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Paying for dates

The costs of dating can get expensive so it’s understandable that people are selective about who they date. It makes sense not to sink a bunch of money into dating someone you aren’t truly interested in. One of my guy friends has some kind of system where he limits the amount of money he spends on first and second dates.

Do you think you should go Dutch and pay your own way on dates? Does it help to split the costs so that neither of you feel the pressure to always pay?

I try to at least reach for the check and I fully expect to pay. I think guys appreciate this and usually they insist on paying. I often offer to cover the tip in those cases.

How many dates should you pay for before sharing or splitting the check starts?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

269 comments Add your comment

disco

January 22nd, 2014
3:35 pm

Ex – that’s just it. the sugar daddy phenomenon has very little to do with economics or finance. It has much more to do with pride, ego and not wanting to let go of one’s youth. If it were really about economics and finance those old buzzards would find some old hens their own age and hold on to their money. At least hold on to a little bit more of it. lol.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
3:40 pm

It has much more to do with pride, ego and not wanting to let go of one’s youth. If it were really about economics and finance those old buzzards would find some old hens their own age and hold on to their money.= YEP!

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
3:40 pm

They make lingerie for men?

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
3:42 pm

Mostly their ego….they really can’t “catch” anymore, so they let their wallets do the talking. Like Black Mamba used to say, who really wants the sweat from some tinsel tubes???

Single & Happy

January 22nd, 2014
3:42 pm

Disco, you know with suga daddies usually being married, I know a lot of things I could be doing with that money instead of trying to take care of 2 homes (LOL)

MsAtl

January 22nd, 2014
3:43 pm

Kimmie- I know the feeling. I tried to save time and buy cakes before. My son complained that other people got one of my “mommy” cakes while he had to suffer with a store bought, lol. I also tried buying one for the ex (from Publix, which I think has good cakes) and he ate a small piece and threw it away because I didn’t spend my time making him one.

Reio

January 22nd, 2014
3:43 pm

disco – the thinking is, “If I’m an old buzzard, why should I hold onto my money?” Can’t take it with them.

Exiled!

January 22nd, 2014
3:43 pm

Disco….but u focusing on one side…the old man..the chic dies it for the money…and this ain’t an affair..so she ain’t stuck on one dude.

As long as the schedules of her high paying clientele ain’t clashing.

Preserving one’s youth? LMAO

Coochie ain’t got no age! :lol:

It’s All bout money and how much and often she getting it.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
3:44 pm

I think it’s called sexy underwear. If a man desires to wear lingerie he might be a cross dresser. I don’t known of any man who wants to wear lingerie.

Exiled!

January 22nd, 2014
3:44 pm

SlimNu

January 22nd, 2014
3:45 pm

Leggs – When you wrote, “I don’t know of any man who wants to wear lingerie”, I read lingerie as Ling-er-ree :lol: Heyyyyy, two snaps and a twist!

Single & Happy

January 22nd, 2014
3:46 pm

Leggs, Men can always catch!!!!!! Now whether are not they want what they catch, that’s a different storry (LOL)

MsAtl

January 22nd, 2014
3:47 pm

Disco- re your 3:20, I’m with your friend- I have to find a man by September. I have a formal event to go to in October, lol.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
3:48 pm

“Coochie ain’t got no age!” – but it sure loses it’s elasticity (lol).

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
3:48 pm

disco

January 22nd, 2014
3:48 pm

Ex – you still making the wrong general assumption. Let’s say young chick has a sugar daddy. It ain’t nothing but a thing. She knows and he knows that he’s just there for financial purposes. Now she probably doesn’t have a “real” man but she’s got her real dude that she kicks it with. If she’s bout her game she lets dude know that he will not mess up the good thing she got going with her sugar daddy. Dude will agree to not get in the way because he ain’t trying to come out of pocket. It’s a win/win/win all the way around.

Reio

January 22nd, 2014
3:49 pm

Ex is right. It’s all about the money with these sugar daughters. Those young VFW chicks are just one example of this.

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
3:49 pm

I just wondered…I could be mistaken. I would have to go back and read. I was reading page 4 and thought I saw a dude say he was going to buy himself lingerie. Like I said, I was skimming, catching. Not worth me going back to read.

I sniggled though, when I came or thought I came across.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
3:49 pm

Single ~ I don’t think that’s a true statement. Men cannot always catch, just like women can’t always be caught!

kimmie

January 22nd, 2014
3:50 pm

Cel – Satin/silk boxers, with a matching robe.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
3:50 pm

And, if a man was able to always catch, he wouldn’t need props to assist him. He would use his words, his aura, his mind. Sometimes, none of that will work, and he must use his wallet (lol).

disco

January 22nd, 2014
3:50 pm

atl – this particular friend is at the bottom of the totem pole. Frankly if I was in her shoes I’d just run down to 7-11 and stand outside for a few minutes. I’d have a man with the quickness. When almost anything is a come up, I don’t see what the hold up is. lol.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
3:51 pm

“I sniggled though, when I came or thought I came across.” – you do realize that’s a loaded comment.

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
3:51 pm

Kimmie – Yean, I’m familiar with that….lol I was thinking “lingerie” when I saw that. Like maybe they crossed dressed or something. But again, I’m probably off the mark :mrgreen:

disco

January 22nd, 2014
3:52 pm

Re words, aura, mind – when was the last time you had a really intriguing conversation with someone? Who was that person?

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
3:52 pm

Yeah…wasn’t tryna go “there”

Let me just hush…lol

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
3:52 pm

I’m gone back to looking for a handbag online

kimmie

January 22nd, 2014
3:53 pm

And, if a man was able to always catch, he wouldn’t need props to assist him.

Leggs – Like blue pills & pumps

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
3:54 pm

“I don’t see what the hold up is. lol.” – Could the hold up be that no one has asked her out.

DuShawn

January 22nd, 2014
3:54 pm

I know a lot of things I could be doing with that money……..Different strokes I guess…..I personally think that’s a great way to spend your money if you’re a old pops. I know I would prefer being pampered by some fine young obedient thang than traveling the world with some dried up, mean spirited, heffa that I love but no longer like and only with her because we’ve been together too long to leave. Typically that’s the case with suga daddy’s. Either that or they divorced/widowers and are truly off the chain. Those are the ones that really try to relive their youth. To them Viagra is a God send.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
3:56 pm

Celisea ~ I know, but it was funny to me.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
3:57 pm

kimmie ~ yeah, like blue pills & pumps (lololol).

Single & Happy

January 22nd, 2014
3:58 pm

Leggs, both can always catch, but most of the time they don’t want what they catch. ask anyone that complaining about not having anybody, there is always someone that’s interested, they’re just not interested in them! And most use their wallet because just like here, there are women who think they must always pay.

disco

January 22nd, 2014
3:59 pm

leggs – the true hold up is that she has an extremely inflated sense of self and seems to be in denial about some very basic truths. She doesn’t have anything (well she have very, very little) but wants a man with a lot. I’m like you don’t need a man with a lot. Just a man with a little bit more than you. she doesn’t see my logic.

Reio

January 22nd, 2014
4:01 pm

Du – yeah, that’s the thinking. They pretty much say “Hell, I’m an old buzzard. Got my retirement check, pension, social security, 401K savings…Just a few more descent years to live, may as well spend it on these dumbazz young chicks, cause I sure as hell caint take it wit me. Hell, might kick over next week, who knows.”

Single & Happy

January 22nd, 2014
4:02 pm

Du, I’m not knocking it, I’m an advocate of people doing what they want to with their money. (If you like it, I love it)

Single & Happy

January 22nd, 2014
4:04 pm

Reio, yea you might have a heart attack trying to talk up on it. that’s would be just time wasted, you could have been getting it in before that attack (LOL)

disco

January 22nd, 2014
4:04 pm

Hold up. Dushawn. Reio. – y’all know some old cats with retirement checks, pensions, social security and 401K accounts? Does he own property? Does he consider himself active? Would he be interested in rollerblading? Hook a sister up????

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
4:04 pm

…..than traveling the world with some dried up, mean spirited, heffa that I love but no longer like and only with her because we’ve been together too long to leave.

Maybe she’s mean cause she’eon like you no mo!!!

This made me laugh like Horseshack…..lololol

I’m out….PEACE!!!

kimmie

January 22nd, 2014
4:04 pm

Du – Yeah, a lot of older ladies would rather roll with some tenderoni with working parts, other than the mean-spirited, dried up old cheap turds they got at home as well! :wink:

Reio

January 22nd, 2014
4:06 pm

And these sugar daughters know that they don’t need much time with each buzzard. Once he is satisfied, she leaves and does whatever she wants, no strings attached. And some extra cash to boot. Some of the buzzards pay well. Hell, they don’t give a sh!t. IJS.

Exiled!

January 22nd, 2014
4:07 pm

Du..I think these ladies don’t realize how more flexible the young necks are compared to the 45+ necks of older ladies.

When a man got the money,he gotta spend it on quality azz.

It’s a good stress reliever!
@Disco

and the money is good for the young chic with a sorry azz broke boyfriend

Win win!

kimmie

January 22nd, 2014
4:08 pm

Smelling like mothballs, old smoke and cheap brown liquor!!

MsAtl

January 22nd, 2014
4:11 pm

Disco- “run down to 7-11 and stand outside for a few minutes” OUCH!

DuShawn

January 22nd, 2014
4:11 pm

Disco – Actually, I do. One of my potnahs/mentors fits that description. Bread, nice crib(on 15 acres nice), Cool as shid, that’s my dog. Although you and I have never met, I would advise him against getting with you. You just can not be trained. He does not need an animal that was raised in the wild and can hunt on her own. He needs a tame circus animal that is accustomed to doing tricks for peanuts.

Exiled!

January 22nd, 2014
4:12 pm

Kimmie..u jealous! :lol:

kimmie

January 22nd, 2014
4:12 pm

think these men don’t realize how more flexible/resiliant the young dudes are compared to the 40+ older men.

Exiled – There, I fixed it for you!! LOL!!

:lol:

disco

January 22nd, 2014
4:14 pm

D – dang. That post sounded insulting and complimentary at the same time. lol. I see how you are. You told me earlier today that you are a blocker from way back.

kimmie

January 22nd, 2014
4:15 pm

Ex – Jealous of what?? :lol:

I’m out Gang!

Be easy!!

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
4:15 pm

Well, I was laughing again…even though I tyrna go home…..Horseshacking at MMeelo 4:07, but it wouldn’t go though