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Dating: Does age matter?

I have been reading reports on the tragic death of actor Paul Walker in the news. He spent a lot of time in Atlanta and everyone he met said that he seemed like such a wonderful person. Then I read something about his 23 year old girlfriend of seven years and I quickly did the math. He would have been 33 years old when he met and began dating her at age 16.

I don’t want to speak ill of the dead but that kind of creeped me out a bit. I know age doesn’t matter to a lot of single people. Honestly, many of the guys I am friends with date younger than their own age, and the women date older. I just wonder what a 16 year old and a 33 year old would really have in common? Setting aside the whole “Hollywood is like a different planet” aspect of this – when does age matter?

I remember being 30 and dating a barely 20 year old guy. He kept telling me that the age difference didn’t bother him but I never got used to it. We had such different life experiences at the time. There were some things we were never going to connect on. In hindsight, I wonder if I was being unfair about it. Can a relationship with significant age difference really work? Is it harder or easier than any other relationship with people who are closer in age?

What do you think? Could you date someone who is over ten years younger than you are? What do you think could be the biggest hurdle?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

122 comments Add your comment

YesSheIsCute

December 6th, 2013
6:10 am

First! It really just depends on the maturity level of both involved and how well their personalities mesh to be honest. But something over 15 years is a little creepy.

lee

December 6th, 2013
7:09 am

Yessheiscute i agree.

No one in their 30’s should be dating a teenager — that is not mentally compatible in my book -something is wrong upstairs in my opinion.
would like to say more but need to head on to work.
tgif

Exiled!

December 6th, 2013
8:12 am

I can understand it creeping out somebody(me too) when somebody dates a 16 year old or younger. However,I think some people really mature faster beyond their age. Some kids take on real adult responsibilities at a very adolescent age,sometimes due to death of parents or absence of adults in their lives. They then interact with adult folks and learning life lessons thru wouldn’t have learnt if their situation were different.

So I think it can happen.

Off topic:
I really got teary and sobbed last nite,watching CNN following the death of Mandela. The sacrifices this man made and his selflessness of saving just one presidential term and the symbolism of that gesture really weighed heavy on me. It is unheard of in Africa,if you understand the politics.
I hope all the corrupt leaders in
Africa and all over the world will take a leaf from the works of this man.

MHDSRIP!
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……….Back to your scheduled blogging………

Single & Happy

December 6th, 2013
8:20 am

Hey all

I don’t want to speak ill of the dead but that kind of creeped me out a bit. Isn’t it funny that that lowdown MF doesn’t ever die!

When 2 people are grown they can make grown up decisions so age ain’t nothing but a number! But you have to make sure both of you are grown!!

Can a relationship with significant age difference really work? yes they can, they’ve worked for me.

Is it harder or easier than any other relationship with people who are closer in age? For me, there hasn’t been that much difference that I’ve noticed.

Could you date someone who is over ten years younger than you are? Yes I could, I’ve dated 21 years younger.

Exiled!

December 6th, 2013
8:22 am

disco

December 6th, 2013
8:49 am

good morning. the age old question huh? lol. I’ll say age matters and it doesn’t matter. like single said, if you are grown do you. still, there are instances where I would flip. for instance the neighbor that acted like she wanted to push up on my son when he was in high school. I would have bust her head for it then and even now that he’s grown I would still bust her head for it. lol. sometimes things are just principal.

leggs – my itchy palm never lets me down and you are on your numbers game. I did not play your numbers but 958 came out straight. I did get home and have an unexpected check from an unexpected source though.

Reio

December 6th, 2013
9:07 am

Morning all!

Well, age, in my opinion, matters, depending on how young the younger one is. For instance, suppose one is 20, the other 35. This could be problematic cause the younger one is so young. However, if one is 45 and the other is 30, well, there is still that 15 year difference, but the younger one is 30. Being 30 makes all the difference in the world.

But, truth be told, if they are both grown, what the heck? Try it. Hope it works out.

Can’t see myself with a much younger woman though. The thought of it is not creepy, it’s just that beyond rolling in the hay, what else is there? Don’t know. Can’t be much though. I told the story on here about the time I went through the check-out at WalMart and the cashier(twenty something) pinched my butt. Well, I’m married, plus, she looked to be younger than my youngest daughter. A dirty dog would have followed up with her. But even if I had been single, she would have never seen me again, unless she just happened to be there the next time I went to WalMart. Lil stankin heffa.

SlimNu

December 6th, 2013
9:09 am

Date someone over 10 years YOUNGER than me…..HEYAL NAW!!!! I dated a guy that was maybe 4yrs younger than me…he lied about his age in the beginning. He had some mature responsible ways about him but he still had that milk behind his ears. He was definitely soaking up all he could from me though…I told ya’ll about this dude…He ended up dating some other chick while dating me…gave us the same dayum gift for Christmas. I gave that ish back

Reio

December 6th, 2013
9:28 am

That lil WalMart chick may still be there, but I haven’t seen her since that incident. I’ve been back several times since, but haven’t seen her. I pretty much shop like a lot of men. I know what I want, I usually know where to find it, I go get It, and head for the check-out. So, if that lil girl was there, I wouldn’t have noticed unless I went through her line again. Which probably wouldn’t have happened anyway, cause I like to use the self check-out area whenever I can, unless I’m buying fruit, then I’ll let the cashier ring it up.

MsAtl

December 6th, 2013
9:28 am

Morning All!

Umm, yeah, I was a bit creeped out over walker’s girlfriend too. That just seems too much like Chester the Molester to me…

Can a relationship with significant age difference really work? Yes, depends on the people involved.

Is it harder or easier than any other relationship with people who are closer in age? I can’t say that it’s either. It would depend on the ages of the people. Like Reio said 20 & 35 is different than 30 & 45. As you mature, goals change and the way you view things evolve.

Could you date someone who is over ten years younger than you are? Yes. The last man I dated was 10 years younger.

Slim- Ha! The ex gave me & his mistress one of the same gifts. That ish went back also!

disco

December 6th, 2013
9:31 am

reio – I just re-read and saw where you called her a little stankin heffa. that’s funny.

all the comments on maturity kind of tie into why age doesn’t/shouldn’t matter. there are some 20 year olds that are more mature, focused, responsible, driven etc. than some 50 year olds walking around.

SlimNu

December 6th, 2013
9:32 am

MsAtl – Ain’t that just trifling!!! I’ll never forget, after the spotlight caught up with his shenanigans, we met up in a mall parking lot to re-exchange our gifts back…Oh did I forget to mention he also wrote both of us the same dayum poem and framed it… Mitches i tell ya :roll:

SlimNu

December 6th, 2013
9:37 am

I recently reached out to Mr. Too busy and guess what? He’s STILL busy…says he’s back and forth from Boston to NY but he did meet someone during his travels that he’s apparently crazy about. Oh well…

MsAtl

December 6th, 2013
9:46 am

Slim- “Oh did I forget to mention he also wrote both of us the same dayum poem and framed it… Mitches i tell ya!”
Lolol! The ex actually asked me to return jewelry he had given me for Christmas, saying that I left him only a month after he gave me expensive gifts. Wth? Nobody told you to give me expensive gifts when you knew you were skankin! Well, come to find out, he wanted to return my gifts to clear his credit account so the mistress could keep her engagement ring. Ha! The ring was repo’ed. Mitches, I tell ya! (in my SlimNu voice)

MsAtl

December 6th, 2013
9:49 am

Disco- I agree. It may not be an issue if the 20 year old doesn’t want children, but if she does and the 50 year old is done, they are incompatible. Other than issues like that, I don’t think age is a big deal. Well, let me backtrack- I thought it was a big deal when the 20 year hit on me a few months ago and I could picture myself telling him and my 19 year old son to get off the video games, lol.

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
9:50 am

Did not know that about him, dating her at age 16. That wouldn’t sit right with me if it was my daughter. Like that Bimbo’s mother allowing her to marry that actor from The Green Mile. I must say, she exploited him to further her obsession of being everywhere in public scantily dressed.

I’ve dated a man 8 yrs my senior while in my 40’s, but that’s the oldest. I’ve never dated anyone younger than me. Well, I did marry and he was one year younger than myself.

Uugh, I played 593 and 594 falls.

Good, good Friday morning!

MsAtl

December 6th, 2013
9:53 am

Leggs- What numbers do you have for today???

disco

December 6th, 2013
9:55 am

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
9:55 am

I could date a chic 10 years younger than me….right now, but not 10 years ago……and I could date a chic 10 years older than me…..I’m at that nice age where I get the best of both worlds …

kimmie

December 6th, 2013
9:57 am

Morning All!!

RIP Nelson Mandela. There will never be another like you!!

Exiled – I thought of you and my kid’s pediatrician, who is from South Africa as well. In fact, she has a small bust of Mandela in her office. He meant a lot to people all over the world and set the bar very high, where it should be.

On topic – I have always been attracted to men close to my age. It does depend on the people involved though. I am so not feeling anyone 20+ trying to date anyone still in high school. Having said that, some folks do mature faster than others. I know thinking back for me, I was not mature at 16 to even entertain the thought of a guy college age, much less in his 30’s. Plus with my parents, that just was not going to happen. The thought of it would have creeped me out anyway. It was always in the back of my mind that grown adult men would expect grown adult things from me. I was not ready and I recognized that.

SlimNu

December 6th, 2013
9:58 am

MsAtl – Dayum Gina! lol

disco

December 6th, 2013
9:59 am

I’m not going to throw any specific number out there but there is a certain age where a man sort of loses his stride. you know – when his gait goes from swagger to shuffle? lol. I’m starting to notice more and more that, while men aren’t quite bent over and hobbling yet, their backs and knees and hips are on borrowed time. having said that, I never thought I’d date younger but if “shuffling” men is the alternative I might have to reconsider.

kimmie

December 6th, 2013
10:00 am

2C 2C 2C – Was Scandal OFF THE CHAIN last night or what??!!!!

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
10:04 am

disco ~ if only you had played. Nonetheless, you still got a check from an unexpected source. Any money not expected makes for a great day!

MsAtl

December 6th, 2013
10:06 am

Disco- I know what you mean. The guy that I bowled with earlier this year was 13 years older than me. While he wasn’t “old” he acted it. Everything I talked about-ziplining, Nascar racing, rock climbing, etc- he was like, Not me, I’m not doing that. Thus, while his age per se was not an issue, we were incompatible due to vastly different energy levels.

kimmie

December 6th, 2013
10:06 am

from swagger to shuffle

Disco – You are right. Plus, I can imagine it’s not easy just beginning to date someone at the shuffle stage, versus someone you married at the swagger stage!

disco

December 6th, 2013
10:12 am

kimmie – I hate to tell some of these “old” dudes (lol) that they just don’t look strong anymore. after all, you already know they ain’t trying to hear it and they are straight going to be in denial. I have one guy friend that (in my eyes) has aged considerably in 5 years. he still looks more or less the same but he just lost that pep in his step. he’s starting to shuffle.

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
10:14 am

MsAtl ~ I had a dream last night that the lottery commissioner read this blog and came to investigate me on how I’m semi-picking right numbers.

kimmie ~ when Father Pope smiled looking at the pics of Olivia I thought that strange with him supposedly being so ruthless in how he talks to her. Never imagined it was Mama Pope he was protecting her from. Poor Cyrus, is playa handbook needs to be burned.

MsAtl

December 6th, 2013
10:17 am

Leggs- I am laughing at your dream. Imagine finding out we have our very own blog number runner. I recall when I was a kid, the neighborhood number runner would fill a garbage can with coins and toss the coins off his stoop for the kids to grab on Halloween. Man, we had Now & Laters for weeks!

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
10:19 am

kimmie – that sh!t was crazy!!! Huck had me trippin from jump……what he said, “talk a little, hush a little” and I see he set Quinn and ol dude up…..cause I was like I know Huck ain’ just let her get away like that….

Reio

December 6th, 2013
10:21 am

Well, some of these “shuffling dudes” are wising up a bit.

In the vast majority of instances where I’ve seen big age gaps in couples, it’s almost always much older men with younger women. I can remember going to one of the local VFW’s(Veterans of Foreign Wars) some years ago. They are usually little holes in the wall kinda places, where older military veterans go to drink, socialize, and tell war stories/lies. Reminisce about the ‘good ole days’.

Anyway, I get there around 7′ish or so. Kinda empty. Quiet. I go to the bar, ordered a Coke, or Rum & Coke. Not a big drinker. Light conversation with the bartender…Place started to fill. Couples mostly. A few single men, many single women, and small groups of women would walk in together. Two things that struck me: The relative age differences of the men and women that came in(and walking out too), and the actual volume(total number) of these women. I was surprised. Young women like that should be in the bigger, more swanky type places, where there are more people in their age group.

This particular VFW had swivel type barstools, so I could kinda swing around and observe. Whenever my eyes would meet the eyes of these young women, I got the feeling that were saying to me “Don’t say it. I know what you’re thinking, but don’t say a word.” Or, “If you want, I’ll come over and sit in your lap, old man…” I also noticed that the women that came alone or in a small groups of female friends would not approach men at the bar, but if you went to sit at one of the tables, eventually one of them, or two of them would come to ask to join you. I saw this lot. Usually it was one woman approaching on man, a few times it was two women approaching one man, but I never saw more than two women with one man. It often seemed to be the case of one woman goes to talk to one of these guys and that was it. In the case of two women, the first one went over, and a bit later, one of her friends would join them. They tended to stay for quite a while and then leave together. These young girls appeared happy(Great pretenders), and I KNOW these old dudes were happy, so what the heck? He gets what he wants and the lil girls get paid. No problem. Friday through Sunday nights is when this action takes place. Monday through Thursday these VFW’s are ghost towns. Matter of fact, three of the four here are closed Monday through Thursday. They know what the deal is. Hehehehehe……….

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
10:22 am

“swagger to shuffle”…….that’s why I gotta hurry up and get boo’d up while I still got my swagger….

disco

December 6th, 2013
10:23 am

atl – I have memories of our neighborhood number runner too. he used to sit outside in his “kitchen table chair” and kept a tiny little notepad in his shirt pocket. you could play a number for a dime. my grandmother always played numbers. I recently dreamed about playing numbers for her (her regular numbers). variations of those numbers were falling for weeks. me? I’m too tight with my money to get into gambling on the regular. I may donate a little to the casino or get a powerball ticket here and there but playing numbers everyday? never that.

Reio

December 6th, 2013
10:28 am

2CPTG© – You can always go to the VFW. Young chicks everywhere. Lookin for older gents with deeper pockets than what they are used to. Jus sayin.

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
10:28 am

“…we were incompatible due to vastly different energy levels.” – Therein lies my problem.

disco ~ I’m sitting here cracking up. I went to a concert a few months ago with this guy 9 years my senior. I couldn’t help but take note of the “old man shuffle.” As we were walking back to our car, which was too far for either of our comfort, the shuffle became more and more prominent. I wanted to break out the George Jefferson walk and turn to him and say “come on man put some pep in your step.”

MsAtl ~ I’m still feeling 598, but I think I’m going to add 904 to my picks.

disco

December 6th, 2013
10:32 am

leggs – the shuffle is real and it is so not a good look. poor fellas.

leggs – considering how your other number dropped last night I’m semi tempted to try your 904. guess it will depend on if I have any change in the car. lol.

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
10:39 am

Reio….. I see it around here too; Sunday nights are the “grown folks” night at the local hole in the wall, and the young gals be out in droves…..

Reio

December 6th, 2013
10:40 am

Maybe one day I’ll go to a VFW and sit at a table and see what happens. I betcha it won’t matter whether I have a shuffle or not, I’ll be approached by one or more of these young, money grubbing, lil witches. Guaranteed. This “shuffle” sounds like a natural part of the aging process. So, I suppose, I’ll be shuffling along at some point down the road. But, for these old guys and young gals, a shuffle is, apparently, something they all seem to have found a way to deal with.

disco

December 6th, 2013
10:46 am

reio – for a quick hustle, the shuffle is usually the sign of an easier mark. after all the oldheads recognize that they gotta pay to play. it’s the young cats that are typically still running around talking about they don’t have to buy it. targeting a shuffler is just easier. lol.

now, imo, it’s actually kind of discouraging to be seriously dating (or looking to date) and your demographic is leading into the shufflers. you even look at them and imagine what they might have been like in their prime and ask yourself if you can content yourself with a shell of what used to be. (lol. in my own mind I heard theme music on that one…)

Reio

December 6th, 2013
10:47 am

You know, as I think about it, suppose I was older, perhaps my wife has passed, and I’m a bit further up in age, I still can’t see myself showing up a VFW or any place, for that matter, with the expressed intent on hookin up with one or two of these young, stankin, chulun, just to use them for a night, or a year or two, knowing it’s not a real relationship and nothing will come of it. But that’s just me though.

kimmie

December 6th, 2013
10:48 am

Leggs/Disco – Well those young chicks can have that shuffle, always have. If it’s gone be some shuffling, we’ll be shuffling together, growing old together. But starting out, one skipping the other shuffling, no way, can’t hang.

I’m still on my diet/healthy living kick, been working out and clothes getting lose. I have energy for days. My hubs works out with me. We not shuffling for a long time if I have anything to do with it. I love getting out and seeing the world, taking in fresh air, moving. Some tired old couch potato would annoy the hell out of me!!! And it’s not just older men either, some of these dudes 35, 45 start that tired mess.

Reio

December 6th, 2013
10:53 am

If I were female and as young as some of these girls appeared, seems like it would turn my stomach to sit in a man’s lap that’s as old as my grandpa. Let alone kiss his azz. Good gracious!! Hell Naw!!!
That cash would have to be sho nuff kinda nice. But, if these heffas are desperate for cash and willing to do it, who am I to talk?

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
10:53 am

Reio ~ long post, but I remember going to American Legion and the frat house off Greenbriar Pkwy witnessing the exact same thing. No, I was never one of the young women trying to cozy up to the older men, but I was on the sidelines laughing at those who did.

MsAtl ~ every time I hear “numbers runner,” I think of the scene in Malcom X where Denzel didn’t play West Indian Archie’s number and it fell straight. West Indian Archie said a man’s rep u tation is all he has in the streets and Denzel ruined his. Never write your numbers down, commit them to memory was his motto.

One thing I feel certain of is 904 is going to drop. Heck, I put $3 on it last night. It’s coming!

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
10:56 am

Reio ~ I make light of it, but yeah the “shuffle” is part of the aging process. Hope I’m around long enough to shuffle too. Right now, I’m quite spry (rofl).

disco

December 6th, 2013
10:57 am

kimmie – key words “growing old together”. some of us singles are approaching old or already there. therein lies a big problem. lol. a friend of mine was telling me about her trials with entering menopause. while I was empathetic enough I was like “omg – I have a friend going through menopause. this is not good”.

reio – while some of the young chicks do the do there is a lot of truth to some of those old men just wanting company.

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
10:58 am

“…one skipping the other shuffling, no way, can’t hang.” – the visual has me cracking up. Hope she’s not popping gum along with that skipping.

kimmie

December 6th, 2013
10:59 am

it would turn my stomach to sit in a man’s lap that’s as old as my grandpa. Let alone kiss his azz

Reio – thats always been my take on it. I’ve just never been the one. Not enough money in the world!

Leggs – noting those numbers, gonna go play today!

disco

December 6th, 2013
11:02 am

when I was in my 20s I had an old head (probably 50 or so) who didn’t want much more than to bask in my presence. occasionally he acted like he wanted to press the issue of getting some but I was just like “ewww” and he never tried too hard. dude was quick to come out the pocket, always checked to see what I “needed”. he had a son a few years older than mine. what his son got, my son got. shoot, one time he sponsored me to go visit another sponsor. lol. of course he didn’t know that. just told him I was going to kick it with some friends. lol. I eventually hooked him up with the mother of a bad date. they hit it off. go figure.

kimmie

December 6th, 2013
11:04 am

Disco – Yeah, I barely made it in time, married, so I can imagine. Some of these dudes just start it up early though. They got an old mindset at 30! Cheap, tired and given up on any fun. Ready for the rocking chair. Heck, I could probably deal with an older guy that fights it and goes down swinging, with some energy!

Sassy Me

December 6th, 2013
11:06 am

I wanted to break out the George Jefferson walk and turn to him and say “come on man put some pep in your step.”

I can sooo see you doing that :lol:

In the past I’ve typically dated men ~4-5 years younger than I…but Mr. Bermuda is around my age. That being said, the widest age gap I’ve dealt with was 12 years…my boy toy was 12 years my junior but given the nature of our “situation” it worked out wonderfully.

#sweetmemories

Reio

December 6th, 2013
11:07 am

disco – Yes, I hear ya. Not all these old dudes are up to anything. In fact, I would imagine, that a great many of them are just out for laughs and giggles, and would rather enjoy the company of younger women when they do. Perhaps it makes them feel better, in between dialysis, and cataract surgery. Most of them proly couldn’t do much more than hug and kiss, even if they wanted too. And these lil girls know it. Father Time & Mother Nature will team up on us all. Even these young gals, many years from now. It’s eminent.

disco

December 6th, 2013
11:11 am

okay. not to change the subject but my post reminded me. lol. I mentioned this on here before early on and was met with some shock and disbelief. so the chick that I hooked up with my oldhead. I went out with her son for a bit and when we finally decide to do the do, he’s short. where he messed up at is prancing his little short behind across the room without turning the lights out. I promptly told him “this ain’t gone work” and told him in the future he might want to sneak that up on folks. ain’t nobody got time for that. my friends still clown me for actually saying that to him. whatever.

Sassy Me

December 6th, 2013
11:11 am

one time he sponsored me to go visit another sponsor.

Ain’t nuthin wrong with that. :mrgreen:

I eventually hooked him up with the mother of a bad date. they hit it off. go figure.

That was nice and selfless of you.

Sassy Me

December 6th, 2013
11:17 am

when we finally decide to do the do, he’s short

:shock:

Houston we have a problem!!

told him in the future he might want to sneak that up on folks.

That’s funny as hell…I can only imagine the look hurt/”confrusion”/disappointment on lil man’s face when you said that.

Who has time for an teenie weenie?…miss me with that

disco

December 6th, 2013
11:18 am

sassy – selfless? shrugs. I didn’t want him. thing is, he stayed cool. that chick got brand new soon as she had a man. I wanted to tell her if I wanted him I’d take him from her. old trick. lol.

Robert

December 6th, 2013
11:18 am

“Does Age Matter?”

Yes it does. I hate to see a attractive young woman (20+) with a older man (40+). I hate to see a older woman (40+ cougars) with a younger man (20+). Obviously there are no real men and women in their family to stop it. In my family we do not play that. For example if my (20+) year old daughter, niece or cousin were crazy enough to come home with a older man (40+) they deserve to be embarrassed. The problem is no longer theirs, and they have no control on the final outcome. I will make the older man (40+) an offer he can not refuse. No man wants another man to tell him he is wrong and question him about his inappropriate behavior. I will tell him he is not welcome in my family. I will tell my (20+) year old daughter, niece or cousin never disrespect me again. Bringing a older man (40+) in my presence is disrespectful.

Respect starts at home and if you do not teach your (20+) year old daughters, nieces, nephews and cousins what are the consequences for their inappropriate behavior.

Reio

December 6th, 2013
11:21 am

“this ain’t gone work” Lol!!

At least you were honest. Told his azz point blank. You didn’t string him along. You did him a favor. I’m sure he didn’t appreciate it, but you actually did the right thing. Cause it was important to you.

Reio

December 6th, 2013
11:24 am

Robert – I hope you’re being sarcastic, but something tells me you are not. Right?

disco

December 6th, 2013
11:25 am

yeah for robert!!!! a little “controversy” to stir things up. in general, I’m not sweating who dates who. if I were to show out behind it then it’s for personal reasons or GP. 20 something is way old enough to make their bed, lie in it and get up and change the sheets if that’s what they want to do.

am I the only one that thinks that a lot of robert’s posts fall under the “I wish a ninja would” category?

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
11:29 am

SassyMe ~ you know I definitely would. :lol:

disco ~ your slick mouth always cracks me up. Slick meaning blunt and truthful. Mama used to tell me my slick mouth would get me slapped a lot. Other than her and the man I was in bed with calling out another’s name, no one else has dared to slap me (whew, I’m laughing so hard I’m tearing up).

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
11:33 am

Robert ~ why you taking who they’re dating as a diss to you? A person in their 20’s is good and grown and if they’re no longer attached to your purse strings why not let them love who they want to love. Although, a 20 year difference is a bitter pill to swallow, but they’re not disrespecting you.

disco ~ most of Robert’s post I envision him speaking at a podium sounding like James Earl Jones.

Reio

December 6th, 2013
11:37 am

In some parts of my old neighborhood, these kinds of relationships were kinda common. Anyway, if Robert tried to do what he said he would do, he’d get shot or “cut up” back in the day. Jus sayin.

Robert

December 6th, 2013
11:37 am

@Reio/disco – “In my family we do not play that”. Respect starts at home. I am glad none of you (40+) year old Georgia country “bama’s” are in my presence. I would hate to make you an offer you could not refuse. Thank you for staying away from my (20+) year old daughters, nieces and cousins. I would hate to catch a case for your inappropriate behavior.

disco

December 6th, 2013
11:38 am

leggs – I started to type what I envision and the recalled that you just reminded me about my mouth. I don’t envision anything. lol.

disco

December 6th, 2013
11:41 am

robert – unless your nephew is dating your wife (lol), it’s not a respect issue. I know a chick who pulled her aunt’s husband. the family was all torn up about that. especially her mother. yep. she took her momma’s sister’s man. now granted she and dude (her used to be uncle) are still married but I don’t know if that makes it better or worse.

Robert

December 6th, 2013
11:47 am

@disco – You have dysfunctional families who encourage inappropriate behavior. I am glad my family does not.

Reio

December 6th, 2013
11:47 am

Robert – Well, if I were my current age, and not married and unattached, first, I would never approach your daughters or nieces, in their 20’s. I’m too old for that. But, lets just say that I did, and you found out, and you then presented me “An offer I could not refuse” Well, I’ll just say this; I’m not the violent type, but I will defend myself and my loved ones. Baby boy, you just might have to come face to face with a sawed off, double barreled, 12-guage, pump, shotgun, with a pistol grip, in defense of myself. And that’s the truth.

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
11:50 am

Robert said this same sh!t before…..and I’ll say my same piece again, damn you! If your grown ass niece wants to date an older dude so be it, ain’ sh!t you can, or gon’ do!

disco

December 6th, 2013
11:51 am

robert – not dysfunctional. just parents that recognize that kids grow up and make their own choices. good choices, bad choices. it’s their life to live. who they date is their business. how you feel about who they date is your business.

disco

December 6th, 2013
11:52 am

2C / Reio – right, right. lol.

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
11:55 am

Robert ~ why you name calling? You do realize many here are transplants, and not country bama’s. Your bravado is commendable, but like Reio said, you might find yourself splattered on the pavement.

disco ~ :lol: :lol: :lol:

Reio

December 6th, 2013
11:58 am

Robert – Before yo azz hits the ground, I’ll be on my cell phone dialing 911. When the cops show up, they will arrest me, cause I’ll admit to everything right there on the spot. Won’t be no trial. No “Not guilty” plea. Just an explanation of the events, and let the chips fall where they may.

Reio

December 6th, 2013
12:03 pm

Hell, I’ll even request that the coroner returns the shotgun pellets that they find in Robert during the autopsy as souvenirs. Sh!t.

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
12:11 pm

country bamas, huh? maybe you don’t want anyone dating your younger nieces, and cousins because that would intefere with your own warped behaviors, hunh man? you trynna keep ‘em for yourself, is that it? fvckin hillbilly.

Single & Happy

December 6th, 2013
12:12 pm

Hey again all

Now we all no Robert is control freak!! Lives in his own little world.

MsAtl

December 6th, 2013
12:12 pm

Disco/Reio/2C- I agree. Once you pass a certain age, you are free to date whomever you wish. I may not choose who my children date, but they are grown and thus, it is not my choice to make. I fail to see how it is disrespectful.

Having said that, I remember my girlfriend chasing a woman’s car down the street. The woman was about 35 years old and had brought my friend’s 19 year old son home at 7 in the morning. I was rolling! We still laugh about it to this day.

Reio

December 6th, 2013
12:14 pm

2CPTG© -, Yeah. He’s used to keeping it in the family. Any outsiders would mess up his good thang.

Reio

December 6th, 2013
12:17 pm

MsAtl – Well, 19 is still kinda young, and she was 35. But I would have to agree, even at 19, there is not much a parent can do. Beyond praying they make better decisions going forward.

Robert

December 6th, 2013
12:19 pm

@reio – “Baby boy, you just might have to come face to face with a sawed off, double barreled, 12-guage, pump, shotgun, with a pistol grip, in defense of myself”

I grew-up in the mean streets of DC (wild, wild west). Do you think you can scare me with guns? It takes a lot of courage to take that ass whipping when you are wrong. I bet you before you can pull the trigger I will disarm you with little or no difficulty and take your guns. That is a fact. Any coward can pull the trigger. Cowards shoot first and ask questions later.

Reio

December 6th, 2013
12:24 pm

“Cowards shoot first and ask questions later.”

Yes, but guess what? I’m not a coward.

disco

December 6th, 2013
12:29 pm

atl – I had a friend (40s) who was creeping with her friend’s son (20s). I told her straight up if it was my son I would whoop her behind. that one would be on GP.

Robert

December 6th, 2013
12:31 pm

@reio – “Yes, but guess what? I’m not a coward.” –

Only a coward would bring a gun to a fist fight out of “fear” of getting their ass kicked. Why would you bring a gun to a fist fight? Coward…

Reio

December 6th, 2013
12:31 pm

Robert – By the way, I wonder if you would be so kind as to introduce me to your 20 something daughter and nieces. Hell, I heard one of’em was kinda cute. Would ya do that for me? Please?

Reio

December 6th, 2013
12:35 pm

” Why would you bring a gun to a fist fight? Coward…”

Better to have more than is needed, than not enough. You don’t present yourself as fair and trustworthy. Sorry. I’d rather be prepared. But, what about hookin me up with your daughter, you know, the cute young one. Huh? Ok? Would ya? Could ya? Huh?

disco

December 6th, 2013
12:36 pm

reio – you’se a nut.

so… robert – we see where you stand on age. what about all the other dating possibilities? race? gender? religion? marital status (can your daughter/niece date a divorced/widowed man?) educational background? lol. I guess it doesn’t matter though as I seem to recall several stories of your daughter dating “undesirables” either by actual desire or just desire to irk daddy. dysfunctional much? lol.

Robert

December 6th, 2013
12:39 pm

@reio – “Better to have more than is needed, than not enough. You don’t present yourself as fair and trustworthy. Sorry. I’d rather be prepared”

That was the same excuse George Zimmerman used when he was getting his ass kicked by Trayvon Martin. Trayvon Martin died because a coward thought his life was in danger. You act just like George Zimmerman.

MsAtl

December 6th, 2013
12:46 pm

Disco- Your 12:29; I am assuming because she would have crossed the friend line?

Durty Burd

December 6th, 2013
12:48 pm

Good Afternoon!

Man these youngin out right now, whew they are too hot to trot! They will stared you down and act like they got a chance!
When they start flirting I usually change the subject. I had one at work who is about 18yrs younger than I am started rubbing her itty bitties on me, then talking about how she can perform like a p-star…She almost got me with that one! hehehehehe!

Where is my future baby Celisea? Sweetheart do you need me to come over and rub your feet while we review your client’s accounts? lol

Robert

December 6th, 2013
12:51 pm

@disco – ” what about all the other dating possibilities? race? gender? religion? marital status (can your daughter/niece date a divorced/widowed man?) educational background? ”

I would like to believe that we live in the 21st century and race has no place-2013. My family, friends and neighbors have diversity (Black, White, Hispanic, Asian, African). Diversity is our greatest strength and we all should encourage our young people to welcome the opportunity to embrace diversity.

Today we here stories about people against immigration reform. Who are these people? Do they have any family, friends and neighbors who are minorities (Black, Hispanic, Asian, etc.)? Hatred, fear and bigotry are not family values.

Reio

December 6th, 2013
12:51 pm

Trayvon was an innocent young fellow, walking along the sidewalk heading home. When a cold blooded killer started following him because of his gender and race. This dirty dog stopped his car, threw it in park, cut the engine, opened the door, got out, walked over and proceeded to kill a young man who had done nothing wrong but be blessed with black skin by God, while in his mothers womb. How Dare you compare this foolishness that you speak, to what happened to young Trayvon. You worthless, good for nothing, two-legged dog. Just like yo mama. By the way, if you would, tell yo mama and yo wife, if they want, to stop by, they can come over with your daughters, Jus sayin.

Durty Burd

December 6th, 2013
12:54 pm

People will do what people will do! Funny when I was younger in 20’s I was not interested in younger ladies. When I got to my 30’s I started plowing them down…No that I am in 40’s I have to run from them…hehehehehe!

Robert I know what you are saying, but you have to learn to let go! It’s a hard lesson, but it must be done.

Durty Burd

December 6th, 2013
12:56 pm

Lucky Leggs….You are giving out way too many numbers? Now what are we playing today? 409, 958, 593, heck I need to keep some this money so I can take someone out to Checker’s…..hehehehehehe!

Durty Burd

December 6th, 2013
1:00 pm

Disco I am surprised you have not met anyone at the gym. That is a for sure pick-up spot. I am witness a quite a few holiday hook-ups…Um you do still go to the gym right? Or are you on the coach reading and eat upside down cake? lol

Robert

December 6th, 2013
1:04 pm

@reio – “You worthless, good for nothing, two-legged dog. Just like yo mama”

I know for a fact that your mama wishes she had access to the “morning after pill” so she could have flushed your sorry ass down the toilet. What a disgrace…

SlimNu

December 6th, 2013
1:16 pm

Nice to see the fellas banter back and forth for once…I know the women need a break sometimes. lol

disco – Why in the hell did I make a mistake and turn it to the Christmas music channel????!!! :shock:

Durty Burd

December 6th, 2013
1:42 pm

Now see Paul Walker needed to be slapped really hard for dating a 16 yr old.
Hey SLimNu are you sleeping better?

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
2:15 pm

“I bet you before you can pull the trigger I will disarm you with little or no difficulty and take your ” guns. – All depends on where you’re standing. All this big bad talk behind computer screen is what we were talking about earlier in the week.

“You don’t present yourself as fair and trustworthy. Sorry. I’d rather be prepared.” – Very fair rebuttal since he did say he grew up in the mean streets of DC. Not much righteousness takes place in the streets. You learn some low down dirty tricks!

Damn, reading Reio’s 12:51 confirms he’s not afraid of us city women. Hell, from the read of things, he’s not afraid of anyone.

Durty ~ not giving out too many numbers. The numbers I gave out yesterday fell. Today has a new number.

SlimNu ~ yes, it’s kinda good to see the fellows banter. Man, they’re ruthless. That morning after pill was way below the belt.

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
2:18 pm

Rather the number fell where disco is. I still feel it will fall here….958 or 904.

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
2:18 pm

I’mma lover, not a fighter….but I see if I ever need bodyguard, Reio got them “thangs” on deck……Slim, would you date a wuss? :shy:

disco

December 6th, 2013
2:24 pm

lover not a fighter? why not both? it’s called multi-tasking. lol.

Single & Happy

December 6th, 2013
2:25 pm

2C that doesn’t make you a wuss, what “grown man” thinks the way to handle any problem is to fight? How long before he thinks this is the way to handle relationship problems also?

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
2:30 pm

My reason for not resorting to violence, is because once I cross that threshold, I ain’ stopping, til somebody ain’t moving…..there’s no such thing as fair fight! And I know most would disagree, but I even taught my kids, da hell with that, “who hit who first”….you better be the one to hit first!! cause that first lick may be the last…I told them, avoid confrontations at all costs, but once you realize it’s on, then go for what you know!!!!

disco

December 6th, 2013
2:31 pm

single – hold up. does that only apply to men? lol. I was just saying to someone the other day that my answer to a whole bunch of problems is a good butt whipping. that is one area in which grown is for the birds.

disco

December 6th, 2013
2:34 pm

2C – now that’s what I’m talking about. we weren’t raised on that “only hit people back” stuff either. we were also raised to jump out the gate. don’t wait to see who has an edge, if your peeps are fighting, you are fighting too. I learned that lesson in second grade when I got two whoopings on the same day for not helping a cousin fight.

Single & Happy

December 6th, 2013
2:35 pm

2C I feel you. I’m all for stand your ground. damn being the victim.

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
2:39 pm

same here, disco….if your family fighting, then you better be fighting!!!! hell, that’s a deterrent in itself, once folks realize that you can’t fight just one of them, then they’ll think twice before messin with annn one of y’all…..

Single & Happy

December 6th, 2013
2:40 pm

disco, no it doesn’t. while I’m all for getting a whipping, it has to be done at the appropriate time followed up by the appropriate actions (LOL). Now if every time you see something you don’t like, or someone does something you don’t like you’re trying to fight, then there is a problem.

On the cousin fighting, if it was one on one, then watch the fight. if it’s more help out the cousin. Now if the cousin is popping of at the mouth and gets jumped, oh well!

disco

December 6th, 2013
2:44 pm

2C – and you know some of my family’s fights are legendary. one time, me, two female cousins and an aunt tore some dudes up. one of my male cousins got hemmed up, jumped and pretty much beat down. a little cousin ran in the house to tell what was going down. the four of us ran out and it was on. I wasn’t even all the way dressed because I was ironing at the time. outside fighting in shorts and a bra. lol. we had bottles, sticks and my aunt even tossed an old school aluminum Oscar the grouch trash can at a dude’s head. by the time the streets alerted some of my male cousins we had already held it down.

disco

December 6th, 2013
2:46 pm

single – sounds good but it wasn’t going down like that. our logic was we weren’t going to be having subsequent fights just because somebody was popping off about our person losing and someone else jumping in. to eliminate that risk we just jumped from the start.

I had a party one time in high school and some dudes tried to crash. one of my female cousins hit dude in the head with a glass pitcher. he went to swing on her and it was on. 3 females tore dude up. my brother and some male cousins were on the perimeter but they let us have it.

boy those were the good old days.

Single & Happy

December 6th, 2013
2:51 pm

Hmm disco, you show is sounding good over there (hee hee hee) or am I to old and shuffling (LOL)

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
2:52 pm

2C ~ I raised mine that way too. Don’t wait for someone to hit you. That first hit might be the last hit and I believe in cold cocking a Mitch in a heartbeat. (I like Mitch as a substitute word).

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
2:52 pm

Single, like I said, where I’m from, ain’ no such thing as a fair fight……one on one? only if it’s just the two of them there at that time, other than that, better keep ya head on a swivel….get bust in the back ‘o yo sh!t……

Reio

December 6th, 2013
3:19 pm

Where’d Robert go? I’d rather not continue that foolishness with him, but it was hard to resist. Some people tend to lack communication skills. Weak vocabularies. And tend to view negative words as the same as a physical attack, cause their ability to use the English language to adequately express themselves is limited.

Durty Burd

December 6th, 2013
3:20 pm

Celisea baby! Thinking of you just makes me want to sing…..We got a life of love, everyday let me love you in a special way, can I melt your heart away with my bank account! There always sunshine when I look at you, Loving you is so easy because your beautiful inside and out!

:wink:

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
3:24 pm

Reio ~ your posts reminds of something else from the Malcom X movie: “A man curses because he doesn’t have the words to say what’s on his mind.” That’s when mud is slung.

Celisea

December 6th, 2013
3:26 pm

Durty – Boo, put your wallet away, you don’t need that (well you do, but not to win me over). Now, work your magic :)

Reio

December 6th, 2013
3:29 pm

Leggs – Yeah, I’ve noticed that over the years. Often times, individuals that lack the vocabulary and patience, tend to be more likely to resort to physical assaults to resolve a dispute, rather than attempt to spar with words, a spar in which, they shall surely lose. They are aware of this in the beginning.

Reio

December 6th, 2013
3:36 pm

ironically, I knew a few fellas that would rather fight than work things out, but some of them actually could communicate fairly effectively. Oh, their vocabularies weren’t rich and extensive, but they could get their points across when they wanted to. Their problem, in my opinion, was a lack of patience. They would be in a fairly long argument with someone, and in some cases, be winning the argument, but decide to end it all by saying “Da hell wit all dat. Wat-chu gon do?” And, of course, this is when things go further south.

Durty Burd

December 6th, 2013
4:09 pm

Celisea…Work my magic huh! It’s magically just being in your presence!

Me and you will not have to worry about an age difference because out minds will jell into one, compromising with the williness to love, honor and cherish each other.
Social media issues will not exist because I only have time to add to your happiness.
Oh and I want to you to expect too much from me, inspire me to do and be my best everyday.
The magic number will not exist because to me I will be your first and last..
Loneliness or love, the loneliness will no longer be a word you can ever feel, because I will love your mind, spirit and your BODY, BODY!
:) :wink:

Celisea

December 6th, 2013
4:31 pm

with the williness to love, honor and cherish each other.

Chile, I almost called for the pastor….with this line….ha ha ha ha

Ooooweee!! Durty, you tryna brang it, huh? Imma marinate on your sweet droppings while I get ready to pack up and head home.

Have a fantab weekend!!

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
4:35 pm

Dat Damn Durty!

MsAtl

December 6th, 2013
4:47 pm

Okay- I have been in meetings and do not have time to go back and read everything. However, I found something that should appease you blog guys and hold you for the weekend.

http://elitedaily.com/news/world/big-butt-healthy-butt-study-says-women-big-butts-healthier/