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Paying for dates

The costs of dating can get expensive so it’s understandable that people are selective about who they date. It makes sense not to sink a bunch of money into dating someone you aren’t truly interested in. One of my guy friends has some kind of system where he limits the amount of money he spends on first and second dates.

Do you think you should go Dutch and pay your own way on dates? Does it help to split the costs so that neither of you feel the pressure to always pay?

I try to at least reach for the check and I fully expect to pay. I think guys appreciate this and usually they insist on paying. I often offer to cover the tip in those cases.

How many dates should you pay for before sharing or splitting the check starts?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

269 comments Add your comment

disco

January 22nd, 2014
12:00 pm

ex – some would take that stance. I don’t. some take the stance that anyone who does online dating is desperate or anyone who asks their friends to set them up is desperate. I don’t. in life you have to go for what you want. Sure you can sit back and wait in the cut (like some gazelle with a death wish) or you can go be about yours. Call it desperate if you must.

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
12:02 pm

:mrgreen:

Please grow up, boo. You and a couple of others (probably you too) ONLY come one to cause a stir. Me and my opinion is me and my opinion. All the sniffing around and coward hits don’t do a thing. At least I’m not yellow bellied though. I’m not gon drop hints…Imma say it. Rather, Imma past by your posts….unless you sniffing around my fantabulousness!!!

Trust not running, just got better things than to pay some mind some ole coward hater.

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
12:03 pm

If you need to choke or be choked to “get off,” please bypass me!

:shock:

~Leggs that is a bit much…but that’s a whooole other conversation/segue…

I’m waiting on a “daddy swissism” any moment now…

disco

January 22nd, 2014
12:05 pm

Ex – recently I declared that I was ready to start dating internationally. Naturally the first thing someone said to me was about dating Africans. I hate to admit that I immediately clarified that I didn’t mean Africans. Lol. now I have to narrow down the source of my prejudice against Africans. Messed up I know but it is what it is.

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
12:06 pm

Imma past by your posts….

Promise?!

Dang and my birthday was 12/24….and I just got another gift. How sweet!! :mrgreen:

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
12:06 pm

POOF!!

I need one of those red “EASY” bottons from Staples…

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
12:08 pm

@Sassy – Promise?!

Stipulation being you QUIT sniffing around my fantabulousness, like you so cowardly looooove to do. I know, boo. Mezmerizing, ain’t it!!

Toodles, I’m moving on to better things.

disco

January 22nd, 2014
12:12 pm

Sassy – boy the things I could do with a staples easy button. lol.

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
12:12 pm

Imma past by your posts….

Worth repeating…now own it…do it… :lol:

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
12:12 pm

Someone sniffing ’round my ankles only happens when I don’t play “go along to get along, generalized “I do that too, me too, you too?” posts. Hahahaha. All pre-packaged, generalized, all agree posts. Keep telling on yaself.

Happens EVERY single time! Won’t put out my light though. Sucks to be a coward you

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
12:12 pm

~disco…you and me both, chica..

Single & Happy

January 22nd, 2014
12:16 pm

Disco, if I’m over her, and she’s my friend, then I don’t have a problem listening. But If I’m still trying to get in and she’s still talking to me then naw I don’t want to hear about those life problems.

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
12:16 pm

Thought you were leaving…gone ‘head on…

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
12:17 pm

:mrgreen:

Magnetic draw is a mug….hahahahaha

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
12:18 pm

To me, that is… :mrgreen: Brang it….I ain’t NEVER scuuurred

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
12:18 pm

You know, I heard a preacher say over the weekend, leave sin alone….I DEFINITELY get it!!!

Exiled!

January 22nd, 2014
12:25 pm

Disco…I don’t see any problem with choosing not to date Africans…it’s a choice.

Folks must be selfish when dating…if u wanna be fair,u going to grow old and single and end up with 2 cats.

Like u said,a chic that does not go for what she wants will not get hers…

But on the flip side,desperation demands desperate measures! :lol:

You can’t have it both ways

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
12:25 pm

But oh wait…this is just a blog…blah blah blah…womp…womp…womp

Thought you were igging my posts…when are you going to start?! Get to it! :lol:

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
12:27 pm

Okay….W

Ut oh…let me hush

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
12:28 pm

DuShawn

January 22nd, 2014
12:32 pm

Sassy…..lol. You funny. I see yall got a little virtual cat fight. I’m waiting for a cyber tittie to pop out.

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
12:42 pm

~Du…Thanks..

That so was not a cat fight…and you’re wrong for waiting on that cyber tit :lol:

Exiled!

January 22nd, 2014
12:44 pm

What wld happen if there is a blog meet and two chics with blog beef met..in person?

Would thru stare down at each other?

@Disco….to ur non Africans dating?

Me,if I were to do it again….I can see myself f**king black african american gals but I couldnt see myself marrying one.

I think they’re good in bed though…very creative! :lol:

See …it’s a personal choice for errbody

Exiled!

January 22nd, 2014
12:44 pm

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
12:54 pm

Mmm hmmm, thought so….and that’s all I’ll say about that. Say what, say what (Celisea’s ear on the screen)….thought I heard a pin drop….

Hahahahaha I gotta be dead before you slip past me.

disco

January 22nd, 2014
12:55 pm

Ex – now you really trying to start something. But, to instigate, I’d place a couple of bets. Lol.

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
1:08 pm

Tsk…tsk…tsk….

Po thang…

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
1:09 pm

And while I’m gone, you’ll do a quick save and feign ignorance. But long as you know I know??? We square, boo!

You should be ashamed of yourself. An adult at that. But I know, I know….a great person, blah blah blah (ain’t that how YOU say it)???

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
1:10 pm

Ooops, you beat me to it….lololol Not quite feigning, but yeah go head and play it off. I’m good!!!

Celisea

January 22nd, 2014
1:10 pm

Toodles….

BB tomorrow…maybe :mrgreen:

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
1:14 pm

Aaaand we’re queing Violin Concerto No. 5….seems to still be needed.

*sighs and tosses hair*

daddy swiss

January 22nd, 2014
1:24 pm

Howdy folks…

On topic: If I’m on a date, I’m paying, period. But that’s just how I roll. If I didn’t think you were worth springing for dinner, drinks, whatever, I wouldn’t be on a date with you.

Off topic: Going back to DuShawn’s post from yesterday about urinal etiquette… Dude, I’m with you. I don’t get it. I mean, even putting aside the fact that we’re all standing there with our w@ngs in our hands, some space is good just to avoid any unwanted pee splash. I don’t know about other dudes, but when I’ve got to go, it’s a pretty forceful stream. lol I try to stand back and angle it so as to avoid any splash-back from myself, so if you’re standing to my immediate left, you’re liable to get splattered. IJS… lol

Actually, the worst violation of urinal etiquette I’ve ever personally experienced was when I was in grad school. I had just started back to class after being gone for a few weeks after the cancer surgery (ahem — nut removal — ahem). So, I’m standing at the urinal and my professor (who I already thought was off) pulls up to the urinal right beside. This motherf__ker then starts in with “you’re looking awfully healthy…” :shock: Um, yeah, thanks for noticing… and stop looking at my d__k, please…. lol

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
1:25 pm

Time for a joke:

What type of band plays snappy music?

Exiled!

January 22nd, 2014
1:26 pm

Disco..when u coming to the A..we could ask Leggs to organise the blog meet.

u like sports bars Disco..or we go hang at a wing place?

actually,how bout u come down, superbowl wkend and the blog meets and we have a party…?

That wld be fantab! lol

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
1:30 pm

~daddy swiss….that must’ve been uncomfortable….first off, him looking at your junk was enough but to complement on it was too much.

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
1:30 pm

~Leggs…a rubber band?

daddy swiss

January 22nd, 2014
1:34 pm

Sassy — Very creepy, indeed.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
1:34 pm

SassyMe ~ yes, that was too easy!

daddy swiss

January 22nd, 2014
1:35 pm

I did get an A in that class, though… so…. I guess he liked what he saw… lol

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
1:42 pm

Why does a quarter flip higher than other coins?

Button

January 22nd, 2014
1:42 pm

Swiss- dang man you got it like that son? to get an A based on visual sighting only LOL

daddy swiss

January 22nd, 2014
1:45 pm

Button — Well, that’s for others to judge. Let’s just say, I’ve never had any complaints.

Sassy Me

January 22nd, 2014
1:48 pm

to get an A based on visual sighting only LOL

Ok-k-k?!

I hear ya daddy swiss…

~Leggs, you’ve got me on that one.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
1:49 pm

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
1:50 pm

Because it has an Eagle on it….ba da bing!

disco

January 22nd, 2014
2:06 pm

Ex – believe it or not I’ll probably be in the A sooner than I want to be.

disco

January 22nd, 2014
2:17 pm

Anyone still here? Anyone working on complex Vday plans or will you just be winging it? no high end gifts on layaway? lol.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2014
2:22 pm

I’m here. VDay is a crock. I’ve always felt this way. No need to spend all that money on flowers that will die in 2-3 days. A box of fattening chocolate isn’t necessary. Going to an overpriced restaurant is for the birds. Go to the grocery store together, plan your meal and go home and cook, have a drink toasting the two of you, put in a good movie (no porn) nestled against each other, then either go to bed and do the damn thing or go for the carpet burns. Now, that’s a good evening (rofl).

disco

January 22nd, 2014
2:27 pm

leggs – it sounds like you got it all figured out. I’m with you on the flowers but a sister can always get with some candy. Plus I love chocolate covered strawberries. I’m totally against crowds though so the whole restaurant thing is a bust.

Carpet burn is no joke. I will never forget seeing my cousin’s back once. I swear there was no skin left. Not for the kid.

kimmie

January 22nd, 2014
2:28 pm

A box of fattening chocolate isn’t necessary.

Leggs – Speak for yourself!!

:lol: