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Solely dating for looks?

This is not breaking news but there are singles who still date people based solely on their looks. It is something that we all do at one point because we are some shallow jerks when we want to be. Admittedly, the physical attraction to your date is very important but we all know it isn’t enough to sustain a real relationship.

When you focus on the looks you tend to overlook the awful personality, the big red flags, or glaringly obvious incompatibility. So why do we still get so distracted by the shallow stuff? How important are looks to you?

I know a lot of women who say they meet a guy and he doesn’t appear all that attractive in the beginning but over time their attraction to him grows. Does that happen for men as well? Do you think dating based on looks is something we should evolve from at some point?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

175 comments Add your comment

lee

January 10th, 2014
6:41 am

Everyone should keep in mind that everyone will get old, it only takes a moment from someone looking hot to not though disease, accident, weight gain or just time marching across your body. Then again:

We live in glorious times now you can have plastic surgery i know some that in high school they did not look that good and now are looking fabulous but still time will undo what was done, you can keep going back like Joan Rivers and look like a strange alien that will never have a facial expression. haha
I say find someone to hold your hand though all times the good the bad and the ugly, because in the end all that will matter does this person have my back!
TGIF

Single and Happy

January 10th, 2014
7:08 am

Hey everyone

When you focus on the looks you tend to overlook the awful personality, the big red flags, or glaringly obvious incompatibility Yes they have to look good to me, but never been so shallow to go solely on looks! Always pay attention to the person, and get to know them!

Also looks are relative to the person, just because they look good to you doesn’t mean they are going to look good to everyone.

Button

January 10th, 2014
8:22 am

I date solely on the size of his bank account! j/k

I date based on a lot of factors and if he’s handsome that does help but it’s not the main factor. His personality along with his manners, his sense of humor, intelligence. There are others but it’s minimal for just a date.

Do you think dating based on looks is something we should evolve from at some point? I don’t think that will ever happen bc looks are the driving force to even being noticed or being ignored.

Single – looks are relative to the person, just because they look good to you doesn’t mean they are going to look good to everyone. I couldn’t agree more.

Good morning!

Exiled!

January 10th, 2014
8:50 am

‘Singles who still date people solely on their looks…’

‘Still’..as dating is some evolving with time, cultural phenomena..lol

Dating is same today as it was 2000 years ago.

If anybody tells you they solely dating somebody based on that they are lying to you.

The looks is what gets you to look and salivate….the actions(even in ummm bed),will make a woman or man determine the nature of the relationship.
Diva!?,a round butt and eager chest alone on a woman won’t cut for a man solely because it looks….tantalizing…if the feel is good…we can do some bizzness.

When the looks and the human element are in sync,then we got a winner!
Nobody sustains a relationship on looks solely….it’s a lie,even if somebody said to you.
Maybe they’re shy to tell you that he got a good beating stick!(actions? anyone?) :lol:

Howdee MIA!

Exiled!

January 10th, 2014
8:51 am

MsAtl

January 10th, 2014
9:01 am

Morning All!

While looks are what first attract you to someone, at some point you look at the personality instead of how the person looks. To me, looks are less important than honesty, integrity, manners, employment, etc. While I don’t want a Quasimodo, I also will not have Shemar Moore sitting on my couch eating up all of my food and not working.

Reio

January 10th, 2014
9:02 am

Morning all!

Just based on my observations, men in general, and younger women, are more prone to doing this. The older the woman is, the more likely she is to fixate less on looks. Men tend to do this regardless of age. The more mature “real men” tend to understand that looks can be, and often are, deceiving.

I have always been, well, I don’t really know how to say this, I guess, what you would call, well, the striking, suave, debonair, stunning, desirable, sexy, unforgettable, lovable, handsome, cunning,…
type fella. I’m still having to beat’em off with sticks and bats. So, it’s still a big thing with women. Hehehe..

MsAtl

January 10th, 2014
9:10 am

Reio- I see you are cutting up early this morning, huh? Lol. Give us time to finish our coffee…

Reio

January 10th, 2014
9:11 am

Father Time & Mother Nature will combine to destroy all of our good looks. Although I had a meeting with them years ago, and they both agreed to let me slide. The rest’a yall gon git hit. Hit hard too..

Button

January 10th, 2014
9:17 am

It’s always going to be about looks imo. You don’t see ppl chasing ugmo unless he has lots of money. Society is hung up on looks and we can’t get around it no matter how hard we try to down play it imo.

Button

January 10th, 2014
9:17 am

MsAtl – shemar moore is not handsome, not a looker to me.

Button

January 10th, 2014
9:21 am

Reio – c’mon now every man think they are striking, suave, debonair, stunning, desirable, sexy, unforgettable, lovable, handsome, cunning,…lol

Single and Happy

January 10th, 2014
9:26 am

Button, that’s the thing about it, let “society” keep doing what they do, doesn’t mean we have to go along with it.

“Although I had a meeting with them years ago, and they both agreed to let me slide.” Now these are usually the ones hit the hardest, they just can’t see it (LOL)

Reio

January 10th, 2014
9:27 am

“c’mon now every man think they are striking,….”

Yes, but the difference is, I KNOW I am. Been told by at least 6.2 million women around the globe, in the form of cards and letters, greetings….

Mark

January 10th, 2014
9:38 am

Exiled, dating today is very different from what it was 2,000 years ago. There are way too many “middle men” these days – too many dating services, relationship “experts”, etc. profiting from giving “advice”. In reality, that serves to do nothing but over-complicate matters (a case of too many cooks spoilng the broth). Just sayin’… :-)

Button

January 10th, 2014
9:39 am

Single – we don’t have to but a bunch does go along with it. Some ppl have gotten out of traffic tickets bc of looks, get a pass bc of looks, get dates bc, of looks and the list goes on and on bc of looks. Good looks trumps a bunch of things.

Reio – bawhahahahahaha yous a fool! I almost fell outta my chair dude!

Single and Happy

January 10th, 2014
9:52 am

Mark, match making, and match makers didn’t just start, it’s been around since dating has been around.

Button you’re right,

Reio

January 10th, 2014
9:54 am

Harvard business school has done a number of studies on this subject over the years. And as one would guess, the better people think you look, the smoother transition you are afforded into the workforce, and pay raises/promotions come with greater frequency as well, regardless of qualifications.

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
9:59 am

I say find someone to hold your hand though all times the good the bad and the ugly, because in the end all that will matter does this person have my back!

This is what it’s all about right here^^^^

Yes, looks are what initially attract you, lets be real. Nobody is going out of their way seeking out folks they find unattractive. The great thing is like Single said, what’s unattractive to you might be considered beautiful to someone else. There is someone for everyone.

Say you do pick a person mostly on their looks and let other things slide. Fine, but it won’t last long. You may have fun with this person for awhile and enjoy the attention, but it WILL get old. Other, more important factors for the long haul will still win out in the end. Just depends on what you are looking for and how much time and resources you have to waste.

Society is and will always be driven by looks to a certain point. Looks are used to sell things and drive business – from the model selling clothes and makeup to the bank teller selling banking services. That’s just how it is.

Good morning Gang!

Button

January 10th, 2014
10:00 am

I worked in sales and you best believe there were very few unattractive sales ppl, no overweight, all were slim, fit and attractive. The unattractive ones got the $hitty accounts.

Single and Happy

January 10th, 2014
10:09 am

Reio, you forgot con-men and women!

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
10:10 am

Never was one who dated solely on looks. Of course, he needs to be visually pleasing to MY eyes, but personality, chemistry, character, how we vibe is more important and that in itself makes one even more attractive. What I don’t want is to have my eyes hurting each time I look at you. I’m not looking for drop dead handsome just one that makes my eyes twinkle and my heart sing a heart song when I see you!

Good morning!

Reio

January 10th, 2014
10:15 am

Ya know, a lot of guys will swear that they don’t go by looks. But those same fellas will quickly tell you that they prefer women with big butts. Or large breasts.

That’s another thing. Maybe I’m in the minority of men, but I have never been able to fully understand this absolutely preposterous, foolhardy, totally infantile fascination, some men have with bosoms. It’s incredible to me. Basing their opinion on whether a woman is attractive or not on her brazier size.
Da hell?

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
10:16 am

I like a man of character…with a hint of handsome. Never dated solely for looks and never had an issue. I don’t like pretty men…never have. I’ve dated a few here and there, but nothing that I targeted. I have a type that I like, but “looks” ain’t at the top of that look. Even so, I’ve never set out to find a certain complexion or build (just don’t like fattys…sorry…lol…I don’t). For every man I’ve dated, they approached me. Some I gave signal, some made their move, but I’m not narrow minded. I like who likes me :)

Single and Happy

January 10th, 2014
10:17 am

Reio, when we go by breast size, we are not going by looks! Cause we aint looking at her face (LOL)

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
10:18 am

And please miss me with the mentality of folks letting stuff slide cause they’re hawt. Ummm, everyone here should be good and grown and done with such foolishness. Heck naw!!

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
10:19 am

I like a nice build, clean cut, chisled. Just had a coworker from another floor leave my desk from chatting. While he’s NOT my type, he’s got beautiful teeth.

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
10:22 am

beautiful teeth.

Loves me some nice teeth!

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
10:23 am

When I go with the “good looking” white guy to a client of ours in particular, our biggest client (portfolio wise, not company wise), those ladies have a fit. Eeeeverybody wants to go with us to lunch. I usually have a couple in mind that I may want to invite as well as other team members (here), but when we get there, the whole staff tryna go. Then everybody wants to chat and go on with him. He’s blushing, turning red or getting embarrassed the entire visit. And usually we have short meeting before heading out…he’s got everybody’s undivided attention. Yeah, I’m observing thangs….lololol

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
10:24 am

Reio/Single – What I see with men alot is they may go for a hot body or body part like big boobs or butt, but she won’t be that attractive in the face. I think they are going for sex appeal.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
10:24 am

Silky had a beautiful beautiful smiled/teeth/mouth….looooved kissing him

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
10:24 am

And sex appeal versus looks wins, hands down

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
10:26 am

smile, not smiled….arrrum, ahem…lolol

2CPTG©

January 10th, 2014
10:28 am

lemme gon’ head and be the honest one…

naw, folks ain’t gon’ stop dating, or picking their dates based solely on looks….humans are visual creatures…..so you can have the best personality in the world, but if you’re ugly, ye’en gon get a chance to show off that glowing personality…..

and I’on mind gettin ugly if i’m boo’d up prior to the ugly setting in…..

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
10:29 am

Nothing like beautiful teeth!

Button

January 10th, 2014
10:31 am

Celisea – well you better catch up honey bc looks or being hawt have gotten a lot of ppl out of things and have gotten them things (preferential treatment). Regardless of how we feel about it, it happens every day. If you look good and you know it you flaunt it.

Reio – good thing not all men are into a big ol booty. I think it’s a black thing though.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
10:35 am

Button – I’m not behind… Honestly all that preferential treatment based on “light skin and long hair” went out with the seventies. It pays now to be chocolatte :mrgreen: Things move and work well for me. I work around all white dudes, “black” is good. If you get what I’m saying.

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
10:36 am

humans are visual creatures…..so you can have the best personality in the world, but if you’re ugly, ye’en gon get a chance to show off that glowing personality…..

2C – Sad but true! That’s just the way it is.

Reio

January 10th, 2014
10:39 am

Kimmie – Glad you mentioned “sex appeal”, cause that’s what I was trying to relay. Which is also why I’ll say this; As far as teeth goes, to most men, they aint SH!T, unless some are missing, gapped, or mis-spaced… her overall physical appearance, especially from the neck down is what tends to generate the most interest. I’m quite sure that every woman on this blog has a face at least as beautiful as Beyoncé’s, or, a young Morgan Fairchild’s. But most other women do not. Men know this, so they foolishly fixate on the neck down and derive some manufactured pleasure from that.

Single and Happy

January 10th, 2014
10:39 am

2C you are so right, unless you’re put in a situation to get to know their personality, looks are always the first and deciding factor.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
10:40 am

There was a time, folks had nearly white looking folks as receptionists and stuff, but not so much now. We’re out and about a lot and from client to coworkers, I see natural looks, plain and bland looks, fit to average to heavy builds, etc. None of that changes a good deal on the table…IJS Not sure where y’all been, that says good deals come from good looks. I’m around brainiacs and frankly, being able to explain and tell a client the business is what seal the deals….around here. I’m around a plethora of folks at work and in the business, and my company makes money. I have yet to see nothing but extremely beautiful people. What I see are good looking/handsome/attractive to average. But honestly by the time folks do the dang thing (suit, hair, smelling good, most are fit), nothing ain’t really been too hard to accomplish.

Single and Happy

January 10th, 2014
10:41 am

good thing not all men are into a big ol booty. I think it’s a black thing though. that’s so racist (LMAO) So I guess breast are white thing.

Button

January 10th, 2014
10:42 am

Celisea – LOL I get what you’re saying, trust I do. I’m just stating the majority here. And trust I know about some chocolate but we can’t ignore the fact the LSLH is what’s in our face in the media. if she is chocolate she has to be gorgeous, they won’t put a dark and unattractive women up there.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
10:43 am

My manager is young VERY dark and smart. And they love her. She’s average looking, but she’s extremely good at what she does.

Nothing but an ol’ ugly man always talking about good looks….in my experience.

Button

January 10th, 2014
10:43 am

Single – YUP! lol have’nt you noticed they are the ones running in droves to get them fake breasts.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
10:45 am

Button – See my 10:43…I hear ya as well. But I SEE and experience different than what’s being said. Round here, “diversity” is the theme of the day and as long as you can produce and put out good work, you represent….on the front end. Honestly, in production and operation area do I see all the chicks with the nails and weave and clown outfits. Don’t see that so much where I am. Seriously. Where I am is ubber conservative and professional.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
10:47 am

“in the production and operation areas” is what I meant.

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
10:48 am

Reio – Yeah, alot of ladies are more into nice teeth than men are.

I also love nice arms and chest on a man. I was checking my hubs out this morning getting dressed for work. He has nice muscular arms and a nice chest. He had on a nicely fitted black t-shirt he was going to put a sweater over. If we weren’t both trying to get out the door to get to work…….. :wink:

Single and Happy

January 10th, 2014
10:49 am

Button yea I noticed (LOL)

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
10:49 am

Button – I don’t know, plenty dudes of all nationalities drool over J Lo & Kim K booty….. lol

Button

January 10th, 2014
10:52 am

Single – I’m not racits! lol

kimmie – drool or disgust? lol

MsAtl

January 10th, 2014
10:52 am

Seen on FB:
When you fall for someone’s personality, everything about them becomes beautiful.

Single and Happy

January 10th, 2014
10:56 am

MsAtl, but who sees personality when the walk in the door?

Button

January 10th, 2014
10:58 am

when you are hooked up the first thing you’ll ask is: how does she/he look. you aint checking for personality. That comes next.

MsAtl

January 10th, 2014
10:58 am

Single- I get that. That was also my original comment; that looks is what initially attracts a person. Personality, though is what keeps them attractive.

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
10:59 am

Button – Drool. Even those that feign disgust would get with them in a heartbeat if they could, trust. The disgust comes mostly from women, from what I observe. I personally don’t care, cause they all are laughing all the way to the bank.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
11:02 am

Maybe it just depends on the the kind of business where folks are getting passes for being cute.

Round here, a bad day would be getting locked in on a deal for a few millions. The real deal goes rings in starting around $50MM. Trust the CEO and CFO don’t care nothing about how cute you are when that kind of money is on the table. What they wanna know is what are the terms, can you bring it, is it conducive, and for us, what kind of revenue are we talking, are you ratings up to par, produce your financials…so forth and so on

So, yeah I guess cute is relative in some shackalacka shop where you can get a free combo or supersize your meal cause had cateyes…lolol I ca-rack myself up.

Let me get to work.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
11:03 am

“….cause you have cateyes” is what I meant…I sniggled when I typed that

Button

January 10th, 2014
11:05 am

kimmie – dig booty didn’t start with jlo or kk, they are only drooling bc that’s what the media is telling them too. You know bomquisha and nem been having big ol onion booty throughout their entire generation. lol

Button

January 10th, 2014
11:09 am

Celisea – Maybe it just depends on the the kind of business where folks are getting passes for being cute.—-yes it depends on the kind of business and the culture of the business. one size doesn’t fit all.

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
11:10 am

The business world can be fickle. Sometimes you can be “too” attractive. Then you get passed over because some think pretty = dumb. You are not taken seriously. Some then will try to downplay their looks and dress dowdy to get respect.

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
11:11 am

Button – Yep they sure didn’t start it!LOL!!

MsAtl

January 10th, 2014
11:14 am

Kimmie- Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. I was in court once where the judge appeared to openly flirt with a young female attorney. By the same token, A group of judges issued a memorandum because they were tired of female attorneys appearing in court with short skirts and low tops. One judge said it makes it hard (no pun intended) for him to focus on the attorney’s argument because all he can see is cleavage.
I believe I am attractive, but in my field, brains is what matters. I am not going to undermine my professionalism by dressing for attention.

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
11:16 am

Enter your comments here

Button

January 10th, 2014
11:17 am

MsAtl/kimmie – you can dress in a frock, if you are attractive then you are attractive. Most do too much with dressing inappropriately for attention, any ol’ cow can put on a tight short skirt and low top and will get attention.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
11:23 am

I got of tickets twice…flirted with the officer. :mrgreen:

One was a motorcycle cop, that did a u-turn while I was at the light and pulled behind me. He’en really want nothing….and he knew that I knew it.

The other was where I turned right on red and the sign said clearly, no turn. I didn’t see the cop in the cut. He pulled me over, I was fresh though. Looking fly and hair done, sexy sunglasses. I turned it waaay up (my kid was in the back seat), but I was a bit embarrassed for her to see me turn it on. Shoot, I did NOT want a ticket. Not to mention buddy was FIONE as heck. I told him too :) He said, “Imma let you slide this time.” :mrgreen:

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
11:24 am

MsAtl – Absolutely. I am in a behind-the-scenes area of my company and nobody give a flip how pretty you are as long as you know what you are doing. Dumb step aside. We gotta keep this money up in here right! And in the research and development areas, the nerds have a field day cause it’s all about innovation and creating the next new thing(telecommunications/technology company). Nobody cares about pretty, just come in neat and clean. Now in the areas open to the public, it’s a different story.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
11:25 am

The motorcycle cop said I wasn’t wearing my seatbelt. I told “Mister Officer, Suh”, that I had just about half an hour to pick my kid up. He said the same, “Imma let you slide…this time.”

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
11:25 am

any ol’ cow can put on a tight short skirt and low top and will get attention

Button – :lol:

So true!!

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
11:28 am

Off topic:

Jennifer Hudson’s Jesus Promised Me A Home Over There is simply beautiful

Button

January 10th, 2014
11:28 am

kimmie – Now in the areas open to the public, it’s a different story.—–lol how different?

All I know is when I was in sales 98% was nice looking, only the fuglies, overweights had the $hitty accounts. Yeah they have to have brians for the backend, the dugouts, the pool ppl. Looks doesn’t matter in those departments. You better have brains bc you’re the ones pulling the haul!

Button

January 10th, 2014
11:33 am

Some companies even have their candidates to send in a photo to see how you look. Trust most companies are about an image.

2CPTG©

January 10th, 2014
11:38 am

any admittedly ugly folks in here?

Button

January 10th, 2014
11:41 am

2C- not over here, but there are days when I feel the ugliest, I feel like atilla the hun with battered and bruied.

Exiled!

January 10th, 2014
11:41 am

Ugly is good when it has money

And

Ugly is good when it is bringing money(corporate world)

But outside on the streets,u can’t hide ugly!

Well…You could have make up to hide ugly

But the mirror knows errrrthang! :lol:

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
11:42 am

Button – Different in that looks will be a little more important, though you still need some brains to sell the products.

Yes, most companies want to maintain an image, a “look”.

Button

January 10th, 2014
11:42 am

meant all battered and bruised.

Durty Burd

January 10th, 2014
11:47 am

Good Morning!

Boo on Mrs. Kimmie….For not taking care of the husband b4 left for work….Next time break him off…

Finding someone attractive is what initiates the next step in the process. (The Conversation).

A person with a great personality will get dates after folks get to know them.

GlammourGirl….I need to see how you look because it seems like you have a great personality. :smile:

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
11:50 am

2C – While I don’t think everyone would be considered beautiful, I think everyone has something about them that could be considered attractive.

Button

January 10th, 2014
11:50 am

how many ppl use the sanitizer whips at the grocery store to whip down their shopping cart handle? I use it but the handle is going to get right back nasty while shopping touching the nasty meats/stuff. Also at the buffet, I just can’t with all those folks touching the ladle/big spoon. just nasty! however I do know one place will give you plastic gloves if you request it.

Button

January 10th, 2014
11:51 am

that’s wipes not whip.

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
11:54 am

2C ~ not over here. If I don’t toot my own horn, who will (lolol).

2CPTG©

January 10th, 2014
11:56 am

oh, I know the blog gals are hot, I’ve seen y’all…..’cept maybe a few, but the majority of y’all are nice looking…

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
12:01 pm

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
12:01 pm

how many ppl use the sanitizer whips at the grocery store to whip down their shopping cart handle?

Meee, me me me….definitely me.

Why would anyone call him or herself ugly?? Especially if you ain’t lacking in the love department. My mama always taught me you won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, but you’ll be someone’s. And if someone, another one.

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
12:01 pm

Durty – Believe me, if he had not been rushing to get to work…….lol

Off topic – Did anyone listen to Ryan Cameron this morning? He & his cohost Mo were reporting about a Glamour article that Gabrielle Union has in the upcoming February issue. In it, she addresses Dwade’s “break baby”. She actually puts the blame for it on herself. She said she was working project after project and didn’t make time for Dwade when he needed her and that’s why he turned to someone else. It was also implied that the baby was not concieved when their “break” was official.

Mo kind of expressed my view on it all. If she wants to forgive him and work it out, that’s fine, on her. The issue Mo, and I have, is the unprotected sex, just irresponsible.

Button

January 10th, 2014
12:02 pm

2C- stop slavating at the mouth! lol

Button

January 10th, 2014
12:03 pm

Celisea – real wisdom coming from mama! :wink:

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
12:03 pm

Button – Definitely!

Button

January 10th, 2014
12:07 pm

Kimmie- Gabby is thirsty and pay back is a mugg!! the same way she did D’s first wife is coming back to bite her in the arse! I feel no pity for that ol bird. Of course she’s going to blame herself, see how crafty she is to turn the tables on herself. Oh I wasn’t there for him blah blah yeah right, that man was smashing everything not held down but if she’s down for riding a man who is known for hitting it raw than more power to her.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
12:09 pm

She had a couple of others, to help us out with being “dark” in the seventies, when dark was not the thing to be. Oh, and one for our big head…lolol

The darker the berry, the sweeter the juice

and

Big head, big wit, little head, not a bit.

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
12:10 pm

Button – No pity here either. Not only does he hit errthang raw, he’s not all that in the looks department to me! But who cares what I think? LOL!!

GlammourGirl

January 10th, 2014
12:10 pm

Kimmie…I heard them talking about that. I don’t think she should blame herself. If he wasn’t happy with her working all the time, then get out of the relationship instead of cheating. But if she wants to forgive him, then that’s on her. Don’t blame yourself though. There was an article on TMZ where they calculated the timeframe of conception based on when the baby was born. They went to her instagram account and showed pictures where they were obviously together during their calculated conception date.

Button

January 10th, 2014
12:19 pm

Celisea – when I see movies from the seventies there were a lot of dark ppl on them. Soul train, good times, fred sanford, foxy brown, all of them had dark skinned ppl on those shows, starring roles too. So all the dislike of darker complexion ppl come straight from the media. Media is white washed. They will always try to rid darker complexion ppl but we aint going NOWHERE!!!!! if you get a chance check out Black in South America on youtube. Eye opener.

kimmie/Glammour – yeah I saw that on tmz too, talk about being busted. She can’t sell that story about “we were on break” lol nope not this time. he’s a cheater! how you get him is how you’ll lose him or how you will live with em. She see how he did his first wife and she thought he would do her any better? HA!

Exiled!

January 10th, 2014
12:20 pm

It’s a short term marriage anyway.

DWade is just doing a Demi_Kutcher.

It’s hot for Gab as long as Wade is playing and she frying the front court seats. When her tatas sag and Wade retires,he gets a regular ,cheaper gal.

Exiled!

January 10th, 2014
12:21 pm

Occupying (frying) :lol:

2CPTG©

January 10th, 2014
12:21 pm

Button…..salivating? not even……

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
12:21 pm

Glam – Yeah, like Mo was saying – dude is super rich. If she was somewhere working and he just had to have some, he had the means to fly anywhere she was!

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
12:23 pm

Button – Definitely….black is beautiful! I’m here to stay :mrgreen:

Button

January 10th, 2014
12:29 pm

D is trying to do damage control by proposing, she tried to do damage control by saying it’s her fault.

Sassy Me

January 10th, 2014
12:38 pm

but if she’s down for riding a man who is known for hitting it raw than more power to her.

That’s what gets me about all of this….he had UNprotected schex with someone else. There’s no telling who else this woman was sleeping with. If they were on a break, I think they should’ve set up parameters/boundaries/deal breakers for said break.

If they do it WITH you, they’ll do it TO you. That’s what has Gabby running around spouting that mea culpa bvll.isht and straight playing herself….karma being the b!*ch she is, came right back around and got that @zz.. She said because she was so busy running from project to project that she wasn’t there for hre man and now she’s saying that their family is now first and formost for her…mighty convenient. They got engaged right before the story hit and all the pieces fell right into place.

Sassy Me

January 10th, 2014
12:39 pm

D is trying to do damage control by proposing, she tried to do damage control by saying it’s her fault.

That’s precisely it in a nutshell…

GlammourGirl

January 10th, 2014
12:42 pm

I think Dwayne said that he had known her for like 10 years or something. One of those blogs showed some previous twitter messages me sent to her from like 3 or so years back. He had probably been having unprotected sex with her for a while.

MsAtl

January 10th, 2014
12:43 pm

Button- I use the wipes. I also clean my hands after touching the meats (some of those packages are nasty and bloody).

Kimmie- I didn’t listen to the show but yesterday I read an article purporting to show that Gabby blamed herself. I didn’t see that anywhere in the article. I did see where she said that because of her schedule she wasn’t as available to him and missed some of the affection and closeness… something like that. If she said it was her fault, then I don’t even know what to say about that. I’ll be derned if I take responsibility for you sticking your thing in someone else unless I guided you into it with my own hands!

Button

January 10th, 2014
12:51 pm

I wonder what Gabby think is the reason D cheated on his first wife?

Sassy Me

January 10th, 2014
12:54 pm

I’ll be derned if I take responsibility for you sticking your thing in someone else unless I guided you into it with my own hands!

That’s a good point..the visual made me laugh but the point is made all the same.

Button

January 10th, 2014
12:58 pm

MsAtl – I have to remind myself to keep plastic gloves handy when I go grocery shopping. I alsways keep a good supply handy when cooking(I don’t like touching raw/dead meat with my bare hands). I really need to make up my mind and get serious about becoming vegan so I can stop dealing with meat/animal products all together.

MsAtl

January 10th, 2014
1:10 pm

Button- When I go grocery shopping, I almost feel like I am giving the cart a bath. I wipe the handle. Then I wipe the sides and front because how many times have you grabbed the cart from the front to pull it? I also wipe the seat because we have a habit of putting eggs and veggies in there and I am mindful of the last thing that has been in there- baby a$$!

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
1:14 pm

“…I think they should’ve set up parameters/boundaries/deal breakers for said break.” – I said the same thing. Perhaps even draw up a freaking contract and seal it with a seal of wax only to be opened when some crazy stuff jumps off.

What she did to get him is going to be the same way she loses him. Someone prettier and sexier than her will come along and charm him like she did because apparently his nose is constantly sniffing around for some nu nu.

O/T: 107.5 is playing this bit over where this guy called in saying he was the maintenance man for many women while their husbands was overseas fighting. When he finally got married, his wife went on a business trip for 2 days and he couldn’t stand it and had to get him “some” from someone. WTH is wrong that a man can’t go even two days. I’m sure not all men, but that fact that there is even one is disgusting!

Sassy Me

January 10th, 2014
1:14 pm

I also clean my hands after touching the meats (some of those packages are nasty and bloody).

True…I know certain Kroger/Walmart stores have sanitizing wipes next to the carts. I keep plenty of napkins in case,though…

Sassy Me

January 10th, 2014
1:19 pm

WTH is wrong that a man can’t go even two days.

That’s a total lack of self control, no respect for your vows,no respect for your wife and just being selfish.

What would really kill him is if he found out his wife was gettin her a lil sumthin’ sumthin’ on the side while she was out of town. :mrgreen: Ain’t no fun when the rabbit got the gun.

For some reason I could hear the late, great Johnny Taylor singing, “Who’s making love to your old lady…while you’ve been out making love

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
1:21 pm

Leggs – I heard the 2-day dude yesterday. Sounds like Dwade might be just like him!lol

They were taking this poll asking men if they were deployed for a year and found out during that time their wife cheated would they forgive her. Most said they would not.

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
1:26 pm

All I can say is I would hate to have a man that could not control himself like that or whose sexual appetite was so off the meter and different from mine……

I just could not deal. We would have to break up. I’m just not the one.

Exiled!

January 10th, 2014
1:27 pm

WTH…a man can’t do two days?

Or maybe Gabby is giving Wade a pass because she has a guilty conscience herself?
Project to project my a$$&se!

Sassy Me

January 10th, 2014
1:30 pm

Most said they would not.

That’s a typical male answer…but that doesn’t mean that if/while they were deployed that they wouldn’t try to get some. Double standards…

What if the shoe were on the other foot and their wives were deployed…would they remain faithful for a year until she got back?…would they expect her to be faithful while she was deployed? I guess it’d go the same way regardless of which spouse was deployed.

I’ve read that the extra-marital activities in deployed camps is through the roof…

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
1:31 pm

“That’s a total lack of self control, no respect for your vows,no respect for your wife and just being selfish.” – In a nutshell, pure d selfish.

Kimmie ~ yeah that was a repeat from Wednesday night..that’s when I heard it. Shameful to even get on the radio and say that garbage, acting like he’s BMOC or something (big man on campus!)

MsAtl

January 10th, 2014
1:31 pm

Exiled- Hmmm, could be. We don’t know the whole story and I’ve heard different accounts but from what I’ve read, he cheated on his wife with her. Of course, the story they tell is that his marriage was over.
Then again, Fantasia said the same thing and her child’s father is mysteriously back with his wife.

I am waiting on Alicia Keys…

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
1:33 pm

I’ve read that the extra-marital activities in deployed camps is through the roof…

Sassy – I’ve heard the same. Some say it starts going down the minute the spouse takes off in the plane!

MsAtl

January 10th, 2014
1:36 pm

Sassy/Kimmie- While I was in Germany, there was one soldier who got a zero due paycheck. Apparently, he was busy spreading seeds every time he was deployed and several child support cases hit at once. They took his whole darn check and his wife had to support them and their 2 kids.

Another guy deployed, leaving a fiancé in the states. Then he came home divorced his wife and married someone he met while deployed. Yes, you read it right! He had been with his fiancé for over 2 years and she did not know he was married because the wife didn’t want to uproot the kids and travel with him.

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
1:37 pm

MsAtl ~ Alicia Keys may be a longer wait because he had a lot of tax issues he needed to clear up and her bank account is a lot bigger than his. I’m with you tho, the verdict is still out for me on that one.

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
1:42 pm

MsAtl – That whole military wife lifestyle is hard and one I am glad the Lord spared me from!!

Speaking of Alicia Keys, I read on Essence.com yesterday that Shamar Moore tried to get with her 10 years ago and she shot him down. He said he came at her like “Hey I don’t know what your man situation is, but if you are available I would love to take you out sometime.” She said something to the effect that “she appreciated the invitation, but that her man situation was just fine”. :shock:

Button

January 10th, 2014
1:47 pm

“Hey I don’t know what your man situation is, but if you are available I would love to take you out sometime.”—LAME!!!

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
1:51 pm

Durty Burd

January 10th, 2014
1:57 pm

I”m going to go with Team Disco on regarding D-Wade and Gabby….They were not married or engaged, just dating! They just now have to deal with the responsibility of the child.

I am not sure why anyone who has enlisted at an early age gets married, not a good idea. The married wives that are left on the base get down with the other soldiers all the time.

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
1:58 pm

WOW, that’s a humdinger, MsAtl!

Sassy Me

January 10th, 2014
2:00 pm

They took his whole darn check and his wife had to support them and their 2 kids.

:shock:

Where they do that at?!?!

Support the two of them…I ain’t supporting jack!! So HIS shenanigans are affecting BOTH their quality of life…AND she stayed after he’s had several children…oh hell naw..

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
2:01 pm

“Hey I don’t know what your man situation is, but if you are available I would love to take you out sometime” – more than lame. He’s telling her no matter what it is he wants to take her out. Why not just ask if she’s seeing someone? Because he didn’t care. He probably thought his non-dancing, wiggling hips self could pull merely by his pretty face and nice white teef.

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
2:05 pm

I am not sure why anyone who has enlisted at an early age gets married, = military benefits!

Exiled!

January 10th, 2014
2:06 pm

Alicia did that wife derty..there is no denying that one. Dude was still in a marriage and Alicia took advantage when they were producing her music.

That was real ho derty that!

As a man I have more respect for a man who skeets but keeps his family than the one who leaves wife and kids to marry the h o! :lol:

@MsAtl.I’m sure we agree? :lol:

Single and Happy

January 10th, 2014
2:11 pm

MsAtl, I know a few guys I work with that happened too. Can’t hide from child support

Durty the military is just a working welfare, the more dependents you get the more benefits you get! You can get married as an E1 and get base housing or assistance, but as a single person you have to be E5 before you can get any assistance. And don’t get me started on the children.

kimmie

January 10th, 2014
2:14 pm

I was at a listening party and I was hosting Soul Train. I fell in love with her eyes,” said Moore. “She played the piano and she had the cornrows, the voice. I was like she is the business. So I went up to her and I got it together and I said, ‘I don’t know what your man situation is like but when you’re not working I’d love to take you out some time.’”

