Some of us have exes who should never be spoken to again. You know, that one dreadful relationship that ended with protective orders and damaged property. It is clear that you two can’t be friends again! What about the one that got away? Or the one with whom you just had bad timing?
I was having dinner with a group of friends and one of them mentioned that he had an ex who he sort of keeps on the back burner. Even though he has a girlfriend, he thinks that keeping his ex as an option is just smart dating.
I was prepared to go full on men are no good rant mode until our friend Laura admitted to doing the exact same thing. She has a man but she likes to keep her ex as an option. She actually called it her “In case of emergency, break glass” kind of back up plan. So is this a thing now? Do we keep some exes around just in case?
Do you think using your ex as a safety net is a good way to conduct your current relationship? Isn’t it kind of self sabotaging?
When you end a relationship on a positive note (Read: they can still get it if you are available), do you think you should keep contact once your new thing heats up?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta