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Dating: Does age matter?

I have been reading reports on the tragic death of actor Paul Walker in the news. He spent a lot of time in Atlanta and everyone he met said that he seemed like such a wonderful person. Then I read something about his 23 year old girlfriend of seven years and I quickly did the math. He would have been 33 years old when he met and began dating her at age 16.

I don’t want to speak ill of the dead but that kind of creeped me out a bit. I know age doesn’t matter to a lot of single people. Honestly, many of the guys I am friends with date younger than their own age, and the women date older. I just wonder what a 16 year old and a 33 year old would really have in common? Setting aside the whole “Hollywood is like a different planet” aspect of this – when does age matter?

I remember being 30 and dating a barely 20 year old guy. He kept telling me that the age difference didn’t bother him but I never got used to it. We had such different life experiences at the time. There were some things we were never going to connect on. In hindsight, I wonder if I was being unfair about it. Can a relationship with significant age difference really work? Is it harder or easier than any other relationship with people who are closer in age?

What do you think? Could you date someone who is over ten years younger than you are? What do you think could be the biggest hurdle?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

122 comments Add your comment

Single & Happy

December 6th, 2013
2:25 pm

2C that doesn’t make you a wuss, what “grown man” thinks the way to handle any problem is to fight? How long before he thinks this is the way to handle relationship problems also?

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
2:30 pm

My reason for not resorting to violence, is because once I cross that threshold, I ain’ stopping, til somebody ain’t moving…..there’s no such thing as fair fight! And I know most would disagree, but I even taught my kids, da hell with that, “who hit who first”….you better be the one to hit first!! cause that first lick may be the last…I told them, avoid confrontations at all costs, but once you realize it’s on, then go for what you know!!!!

disco

December 6th, 2013
2:31 pm

single – hold up. does that only apply to men? lol. I was just saying to someone the other day that my answer to a whole bunch of problems is a good butt whipping. that is one area in which grown is for the birds.

disco

December 6th, 2013
2:34 pm

2C – now that’s what I’m talking about. we weren’t raised on that “only hit people back” stuff either. we were also raised to jump out the gate. don’t wait to see who has an edge, if your peeps are fighting, you are fighting too. I learned that lesson in second grade when I got two whoopings on the same day for not helping a cousin fight.

Single & Happy

December 6th, 2013
2:35 pm

2C I feel you. I’m all for stand your ground. damn being the victim.

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
2:39 pm

same here, disco….if your family fighting, then you better be fighting!!!! hell, that’s a deterrent in itself, once folks realize that you can’t fight just one of them, then they’ll think twice before messin with annn one of y’all…..

Single & Happy

December 6th, 2013
2:40 pm

disco, no it doesn’t. while I’m all for getting a whipping, it has to be done at the appropriate time followed up by the appropriate actions (LOL). Now if every time you see something you don’t like, or someone does something you don’t like you’re trying to fight, then there is a problem.

On the cousin fighting, if it was one on one, then watch the fight. if it’s more help out the cousin. Now if the cousin is popping of at the mouth and gets jumped, oh well!

disco

December 6th, 2013
2:44 pm

2C – and you know some of my family’s fights are legendary. one time, me, two female cousins and an aunt tore some dudes up. one of my male cousins got hemmed up, jumped and pretty much beat down. a little cousin ran in the house to tell what was going down. the four of us ran out and it was on. I wasn’t even all the way dressed because I was ironing at the time. outside fighting in shorts and a bra. lol. we had bottles, sticks and my aunt even tossed an old school aluminum Oscar the grouch trash can at a dude’s head. by the time the streets alerted some of my male cousins we had already held it down.

disco

December 6th, 2013
2:46 pm

single – sounds good but it wasn’t going down like that. our logic was we weren’t going to be having subsequent fights just because somebody was popping off about our person losing and someone else jumping in. to eliminate that risk we just jumped from the start.

I had a party one time in high school and some dudes tried to crash. one of my female cousins hit dude in the head with a glass pitcher. he went to swing on her and it was on. 3 females tore dude up. my brother and some male cousins were on the perimeter but they let us have it.

boy those were the good old days.

Single & Happy

December 6th, 2013
2:51 pm

Hmm disco, you show is sounding good over there (hee hee hee) or am I to old and shuffling (LOL)

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
2:52 pm

2C ~ I raised mine that way too. Don’t wait for someone to hit you. That first hit might be the last hit and I believe in cold cocking a Mitch in a heartbeat. (I like Mitch as a substitute word).

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
2:52 pm

Single, like I said, where I’m from, ain’ no such thing as a fair fight……one on one? only if it’s just the two of them there at that time, other than that, better keep ya head on a swivel….get bust in the back ‘o yo sh!t……

Reio

December 6th, 2013
3:19 pm

Where’d Robert go? I’d rather not continue that foolishness with him, but it was hard to resist. Some people tend to lack communication skills. Weak vocabularies. And tend to view negative words as the same as a physical attack, cause their ability to use the English language to adequately express themselves is limited.

Durty Burd

December 6th, 2013
3:20 pm

Celisea baby! Thinking of you just makes me want to sing…..We got a life of love, everyday let me love you in a special way, can I melt your heart away with my bank account! There always sunshine when I look at you, Loving you is so easy because your beautiful inside and out!

:wink:

Leggs

December 6th, 2013
3:24 pm

Reio ~ your posts reminds of something else from the Malcom X movie: “A man curses because he doesn’t have the words to say what’s on his mind.” That’s when mud is slung.

Celisea

December 6th, 2013
3:26 pm

Durty – Boo, put your wallet away, you don’t need that (well you do, but not to win me over). Now, work your magic :)

Reio

December 6th, 2013
3:29 pm

Leggs – Yeah, I’ve noticed that over the years. Often times, individuals that lack the vocabulary and patience, tend to be more likely to resort to physical assaults to resolve a dispute, rather than attempt to spar with words, a spar in which, they shall surely lose. They are aware of this in the beginning.

Reio

December 6th, 2013
3:36 pm

ironically, I knew a few fellas that would rather fight than work things out, but some of them actually could communicate fairly effectively. Oh, their vocabularies weren’t rich and extensive, but they could get their points across when they wanted to. Their problem, in my opinion, was a lack of patience. They would be in a fairly long argument with someone, and in some cases, be winning the argument, but decide to end it all by saying “Da hell wit all dat. Wat-chu gon do?” And, of course, this is when things go further south.

Durty Burd

December 6th, 2013
4:09 pm

Celisea…Work my magic huh! It’s magically just being in your presence!

Me and you will not have to worry about an age difference because out minds will jell into one, compromising with the williness to love, honor and cherish each other.
Social media issues will not exist because I only have time to add to your happiness.
Oh and I want to you to expect too much from me, inspire me to do and be my best everyday.
The magic number will not exist because to me I will be your first and last..
Loneliness or love, the loneliness will no longer be a word you can ever feel, because I will love your mind, spirit and your BODY, BODY!
:) :wink:

Celisea

December 6th, 2013
4:31 pm

with the williness to love, honor and cherish each other.

Chile, I almost called for the pastor….with this line….ha ha ha ha

Ooooweee!! Durty, you tryna brang it, huh? Imma marinate on your sweet droppings while I get ready to pack up and head home.

Have a fantab weekend!!

2CPTG©

December 6th, 2013
4:35 pm

Dat Damn Durty!

MsAtl

December 6th, 2013
4:47 pm

Okay- I have been in meetings and do not have time to go back and read everything. However, I found something that should appease you blog guys and hold you for the weekend.

http://elitedaily.com/news/world/big-butt-healthy-butt-study-says-women-big-butts-healthier/