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Are bars good for meeting people?

I have been arguing debating with my friend Jeff about whether or not bars and clubs are good places to pick up women. Jeff is a little high strung (sorry bud, it’s true!) so of course he scoffs at the idea of meeting quality women at bars. I, on the other hand, have met the most raging, offensive jerks at networking events and ummm church. So I don’t believe that bars are all that bad if you want to meet someone nice.

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The last time I was at a Happy Hour I met a really great guy. I was out celebrating a promotion, not even really looking to meet anyone at all. Then a guy that was next to me struck up a conversation and it was instant sparks – totally unexpected.

When we went on our first date, he actually said, “I did not expect to meet someone of your caliber at a bar!”. Just goes to show you that we have to drop some of our old ways of thinking. There are very few places you can’t meet someone nice. I mean, other then funerals and family reunions, what place is not a good location to meet someone cool!?

Have you had good experiences meeting someone at a club or a bar? Would you be open to meeting someone there if your prior experiences were negative?

I am curious, where is the strangest place you met and flirted with someone?
I would have to say, Interstate 285. That’s right, living in a city that has bumper to bumper traffic can be a blessing and a curse!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

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Reio

November 26th, 2013
8:36 am

Morning all. Never been first before. Looks like a slow day. Happy Thanksgiving to you all.

Obviously you can meet nice people anywhere. I’ve never been into the bar scene much. I don’t drink, so that has a lot to do with it. Beyond that, I’ve never felt comfortable at bars, primarily because they let anybody in and there is no screening process. This, with alcohol, sometimes can present problems. However, I don’t dismiss it. Anyplace can serve as a good place to ‘run into’ someone nice. Bar, zoo, museum, concert, party…….

Single and Happy

November 26th, 2013
9:27 am

Hey all,

So what is this thing that makes people think that people that go to bars don’t go to church? There is no sin about going to a bar, just like everyone that goes to church are saints! I love me a sanctified lady, a good ole church girl :-D

lee

November 26th, 2013
9:28 am

I don’t drink much and haven’t been to a bar in years. Not saying it would not be a good or bad place to meet someone but if they are at the bar/club all the time that is not the person for me.

Good morning

disco

November 26th, 2013
9:30 am

good morning. I guess I can already guess what kind of day it’s going to be up in here. gee wiz. as for bars. whatever. you meet folks where you meet them. it’s just a place. doesn’t change who you are, doesn’t change who they are. times are hard. it’s almost to the point that these days a person just ought to be grateful they are meeting folks at all. ijs. lol.

disco

November 26th, 2013
9:32 am

okay. that’s two for I don’t drink/don’t drink much. where are the drinkers???? I just suggested to a friend that I think on thanksgiving we ought to say what we are thankful for and chase it with a shot. lol.

Single and Happy

November 26th, 2013
9:33 am

Lee, I’m like that about anywhere they are, whether it be the bar, church, or work. either way it goes you don’t have enough time for me.

Have you heard the saying “if you find someone in the club, when you look for them they’ll always be in the club”

My reply: and if you find someone in church, that’s where they will always be! And since I won’t be there all the time, they’re still not spending time with me!

Single and Happy

November 26th, 2013
9:35 am

Disco, I guess it’s 3, I only drink on vacation :-D

2CPTG©

November 26th, 2013
9:38 am

in other news……

disco

November 26th, 2013
9:40 am

single – well dag. too bad the blog bartender isn’t here (who’s the blog bartender?). I could get virtually lit since I wouldn’t have to share. lol.

single – re drinking on vacation. I was reading a trip report recently (you know – my guilty pleasure). this brother was on a cruise. dude was early 20s and like 6’4” and clowning himself because he liked fruity umbrella drinks. he posted something about how enough of those bad boys had him doing the wobble with some grandmas from idaho. he had a very humorous writing style.

2CPTG©

November 26th, 2013
9:40 am

disco I drink……I’mma dark liquor dude, with Couivousier being my drink of choice….what you drink?

SlimNu

November 26th, 2013
9:45 am

disco – Imma drinker….i drink on a weekly basis but if anyone else asks, i’m just a ’social’ drinker…..nobody said you had to actually be in a social setting or around other folks to be a social drinker. Sometimes I hang out with the couch and tv while I chill & sip. lol

disco

November 26th, 2013
9:48 am

2C – the easier question would be what don’t I drink. lol. in general I prefer white liquor. in winter I tend to switch to brown. still, with the exception of some of the weird stuff, I’m open. someone gifted me a bottle of goldschlager once. I wanted to ask what the heck am I supposed to do with this?

hey slim!!!! – I told y’all at the doctor/dentist I mark “occasionally/socially”. I refuse to pinpoint a number per week. won’t have me hemmed up. lol.

Single and Happy

November 26th, 2013
9:54 am

disco, folks are always messing with me for that reason also, love my fruity, and frozen drinks :-D

Single and Happy

November 26th, 2013
9:55 am

So slim you’re a drinker and you fall down alot?? hmmmmmm (LOL)

disco

November 26th, 2013
9:58 am

single – I remember. that’s why I thought of that. in fact, I remember clowning you myself the day we discussed me and umbrella drinks. on vacation – poolside or at the beach – you get a pass. sitting up in a sports bar eating wings with an umbrella drink. aww heck no. lol.

SlimNu

November 26th, 2013
9:59 am

Single – Drinking and falling have nothing to do with the other. Plus, i’m not always falling…i was burning myself with hot ass tea. See, TOTALLY different. lol

disco – I come from a long line of drinkers so i have to keep a handle on it but dayum if i’m telling them folks my bidness. lol If they want to know, they’ll have to get it from the garbage man that picks up our recycled bin full of glass bottles. LOLOL j/k

Reio

November 26th, 2013
10:00 am

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve got nothing against drinking or drinkers. My problem is the taste. Don’t like the taste of alcohol. Hawaiian Punch, grape Kool-Aid, orange juice, diet Dr. Pepper…that’s my kinda drink. Funny thing though, while in the Navy, I drank like a fish. The guys did it, so, I did too. Never liked it much though. Rum & coke was the one I would get most. I disliked the taste of it the least.

Single and Happy

November 26th, 2013
10:05 am

Well disco, don’t have to worry about that, only been to a sports bar once to watch a game. what a big waste of my time and money. (LOL) But I order them there too, The only time I’ve had umbrella’s in my drinks was on a flight to Hi, where they served them to everyone in first class as we boarded, and at a luau, because my grand daughters wanted them.

Slim, long Island hot is still a drink (LOL) they call it a hot toddie (LOL)

kimmie

November 26th, 2013
10:15 am

Morning Blog Crew!! Looks like it’s just a few of us! That’s cool!!

Topic – I met a cool guy I dated maybe 6 months at a bar out with friends. That was when I was much younger and it was more a college/post college bar scene. As I got older, I just didn’t frequent bars or clubs much. Usually my friends & I would do the full dinner thing or go to a place that played live music. So it wouldn’t be much sitting at a bar. But hey, I don’t judge where folks meet up. You can find love anywhere.

Hey Disco!! Non-drinkers tend to be a drag! LOL!! Also a bit holier-than-thou and judgemental too. Just sayin. I don’t like being around lushes either, but yeah I like a nice drink or 2 occasionally. They don’t call them “spirits” for nothing!

Single – My hubs is more of a beer drinker, but he likes the fruity drinks sometimes too. Folks try to rag him about it, but he just laughs. He was a preacher’s kid, so he was glad to get out the house and get a drink or 2 without being “scorned”!!LOL!!

