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Dating: How honest should we be?

Everyone says that relationships work better when there is honesty. Oddly enough, honesty can have the opposite effect in dating. Can you remember the last time you were totally honest on a date? Do you know how someone would react if you said exactly what you were thinking?

I think everyone tries to filter themselves and put their best foot forward. This usually means we aren’t saying the total truth because the whole truth could get…well rather awkward! So when it comes to dating, how honest should we be and how long should it take for total honesty?

Do you think that people can handle honesty?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

236 comments Add your comment

Kimmie

November 25th, 2013
3:49 pm

disco

November 25th, 2013
3:50 pm

C – or to re-use a word I used earlier – “dingbat”. lol.

Celisea

November 25th, 2013
3:53 pm

disco – Igggg zackly. And the funny thing is, over the years, it never fails. You gon have that chick that singing her “new dudes” praises, but she can’t get squat out of here. IT….NEVER….FAILS!!!

I’m not better or anything like that, and it might not be right how I’m wording it, but if you getting it??? You are my source, should I need help. Now, I don’t believe in asking a dude for a dern thing, that’s why I work. BUT, I do make it clear that he’s gotta be but from the “I got you” cloth.

Celisea

November 25th, 2013
3:54 pm

Alright kiddie, I’m out of here. Just peeked in. Y’all be good. If I don’t peek back in before Thanksgiving, you all be safe and have a wonderful holiday :)

Exiled

November 25th, 2013
3:55 pm

@Celisea..If he can’t come buy, pick you up, give you a ride, offer to pay for repairs….heck something, but always laying on your coochie, you ain’t a smart chick.

u cld have a boyhood male friend do this for ya….and the puddy goes scot free..because he is a friend.

seems ladies put their puddy on a pedestal as leverage then! :lol:

and it shows us dudes cant do the same…..never mind he may be a shoe size 18……a girl still wanna know how much bank he makes…. :lol: never mind the show size….she still gon gripe..there is no guarantee he can use it! da he l l

damn…!!

Kimmie

November 25th, 2013
3:55 pm

Cel – again, PREACH!

Celisea

November 25th, 2013
4:00 pm

MMeello, hush…lol You know what I’m saying. You get it. Queen is queen, right? And to this?

u cld have a boyhood male friend do this for ya….and the puddy goes scot free..because he is a friend. If I’m understanding the statement right, even better…lol If it’s just a dude-friend from around the way. In that case, he comes by or is there for you as you bff, then you break off a lil kitchen sum’in sum’in. Hook him up with a dish, get him a Christmas gift, (fingernail clippers) or something for cleaning your gutters or helping you that broken window. If he’s just a good friend, ain’t no smashing.

All I’m saying is, if y’all smashing, don’t be ’round here hitting folks up. Call on him.

Celisea

November 25th, 2013
4:01 pm

Kimmie – :mrgreen:

Okay, gotta run for real….ttyl

Kimmie

November 25th, 2013
4:01 pm

Ex – u get it, u just trying to play devils advocate. Heck even if dude is broke, u should still be able to call him for a ride if your car breaks down!! Heck I don’t know any childhood male friends I could call – we all grown & moved on. But I can’t call my man to help me out, man go sit down!! Lol!

Leggs

November 25th, 2013
4:04 pm

Ex ~ all I was saying is if not having a lot of loot is what’s stopping you, then perhaps there’s bigger problems. You rarely talk like a married man so was wondering if you did have more money would you step or do you just like talking about things you wish you could do? I say that because you no where in your statement did you say if you were single since all the rest of your comments come from the perspective of being married. That’s all I was saying.

disco

November 25th, 2013
4:05 pm

come on now ladies. we all know ex is “special” or “precious” or any other number of “southern belle” terms. bless his heart. lol.

MsAtl

November 25th, 2013
4:07 pm

Celisea- See ya; have a good Thanksgiving.

Kimmie- A friend of mine guy drove her to get groceries (which he was going to eat) then got mad because she didn’t put gas in his car.

Exiled

November 25th, 2013
4:09 pm

ohh..Leggs…we were talking bout married folks getting side chics..so i thought!

