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Dilemma: We have a texting problem

I know we have collectively decided as a society that text messaging is a completely acceptable form of communication. Somehow we think is it fine to deliver bad news, be romantic, or even break up with someone in a text message. Yeah, can we go back and vote on this again?

You can’t replace verbal communication because there is nothing like hearing a man’s voice asking to see you and spend time with you. It’s just the best feeling that can spark chemistry instantly! So why are so many people happy to use texting in it’s place?

I know a young lady who is seeing someone new who insists of texting all their important conversations. She protested at first but now she adapted and is missing those actual conversations by phone or better yet face to face.

Would it be unfair to ask the person you are dating to limit the text messages you two exchange?

Do you think texting when you are in the early stages of dating brings you closer or impedes the relationship?

Has texting ever been an issue for you? How did you resolve it?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

260 comments Add your comment

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
12:27 pm

Exactly. Bert ‘nem called her all kinds of dumb bots

disco

February 4th, 2014
12:27 pm

single – and like I said, my cousin said this a long time ago. If nothing else, I’m consistent. lol.

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
12:29 pm

I’ll be happy happy happy when we have a new hire for this third portfolio. I have my nose to the grind. Uuuugh, back to work. I can’t steal but a few dern minutes away.

At least they’ve narrowed it down to a few final applicants, from what I hear….yaaaay!

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
12:34 pm

I got it….them chicks on the Bachelor are what? GOOGLY EYED!!!

:mrgreen: I like that, googly eyed. Did this word derive from Google? Things that make you say hmmm

I’m gone back to work….later hahahahaha

2CPTG©

February 4th, 2014
12:40 pm

Button, hell nah, ain’ crossin’ off no days waitin on disco…..shiiiiid…..hell ain’ nobody confirmed whether she’s even worthy…she could be blowing smoke for all we know….

SexyCool

February 4th, 2014
12:42 pm

M is a texter. It doesn’t bother me one bit.

I know someone that managed his rotation via text message. He would start his day off copy/pasted the same “good morning” message to his current roster.

Button

February 4th, 2014
12:54 pm

disco – yup there are some punk ass out here for sure even on Mars. lol

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
1:01 pm

Googly eyed existed way before Google.

Exiled

February 4th, 2014
1:06 pm

Disco…if u ever go to the gyno ask him..just confirm this..a good D on the regular is kinda like a glass of wine err now and then.
Good for your blood pressure and emotions.

When they say ABW.more often than not;
she got No man
she got baby daddy,child support issues
She ain’t got D in a while
Her money short
Her job ain’t good
Some of her friends got men,she jealous,won’t admit it
Her car note is due
Her cable is off
Her lights got cut

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
1:11 pm

Yeah, I know….

Cause somebody smile or respond nicely to you, don’t mean they’re googly eyed. Y’all know how dudes say when a man is nice some women think they want them. Well, this is what I’m saying. Cause someone respond, don’t mean they’re ready to give up the drawers…..lololol IJS Dudes though (I know) that keep their radar us cause they think they got it like that or they think women are just so quick and easy, are often misguided. Misreading friendly or having fun for googly eyes is coming from a place of wishfullly hoping, from within

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
1:12 pm

How did I get on googly eyes? Oh, I know….from a post earlier. Sort of took me there

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
1:13 pm

What’s ABW?

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
1:22 pm

I thought a black woman?

Exiled

February 4th, 2014
1:24 pm

folks whose car windows won’t open and have to open the door to get their order..they crack me up! :lol:

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
1:25 pm

Okay, gotcha

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
1:26 pm

or angry black woman…

Exiled

February 4th, 2014
1:28 pm

Angry black woman

MsAtl

February 4th, 2014
1:32 pm

Afternoon All

Can’t stay long. Massah is still behind me with the whip!

While there is nothing wrong with “some” texting, I would not want that to be our primary means of communication.

Exiled

February 4th, 2014
1:36 pm

Massah….behind with the Whip?

Ouuuuch….in a sexy nice way!
…u home?

Enjoy! :lol:

@MsAtl..

Celisea

February 4th, 2014
1:36 pm

LOLOLOLOLOL…..Lawd

I’m gone for real. Thanks, I needed that laugh

MsAtl

February 4th, 2014
1:45 pm

Ex- Lol. I wish! No, work has exploded. I haven’t even been on the site since before our snow storm. On a good note, my argument in the Georgia Supreme Court went well.

Robert

February 4th, 2014
1:50 pm

I can only speak for myself. I do not “text”. I act like a “grown man” not like a little boy still playing with toys (playstation, Xbox, facebook, etc.). Real men do not text. I hate to see grown men texting other men just to say “what’s up”? Texting was invented for women who do not have anything better to do with their free time or fingers. With my free time I would rather read a book and relax.

Why would a man want to give away his “power” by texting all the time just like he is a woman? I will call my woman on the phone and tell her – Baby I a on my way – please fix me something to eat. lol…

Exiled

February 4th, 2014
1:51 pm

:lol: :lol:

Get them MsAtl!

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
1:53 pm

Why would a man want to give away his “power” by texting all the time just like he is a woman? I HAVE THE POWER

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
1:54 pm

So it really wasn’t the hair that did Samson in, it was his texting (LMAO)

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
1:57 pm

“Real men do not text.” – So not true! “I hate to see grown men texting other men just to say “what’s up”? – How do you know that? Why are you reading their texts?

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:00 pm

“Baby I a on my way” – that’s why people text, auto correct…I’m just messing with you.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:04 pm

Leggs, hell I’m surprised he said please (LOL)

Robert

February 4th, 2014
2:04 pm

@Leggs – “Real men do not text.” – This is true. If your man is texting he is either a “youngin” (20-30) or immature. Real Men (40-50) do not need to text unless they are trying to act like a “youngin”. You can tell a real man by how they carry themselves (walk, talk, act, etc.).

I hate to see couples on a date and both are on the phone texting. If I was on a date and my woman pulled out her phone to text she better have a good reason (childcare, etc.). My woman has never seen me on my phone texting. If she did she would wonder what is wrong with me?

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:09 pm

“Real men do not text.” – This is true. – Again, this is not true. Everyone, except you texts. Not talking about carrying on a convo, but sending a quick text is definitely done by the average bear. You’ve let us know you’re not average so it’s nice to meet someone who doesn’t text.

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
2:10 pm

I act like a “grown man” not like a little boy still playing with toys (playstation, Xbox, facebook, etc

Leggs – :lol: Hey girl, you know I beg to differ!!

disco

February 4th, 2014
2:10 pm

robert – if nothing else I respect your ability to remain true to yourself. lol. even with that your posts leave so much to be desired. So under 40 and over 50 men are just a waste of skin huh? those 40-50 year olds can be told by their walk even though some are starting to shuffle at that age? Is the shuffle part of what makes them real men? lol.

Robert

February 4th, 2014
2:11 pm

@Single and Happy – “Why would a man want to give away his “power” by texting all the time just like he is a woman”

The “Power” I am talking about is trust and respect. I can leave my phone on my dresser or night stand table without “fear” of my woman checking on me. I do not have a password. I want my woman to feel like there is nothing I am hiding from her in my phone.

Most of my male friends (married, unmarried) have “trust” issues with their phone. I do not want that kind of relationship. If I can not trust you to respect my privacy then you are not the woman for me.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:11 pm

“I hate to see couples on a date and both are on the phone texting.” – I hate to see this too.

“If I was on a date and my woman pulled out her phone to text she better have a good reason (childcare, etc.).” – I agree. When on a date, no need to pull out your phone, let the call go to voicemail. If the phone is blowing up, excuse yourself saying you must take this call (from a family member). Otherwise, voicemail it is. It’s rude to talk to another while out on a date with someone.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:13 pm

kimmie/Single ~ :lol: :lol: :lol: At least he uses his manners. He could have bellowed for her to bring him a sandwich.

disco

February 4th, 2014
2:13 pm

robert – just because you trust she isn’t looking doesn’t mean she isn’t looking. Some folks snoop because they are suspicious. Some snoop just because they are nosey. Some snoop by accident. Yep. By accident. Perhaps she has no intention of snooping. Needs to make a call, realizes her phone is all the way downstairs and decides to use yours since it’s right there. next thing you know….

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:15 pm

Now, that I can understand Robert re: power.

Robert

February 4th, 2014
2:17 pm

@disco – “those 40-50 year olds can be told by their walk even though some are starting to shuffle at that age?”

I am 40+ and I still can dunk a basketball with both hands. “Yougins” call me “old school”. I bet you could not carry my “jock strap”. Go back and play with your toys (playstation, Xbox, etc.). You can not handle me.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:18 pm

Umm Robert I have a password on my phone so in case I loose it, someone won’t have all my information, just like I live alone, but I have password on all my electronics that have any vital information on them. All of the women I’ve dated have never picked up my phone to try and look at anything. so I don’t have that problem.

Leggs, you’re right about that, that’s just rude, has nothing to do with being a real man or woman.

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:21 pm

Uh uhh I better go play with my GI Joe, because Mr. Mature only knows how to settle things one way (REAL MAN) LMAO

disco

February 4th, 2014
2:21 pm

robert – by “you” I hope you meant those young’ins. lol.

single – no. you have a password on your phone because you are not a real man and can’t keep your women in check. whew. I’m cracking me up.

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:23 pm

I am 40+ and I still can dunk a basketball with both hands – I’m cracking up because that has absolutely nothing to do with shuffling.

Exactly, Single. That’s all it boils down, rudeness!

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:24 pm

by “you” I hope you meant those young’ins. lol. – I thought the same thing because you’ll probably squash Robert making him run to the hills w/his tail tucked down tight in that jockstrap.

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
2:25 pm

Leggs, you’re right about that, that’s just rude, has nothing to do with being a real man or woman.

Single/Leggs – you are right, that’s just rude date behavior.

I’ve had to get on my kids about that. They are not allowed to bring any electronics to the dinner table, whether we are at home or out. You are supposed to give your fellow diners your full attention. That is our time together as a family. I’ve told them when they start dating to follow the same rule. If it is something important, excuse yourself of course.

kimmie

February 4th, 2014
2:27 pm

My husband is a real man and he plays Playstation and Xbox in his leisure time. Heck, he’s a lawyer, needs time to unwind, don’t want to get some book and read all the dang time!!

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:28 pm

I thought the really good dunkers use only one hand? No? Or is that a layup? :wink:

Single and Happy

February 4th, 2014
2:29 pm

Disco, I was reading this article where someone had a lot of information on their phone, and got a took it in for replacement and BestBuy I think, well they didn’t bother to wipe it, and the tech used their credit cards

“I can dunk a basketball with both hands” Hmm basketballs don’t fight back (LOL)

Robert

February 4th, 2014
2:30 pm

@disco – “just because you trust she isn’t looking doesn’t mean she isn’t looking”

That tells me she is looking for attention and I will give her a big hug and kiss to comfort her feelings. Women are emotional and need lots of reassurance.

The worst thing a man can make a woman feel is being “used” or “played” especially if she has experienced “trust” issues in her past.

Men must understand that we are “healers” and most women bring baggage into the relationship.

Relationships are “fragile” and requires “special handling”.

disco

February 4th, 2014
2:31 pm

single – basketballs don’t fight back. LMAO……

Leggs

February 4th, 2014
2:32 pm

Just clowning, I know the difference between a dunk and a lay up!