And to his surprise, Keys wasn’t interested. “And she basically looked at me and she went, ‘Look here son. I respect your flirt game. But my man situation is handled.’ And that is a true story,’” said Moore.

Despite getting the cold shoulder, Moore still loves and praises Keys’ talents. But he admits to being jealous of Swizz Beatz.

DuShawn

January 10th, 2014
2:14 pm

“So HIS shenanigans are affecting BOTH their quality of life” I spoke on this the other day and most didn’t get it.

Durty Burd

January 10th, 2014
2:14 pm

Tell them daughters M-benefits are not enough for the potential heartache you may receive.

Exiled..What did you direct your comment at MsAtl?

Ladies of the blog….I’m not sure of of your man situation, but if you are available I would luv to take you out! hehehehehehehe! SOUL TRAIN

Sassy Me

January 10th, 2014
2:17 pm

the military is just a working welfare, the more dependents you get the more benefits you get!

Working welfare for real…one of my cousins was in the Army Reserve and did ONE year active duty in Iraq…homegirl came back and whatever scam/sob story/trickery she did worked because she is 100% disabled and gets around 5k a month….for the rest of her days. She did ONE YEAR of active duty and is being cared for for LIFE…

Just saw her last month and she’s living the life..

Sassy Me

January 10th, 2014
2:18 pm

No thanks…hehehehehe

Single and Happy

January 10th, 2014
2:19 pm

Durty The married wives that are left on the base get down with the other soldiers all the time. Most of the time the military guys steer clear of the military wives, got to much to loose (you can face court martial for adultery.) They usually have some local D hanging around.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
2:22 pm

Off topic: I’m just ill. Went downstairs to get a sandwich and to my dismay a ROACH is crawling around the sandwich station :shock: Got my dern head hurting cause I’m hungry!!! I know a lot of folks this building and I was telling EVERYBODY in front of the staff, that came in the cafe. I sent for the head huncho, but she sent the manager out. He was uttering and but-erring and stuttering. Then said my lunch was on him. Naw dude, give me something packaged as in a bag of chips and a soda.

Just uuuuuggggghhhhh, got a mind to call the health inspector.

Single and Happy

January 10th, 2014
2:22 pm

Sassy, it’s gotten really bad now, All they have to do is claim PTSD. While I know it’s true for some, there are a lot that have just found and easy check.

Sassy Me

January 10th, 2014
2:28 pm

there are a lot that have just found and easy check.

I know…that same cousing has a sister who’s milking disability from a different angle. She’s always had back problems as a child and as an adult she was in a car accident…well she parlayed the back trouble she’s always had with the accident and fanagled 100% disability,too. She said she wasn’t ever going to work again and she’s not. Her sister is 41 and she’s in her late 30s and both are 100% disabled and collecting nice checks.

Exiled!

January 10th, 2014
2:28 pm

Lol..Celisea..how long have u been eating that Roached food?

Years? :lol:

Reio

January 10th, 2014
2:29 pm

Celisea – Cockroaches got a lot of protein in’em. And they’re cleaner than you think.

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
2:32 pm

Celisea ~ may be the first time you’ve seen a roach there, but bet they’ve been there for some time. Where there’s one, there’s an entire family sleeping in the back somewhere or in the walls.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
2:36 pm

MMello – I just burst out laughing at your post

Reio – My coworker said the same thing….LOLOLOL

Leggs – Sho nuff. And that’s what I was thinking. When you can’t control your critters in front of guests and patrons, then they’re in the back tap dancing….

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
2:36 pm

MMeello – Been in this building since 98, ain’t no telling what I don consumed…uuuuughhh

I have a serious headache now. I’on play bout food. I have to eat or I get headaches

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
2:38 pm

“…there are a lot that have just found and easy check.” – I have a cousin, play cousin at that, who is a master at pretending injuries and having the state pay for whatever. 911 I’m ashamed to say she racked up. She is sick and has been for quite some time but I don’t think it’s from 911 dust. Like the scam that’s presently being uncovered of the NYPD and firefighters lying of disorders, inability to walk, lung issues, etc. all the while living in mansions and high on the hog, going boating, fishing, playing bball. I think of her concocting stories like they did. In the long run, I think she’s physically paying the price now for all her lies.

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
2:43 pm

“I have to eat or I get headaches” – Your headaches sound like my stomach aches.

Reio

January 10th, 2014
2:44 pm

Celisea – To be fair to your co-workers, you might want to double check to be sure you didn’t brang that roach with you. Everybody knows what kind of house you keep.

DuShawn

January 10th, 2014
2:57 pm

Off topic, this morning my 10 year old daughter came to me crying, snotty nose, breathing erratically. Talkin about she wasn’t going to school today because she has an exam she was not prepared for and she’s also participating in a spelling bee. She didn’t know the words to her satisfaction and was upset because she was about to “embarrass herself in front of the whole school”. She’s a straight “A” student and puts a lot pressure on herself to excel. She was so upset you would think the world was about to end. She begged me to let her stay home. I explained if I allowed her to hide from challenges, I would be doing her a disservice. I told her how special she was and made her take out her new I phone and google the poem “See It Through” by Edgar Albert Guest. I asked her to read it aloud a few times in the car, made her stop crying and take out the spelling bee words, quizzed her (there were nearly 100 words, she got the 50 I asked her right), then told her to re-read the chapter her exam was on. By the time we arrived at school she was calm and confident. Before she left, I reminded her who she is and whose she is. I told her “don’t forget about your secret weapon…….prayer. Say a quick prayer before you take the test and another one before you go on stage for the spelling bee. Do thy duty that is best, leave unto the lord the rest. By 2:30 it will all be over.” She laughed and told me to have a blessed day. She gets off the bus at 3:00. I can’t wait to call her and see how it went. I’m the greatest muffugin Daddy in the world.

Sassy Me

January 10th, 2014
2:57 pm

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
3:04 pm

I must say, DuShawn, you handled that beautifully. {clap, clap, clapping}

SassyMe ~ you ready (lol)?

Reio

January 10th, 2014
3:05 pm

“….I’m the greatest muffugin Daddy in the world.”

Sure sounds like it. Your daughter is quite lucky.

MsAtl

January 10th, 2014
3:08 pm

Durty- “The married wives that are left on the base get down with the other soldiers all the time.”
Wrong! Of course there are some. I went to school, worked and took care of my kids while my ex was deployed. While he was there, I took care of my family.

As a man I have more respect for a man who skeets but keeps his family than the one who leaves wife and kids to marry the h o! :lol: @MsAtl.I’m sure we agree? :lol:
Exiled- I don’t have respect for either one of them. I have respect for the man that realizes he wants to cheat and goes to his wife to talk or ends his marriage. I gave my ex an out to part as friends, but he wanted to remain in the marriage AND cheat. I’m not down with that.

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
3:10 pm

I must say, DuShawn, you handled that beautifully. {{clap, clap, clapping}}

Not sure if you saw that since it was at the bottom of page 3. @uarr;

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
3:11 pm

that was supposed to be an ↑

Sassy Me

January 10th, 2014
3:12 pm

~Leggs…yes ma’am I shole is…

2CPTG©

January 10th, 2014
3:15 pm

Du….bruh, there’s some’n bout a dude and his daughter…

my baby-girl can damn near get anything she want outta me….all it takes is,…….daaaaaddddyyy…..you know how they stretch it out til it sounds like a whine and a plea….

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
3:18 pm

2C ~ so are you saying you would have let her stay home and skip the two tests? I’m not trying to be funny, but his daughter wanted to stay home and she was crying and whining. Would you have given in?

2CPTG©

January 10th, 2014
3:20 pm

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
3:21 pm

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
3:23 pm

Reio – Ummm, okay….lolol Everybody that KNOWS me, knows I’m super super clean.

MsAtl

January 10th, 2014
3:26 pm

DuShawn- I agree. You handled that like a champ!

Celisea- When you can’t control your critters in front of guests and patrons, then they’re in the back tap dancing…. YIKES! You ain’t never lied!

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
3:28 pm

O/T: I wore a beautiful silver cross necklace to work today. A friend saw me in the hallway and immediately asked if she could borrow it to wear to church on Sunday. I asked if she had a necklace I could put on if I should say yes. She didn’t have one. At lunch time, I went to her desk and loaned my necklace to her. Now, I’m sitting here feeling naked. To top matters off, I just bought the necklace yesterday. She’ll wear it well and I’m confident I’ll get it back in one piece.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
3:29 pm

I told her “don’t forget about your secret weapon…….prayer. Say a quick prayer before you take the test and another one before you go on stage for the spelling bee. Do thy duty that is best, leave unto the lord the rest.

Quit tryna win me over and make me like you

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
3:34 pm

MsAtl – I’ve gone back downstairs (cause I went online to complain and didn’t see our location) to make sure the company I thought managed, was still managing. And boy oh boy….I done make another batch of enemies. They were saying “yeen have to broadcast it” and “it was just one bug.” I’m so over the fact that they tried to minimize this whole thing :shock: Stick a fork in me!!!

Only for Ms. Linda (or whatever her name), that’s been with that company 21 years, plea in asking me to know escalate but allow the manager to work on it, am I’m gonna not file the complaint I was gonna file. She said if I do so, the new manager (that none of us like) will get fired. They (cafe workers) all love her. She’s brash and brazen and done gave me a few inches to feel froggy and get smart with folks when they’re in the cafe. Not me, but from what I’ve heard a few folks saying. Now, I ain’t feeling how she done jacked up the prices, but Imma hold off….cause I don’t like to see people lose their jobs. Apparently everybody knows about the bug :mrgreen:

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
3:34 pm

Ms. Linda’S plea and made not make

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
3:35 pm

“done gave them a few inches…..” not, done gave me

I’m sorry, I’m hungry

DuShawn

January 10th, 2014
3:39 pm

Leggs – I was about to let her stay…….I hate to see her upset, but I realized that it was an opportunity to teach a life lesson. Now, her her knuckle head little brother (DuShawn II) was laughing the whole time, while saying “Daddy, I don’t even know what she’s crying about……it’s nothing but a test! I’m like Dude…..that’s not helping. By the way, don’t you have a test today too?” He got real quiet after that, hoping I wouldn’t quiz him next.

Celisea – What you doin tonight…..I heard they have a revival at The Blue Flame. Care to join me? BTW – did I read earlier that you were a chcoclate sister?

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
3:43 pm

Dushawn – I have plans tonight, boo

Blue Flame – Naaah, not my thing

Yeah, chocolatte

Sassy Me

January 10th, 2014
3:44 pm

She’ll wear it well and I’m confident I’ll get it back in one piece.

I hope so…

DuShawn

January 10th, 2014
3:52 pm

“Yeah, chocolatte……”Dayum, my favorite. I never would’ve guessed that. I envisioned you to be high yella and highfalutin.

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
3:58 pm

Dushawn – Quit it! You know I’m chocolatte and yummy!!!

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
3:58 pm

Dushawn ~ I’m not saying I wouldn’t have let her stay home, but I too saw an opportunity to teach and that’s what I would have done. Seriously, that was one for the books…well done, sir, well done!

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
4:02 pm

meant “wouldn’t have WANTED to let her stay….”

Celisea

January 10th, 2014
4:06 pm

Yaaay, my Fossil arrived today :mrgreen: I’m going to register it online

Leggs

January 10th, 2014
4:26 pm

Let me fix this…I meant “would” have “wanted” her to stay home, but wouldn’t have let her stay because that’s running/hiding from a problem that needs to be fixed not swept under the rug for a day or two.