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Dating: Are they loyal?

My friend Sam always tells me that a dog is man’s best friend because dogs are loyal. To guys, loyalty is everything. This means that if a man believes that the woman he is seeing can’t be loyal to him then he won’t trust her. If he won’t trust her then the relationship won’t progress.

Sam tells me that this is one of those “very simple things” about men that is pretty cut and dry. I think some men believe that getting respect from the woman they are in relationship ranks higher than getting love from her. Some even decide to test loyalty in different ways.

How important is loyalty to you? Have you ever dumped someone because you felt they were disloyal?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

150 comments Add your comment

Single & Happy

December 11th, 2013
7:00 am

Hello all

I don’t like dogs, soooooooo. Don’t even understand what this means.

lee

December 11th, 2013
7:01 am

GoodMorning,

Ha! Someone can be very loyal as long as when one needs are being met. As for a test – don’t ever let me find out

I don’t really have anything to add, people can think all day long how a person is, but only time will tell

lee

December 11th, 2013
7:05 am

Thinking how can Single not like a cute puppy/dog… :|

Kat

December 11th, 2013
7:30 am

He should marry a dog then. He will get unconditional love and affection from him/her.

Women worry about emotional cheating. Men worry about physical cheating. Both should demand “respect” either way.

Coach

December 11th, 2013
8:08 am

Good Morning, Respect is of the utmost importance. People will tell you they “love you” but disrespect you by, a. talking down on you, b. putting hands on you c. disrespectful behavior. The cornerstone to a relationship is respect.

Miss Moni

December 11th, 2013
8:16 am

GOOD Wednesday Morning MIA!!! :-)

Loyalty is very important from both ends! If I can’t trust and you can’t trust me, then we don’t need to be together! I don’t have time to be suspecting that the guy I’m in a relationship with is plotting my demise or working against me. If you ever feel one or the other I just mentioned, then it’s time to move on!!!

YesSheIsCute

December 11th, 2013
8:22 am

Most people (mainly men) want a loyal significant other but tend to be not trustworthy or loyal themselves.

Loyalty is very important in a relationship. Relationships have ended due to betrayals. I have ended relationships due to betrayals.

To tag onto what Kat is saying about unconditional love….most people love conditionally in relationships (i.e. I love you as long as the situation is conducive to that. As long as you don’t make mistakes that hurt me, in other words be human, I will love you). I had this conversation with my daughter the other night. In my understanding love has no conditions.

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

December 11th, 2013
8:42 am

Miss me with the “marry a dog” mess.

If you plan to be in a relationship – of any kind – (and not die a lonely bitter person) having and showing loyalty and respect is tantamount.

Oddly enough, both are attributes that propogate outward.

SlimNu

December 11th, 2013
9:28 am

If you plan to be in a relationship – of any kind – (and not die a lonely bitter person) having and showing loyalty and respect is tantamount.

kimmie

December 11th, 2013
9:35 am

Morning All!!

Yes – I think you can love someone unconditionally, but you don’t have to stay with them unconditionally. In other words, I don’t think it’s asking too much to expect loyalty and respect from someone you love. In the absence of those things, I might not instantly stop loving you, but it will be from afar. Just like to err is human, it’s also human to be hurt by someone else’s mistakes. Are you expected to stay around and continue to be betrayed, all in the name of “unconditional love”? I can’t hang with that.

MsAtl

December 11th, 2013
9:40 am

Morning All!

I think that trust, loyalty, and respect are necessary components in any relationship and go hand in hand with love. I wouldn’t want my relationship to be without either. If I do not believe I can trust you, then I do not want to be with you. No one has time to be peeking around corners or checking pockets.

It is said that “A woman’s loyalty is tested when her man has nothing. A man’s loyalty is tested when he has everything!”

Celisea

December 11th, 2013
9:54 am

To guys, loyalty is everything.

You know, I wasn’t gonna comment, but reading this sentence, I just gotta say it. Most men ain’t loyal their dang selves so how it is that loyalty is everything to guys? Loyalty is everything when you first are and learn to be. If you ain’t loyal, please miss me on what you require. You should require what you’re first willing to do. IJS

Celisea

December 11th, 2013
9:55 am

And miss me with all the sappy….lol

2CPTG©

December 11th, 2013
10:04 am

Dan said it, and Slim reiterated….

next!

Celisea

December 11th, 2013
10:06 am

And for me, lying, acting out a lie, (outright) acting, pretending, hiding, throwing rocks and hiding are all shady characteristics that segue into disloyalty, jacked up behavior, liar, cosigning your own self….well there you have it. Get all this stuff in ya character fixed before you speak to being disloyal.

Oh, this is no one here….just giving my thoughts.

Celisea

December 11th, 2013
10:06 am

Celisea

December 11th, 2013
10:08 am

2Can, we should dismiss a topic based on two posts?

2CPTG©

December 11th, 2013
10:09 am

wonder where are Diva’s friends that be giving all this “advice”…..Sam, are you lurking?

2CPTG©

December 11th, 2013
10:10 am

2Can, we should dismiss a topic based on two posts?

yeah….whatchu got? :)

2CPTG©

December 11th, 2013
10:12 am

Celie…..is the new and improved “you” carrying over to your personal life as well? does your boo thang recognize the change in you?

YesSheIsCute

December 11th, 2013
10:13 am

@kimmie you don’t have to be in a relationship to love unconditionally. Loving unconditionally doesn’t mean putting yourself in a position to allow them to hurt you. You can still love someone and not be with them or love them from afar as you stated. But there are people who are fairweather lovers only. The minute the weather is no longer fair they don’t love you. To me that’s not really love.

Leggs

December 11th, 2013
10:20 am

To guys, loyalty is everything. – I thought it was “respect” and knowing his woman has his back.

Loyalty is a two-way street! Too many don’t understand the concept of reciprocity. Infidelity is plaguing so many relationships, but one wants loyalty.

Good morning.

Celisea

December 11th, 2013
10:24 am

2Can – My boo “knows” me. There’ s nothing new and improved about me. I am what I am…and proudly. I go along with your therapy to appease you :) He ain’t like you (if I may). He knows I’m not one that gives a happy to much what folks thinks, he knows I keep it real. He’s a man’s man. He’s good with me and likes and appreciate me. He would NEVER ask me to change to appease other folks and be socially graceful, according to how others think I should be. He already knows I know how to conduct myself, but that ain’t got nothing to do with keeping it real and not doing/being fake fake. Which is what I chaulk therapy up to…..you want me to be fake and go along to get along.

There, I said it. We still good? LOLOLOL

YesSheIsCute

December 11th, 2013
10:30 am

Good morning Leggs! When are you going to have that celebratory dinner? Or did you do it yet?

SlimNu

December 11th, 2013
10:33 am

Loyalty is a two-way street! Too many don’t understand the concept of reciprocity. Infidelity is plaguing so many relationships, but one wants loyalty.

2CPTG©

December 11th, 2013
10:35 am

well I’ll be damned……said as I look at you bewildered….umm, yeah, we’re cool…..

kimmie

December 11th, 2013
10:35 am

Yes – Can you stand the rain. That’s what sets The One apart from all the others. In the course of dating, you will find most are fairweather. You see what folks are really made of when the going gets tough.

Leggs

December 11th, 2013
10:38 am

Coach ~ I see we are seeing eye to eye. Loyalty is cool, but w/o respect, you have nada!

YesSheIsCute

December 11th, 2013
10:41 am

@SlimNu Leggs and Dan SAID that!

Leggs

December 11th, 2013
10:43 am

YSIC ~ you do know I’ve been celebrating since last Friday (lol). I will be celebrating the rest of December. I will have that dinner this Friday (but it’s with a gf).

2CPTG©

December 11th, 2013
10:46 am

looks like my therapy calendar is now empty…..new clients, please inquire:

tnymcky2000@yahoo.com

Leggs

December 11th, 2013
10:48 am

That is funny, 2C. I’m literally laughing out loud.

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

December 11th, 2013
10:49 am

“Can you stand the rain?”

Sheeeeiiiiitttt, not only one of the best songs ever written (and performed for my tastes), but one that you appreciate more every year.

Celisea

December 11th, 2013
10:50 am

2Can, do I get a refund…..since apparently my sessions didn’t work. See, this why you need Jesus rather than a therapist. They can’t tell if you’re faking….or not. hahahahaha

Celisea

December 11th, 2013
10:51 am

And in other news…..

vacay countdown.

2Can – Part of my point….the part of me that you’ve enjoyed (your words) were really me, nothing to do with out sessions. :)

Celisea

December 11th, 2013
10:51 am

kimmie

December 11th, 2013
10:52 am

Dan – I agree, singing that song in my head right now!!

Leggs

December 11th, 2013
10:54 am

Dang, I’m singing it in my head too!

MsAtl

December 11th, 2013
10:57 am

Leggs/Kimmie- I am singing it while picturing the men’s performance in Best Man Holiday, lol.

SlimNu

December 11th, 2013
10:58 am

Yes – Yeah i’m playing echo today lol

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

December 11th, 2013
11:02 am

Danm the singing in the head, it’s why I bought an iPhone.

Playing that jawn on repeat.

2CPTG©

December 11th, 2013
11:05 am

See, this why you need Jesus rather than a therapist.

they didn’t call him “counselor” for nothing!

Exiled

December 11th, 2013
11:13 am

Women worry about emotional cheating

@Ladies?

Is this true ladies?

where is Disco? I know she aint the sappy one so she obviously dont care for this foolishness of emottional stuff. How bout u other blog ladies?

On topic:

Loyalty means in good,bad and poor times. And aboslutely NO hunching another man.

Some women bail out when he gets broke or times are rough financially.

Tuurrible!

good morning ..To the Loyal blog ladies Only! :lol:

YesSheIsCute

December 11th, 2013
11:22 am

Emotional cheating? Why use limiters such as emotional physical and/or mental. Cheating is cheating. But yes, even if you aren’t physically cheating, sharing, caring and being lovey dovey with another person behind my back constitutes betrayal. You don’t need to share and care with no one else. And if so, then I’m not enough for you please let me know I can move on to someone else who thinks the world of me.

2CPTG©

December 11th, 2013
11:26 am

then I’m not enough for you please let me know I can move on to someone else who thinks the world of me

don’t believe Durty, he lyin!!!!

MsAtl

December 11th, 2013
11:30 am

Ex- Like I quoted earlier, “A woman’s loyalty is tested when her man has nothing. A man’s loyalty is tested when he has everything!”

I believe that if you are in a relationship, you roll with the bad times (financially) just like you flow with the good times. If my mate loses his job, I am not going to just jump ship. That said, he needs to be actively looking for work as well as contributing in other ways, not lying around or playing video games. There is no time for woe it’s me, get back out there…

2CPTG©

December 11th, 2013
11:32 am

but MsAtl, he may need to recoup, and gather his thoughts….his “therapy” may very well be in the form of video games, and lying around….he might be twerkin that unemployment…..

MsAtl

December 11th, 2013
11:34 am

2C- Then he can play video games when he comes in from pounding the pavement looking for work.

2CPTG©

December 11th, 2013
11:37 am

Ain’ gon lie, one time I got laid off in the spring, and I got the max unemployment…..and I had (still do) a nice clientele of landscaping customers….milked unemployement til the end of grass cuttin’ season, I came up like a fat rat….mailbox money, and straight cash!!!

MsAtl

December 11th, 2013
11:40 am

2C- But you were doing something to get income and contributing. I am referring to those who do nothing. You can’t sit and do nothing while I go to work every day.