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Paying for dates

The costs of dating can get expensive so it’s understandable that people are selective about who they date. It makes sense not to sink a bunch of money into dating someone you aren’t truly interested in. One of my guy friends has some kind of system where he limits the amount of money he spends on first and second dates.

Do you think you should go Dutch and pay your own way on dates? Does it help to split the costs so that neither of you feel the pressure to always pay?

I try to at least reach for the check and I fully expect to pay. I think guys appreciate this and usually they insist on paying. I often offer to cover the tip in those cases.

How many dates should you pay for before sharing or splitting the check starts?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

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Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
4:15 pm

Does he own property? Does he consider himself active? Would he be interested in rollerblading? Hook a sister up????

~disco—-NOOOO.. I don’t know why but I see you either pushing him down a hill or pushing him so hard tryna keep up with you he keels over anyway. IJS :lol:

When I lived downtown, one of my room mates liked to date older men and this was waaay before the “blue pill” came out so let’s just say there were certain limitations these men had… she knew it and preyed upong it. I used to ask her what she saw in them besides the obvious(money/gifts/”our” rent/etc.) and she said, “Hell that’s it..shiid he can’t do nothing else…and the one or two days a month his d!@& does get hard ain’t nuthin to worry about”.

We lost touch for some years and recently reconnected via social media and she married….to an older guy. I can’t…just can’t..

Exiled!

January 22nd, 2014
4:15 pm

Disco wld leave Du’s friend outta pocket!

Wrong customer. :lol:

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
4:16 pm

Du..I think these ladies don’t realize how more flexible the young necks are compared to the 45+ necks of older ladies.</em.

Coooommmmeeedddyyy…..Night night

Reio

January 22nd, 2014
4:16 pm

disco – I know several old buzzards like that. Each one has multiple streams of income. And most of them own their homes out right, although, one of their wives died and left the house to the kids, after he dies. But, that’s why the VFW is so popular. These young chicks know what’s happening. They don’t talk much about it cause, one, some are a bit ashamed of what they are doing (Although they’ll lie and say they aren’t), and, two, if too many other young chicks find out, the competition will get too hot. They can come away with a few good bucks with minimal work, and they know it. These old buzzards are easy to please, and more than willing to pay. None are active. Rollerblading? “Is yo azz crazy?”

DuShawn

January 22nd, 2014
4:17 pm

disco – let me hit and I’ll put in a good word for you. Like I said earlier, I gotta sample the product to ensure its quality.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
4:17 pm

Single ~ I still disagree. Not everyone can catch, but everyone can “try” to catch. If you don’t like what you caught and you throw it back, then you didn’t “catch.”

disco

January 22nd, 2014
4:18 pm

sassy – you heard me mention trying to figure out a way to finance living abroad. The right old “ready to die” man might be just the ticket. lol.

disco

January 22nd, 2014
4:18 pm

D – just own that you are a blocker. it’s okay. I’ve got a little bit of blocker in me as well.

DuShawn

January 22nd, 2014
4:20 pm

VFW is so popular…….Don’t sleep on them VFW’s. I have been to some salmming partys at the one in Broward. Them old moms was at me with no shame. I mean steppin to me mackin. Some of them was fine as hell too.

SlimNu

January 22nd, 2014
4:21 pm

He needs a tame circus animal that is accustomed to doing tricks for peanuts. :shock:

DuShawn

January 22nd, 2014
4:23 pm

SlimNu – Trust me……the analogy is appropriate.

Reio

January 22nd, 2014
4:24 pm

DU – This is true. Ain’t just young sugar daughters there at the VFW. Some older ladies there too. Most just lookin for a good time. They’ll make a deal wit-cho azz too. Hehehe…

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
4:24 pm

disco ~ I read that as a back handed compliment as well. But, I did laugh at it.

PEACE!

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
4:24 pm

The right old “ready to die” man might be just the ticket. lol.

~disco–Ain’t nothing wrong with good come up…one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel :lol:

SlimNu

January 22nd, 2014
4:26 pm

Dus – I totally get it but I was still like wooooow (In my Flava flav voice) lol

disco

January 22nd, 2014
4:26 pm

Sassy – exactly why I asked if dude was active or into roller blading. lol.

DuShawn

January 22nd, 2014
4:41 pm

Funny thing I met a few of my Old potnah’s young women. They fine as a mugg too. He made a couple of them give me their numbers. I took them and hid them deep in the phone. Real dudes know, you gotta keep some animals on deck. Just in case a playa potnah come in town and you need to show hospitality.

Adam

January 22nd, 2014
4:44 pm

I am late, I don’t get up until the afternoon anyway and work nights. (No I am not a vampire) I don’t mind paying for the first few dates, so long as a % of what I make is not expected of me to pay. Just because a man can spoil does not mean he should. I am not a sponsoring or sugar daddy type to do that for women, because then they like you for the WRONG reason. But if a woman wants to keep me around, she should show a great deal of effort too (No I don’t mean sex, not gonna say what because that’s cheating the game since so many consider dating a game). But I am enjoying single life and enjoy spoiling my pets, at least and most times know how to appreciate what I do, not feel entitled or expected.

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
4:53 pm

Have a really good,warm evening everybody. Stay warm!!

Peace :mrgreen: