When you are in a brand new relationship, you may convince yourself that knowing every single thing about your new love is important. I am here to tell you that this can be dangerous. Especially when you get in to the magic number conundrum: Do you reveal your body count when asked how many partners you have had? Well, for starters, I don’t think it is a good question to ask in the beginning. New romances need time to cook, as it were, and it is already a fragile thing. Why muck it up with all kind of dirty details of your past?
I have a friend Tim, who has a bad habit of wanting to know the exact magic number. He actually believes that this information is necessary and important, so he asks the women he dates almost immediately. When he gets the response that doesn’t “sit right with him” he starts acting like a jerk to the poor girl. I ask him all the time, “Why ask the question if you may not want or like the answer??” To add insult to injury, Tim is no saint and has his own sexual baggage, so I really don’t get how he sits in judgment of anyone.
Is it fair to ask about the magic number? Would you be totally honest if someone asked you yours? If you aren’t ashamed of the number, should you be bothered when someone asks?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta