look like me.

Button

February 4th, 2014
4:35 pm

I’ve met plenty of black cubans in Atlanta and else where in the USA.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
4:36 pm

Disco, I’ve been asked if I’m Nigerian, practically accused of being ashamed to say I’m Jamaican. (LOL)

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
4:37 pm

WHEW! Just had my end of year review and it was really good. My boss usually has one negative thing to say so I made sure to work on that area this and apparently, I succeeded. I also acquired a new boss last year (Assistant General Counsel) and she was generous with her praises of me. Also found out that while I was asked to assist a department while their assistant was on maturity leave they too put input in. Very glowing endorsement. Now, let’s calibrate my new salary!

disco

February 4th, 2014
4:38 pm

single – that’s funny. they said you trying to deny your heritage. lol. brother go to America and want to act like he too good for Jamaica.

Button

February 4th, 2014
4:39 pm

the slave trade was in South America just as well as North America. There will be black/dark skinned south americans. Brazil has the second largest black population in the world. go figure.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
4:39 pm

Button/Du, but most folks don’t think of Cubans as being black. That’s why the CG pick up a lot of them and return them to Cuba, but will watch the lighter ones until they make it to the U.S.

Lets not forget G.W.Bush asking the president of Brazil I think, “you mean you have black people here” (LOL)

disco

February 4th, 2014
4:40 pm

leggs – while we know what you meant I have to say that if “maturity” leave were a real thing, a lot of folks would be at home chilling. lol.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
4:40 pm

Drinks on Leggs (wohoo)

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
4:41 pm

I know it isn’t obvious, but I do know how to form a sentence and end it accurately. I just can’t seem to do it on this dang blog.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
4:41 pm

Disco you women would be, not us men, ask Robert (LOL)

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
4:42 pm

disco ~ dang, I didn’t even catch that.

Button

February 4th, 2014
4:42 pm

Single – folks never consider that brazil has a large population of Blacks. Media has white washed brazil.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
4:44 pm

People ask me often enough if I’m Jamaican. I have no accent, but have been told my forehead resembles many Jamaican’s. My grandfather was born in Jamaica, but I’ve never been.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
4:44 pm

Button the Media white washes everything until something bad happens, then they can show all the black people there.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
4:45 pm

Speaking of bad, did anyone know that Christopher Columbus was a very low down human being? Dude wiped out entire races of people.

Button

February 4th, 2014
4:49 pm

did anyone know that Christopher Columbus was a very low down human being? Yep!

disco

February 4th, 2014
4:53 pm

Dang. Now that’s what I call a turn in conversation. We talking about Christopher Columbus? lol.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
4:58 pm

disco, sometimes we can’t go smutty (LOL)

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
4:58 pm

Trying to get my real man card back (LOL)

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
4:59 pm

Button, don’t see anything about that in the history books

disco

February 4th, 2014
5:00 pm

single – don’t start on the mystery – I mean history – books. lol.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
5:14 pm

okay disco (LOL)

Purple Reign

February 4th, 2014
5:15 pm

They brough a bunch of diseases to America as well.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
5:17 pm

Purple those poor friendly people just didn’t know the devil had shown up

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
5:21 pm

And, the forked tongue will forever be front and center!

Peace!