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Are you too raunchy for your date?

My friend Chris is new to the city so he has been meeting women in different places. Recently he met “Kelly” at the gym and asked her out. Kelly told him that she wanted to pick the location and so he agreed to pick her up. She gave him turn by turn directions and they ended up at some kind of adult entertainment venue.

Chris is super straight laced and not into that scene at all so he insisted that she pick another activity for them. She obliged but he said that the entire evening she said some really raunchy things.

Now, in Kelly’s defense, when Chris is in his workout gear, you can’t tell that he is conservative. Apparently she didn’t gather that from the few conversations they had before the date either. So know we have two people with extremely different viewpoints on a date. Awkward!

I think if Kelly had saved her raunchy side for later, he could have discovered other things that they had in common. He decided with absolute certainty that there won’t be a second date, though.

Do you ever get turned off when someone you just met gets to raunchy?

Guys, how would you have reacted in this situation?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

187 comments Add your comment

DuShawn

January 8th, 2014
2:01 pm

“Hopefully the chick that used to be on her knees is now sitting upright, on the pews” ……. she was always sitting upright on the pews……..On Sunday mornings, but Saturday nights she was off the chain. Thinking of that chick reminds me of the word virtue. That was her thing. She always used to say that she was a virtuous woman. I used to be like, “Whateva baby, just take that shid off”

Celisea

January 8th, 2014
2:13 pm

Mmeello, I’ve answered the question as to whether or not I’m practicing celibacy. Not going down that road again.

Exiled!

January 8th, 2014
2:30 pm

Celisea….what did u say? :lol:

don’t tell me ur sh y tt stanks too. :lol:

Anyway..I’m gone.

Toodles folks!

Celisea

January 8th, 2014
2:36 pm

Meello – I’on know any sh y tt that don’t stink. It was YOU that asked me before and it was YOU that I answered. Now, cause you can’t remember or wanna get into some mess on what I’m doing ain’t reason enough to answer that again.

Celisea

January 8th, 2014
2:37 pm

Love you still…maybe one day you and I can chat over a cup of Starbucks :)

Mrs. SexyCool

January 8th, 2014
2:40 pm

Random – Black is my favorite color. I have a dog that sheds light colored hair. #ThingsThatDon’tGoTogether

YesSheIsCute

January 8th, 2014
2:42 pm

@2C he was a truck driver. The establishment he took me to was Oasis. That was my first time in anything like that. It didn’t leave a good impression, the women just thought it was ok to keep touching and grabbing me. I have no idea why.

DuShawn

January 8th, 2014
2:44 pm

“the women just thought it was ok to keep touching and grabbing me. I have no idea why”………..I have an idea why….lol

SlimNu

January 8th, 2014
2:51 pm

Yes – I think folks figure girls are more touchy feely anyway and it isn’t seen as inappropriate in a lot of cases…No different than chicks dressing or being naked in front of each other.

YesSheIsCute

January 8th, 2014
2:56 pm

@SlimNu Being naked in front of me or me being naked in front of another woman is completely different than being groped and felt up. I know this is gonna sound weird and maybe no one will appreciate this but I don’t know something about the women’s locker room gives me a sense of sororite, I feel like I can be naked, half naked whatever because we are all in there together for the same reason. I wouldn’t bat an eyelash at women walking around naked talking etc. I wouldn’t allow anyone to touch me or feel up on me just of out sororite though. No way.

kimmie

January 8th, 2014
3:05 pm

Yes – I can appreciate what you said. A locker room is one thing, strange folks, women or men, touching uninvited and invading your personal space is different.

Personally, and maybe I’m just old school, but I never did the women dancing with each other at night clubs thing. And in locker rooms or showers when I was in the college dorm, I’ve never been one to stand around naked. I go in and do what I have to do and put some clothes on. Not interested in being around a bunch of naked women either.

Exiled!

January 8th, 2014
3:09 pm

So Yes and Slim..uall dismiss a 3 some of 2 girls and a dude outright?

Hmmmpffff.

@Celisea..no mess just a genuine question trying to understand what sin if any u got a sweet tooth for…or maybe u just clean clean fo real fo real.

I personally think and do know some churchy church folks who talk God but are undercover sinners but other folks wldnt think so.

Hence my question.

I know I can be clean but I do like a lil sin.
I just don’t put myself up there tho..

Leggs

January 8th, 2014
3:10 pm

kimmie ~ not sure why I thought of this, but I don’t mind dancing by myself on the dance floor but what I don’t get is that new dance (well new to me), Red Nosing. I was :shocked: at how many women were dancing with women. You think all of them are gay??