Exiled

November 25th, 2013
4:13 pm

and Leggs..the married congressman i was talk bout..they aint stepped..still married but they got side pieces…..

thats what men with a lot of loot do! :lol:

Leggs

November 25th, 2013
4:14 pm

disco ~ true (lol).

DuShawn

November 25th, 2013
4:14 pm

I think as grown ups, we all know any woman of quality will not require a man to support her financially. Ocassionally help if needed yes, but not support. As a dude, honestly, being broke is embarrassing. If you don’t have money, your focus should be on trying to get some….. not dating. If you don’t have the financial wherewithal to pursue a woman of quality….lower your standards till you get your bread right. Find you a couple dingbats that will let you stab for some churches chicken and some weed to hold you over.

Leggs

November 25th, 2013
4:15 pm

“they aint stepped..still married but they got side pieces…..”

Bless your heart. If they got side pieces, then they’ve “stepped.”

Exiled

November 25th, 2013
4:16 pm

Find you a couple dingbats that will let you stab for some churches chicken and some weed to hold you over.

..@Du..the coochie value is lower?!

u aint right! :lol:

Exiled

November 25th, 2013
4:17 pm

ohh..u rigght :lol:

Celisea

November 25th, 2013
4:17 pm

Find you a couple dingbats that will let you stab for some churches chicken and some weed to hold you over.

Hi larious…I was tryna pack up to go home….just had to come back and say “toooo funny.”

disco

November 25th, 2013
4:17 pm

ex – there are chicks that will buy the church’s chicken, the sack, the phillies and throw in a few shots of henny. what? lol.

Celisea

November 25th, 2013
4:18 pm

There’s a CC still open on Bankhead, I believe. My sister said they have .99 cent Thurdays. What they gon do on Thanksgiving? That’s probably the last CC still opened.

Okay, bye….for real

disco

November 25th, 2013
4:19 pm

toodles. LOLOL.

Leggs

November 25th, 2013
4:20 pm

Before every one leaves, I hope all of you enjoy your family and friends this holiday and have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Today is my last day at work so enjoy and remember once you are full, lay on the floor not couch. It feels so much better (lol).

Leggs

November 25th, 2013
4:21 pm

Celisea ~ there’s a CC on Flakes Mill that’s still open. I think it’s still open???

disco

November 25th, 2013
4:24 pm

leggs – I have approximately 24 hours to determine if I’m going to cook. quite frankly, I’m not feeling it. we shall see.

Durty Burd

November 25th, 2013
4:25 pm

Paying or valueing coochie…Not….If I deem you the type of woman who I could grow with, then yes here is the money you need to do what you need to do. I don’t value coochie there are simply too many ways to get coochie with a limited effort that might only cost a one drink. In some cases nothing,they just wanted some dizzle. Funny part about women they think a dude buying something dinner, etc represents value to the coochie..Thats like not spending money at all!

Exiled

November 25th, 2013
4:27 pm

u only cook on thanxgiving…for ur self?

@Disco…..who is coming home for thanxG?

disco

November 25th, 2013
4:27 pm

DB – just because you trying to get it on the cheap doesn’t mean you don’t value it. ijs.

disco

November 25th, 2013
4:29 pm

ex – what? I can’t eat? lol.

Kimmie

November 25th, 2013
4:31 pm

Take it from me
Someday we’ll all be free!!

MsAtl

November 25th, 2013
4:35 pm

Leggs- Enjoy your Thanksgiving.

MsAtl

November 25th, 2013
4:35 pm

Donny Hathaway!

Durty Burd

November 25th, 2013
4:37 pm

Disco… I am never trying to get it on the cheap, but you know you can run into puddy at any given time. Co-worker having trouble with dude, co-worker breaking up with dude, women who’s dude is boring and the sack and they are looking at you like I’m going to give him some I want to see what he can do with it…

Happens all the time with no funds spent.

Exiled

November 25th, 2013
4:37 pm

Someday we’ll all be free!!

we shall overcome fo real!

Exiled!

November 25th, 2013
4:59 pm