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Anatomy of a good date

Believe it or not, some of us have never experienced a great date. We have been on lots of bad, boring, or blah dates, but great? Not many of us can say that. A really great date doesn’t have to be over the top or costly, either. I think that the ingredients of a great date is: location (conducive to conversation), chemistry (serious attraction sparks), and laughter!

What do you think makes up a great date? What are things that make a date miserable?

Do you think you have to plan great dates or do they just happen spontaneously?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

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Single & Happy

November 22nd, 2013
6:27 am

Hey all

Do you think you have to plan great dates or do they just happen spontaneously? Now you can plan all you want to, but you don’t know it was great date until AFTER the date is over.

“it’s not that complicated”

Lee

November 22nd, 2013
8:17 am

Morning

Single is right “its not that complicated”. Did you have a good time, then you had a good date. Try not to define it go with the flow and if end up at the end smiling <– what else matters.

Kat

November 22nd, 2013
8:18 am

A good first date involves an outing where you have time to talk with one another. I would say that movies are a bad choice since there’s no back-and-forth, but that was part of my first date with my now-husband, so who knows?

Miss Moni

November 22nd, 2013
8:34 am

GOOD Friday Morning MIA!!! :-D

What do you think makes up a great date?
-Being on time
-Being attentive
-Him opening doors & pulling out chairs
-Ability to hold a great conversation
-Enjoying each other’s company

What are things that make a date miserable?
-Lack of transportation
-Using profanity every 2 minutes
-Talking about yourself ALL night
-Texting throughout the date
-Inability to hold a decent conversation
-Getting arrested because he had warrants

Lee

November 22nd, 2013
8:43 am

Miss Moni ” getting arrested because he had warrants” oh my …. now that has to be a good story. lol

MsAtl

November 22nd, 2013
8:51 am

Morning All!

You can plan all you want but that does not guarantee a good date. Part of it has to do with your disposition and there are other factors that you cannot control. A good date can also happen spontaneously.

Moni- Do tell…

Btw- I caught part of the Strawberry Letter this morning. The topic was whether size matters and Steve said if everyone is too small, maybe you are just too big, lol.

Miss Moni

November 22nd, 2013
8:55 am

-Lee/MsAtl It didn’t actually happen to me, but to someone I know. Long story short, she rode with him on the date. He gets pulled over for speeding & while checking his license it comes up that he has warrants for unpaid child support. He gets arrested and she gets escorted to the station & has to call someone to pick her up. Needless to say, she never went out with him again, LOL!!!

SlimNu

November 22nd, 2013
9:00 am

“Getting arrested because he had warrants”

Moni – is there something you’d like to share with the group? lol

CoolShadow

November 22nd, 2013
9:05 am

What do you think makes up a great date? What are things that make a date miserable?

A great date is the one you don’t want to end because you’re having fun and vibing with other person very well. A miserable date is one where nothing seems to go right and/or the other person is unhappy with everything surrounding the date.

Do you think you have to plan great dates or do they just happen spontaneously?

It can happen either way, it just depends on the person and the situation, in that order. It can help to put some creativity into a date but not necessarily a production, otherwise you’re only putting pressure on yourself.

Miss Moni

November 22nd, 2013
9:05 am

-Slim LOL!!!

Reio

November 22nd, 2013
9:09 am

Morning All!

Well, looks like yesterday Yall was talking about sex. I missed it. But that’s ok, it’ll come up again.
“Witchall nasty azzes.”

Anyway, a great date for me would have a dynamic definition, depending on which date it was. A great first date would be defined differently than a great, say, eighteenth date. Expectations are different.

A great first or second date for me would be one in which all, not most, of my questions are answered. Even if I don’t like the answers, at least I can come away with the belief that she is willing to be open and honest. I would also define a great date as one in which I came away with the feeling that she enjoyed the evening/morning/afternoon….

Single & Happy

November 22nd, 2013
9:12 am

Hey slim, how was the 70s party? or was it 80s??

Leggs

November 22nd, 2013
9:15 am

Kat ~ never seen your moniker before. Always good to see new people, Welcome!

I agree that movies are horrible dates, especially the first few dates.

MsAtl ~ I heard the strawberry letter too. Steve said size matters in everything, but to end it with perhaps she’s the size of the grand canyon had me laughing because we just finished talking about the exact same thing and men coming to the conclusion that she’s just too big.

A great date is when both connect and conversation is flowing effortlessly, the kiss is memorable. I had a great date a pool hall one time. Had a blast.

My time has finally arrived. Hit Cash 4 straight. I’m a happy camper.

Single & Happy

November 22nd, 2013
9:20 am

Leggs, let me holla at ya (LOL)

Miss Moni

November 22nd, 2013
9:24 am

Go head Leggs!!! :-D Will you be depositing that or spending it this weekend???

SlimNu

November 22nd, 2013
9:25 am

Single – It turned out pretty good! The only bad thing was I ended up falling on my way out leaving the cabin. The steps were made out of tha stone and it’s not really even. So, the heels of the shoes I was in twisted and i fell flat on my butt. Still have a bruise back there. lol

SlimNu

November 22nd, 2013
9:26 am

oh yeah and it was 70’s

2CPTG©

November 22nd, 2013
9:26 am

all dates are good, aren’t they?

Leggs

November 22nd, 2013
9:26 am

Yeah Slim, how was that party?

Miss Moni ~ we’re waiting (lol).

Leggs

November 22nd, 2013
9:27 am

If I spend all that in one weekend, somebody shoot me.

Leggs

November 22nd, 2013
9:28 am

SlimNu ~ what can I say, you are the falling queen (tho no fault of your own).

Single & Happy

November 22nd, 2013
9:28 am

Slim Aww you poor baby, need me to rub some salve on it ;-)

YesSheIsCute

November 22nd, 2013
9:28 am

Good morning! I think a great date is one that shows the person has put some thought into it. One that you are having fun on. One thing that makes a date miserable is the date being rude, intolerable, or just plain weird. Some great dates are planned and some just unfold naturally. It can go either way.

SlimNu

November 22nd, 2013
9:39 am

Leggs – We had a ball! You know a 70’s party is not a party without the Soul Train line. My head was hurting from laughing at everybody. The pics are on fb if you want to check them out ;-) And yes I am a bit of a klutz lol

Single – I appreciate the offer but I think i’ll manage. The hot tub took care of most of the soreness :-D

disco

November 22nd, 2013
9:42 am

good morning.

lee – not to start off contrary so early in the morning but a good date and a great date are two different things. a date can be good just on the basis that it wasn’t bad. ijs.

disco

November 22nd, 2013
9:42 am

moni – one talking about themselves all night may or may not be a turn off for me. just depends on what they are saying. personally I’m a little slow to reveal so I’m all for the other person telling me all their business. lol.

moni – your friend forever has a “date gone bad” story. they do serve a purpose. lol.

Miss Moni

November 22nd, 2013
9:46 am

-Leggs I spilled the beans in my 8:55, LOL!!!

Exiled!

November 22nd, 2013
9:46 am

Getting arrested because he had warrants.

…that’s where some chics won by showing they’re ride or die.

Bail him out! :lol:

On topic: A great date…u gotta plan it in my view.
It’s ‘complicated’ because you don’t know this lady that well so u gotta ask her ther right questions before hand…so when u plan it,putting in the treats she likes and cares for..

You bound to win!

..see,this is the difference when a lady is happy even when this is your first or second date…because u bound to cop a feel on her bootey a bit…just gently…and she be as soft and tender as sheepcloth. Because you are winning!

Now,try coping her bootey after a poor meal at a restaurant she dislikes(and u never asked her beforehand)

U are automatically put on the DNA list!

Single & Happy

November 22nd, 2013
9:47 am

Slim, darn I could have rubbed on it in the hot tub :-D

disco

November 22nd, 2013
9:48 am

moni – I’m still thinking about old boy and his warrants. warrants are a funny thing. I’m actually pondering which warrants I might be willing to overlook and give dude a second chance for. lol. child support warrants? naw. that likely means it’s some kids out there that I don’t want to be bothered with. traffic ticket warrants? depends. if they are local, he’s an idiot for not paying but I know lots of folks who get travel/vacation tickets and ignore them figuring they won’t be going back there. lol. shoot, one could have a warrant for not going to jury duty. who knows? maybe they did have something more important to do. lol.

Single & Happy

November 22nd, 2013
9:50 am

Ex, it might be complicated for you, but not everyone.

Cop a fell,…………………….seriously??

Slim I meant rubbed the salve on it :-D

disco

November 22nd, 2013
9:51 am

ex – do you still not comprehend that whether or not a woman wants to kiss you, let you cop a feel, get your smash on has very little to do with the work you put in? these things are often predetermined. if it’s a predetermined green light, all dude really has to do is not mess up.

Exiled!

November 22nd, 2013
9:57 am

Single..in my view…thought I communicated well there. APS destroyed our children education I can see

..@Leggs

Hey cousin Leggs..let me know if u want me to bring u catered lunch today!

..how much u win? :lol:

@Disco..really?

that means I have always been greenlighted to hit it for all this time I have dated. :lol:

Never knew that.

And to look at All this money I have spend just so I can impress to hit! :lol:

Hmmpfffff!

kimmie

November 22nd, 2013
10:00 am

Morning Gang!!

The best dates are the ones you don’t want to end, where it doesn’t matter much where you are because you have so much to talk about and are enjoying each others company. One where much laughing involved is a good sign too.

While some dates have been better than others, if it was someone I liked none of the dates were bad. Kinda like what Disco said – they don’t rate as great, but fall into the good category because they were not bad. If something happened like we got poor service or the food was bad or traffic issues or whatever, being with someone you like makes it bearable. You get thru it and beyotch to each other about what happened and even laugh about it all at the end of the day. You get to see how this person deals with adversity. All the dates I might classify as “bad” were with dudes I realized I was not feeling anyway or just got to see a side of them I didn’t like. No sense of humor, no “roll with the punches”, if all the stars are not lined up in the sky just perfectly, their little world might come to an end, signs of a bad temper, can’t hold a decent conversation, uncultured, no manners, etc.

Leggs

November 22nd, 2013
10:01 am

Ex ~ disco is right. Most times, it’s predetermined. On those occasions when it’s not, it’s determined before you drop your date off (lol). $5K

kimmie

November 22nd, 2013
10:03 am

Leggs – Go on girl, congrats on that big win!!

disco

November 22nd, 2013
10:04 am

ex – I didn’t say you were necessarily greenlighted. just saying that more often than not women go in knowing what they will allow, how far they want to go, how far they are willing to let you go. trust me. y’all really ain’t macking nobody. lol. now, I’ll make allowances for the chick that ain’t really feeling you but might do you anyway if you just happen to stop on the way home and pick her up a Gucci bag. there’s always exceptions. lol.

MsAtl

November 22nd, 2013
10:06 am

Leggs- congrats on the win!

Single & Happy

November 22nd, 2013
10:07 am

APS??? Yea we can tell, cause that’s that where “KIDS” still “cop a feel”

SlimNu

November 22nd, 2013
10:07 am

Leggs – Did you seriously win 5k?!!!! Girl, you’s a lucky camper. Do you know what i could do with that right about now?

Leggs

November 22nd, 2013
10:07 am

Thanks, kimmie! Maybe I’m on the road to a bigger win (lol). I can only hope. I still have a voucher I have to honor (lolol).

Miss Moni

November 22nd, 2013
10:08 am

-Disco Nothing like having that friend who has the horrible date stories, it’s definitley filled with don’ts LOL! In reference to talking about themselves, I’m game as long as it’s interesting. Once a man loses my interest, it’s hard for me to refocus and start listening again. I’ll tune someone out in a minute, LOL!

Exiled

November 22nd, 2013
10:09 am

Damn Leggs!

and u aint throwing a blog meet party or some some? :lol:

@Disco..if you just happen to stop on the way home and pick her up a Gucci bag. there’s always exceptions.

I really respect you for ur candidness and freshness and giving dudes this window to peer into women’s pshyce.

Kimmie …and Celisea.. :lol: ,for example, wld never admit to that! lol….

Leggs

November 22nd, 2013
10:12 am

SlimNu ~ Cash 4 has been alluding me for some time now. I’m either one number off, but I got them this time by playing one up, one down. My bday is coming up and I played the year I was born, one up one down (lol). Tks guys!

Exiled

November 22nd, 2013
10:12 am

KIDS” still “cop a feel”

..yea yea…and here u are trying to rub on a lady’s red and beaten up bootey! :lol:

kimmie

November 22nd, 2013
10:12 am

hey Disco!! You sho right about that greenlighting. Most of the time, I already knew what I MIGHT let happen, and not too much was gonna sway, especially if the answer was ZERO! I would even kinda dress with my intentions in mind.

disco

November 22nd, 2013
10:13 am

ex – sure they would. they might not own to being “that chick” but they’ll tell you that she’s out there. lol.

Leggs

November 22nd, 2013
10:16 am

Ex ~ my meet and greets haven’t produced many people coming out to meet (lol). Throwing money at it will only show me how shallow you are (lol).

Leggs

November 22nd, 2013
10:17 am

“I would even kinda dress with my intentions in mind.”

BINGO!

The Man formerly know as "Dan"

November 22nd, 2013
10:17 am

A good date ends, and great date ends with both parties satisfied….generally physically satisfied.