Exiled!

January 8th, 2014
3:11 pm

@Kimmie…?

U got some dings on ur body that u ain’t proud of or uncomfortable letting other gals see them ? :lol:

Reio

January 8th, 2014
3:15 pm

Afternoon all.

Guess I’m a little late to the party. Nekkid women? Sounds good to me.

Celisea

January 8th, 2014
3:21 pm

Mmeelo @Celisea..no mess just a genuine question trying to understand what sin if any u got a sweet tooth for…or maybe u just clean clean fo real fo real

Meello, we all sin….everyday. Look, it’s not like you think….you’re narrow in your thinking. We are “striving” to be what God wants us to be. Even in that on our best day, we’re all sinners….everyday. And with God there’s no ranking of sin. We all have a need to be forgiven daily. Now cause you ain’t robbing a store or NOT plowing that man’s wife. We recieve and obey the Spirit. It ain’t in no person’s nature to live righteously….so be that “good person”, that ain’t where it lies. It’s not the sin you don’t commit, it’s obedience to the Spirit, that pleases God. Otherwise, without the Spirit abiding and leading and strengthing, you (me and anybody else) are on our own. Everything we do, by nature is sinful. Everything.

And FTR, we all “like” sinning….it’s our nature

Celisea

January 8th, 2014
3:22 pm

MMeello – And yeah, I gotta sinful sweet tooth

2CPTG©

January 8th, 2014
3:31 pm

thinking out loud:

wonder if I should accept this current drought situation as a sign from God…….or should I say fvck it, and go shake some’n……

DuShawn

January 8th, 2014
3:32 pm

Yall done went from raunchy to the lord.

Exiled!

January 8th, 2014
3:33 pm

‘obedience to the spirit’ as in knowing there is God?

Un other news,on CNN they’re saying some college athletes have 4th to 8th grade reading levels;CNN study!

Wow.,.thru think this is news? They could have paid me to give them some info and I have never stepped foot onUGA or big time athletic college.

Common sense tells me they breed athletic dummies! :lol:

If ur kid,cousin,neph etc is doing high school athletics,send them to summer school otherwise u got dummy in ur midst.

These capitalists are cruel!
Churning out worthless ‘degrees’

2CPTG©

January 8th, 2014
3:34 pm

Du…ain’t that how it usually works?? after folks done “raunched out” they turn to God…..

Raqi

January 8th, 2014
3:35 pm

Celisea, Matthew 7:6

DuShawn

January 8th, 2014
3:35 pm

2C – Consider yourself lucky bruh. I read somewhere that once you reach the age of 45, each nut takes a week off your life span. Don’t waste them. My ole lady trying to kill me early.

Celisea

January 8th, 2014
3:36 pm

Raqi, definitely…most definitely. I only answered MMeello cause he asked, but most most definitely.

2CPTG©

January 8th, 2014
3:37 pm

:shock: now if that ain’t some sh it……men go on the decline after 40, while women go on the prowl….

2CPTG©

January 8th, 2014
3:39 pm

y’all ladies over 40 that’s still hunching, and has a mate over 40, tell me, can you notice the difference?

Exiled!

January 8th, 2014
3:39 pm

2C..draught

How bout self nutting?

:lol:

too bad the industry hadn’t come up with vaginal gadgets like they cater to the cob webbed women.

Tell me,ever heard of a battery manufacturing company that went bust?

Me never!
Those folks getting Big business! :lol: from gadget using women

Exiled!

January 8th, 2014
3:40 pm

zzzzzzzxzzz
battery!

Exiled!

January 8th, 2014
3:41 pm

Women over 40 on the prowl?

Gabriel Union.

Raqi

January 8th, 2014
3:42 pm

2CPTG, difference in what? Libido? Stamina?

SlimNu

January 8th, 2014
3:43 pm

kimmie/Yes – I was never one of those naked locker room chicks and I used to take dance. However, I have danced with a friend girl of mine numerous times. That would keep dudes from messing up our good time too. lol

kimmie

January 8th, 2014
3:43 pm

Exiled – Naw, my body is not perfect, but nothing I’m ashamed of. Unless I’m with my man in private or bathing or at the doctor, I’ve just never been one that’s comfortable naked. I like having on clothes. Whether women or men, just not cool with folks looking at my nakedness.

Exiled!

January 8th, 2014
3:45 pm

Stamina..

Although the new Viagra can keep a man primed for days.

2CPTG©

January 8th, 2014
3:46 pm

Raqi…..both…

Ex….I ain’t wasting no more nuts! and they do make “pocket vajays” for mens’ use…..one of my partners that did time, say they call ‘em “FeFe’s”

kimmie

January 8th, 2014
3:49 pm

Leggs – I’ll dance by myself. Don’t know anything about red nosing.

Exiled – The Jan Kemp case changed UGA in regards to athletes and academics. Kemp was a professor who refused to give athletes special treatment in her class and pass them & went to court about it back in the 80’s. Since then, UGA did away with their remedial program and actually started taking the lead in the graduating percentage of their athletes.

Exiled!

January 8th, 2014
3:49 pm

:lol: wow @2C

They do..,,good Lawd! :lol:

But for prison,that’s understandable.

MsAtl

January 8th, 2014
3:49 pm

2C- There was a big difference between the last man I dated (who was in his 30’s) and my ex (who is late 40’s).

SlimNu

January 8th, 2014
3:50 pm

Ex – I’m not into the 3some thing, so I’d have to say, no to considering that.

each nut takes a week off your life span. Don’t waste them. My ole lady trying to kill me early

:lol: :lol:

abc

January 8th, 2014
3:50 pm

Regarding morality vs. raunch, and in reference to Raqi’s quote of Mathew, everyone’s a hypocrite in one way or another, some time or another, in lots of different ways, and repeatedly until we die. That’s just the human condition. We judge, we sin, and if we’re lucky, we’re obedient to the spirit sufficient to learn from these kinds of mistakes. Here’s one of the biggest mistakes: thinking that sin == fun. The strip joint is NOT fun, folks, it’s just plain sad, pathetic really: you spend all your money, leave alone, having not been all that entertained by dancers that are only there for the money.

More specific to Mathew 7:6, I know, it’s kind of fruitless to point out things like that, but, there you go.

Celisea

January 8th, 2014
3:51 pm

Raqi – Most time you blog, you speak of your beliefs. What’s the difference?

kimmie

January 8th, 2014
3:51 pm

Exiled – Gabs Union isn’t on the prowl anymore. She got her man, he put a ring on it! She’s welcome to him if you ask me tho.

Celisea

January 8th, 2014
3:52 pm

Raqi – What’s the difference in talking about sex….on the blog? Sometime you get raunchy? Is that because you’re married?

2CPTG©

January 8th, 2014
3:52 pm

besides gettin ugly, that’s another thing that scares me…..losing the ability to put it down….

Raqi

January 8th, 2014
3:53 pm

2CPTG, lower libido as in how often but longer lasting.

It takes him a little longer and a little more effort to get in full motion which for me is great because it lends more time to foreplay. Also a little longer to ‘finish’ which for me again is great. So his 40+ manhood is a win, win for me.

He is not complaining either.

kimmie

January 8th, 2014
3:54 pm

The strip joint is NOT fun, folks, it’s just plain sad, pathetic really: you spend all your money, leave alone, having not been all that entertained by dancers that are only there for the money

abc – Agree. I have gone twice for bachelorette parties, but got nothing out of the experience, just there to support my friends. Don’t see what the hype’s about.

Exiled!

January 8th, 2014
3:55 pm

@Kimmie..that’s good but the practice is still prevalent.
This CNN study is recent.

And I know that as prevalent as this is in colleges,nothing will be done bout it.

An open secret but a disgrace fo sho.

And u can’t get surprised when u see all these athletes getting multiple baby mamas getting wiped by the baby mamas and getting penniless as soon as they retire.
It’s a continous cycle of dummies making money for colleges with no significant gainful end product on the Human front.

SlimNu

January 8th, 2014
3:55 pm

I’ve never heard of red nosing either…Is that an actual dance or something?

Raqi

January 8th, 2014
3:56 pm

Celisea, I am on your side. I was actually trying to encourage you not to argue with someone that has no desire to hear the truth. I like everything you said and I also know that ‘he’ has no good intentions in most of what he posts.

Celisea

January 8th, 2014
3:57 pm

It’s not fruitless to inform folks….it’s fruitless though when folks make mockery. I didn’t stop talking because of Raqi’s post. I stopped talking cause Mmello tettered into mockery with this —> obedience to the spirit’ as in knowing there is God? Imma always answer any man that asks, but I don’t dabble with mockery.

Exiled!

January 8th, 2014
3:57 pm

MsAtl…are u trying say the 30 some dude put it down ..off the charts? :lol:

How did the 40 do? :lol:

Say it! :lol: