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Holidays: Perfect for appreciation

We are well on our way into the Holiday trifecta for relationships: Christmas, New Year’s, and Valentine’s Day. While many will look for monetary gifts to show their love, the truly priceless thing we can give is attention, love, and appreciation.

Since we have so many women who find it challenging to show appreciation for their men (don’t shoot the messenger, I hear this a lot from men), I thought it would be a good idea to share some ways to show that you appreciate the good man you have:

I have never met a guy who does not love a home cooked meal. Yes, we all have busy careers and Scandal shows to catch up on, but a couple of great home cooked meals over the holidays will make your man feel appreciated.

Show him you appreciate him by LEAVING HIM ALONE. At least for a few hours, anyway. Instead of dragging him with you to the stores, why not let some of his holiday leisure time be spent doing anything he wants to do without guilt trips? Absence makes the heart go fonder, right? Win-Win.

Guys, what are things you would like women to do to show their appreciation? When was the last time you made the woman in your life feel appreciated?

Ladies, if you are dating someone special, what things would you want them to do to make you feel like you are appreciated?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

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Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
7:38 am

Hello All

Preach Diva

Show him you appreciate him by LEAVING HIM ALONE. At least for a few hours, anyway. Instead of dragging him with you to the stores, why not let some of his holiday leisure time be spent doing anything he wants to do without guilt trips? Absence makes the heart go fonder, right? Win-Win.? I guess I’m not with this one, because I don’t have a problem saying when I need some space. and getting some. When I’m in a relationship I don’t have a problem spending a lot of time. If I wanted to be alone, I would stay alone.

Button

December 20th, 2013
8:14 am

Ladies, if you are dating someone special, what things would you want them to do to make you feel like you are appreciated? Saying thank you is all I need. Anything he does outside of that is nice too but acknowledging any good deed that I do and saying thank you is a winner!

Good morning!

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
8:20 am

Good morning folks! :-D

lee

December 20th, 2013
8:23 am

Ladies, if you are dating someone special, what things would you want them to do to make you feel like you are appreciated? A nice back rub would be nice… Best thing both sexes can do is give your time, ask if your partner needs help even if they don’t need your help if is lovely when one offer, never stop saying thank you to your hunniebunny and follow that up with kiss.

lee

December 20th, 2013
8:25 am

Good Morning

YesSheIsCute

December 20th, 2013
8:57 am

Good Morning everyone!

I really don’t care to discuss about ways to show men appreciation because I do it in every relationship because I’m a thoughtful person. Plus every man is different so you can’t really generalize. Find out what that specific man wants and needs and do it.

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
9:06 am

I’m a simple gal…pulling me to the side and telling me how much you appreciate me is great…But i’m a sucker for a good card with a handwritten note in it ;-)

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
9:07 am

Slim cmere, I really appreciate you :-D

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
9:12 am

Single – lol, good try but thank you….even though I’m not quite sure why you appreciate me ;-)

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
9:13 am

Slim I appreciate you for just being you :-D

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
9:21 am

Awwww, now that was a little better :lol:

MsAtl

December 20th, 2013
9:28 am

Morning All!

Since I regularly cook for nay man I am seriously dating, one way he can show appreciation is by cooking me a home cooked meal. Like Slim said- a card is always nice. Most of all, don’t take my efforts for granted and remember a simple thank you or I appreciate you goes a long way.

MsAtl

December 20th, 2013
9:28 am

*any man, not nay man, lol

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
9:34 am

And to be frank, appreciation should be throughout the year, not just on holiday’s…

Reio

December 20th, 2013
9:36 am

Morning all.

Well, I don’t really know what to say on this beyond, try and find out what she wants and provide it for her. In addition, go ahead and make a firm commitment to yourself to continue this spirit throughout your relationship/marriage. Nothing wrong with starting now, but we need to keep it up after the holidays. As far as Me? Well, I think Diva and S&H said it best, “LEAVING HIM ALONE”.

I hope this will not be taken the wrong way(probably will), but, just from my own observations and experiences, and conversations, I, and many men, perhaps most men, absolutely love being left alone. I cannot tell you women how much this means to a lot of men. Oh, you don’t have to leave the house, hell, you don’t even have to leave the room. Just, please, be quiet, don’t bother me, for a while. I would say that, many, hopefully most men, really care for and love their spouse/SO, but some peace, quiet, and tranquility means so, so, so, so much to us. But that’s just my opinion.

disco

December 20th, 2013
9:41 am

good morning. I don’t think I’d be one to trip so much over a token of appreciation. I don’t necessarily need to “feel appreciated” so long as I don’t feel as if I’m being “used or taken for granted”. if the overall feeling is somewhere in the middle, it’s all good.

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
9:43 am

Slim I appreciate you 366 days of the year :-D

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
9:48 am

Reio – Being left alone does not only apply to men but women as well. My cousin that is recently engaged said that her and her fiance discussed ‘decompression’ time. When they come in from work or whatever, they’ll speak/greet each other then go to their little separate dens to decompress from their day. They were both used to living alone for so long and felt that would be important for their relationship. She’ll usually read or whatever and wait until he comes to her. So far she says it works.

MsAtl

December 20th, 2013
9:50 am

Slim- Yes, you are right, appreciation should be shown all year. Decompression time; I like that. On the flip side, my last S/O wanted together time when he got home from work. He said he wanted the first half hour to hour when we got home, then I could talk to my friends.

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
9:53 am

Single – I see you’re going hard in the paint. Tell me what you want :lol:

Reio

December 20th, 2013
9:54 am

Slim/MsAtl – Here here.

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
9:59 am

MsAtl – That’s good too, I guess it just depends on the couple and the needs of those involved in that relationship.

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
10:03 am

SlimNu – I’m big on being sure to greet each other after being apart all day or days….and also how you leave each other. I know the last guy acted a bit bi-polar but he’d walk in and say “sup?” like I was one of his homeboys. Come in hug or kiss me and speak like I’m your lady, not your buddy or roomie. :roll:

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
10:03 am

I’ve always understood the concept of “leaving him alone.” We all need our downtime and I can identify with SlimNu’s cousin “decompression time.” It definitely helps balance the mind, spirit and soul. Now, you can cross each other in the hallway and want to jump their bones (lolol).

I appreciate you all through the year, not just on the holidays. I can’t believe someone on the news this morning said “Christmas has turned into nothing more than dollars” in terms of sales, discounts on top of discounts. Where has he been???

Good morning!

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
10:04 am

Slim I just want you to be happy (said trying to keep a straight face) you already said you don’t like us oleheads (LOL)

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
10:13 am

I didn’t mean to address that post to myself hehehehehe

Single – Well, in life I guess you shouldn’t single a certain “type’ out until you’ve tried it. (me too trying to say it with a straight face)

Reio

December 20th, 2013
10:14 am

I guess this is about as good a time as any to post this, so here goes.

When it comes to Christmas, birthdays, anniversaries….and life in general, it’s obvious to me that many women tend to really get a great deal of joy and satisfaction in receiving jewelry and diamonds as gifts, or tokens of appreciation….Which is fine. But this is just a pet peeve of mine. A lot of men feel the same way.

Here is my problem, and if this is off topic, I apologize. But I don’t understand the thrill or excitement some people get from receiving jewelry as a gift or token of appreciation. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t look down on it, I just don’t understand it. I wish I could. I wish I could feel that joy that some others feel upon receiving these kinds of gifts. To be honest, as far as I’m concerned, a diamond has as much value as a tangerine seed. Honestly, I’ve never felt any kind of joy or pleasure at receiving a gold watch, or expensive neck tie pin, or,…..Maybe, one day it’ll hit me all of a sudden. I’ll get something and immediately become ecstatic and overwhelmed with joy and excitement. Hasn’t happened yet though. I don’t think it ever will.

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
10:15 am

Slim well cmon an try it :-D

DuShawn

December 20th, 2013
10:17 am

“Instead of dragging him with you to the stores,” A few years ago I had an epiphany. I found myself in a mall holding a purse and four bags of women’s shoes. Suddenly my wife comes out from the fitting room for what seemed like the hundredth time and asked “which one do you like better, this one or the other one?” That’s when I had a moment of clarity. The love briefly subsided and I saw myself for what I had become. I mean, I’m in the mall, with a purse, while the NFC championship game is on and she’s wondering why I have an attitude. We had been there for hours. I vowed right then to never let my wife take my manhood again. I don’t do malls with women! Wifey knows I’ve had several bad experiences with that and I’m emotionally scarred as a result. Don’t even ask.

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
10:17 am

so reio, what do you get joy from receiving?

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
10:24 am

“…as I’m concerned, a diamond has as much value as a tangerine seed.” – Must not have seen a diamond close up (lol). Seriously, a diamond is a beautiful gem so who wouldn’t want to own one? Not only that, it’s not so much the diamond itself but the sentiment behind it. That’s where the value comes in, the worthiness the giftor feels toward the giftee. It’s an intangible sentiment that’s voiced with diamonds.

DuShawn ~ glald you had that “moment of clarify” and didn’t jump to your death from the top of the mall!!!!

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
10:30 am

See how guys are different, you could drag me to all the stores during any sporting event no matter what it is. And it has happened, We all get our joy from different places.

Button

December 20th, 2013
10:32 am

Reio – I agree with your 9:36. I also will say I enjoy my me time too. I give my G space, I think too much space sometimes. He appreicates it and I know I do as well. we don’t live together yet until after marriage but when I spend the weekend I resort to the other bedroom just to relax and take care of me (reading books, doing whatever) esp when he’s working on his publications. Sometimes he does come in and I have to shush him out. It took him sometime but he finally got used to it. I’ve made that extra bedroom my lil santuary sorta. We’ve already agreed that I will have my lil oasis in our new home, he’s not a man cave kind of guy so I don’t have that to worry about.

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
10:36 am

I guess since I’ve never lived with anyone, when I’m in a relationship I don’t need any me time, I’m more about balancing my life and finding time for everything with out neglecting anything.

Reio

December 20th, 2013
10:41 am

S&H – I get joy from receiving the news that my daughter, who lives there(Marietta), made it home safely after a visit here to see us. I get joy in receiving the news that my granddaughter (her daughter) is in kindergarten, but reads on a 2nd grade level. I get joy in receiving the news that my other daughter was proposed to by a young man that I think is a truly wonderful fella. I get joy in watching my daughters(years ago), pass the road test, and getting their driver’s license. I get joy in watching them finally learn to ride a bicycle without training wheels for the first time and not falling down. Joy in seeing them graduate from college. Joy in seeing my wife bake a pound cake that didn’t weigh 4lbs.(Years ago, she got lucky once )…….”Things” don’t mean sh!t to me. I wish I could feel that same sense of joy, but as of yet, I haven’t.

Kinda like what happens during a rainstorm. I’ve been hearing people say for years “Man, this rain makes me sleepy. When it rains like this, I can sleep like a baby”. Hell, when it rains, I can’t sleep at all. To scared a tornado will come and destroy my house, and they’ll find my right arm in the next county, and my head and guts, in somebody’s back yard 700 miles away in a small town just outside Kansas City, MO. Just sayin

Button

December 20th, 2013
10:42 am

Reio – we all have our way of recieving/showing appreication. You don’t value gifts but some do. For some that means the world. I’ve always attracted the gift giving men.

Reio

December 20th, 2013
10:48 am

I don’t have a problem with expensive jewelry as gifts. What I’m saying is, frankly, I have never felt that joy. I want to feel the same way my wife and daughters feel, when they receive gifts. But I haven’t. I have no idea what they must be feeling. I long for that, I desire that, but thus far, it’s fleeting.

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
10:50 am

Reio you said the magic words, they don’t mean sh!t to you.

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
10:51 am

Gym time, holla later

Button

December 20th, 2013
10:54 am

Single – have you ever been smoothered by a date? In a relationship? I have, my ex used to smoother the heck out of me. He was practically on my heels at every turn. Calling all the time, I got no air to breathe! I like attention but too much sends me into a frenzy.

Button

December 20th, 2013
10:55 am

Reio – did you feel any kind of joy purchasing your wife engagement/wedding rings?

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
10:57 am

Reio ~ when my daughter drove home from school for the first time by herself I felt joy, I was proud, and I was scared. That was one of the best phone calls I’ve ever received up to that moment “Mommy, I’m home!” The next best phone call was when she drove back to school and repeated those same words. I had immense joy when she got accepted to college, and yes, when she barely passed the driving test. There is no joy that can amount to the joy you receive watching the positive growth of your children.

With all that being said, I’m one who gets joy from jewelry.

Reio

December 20th, 2013
10:57 am

I long for the day when I can feel that joy. I don’t look down on it. Hell, I envy those that can receive gifts and feel true joy and happiness. If I had a choice between my wife presenting me with a $200,000 diamond ring or a soft kiss on the forehead while she whispers in my ear “You’re my heart and soul.”, I’d take the kiss and whisper EVERY damn time. That’s priceless to me. I’ll do without the ring. Hell.

Reio

December 20th, 2013
10:59 am

I feel joy in giving gifts to them, cause, I’m anticipating their reaction. And seeing their joy. Something aIwant to experience, but haven’t yet.

DuShawn

December 20th, 2013
11:00 am

did you feel any kind of joy purchasing your wife engagement/wedding rings?……..I didn’t. I only felt pain. “I was like, “Man…. hurry up and ring this shid up, so I can get outta here. Just put the receipt in the bag. I don’t even want to look” However, I do enjoy seeing her wear it.

Reio

December 20th, 2013
11:00 am

Leggs – I envy you.

Reio

December 20th, 2013
11:02 am

Du – My wife and I have an unspoken rule: Never shop together. Period. Been that way for almost our entire marriage.

Button

December 20th, 2013
11:03 am

Du – :lol: :lol: :lol: btw I like the “I do enjoy seeing her wear it.” part.

Button

December 20th, 2013
11:06 am

Reio – I don’t know too many men who like to shop with their SO, heck I don’t know too many men who like to shop period! My G hates shopping. I know better than to ask him to go to the nearest corner store with me. lol He does perfer online shopping though.

disco

December 20th, 2013
11:09 am

OMG!!! this blog really needs me today. y’all just trying to get straight mushy up in here. I know it’s been a full moon and all but dang. if it’s the holiday spirit can y’all at least wait for the holiday? ijs. can we talk about who is getting the boot for Christmas or who is expecting a gift but ain’t getting jack? can we talk about who always cooks what and who needs to stop cooking whatever they make that no one will eat? thanks. I appreciate it. lol.

YesSheIsCute

December 20th, 2013
11:10 am

What I really want to know is, how do you gentlemen show your appreciation in a relationship?

Reio

December 20th, 2013
11:14 am

Look, I’m married. But, I’m not just married. I’m married to another human being. While it’s true I’m the man of the house. Family leader. I’m not better than her. She’s not beneath me. So, I respect her and all of her little nuances. But I have to tell you, that I’m not so much against shopping, my problem is the length of time she takes to do it. Stops at every aisle. Physically has to touch everything. Walks slowly. Decides on something, then puts it back. Asking me which one I like better….But that’s just her. I can respect that. Just leave me out of it. She and the girls go shopping and stay for HOURS. Gracious!!

DuShawn

December 20th, 2013
11:17 am

“She’s not beneath me”…..I wife prefers to be beneath me. Although she often gets on top.

disco

December 20th, 2013
11:18 am

can we talk about who you hope DOESN’T show up at Christmas dinner? there’s got to be somebody with some bad kids or a drunk husband or the relative who just generally gets on everyone’s nerves. you know the ones that you appreciate it when they finally leave? lol.

Reio

December 20th, 2013
11:22 am

Saw some Swan’s Down cake mix on the kitchen counter last night. Kinda funny, when I got home, it wasn’t there, but around 10:00pm, I went to the kitchen to fix a bowl of Cap’n Crunch Peanutbutter, and saw it on the counter, so, it must to have been in the pantry, cause she was already home when I arrived, and didn’t leave. A bit nervous now. “Thangs is bout to start happening”.

Reio

December 20th, 2013
11:23 am

Du – “Although she often gets on top.”

On top of what?

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
11:25 am

“…a soft kiss on the forehead while she whispers in my ear “You’re my heart and soul.”,

Reio ~ we all want to hear that and I agree it’s priceless. However, the same level of joy is not emoted. While one can constantly see the ring on their finger, or the necklace around their neck and admire and appreciate it with a smile, that “soft kiss on the forehead while she whispers in my ear “You’re my heart and soul” will have you admiring and appreciating the sentiment with your eyes close. Now, that’s a lasting, heartfelt memory that will forever linger in one’s soul. There are simply many levels of joy just like there are many levels of pain (for some).

YesSheIsCute

December 20th, 2013
11:27 am

@disco that’s one of the perks of living in a completely different state from your family members. No holiday dinners. Hence no drama, no unwanted guests, etc. It sounds pathetic to people who value the holidays but I don’t. Except New Years and Valentine’s Day.

disco

December 20th, 2013
11:29 am

y’all sound like the best man up in here going on about forehead kisses. smdh. lol.

yes – I value the day off.

2CPTG©

December 20th, 2013
11:29 am

so…..

I hooked up with this random chic last night…..and didn’t even hunch!!! imagine that!

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
11:32 am

disco ~ I’m not really expecting anything for Christmas, well something from my child (if she saved any money). I bought myself a gift, Samsung Galaxy S4. I’m cooking (as usual), but doing something different than usual Christmas dinner. Between Thanksgiving dinner, Christmas dinner, then NYE dinner, I’m getting tired of all that heavy food. This year I’m doing my delicious white turkey chili, a ham, Asian slaw, rolls and maybe something else. I will have pie and a sour cream pound cake. I think that’s it.

I’m cracking up that Reio had to ask “on top of what?”

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
11:37 am

My exact sentiments, YSIC. I have no family here so those that ring my bell are those that I invited and never drama.

2C ~ frankly, I would think that’s an easy thing to imagine (not hunching some random) unless you habitually hook up with random chicks.

disco

December 20th, 2013
11:37 am

leggs – I was also contemplating the holiday meal. frankly I feel like “I just cooked” on thanksgiving and cooking is a chore. why should I be turning around and cooking again? I might mess around and just make a lasagna or something since I don’t anticipate any visitors.

2C – where’d you meet said random chick? recently I met a dude at a red light and he followed me to subway, bought my lunch and we went our separate ways.

disco

December 20th, 2013
11:38 am

2C – did you mean random as in “she ain’t nobody” or random as in you just picked her up off the street?

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
11:41 am

Reio – I know i’m late (trying to catch up) but I’m not a diamond girl…not saying I wouldn’t appreciate it. But some of the best gifts I’ve ever received didn’t fall into the jewelry category. I remember an ex of mine suprised me with my favorite cheesecake and tickets to fly to Houston to see my favorite two cousins. I cried when I opened it up…so we both flew out there and had a blast with my fam. I’m more interested in memories and experiences.

DuShawn

December 20th, 2013
11:42 am

“You’re my heart and soul”……..wow…talk about Harlequin Romance. I guess me and mine communicate differently. Translated in our language, she would smile and lovingly say “you’re such an azzhole.” Then I reply, “I feel the same way about you. Now get over here and bust it open”

2CPTG©

December 20th, 2013
11:43 am

Random, as in her friend and I are co-workers, and she was hanging out in the parking lot, and me being the suave, debonair fellow that I am, just kinda randomly introduced myself, and took it from there……ended up kicking it after work….hangin’ out…..

2CPTG©

December 20th, 2013
11:50 am

The whole time I was choppin it up, I was saying to myself…..dang, wonder how Cutie, or Slim would feel if they knew about this….so sweeties, I’m puttin it out there for y’all….I ain’ got no secrets….

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
11:50 am

SlimNu ~ now come on chile, gifts like those are priceless. I would take that over jewelry, but when you can’t think of anything, and we have that type of a relationship, jewelry usually saves the day.

So, you did pick her up off the street (lol). She was hanging in the parking lot with your co-worker. I kid, I kid…

disco

December 20th, 2013
11:57 am

2C – so this hanging out… what did it entail? what did y’all talk about? you put it out there so you might as well put it out there.

Reio

December 20th, 2013
12:05 pm

Got a question for yall. Cause yall know everything. Kinda related to this topic. Sorta. I guess.

Anyway. I have this niece. By the way, one of my sister’s is having Christmas dinner at her home this year. But, I have this niece, Brittany, bout 24. She’s not a biological niece, my brother adopted her, years ago, She was around 2 years old, after marrying her mother. They’ve since divorced. At any rate, she is going to be there. She’s at all of the family gatherings. She will always be our niece. We love Brittany. Here’s the problem. Without fail, without exceptions, whenever we have these gatherings, she clings to me like white on rice. Physically, always just a step away, or right up on me.

The good thing about this is the only time I ever see her, or hear from her is at these social events. She never calls, never stops by, no texts, no emails. But when something happens and we are both there, it’s cling city. Follows me around, goes to fix my plate, wants to know what I’m drinking(soda), “Is it hot in here for you”? When the other twenty something nieces are in another part if the house, doing what they do(gossiping….), she’s all hugged up by me and won’t leave my side. Like I said, this behavior is only happening during these gatherings. So, I’ve never said anything. My sister’s and wife have mentioned “What’s up with her azz?”, “What’s her problem?”, “What-chu got that she seems to like so much?”…. I’d prefer to say nothing, which is what I’ve been doing. But she is no longer a teenybopper anymore. I don’t know. As long as she doesn’t try and carry this beyond these gatherings, I guess it’s just a harmless way she has of bonding. Who knows? Just wondering what, if anything, I should say/do?

2CPTG©

December 20th, 2013
12:07 pm

so this hanging out… what did it entail? what did y’all talk about?

she ended up spending the night!!! After work, I had a request for some IT work come in, and told her how I needed to “hit that lick” real quick, and she could hang with me, and watch how I hustle…she was cool with it, I did my thing, made that lil change right quick, and we just chopped it up, and sipped on a lil some’n….and ended up falling asleep….

disco

December 20th, 2013
12:13 pm

reio – if she’s always been this way with you ever since she was little then I’d think nothing of it. if she just started acting this way after she got grown, well, then I’d think a little differently about it.

disco

December 20th, 2013
12:15 pm

2C – so now what? you gone call her or just gone leave it alone? will she make it into the rotation or will she get the “just a friend” speech?

Reio

December 20th, 2013
12:18 pm

disco – I would say I noticed it during her early teen years. Around the time my brother divorced her mother.

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
12:21 pm

“I guess it’s just a harmless way she has of bonding. Who knows?” – She may have been priming you since late teenage years and in that case, it’s not harmless. The fact that there’s no contact away from these gatherings is definitely in her favor, but while at the gatherings, she wants your attention on her, her growth, her body, her maturity. She may like your style and is watching how you carry yourself, how you take care of your family and she’s the student soaking it all in for when she decides to settle down. You may simply be the only canvas that shines a positive light toward her. Who knows.

disco

December 20th, 2013
12:21 pm

reio – well I’m no shrink but it sounds like she adopted you as her surrogate adoptive father. I don’t think it’s really that big a deal. maybe a little awkward but no big deal.

2CPTG©

December 20th, 2013
12:23 pm

disco, the jury’s still out, as far as her position goes, but she is cool to hang out with….no moments of awkward silence, nice free flowing conversation…..so we’ll see…that’s unless Cutie, or Slim objects to the idea….then I’ll cut her ass off like GA Power!

MsAtl

December 20th, 2013
12:29 pm

Reio- I agree with Disco, it sounds like she may have adopted you as her father figure. Is your brother at these gatherings? Does he still consider himself her dad? Does she refer to you as “Uncle Reio? It is likely harmless, but just keep an eye out.

Reio

December 20th, 2013
12:31 pm

Leggs/disco – Thanks. I too, see it as harmless. Never saw the “…adopted you as her surrogate adoptive father….angle. I don’t know. It’s not bothering me, mind you, just confusing. She dates and all that, but never brings anybody with her. A couple of years ago, I called her up a week or so, before the gathering, and told her to “Bring your boyfriend. I want to see if he is good enough for you.”, “Hehehe..Ok, I will.”. But, she arrives without him. I didn’t ask where he was. Just didn’t care, I guess. I’m not tired of it or weary from it. Just would rather not have to have it happen every time.

Durty Burd

December 20th, 2013
12:34 pm

Good Afternoon!

2C go on and handle that, I’m going to take care of YSIC and SlimNu in 2014. YSIC and SlimNu are at the right age for me…I’ll handle it from here! Carry on

Du-When do you get your man card back? 2014

Reio…I am not so much into jewerly as well, although I’ve had some ladies buy me some expensive watches,I broke everyone of them…hehehehe!

disco

December 20th, 2013
12:35 pm

reio – not saying that that angle is correct but I see it as possible. heck, I’m good and grown and there are certain family members that I prefer to stay up under when I do go home. now, granted, I don’t stick to them like glue but there’s some that I say what’s up to, give the obligatory hug and then I don’t bother with their behinds any more the whole trip.

MsAtl

December 20th, 2013
12:36 pm

Durty- Broke them intentionally or are you just destructive?

Durty Burd

December 20th, 2013
12:37 pm

Speaking of shopping, I usually could not do much in the area with and SO, but the Cleveland Browns left town and that left a enormous bad taste in my mouth. I met this young lady who love to shop, I actually started shopping on a regular basis with her and her mom’s. They would buy me something everytime we went out. They were shopping crazies,eventually I had to get away I was too tired to get the puddle from all that walking… :wink:

Reio

December 20th, 2013
12:37 pm

MsAtl – Yes my brother is always there. As you know, you can’t un-adopt someone. But they interact throughout the year as Father/Daughter. With me, it’s just these gatherings. He has done a wonderful job with raising her and his biological kids. Brittany is just one of our nieces, just like all the rest. What’s behind her clingy demeanor with respect to me, is a mystery. And yes it’s “Uncle Re”.

Durty Burd

December 20th, 2013
12:40 pm

Ms. Atl…Not intentionally, sometimes I would wear them in place I should not have them on and the accident would happen. They were pimping trying to buy me with stuff…

I actually still have one of the watches it is really nice, so I had it repaired. Now if I can just find it!

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
12:42 pm

Button @ your 10:24 No I’ve never been smoother in a relationship, if the seem like that type, we don’t make it to the relationship.

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
12:54 pm

Reio ~ your brother adopted her at age 2 and you say he’s done a wonderful raising her and his other children. Then, let it be. She loves you guys. Doesn’t sound like she’s a “Candace” in the making (a conniving, vindictive trollop on The Have and Have Nots). You good!

Single ~ did you me smother or are you not smooth (lol).

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
12:55 pm

did you MEAN…

Durty Burd

December 20th, 2013
1:01 pm

Single meant his is not smooth in his relationship, thus the reason he pays for the choochie! hehehehehe!

Leggs…Sounds like a really good dinner, I too have tired of heavy holiday food…Save me a plate I will be over the day after christmas. I have to play santa and deliver some gifts to some naughty women…hehehehe!

Oh I have something for you too! Have u been naughty or nice? Wait tell me when I get there! :wink:

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
1:10 pm

Durty, we all pay for coochie no matter how you put it. Cause if we stop paying, the sho aint playing.

Leggs, yea you know what I meant (LOL)

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
1:19 pm

“Cause if we stop paying, the sho aint playing.” You really meant “giving” didn’t you (lolol)

Dinner will be good. I’ll do my best and save you a plate..

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
1:25 pm

Leggs – If I don’t go to AL, i just may hit you up. I’ll bring the hawaiian sweet rolls :-D

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
1:31 pm

Naw leggs I meant playing, cause my giving is in my living (LOL)

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
1:39 pm

SlimNu ~ those are my daughter’s favorite rolls.

Single, I mean’t giving as in the woman isn’t giving it up! You got my drift (lol).

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
1:39 pm

SlimNu ~ hit submit to fast. That would be fab, hit me up!

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
1:40 pm

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
1:56 pm

Slim I’m on my way down now, you need a ride :-D

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
1:56 pm

BTW, bring some likka with you or wine along with those rolls. Anything you like.

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
1:58 pm

You know I gotsta travel with my drankie drank! :oops:

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
2:23 pm

Slim are you ignoring me now :-( (

YesSheIsCute

December 20th, 2013
2:29 pm

What’s good for the goose baby…. :lol:

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
2:31 pm

Single – Oh, naw, not ignoring you. I’m good on this end but I appreciate the offer though

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
2:32 pm

I almost forgot, it’s that time- Best Blog Awards. I will tally them up giving results at the top of the New Year because I will be on vacation starting at the end of today. Please send your answers to SharmynK@yahoo.com. If I have time, I will log in. Directions are simple because I honestly forgot how we did it in the past.

Best Posts
Best comebacks
Most creative
Most serious
Most Beloved
Most Analytical
Most “Huh” moments
Best Moniker
Worst Moniker
Most wittiest
Best Recap
Most Combative
Most loved for their understanding of life
Most don’t care what they say
Most Intellectual
Knows everything google doesn’t know
Most corniest
Most realist
Most horniest
Most likely to live up to their blog persona 
Most clueless
Most chattiest
Most friendliest 
Longevity
Most Popular
MOST BITTER
MOST ANTAGONISTIC

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
2:34 pm

If you would like to add any categories, let me know right here on the blog…thank you.

YesSheIsCute

December 20th, 2013
2:38 pm

Wow we do superlatives around here? I feel warm and fuzzy inside…for some reason.

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
2:43 pm

dang slim I keep sending them up and you keep shooting them down :-D

SlimNu

December 20th, 2013
2:45 pm

Single – Oh whatever..

Anyhoo, i’m about to head out of here so you folks have fun, enjoy your families, and be safe. Merry Christamas!

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
2:47 pm

SlimNu ~ Merry Christmas

Single & Happy

December 20th, 2013
2:47 pm

Merry Christmas Slim

Reio

December 20th, 2013
2:57 pm

I don’t seem to remember this ‘Best Blog Awards’ thing. I’ve been around a little while(off & on), but I don’t remember this. So, I guess I’ll try and vote. I already know I’ll get “Most Beloved”. No doubt. And if there were a “Most nicest looking mofo on here, if we could ever get to him” award, I’d win that one, hands down too. Jus sayin.

MsAtl

December 20th, 2013
3:01 pm

Leggs- Wow! do we have that many folks on the Blog or can someone be nominated in more than one category?

DuShawn

December 20th, 2013
3:01 pm

Most corniest = Reio. You got my vote homie.

MsAtl

December 20th, 2013
3:01 pm

Merry Christmas Slim!

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
3:03 pm

This will be our third time doing it. I think the last time we did this was about 3 yrs ago. Looking back at some of the nominees, SimpleMan won for worst moniker. That was the last time we’ve done it. Was going through my files looking for my cake recipe when I found the spreadsheet for the awards.

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
3:05 pm

People can be nominated in more than one category, and the one with the most votes will win.

DuShawn ~ if the winner is to be a surprise, which I want it to be, please send your nominations to the above email address…thanks.

Reio

December 20th, 2013
3:06 pm

Thanks Du. Don’t suspect there’ll be any prizes awarded, will there?

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
3:07 pm

Looking like I might be knocked off the “most corniest” award (fingers crossed).

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
3:08 pm

Reio ~ The prize is knowing how your fellow bloggers really feel about you (lolol). I would say all the winners meet up for drinks, but you guys won’t show.

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
3:08 pm

VOTING HAS BEGUN….-*******

DuShawn

December 20th, 2013
3:09 pm

“if the winner is to be a surprise, which I want it to be, please send your nominations to the above email address”………Most Serious = Leggs

Reio

December 20th, 2013
3:11 pm

If yall meet in Atl. I may struggle to get there.

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
3:13 pm

I see someone refuses to play by the rules.

New Category: Most Hard Headed (lololololol)

2CPTG©

December 20th, 2013
3:14 pm

Seriously, when we did the Blog Awards, back in the day, the AJC staff actually sent out gift certificates to the winners……

that was during the days when the moderator actually showed up…..would be nice if some of the “readers” voted, since they seem to value our daily banter everyday….what say you, Readers??????

2CPTG©

December 20th, 2013
3:15 pm

‘fore I forget, Cutie, was that post at 2:29pm, a jab at me????

YesSheIsCute

December 20th, 2013
3:22 pm

LML @ Dushawn hilarity

@2C it wasn’t a jab but yes. Just letting you know I’m not buggin over it. Do what you do.

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
3:23 pm

Indeed, 2C, the readers should vote too. Email address is listed at 2:32. Do not fret, I promise (which is one of the more important words in the dictionary to me), I will not share your address with anyone. Not only that, I won’t know who you are. Even if I did, I wouldn’t share so don’t let that stop you from voting….my word is my bond. Old school, but true!

(Since so many are on vacation, I may redo this the top of the year when everyone is back at work).

YesSheIsCute

December 20th, 2013
3:24 pm

@2C now I know why you didn’t respond to my text. You been busy! lol

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
3:25 pm

Note to self: Put the blog awards categories out 2nd week of December.

Exiled!

December 20th, 2013
3:27 pm

Reio….ur niece is not confortable with the rest of your family but U.

..and umm Leggs,the ‘most intelligent blogger award was awarded during the pre-show proceedings.

Howdee

2CPTG©

December 20th, 2013
3:32 pm

Cutie when did you send me a text, and I didn’t respond?

Reio

December 20th, 2013
3:33 pm

Yes, starting the voting a bit sooner would be helpful, although, I’m not sure I’m used to some people here. Some people come and go, and you guys know them, but I don’t. Anyway.

We, here at work, have this co-worker, Ernie. Ernie has a habit of doing something that drives us crazy. He does it in jest, we all know it, but we can never seem to help but fall into his trap.

During the course of any conversation, sometimes questions are asked. Work related, family, spouse, S/O, kids….anything. So, during any given conversation, if he asks a question, and you respond with something beyond what he asked, he ALWAYS comes back with “Did I ask you all that?”, or, “I didn’t ask you that, all I asked was….”. Drives us crazy. His azz just got me.

We were talking, me, him, and two others, about what we were getting our spouses for Christmas. One of the people in this little group is not married. But he asks me what I was getting my wife. I told him that I had purchased a session with a photographer to do just she and I, no kids or grandkids, just us, cause this is something that she has wanted for years. This fugga quickly interrupts me with “I didn’t ask what she has been wanting, just what are you getting her, pay attention.”

That lousy, stankin, two-legged dog gon git a size 13 stuck up his butt one of these days. He’s just joking, of course, but hell, can’t we just talk, for once, without that foolishness? Damn.

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
3:38 pm

Reio ~ if I hadn’t seen the spreadsheet from our last award ceremony, we would still be in the dark. Next year, I will start earlier. I’ve already placed a tickler on my calendar.

Another category: Who has the best slang?

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
3:38 pm

best slang/way with words!

Reio

December 20th, 2013
3:40 pm

Glad you expounded on “slang”. Cause I was about to ask “Da hell is slang?”

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
3:41 pm

I was reading your mind, Reio!

Reio

December 20th, 2013
3:53 pm

Well, looks like Ernie is leaving now. shoulda stayed at home. Didn’t do sh!t but get on our nerves. A lot of people stayed out this week. We can work from home, if we are sick or something. Some people take advantage of it. Azzes ain’t sick, just want to stay home. Funny, they get sick on Thursday and Friday a lot.

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
3:56 pm

“Well, looks like Ernie is leaving now. shoulda stayed at home. Didn’t do sh!t but get on our nerves.”

Not sure why, but I read this hearig the voice of Kim Wayans talking about Ms. Jakins (lol).

Reio

December 20th, 2013
4:00 pm

Yeah, he’s gone now. I tell you what though, back in the day? In my old neighborhood? The north side of Birmingham? His azz would have gotten his throat cut, pullin sh!t like that on people. Fo sho.

DuShawn

December 20th, 2013
4:04 pm

This is my last submission for the year. Be blessed.

Reio

December 20th, 2013
4:05 pm

You too, Du.

YesSheIsCute

December 20th, 2013
4:17 pm

@2C I don’t know I will have to look at my phone. I said I was going to defy you and go to VFW anyway just to see what you are going to do. JK Just wanted to get you riled up to do something.

2CPTG©

December 20th, 2013
4:25 pm

nah, lil mama, don’t get me riled up…..ain’ a pretty sight!!!

YesSheIsCute

December 20th, 2013
4:33 pm

Ok I see I’m going to be blunt about this. Standby for my next text message :lol:

MsAtl

December 20th, 2013
4:37 pm

Merry Christmas Du!

2CPTG©

December 20th, 2013
4:38 pm

is it gon’ be some’n nice, and sweet?

YesSheIsCute

December 20th, 2013
4:41 pm

2C, Sugar and spice and everything nice :D

2CPTG©

December 20th, 2013
4:43 pm

ok, just don’t be like Leggs….she’ll send me an off the wall text, and before I can figure out what the hell she’s talking about, she’ll send another one cursing me out for not getting the first one!

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
4:50 pm

2C ~ quit lying (lol).

Merry Christmas DuShawn.

MsAtl

December 20th, 2013
4:57 pm

Good night All! Have a great weekend.

2CPTG©

December 20th, 2013
4:58 pm

I am not lying, and you know it…..but you’re funny when you’re tipsy…..quite hilarious!!!

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
5:01 pm

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO BLOGSVILLE !

Leggs

December 20th, 2013
5:04 pm

2C ~ I thought you were talking about the test text I sent yesterday evening. Leave my tipsiness off the blog (lol).