Reio

November 26th, 2013
10:17 am

My wife doesn’t drink either. Somebody gave us a bottle of wine to celebrate our 10th(I think) wedding anniversary. That sh!t sat in the back of the refrigerator, on the top shelf, waaaaay in the back, for at least 3 years. No kiddin. She finally called me in the kitchen one afternoon, and wanted to toss it out. I said “Well, let’s see what it tastes like first” She opened it, took a sip, handed it to me, I took a sip. We looked at each other, paused a moment, total silence, then she picked up the bottle, walked to the trash can, held it over it, released it, and let gravity take over, causing it to disappear into the bottom of the can. Never to be seen again. We both left the kitchen, going in different directions, never uttering a word, after I suggested that we “See what it tastes like first.”
Wine ain’t! Sh!t!! If you ask me. Jus sayin.

SlimNu

November 26th, 2013
10:24 am

kimmie – Awww, my dad was a PK as well….but he surely didn’t have issues getting his ’spirit’s on.

Reio – Wine is definitely one of those things that is tricky.

kimmie

November 26th, 2013
10:32 am

Reio – You all probably had it stored wrong anyway. It probably should not have been in the refrigerator and stored on it’s side, so the cork would not dry out. Some wines should drink within a year or two, the better quality stuff gets better with age.

But if it was cheap wine, with a screw off cap, then it was probably just nasty!LOL!!

2CPTG©

November 26th, 2013
10:44 am

But if it was cheap wine, with a screw off cap, then it was probably just nasty

whatever…..I still drink my screw-off cap, fuzzy navel, Boone’s Farm……I can swig that….

Reio

November 26th, 2013
11:02 am

I can remember once, oh, say, a hundred and seventeen years ago, my wife decided to throw one of her girlfriends a party at our home. I’m trying to remember what the party was for, but I can’t right now. Anyway, we were discussing what kind of drinks to have for the guests. Since neither of us drank, we didn’t have a clue. Oh, we knew about the beer brands like Michelob, Bud, Miller,….but the spirits? No idea. So, I suggested that we call a few of the known drinkers to find out what they liked.

“Well, I’ll just call Bo and Ruth to see what they want to drink.”, ” No. Honey. Don’t do that.”, “Why not?”, “They might think we don’t know anything.”, ” They know we don’t drink, what’re you talkin about?”, “I just don’t want them to think we don’t know anything about stuff like that.”, “But, we don’t.”, “Yeah, but I don’t want them to know that.”, “Let’s just buy some stuff. Stuff with fancy sounding names.”…..Needless to say, the party went well, I guess. They seemed to enjoy everything. We had a good time. Never pressed my wife on why she was hell bent on not letting people find out that we didn’t know much about spirits, even though they all knew we didn’t drink. I guess I didn’t really give a hoot. Still don’t. Can’t remember what the party was for either.

kimmie

November 26th, 2013
11:17 am

Reio – Is your wife a good cook?

Reio

November 26th, 2013
11:18 am

Looks like we’ll be heading out for Marietta (wherever that is) tomorrow evening. Gonna be over there for Thanksgiving with my daughter and granddaughter. She’s actually a pretty good cook. Looking forward to it. Proly pick up a MegaMillions lottery ticket or two while I’m there. Ween got sh!t her. So we have to cross the state line into Georgia to get or see anything worth a damn. That granddaughter is looking more and more like she’s gonna be as hardheaded as her mammy and grandmammy too. Lord help her.

Exiled

November 26th, 2013
11:18 am

Are bars good for meeting gals?

YEP..if u want to smash! :lol:

(after reading on ya’ll!) :lol:

I think if u want to marry, u can meet a good gal there too but if i were single and hunting for a partner, i wld prefer not to have high hopes.

Bars are def a good place to start(defaul locale) if u looking for a fun gal.

Now if u seriously want a marriage chic,go to some church…the ol ladies in church got the inside scoop on all the good gals! :lol: (Celisea, u know this!)

If a lady likes her liqor too much,dating menfolk will tend to put u in a stereotype hole.:arrow: Fun Girl!..and Fun Girl and marriage dont usually mingle. :lol:

It is what it is

Hey MIA!

2CPTG©

November 26th, 2013
11:24 am

Reio, I was in your neck of the woods this past weekend….took my nephew on a recruiting trip to Samford…..nice lil spot…

disco

November 26th, 2013
11:27 am

2C – re that 10:44 just last night I jokingly said I needed to go find a gallon jug of tiger rose. you remember that big green jug? lol.

ex – 11:18. things were going along, just going along and then, well, good morning ex. lol.

daddy swiss

November 26th, 2013
11:29 am

disco — Don’t worry, I’ll drank with you. Matter of fact, I’ll make it my mission to make sure you get good & f__ked up. (I’m a whiteboy, after all. It’s part of our culture to get everybody f__ked up.) lol

kimmie

November 26th, 2013
11:29 am

Exiled – I think you can meet a good person just about anywhere. I know personally, for me, any time I went anywhere for the “purpose” of “meeting someone”, I always ended up disappointed. Plus, no matter how cool you try to play it, you may as well have DESPERATE stamped on your forehead! This goes for men and women. You can usually cut the tension with a knife! Meeting should be natural, organic. Be into whatever you came to the spot for, whether it was out with friends to grab some drinks and/or a meal, church to worship, the park to run or ride your bike or walk your dog, whatever. If you happen to meet someone, cool. You will be relaxed and have a clear, discerning head and so much more attractive.

Single and Happy

November 26th, 2013
11:30 am

Disco, Imma have to agree with ex, the biggest freaks I’ve meet were all into the church, smashing all night and before Sunday school :-) ……………………………………………………..oh wait, I was supposed have meet them in bars (LOL)

disco

November 26th, 2013
11:32 am

swiss – don’t think I don’t know to watch it around “your kind”. lol. remember, I’m the one that tells kids on their way to college to not try to drink with the white kids. folks who understand, understand. folks who don’t, don’t. lol.

btw – hey kimmie!!!! I forgot.

disco

November 26th, 2013
11:36 am

for all the “bad rap” church girls get I can’t say I ever had a whole lot of fun with a church boy.

Exiled

November 26th, 2013
11:38 am

@Disco..why do uall agree so much….why uall..most of u,scared to speak out? :lol:

@Single..reformed hos go to church too….so

church is good!

@Kimmie..true, u can meet folks anywhere but when folks go to bars..they going for fun….if they meet a girl there,they want her for fun…and a lot of times,dudes will have their goood gals at home…bu go to the bar to meet them others,falunting it…

Now it may happen..but if i were a gal..i wldnt have my hopes raised.

Exiled

November 26th, 2013
11:39 am

flaunting their leather

2CPTG©

November 26th, 2013
11:40 am

disco, yeah I remember the green jug….my first time getting REALLY to’ up, I was on some cisco, and md 20/20 (grape flavor)……jeezus!!!

kimmie

November 26th, 2013
11:42 am

Single – The thing about meeting folks at church is that certain churches get pegged as a “club church”. I’ve been to 2 of them here in the A. One I went to there were dudes coming at me from every direction and two were waiting at my car after service. I had just been thru a back breakup, wanted a change from my church home, and truly came to worship. It was a literal meet market! Another I went to for a friend’s baby baptism. Same thing. These folks I get the feeling are not regular members either. They are not involved in any of the church activities. They are there to meet dates. It may as well be a nightclub or anywhere else – their mentality is not guaranteed to be upstanding and marriage-minded just because you met them at church.

kimmie

November 26th, 2013
11:43 am

bad, not back breakup!!LOL!!!

Exiled

November 26th, 2013
11:44 am

somebody’s nephew came to my porch this morning,following on a ups delivery,parked their car behind the shrubbery,came to my door and ran with the package. Im sure the accomplice was driving.
My wife saw dude from inside and yelled.”can we help you?” and dude stumbled on the sidewalk,ran and they drove off..

luckily,it was just a $69 worth of boots….iam sure they need them..black,high school dropout knuckleheads! :lol:

It must be a holiday season disease….so u guys be careful

disco

November 26th, 2013
11:57 am

ex – perhaps we agree because we agree. imagine that.

kimmie – speaking of church clubs. I’ve actually met preachers in the club. yep. in the club. one had the nerve to give me his church business card. some made the argument they were making an effort to “save souls”. going where the heathens were so to speak. I made the argument that the first argument was wrong. lol.

disco

November 26th, 2013
12:00 pm

ex – I’m well aware of that hustle. they straight be following the delivery men too. I recall watching the news once and some dudes had the gall to back a u-haul up to a house intending to rob it. unbeknownst to them, the owner of the house and his son were golfing at a golf course across the street and saw the moving truck. I’ll suffice it to say that golf clubs were swung and dudes were cold busted. I loved that news story. lol.

another one, a guy was breaking into a house in the middle of the night. coming in the kitchen window. a teenager (like 13 or 14) happened to come down for a drink. he saw dude coming through the window and just commenced to kicking him in the top of his head. hilarious!!!!

kimmie

November 26th, 2013
12:03 pm

Exiled – My grandmother was having problems with packages being stolen. I now be sure that when I send her something it requires a signature. That’s a doggone shame though!

kimmie

November 26th, 2013
12:04 pm

Disco – Both good stories!

disco

November 26th, 2013
12:06 pm

kimmie – yeah. that kid had slipped his sneakers on to go downstairs. he tore that burglar up. between the glass and the force of the kicks, dude’s mugshot was a hot mess. lol.

Reio

November 26th, 2013
12:07 pm

2CPG- Yes, Samford University is a very good private institution.
KImmie- My wife is a very good cook. Can’t bake worth a darn though. Our daughter, out there, can do it all. Every year, my wife goes into the kitchen and starts baking stuff. But the cakes, pies, cookies…never seem to turn out right. Several years ago, I was upstairs in the hallway, and I hear “SH!T!!” coming from the kitchen area. So I rushed down to see what was the matter. And there was my wife looking down at a pond cake she had just pulled from the oven.

“What’s wrong honey?”, “This damn caked ain’t right.”, Well, what’s wrong?”, “It didn’t rise right.”, “Honey, let me tell you something. And don’t get mad. Ok?”, “Ok.”, “You know what your problem is?”, “No, what?”, “You don’t bake enough.”, “Oh yeah”, “Yes. You see, during the holidays, and ONLY during the holidays, will you come in here and try to bake sh!t. Yo azz don’t bake in February, yo azz don’t bake in May, yo azz don’t bake in July…..only during the holidays do you try and mix sh!t and bake it. In other words, yo azz will come in here now, mess sh!t up, and then wait 365 days before coming back in to mess sh!t up again. You can’t wait 365 days in between baking, show up one morning, start mixing sh!t together, cracking eggs, pouring in milk…..and expect this stuff to turn out right. Hell. That’s what’s wrong.”, “Well,ah, I, ummm, maybe you’re right.”, “Hell, I know I’m right. A damn pound cake ain’t supposed to weigh four pounds. And collard greens ain’t supposed to be crunchy either.”, “You go to hell, the kids will eat it.”, “Yeah, it’s got sugar in it, so they’ll tear it up, but I won’t.”…..So I’m looking forward to getting to my daughter’s for Thanksgiving, needless to say.

kimmie

November 26th, 2013
12:08 pm

Disco – that was good for his azz!!LOL!!

disco

November 26th, 2013
12:10 pm

reio – I’m sorry. how did the collard greens get crunchy? I just gotta know. I know a friend of mine messed up some once and one of her sisters said the greens tasted like “hot grass”. classic. this same friend served a not quite finished turkey. her mom cold smooth was like “don’t worry about it, I’ll take it home and finish cooking it”. meanwhile, they obviously had low expectations because someone had brought a backup. lol

disco

November 26th, 2013
12:14 pm

I had a co-worker bring an undone pound cake to work. talking about it was “moist”. I was like no chick, it’s not done cooking. just uggh. lol.

Reio

November 26th, 2013
12:15 pm

“…how did the collard greens get crunchy?”

Don’t really know either. I guess she didn’t cook’em long enough. Didn’t ask questions. Just didn’t finish them. Left that sh!t on the plate. Maybe she was mad cause I called her out on her baking. I don’t know.