I received an email from a young woman who said she has a relationship dilemma. Her boyfriend of four months asked her to try something in the bedroom that she really wasn’t into. They discussed it and she told him no, but he seemed relentless about it. After really breaking down the reasons why she had that “boundary”, he kind of sulked about it. Now, he gets an attitude with her and tries to make her feel guilty. What should she do about it?
I haven’t given her a response yet because I wanted the blog to discuss bedroom politics. Should there be a power dynamic in the bedroom? Do you think that who is in “control” is important? If your partner prefers to do or not do something, shouldn’t you be able to communicate and find a way to compromise?
I also wonder if pouting and sulking when you don’t get your way is a red flag? It kind of reeks of immaturity, in my opinion. It definitely would put a damper on my attraction to a guy if he threw a tantrum over sex. Like, what are you 13 years old!? What this behavior be a deal breaker?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta