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Guilty of one month stands?

So I have heard about one night stands before, but apparently one month stands are all the rage now. Do you know what a one month stand is? Basically, it happens when one person wants to hook up but won’t come out and say that. Instead, they go through the motions of starting a new relationship and after about 30 days, they cut ties and move on.

One of my guy friends is guilty of this dating habit and I finally called him out on this pattern he has. He claims that he has good intentions but “these mini-relationships” fizzle out fast, not too long after the orgasm, I imagine. It makes me wonder if there is any real interest in starting something new or do we just convince ourselves that it is something real.

Have you ever been guilty of having one month stands? Have you had a period of time where you have started something up with someone but it keeps fading quickly and you are on to the next?

Why do you think we lose interest so fast? Is it because we prefer the short-term mini-relationships?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Lee

November 14th, 2013
7:17 am

Never heard of this. Maybe some never heard of the expression: Don’t start something you cannot finish

Happy Thursday!

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
8:43 am

Good morning everyone!

This is the first I’m hearing of this. But I guess that is normal during dating (the fire sizzling out quickly), especially the person doesn’t know what they want.

Top 10 Reasons people lose interest quickly?
1. They just want sex
2. They don’t know what they want (but they think they do)
3. Compatibility issues
4. High expectations(expect everything to be like a rom-com/be like an ex)
5. Settling
6. Lame sex
7. The real person is complete opposite of the “representative”
8. Insane amount of unresolved baggage from previous relationships
9. Emotional instability (either one of them)
10. They have ADD

SlimNu

November 14th, 2013
8:46 am

I’m not into the short term mini relationships…wiggety wack. I want long term goodness ;-)

disco

November 14th, 2013
8:51 am

good morning.

yes – kudos for being together enough this early to comprise a list.

slim – you know I love wiggety wack.

one night stand, one month stand, one year stand, life long stand. sounds like they are all stands. ijs.

Button

November 14th, 2013
8:52 am

This is a hit and quit it type of situation.

Good morning!

SlimNu

November 14th, 2013
8:56 am

disco – Well if it’s really wack I’ll throw in WIGGETY WEEEEEEZAAAAAAACK. lol

disco

November 14th, 2013
9:00 am

as for the topic, I’m not going to hate a man (or woman if we have to reverse roles) who gets in it for about a month and then dips? why? because old girl gave it to him and likely because she wanted to. maybe after a month they realized they didn’t really even like each other all that much. it happens. maybe after a month somebody better came along. it happens. maybe after a month they got just enough watering to put the dry spell to rest. who knows?

disco

November 14th, 2013
9:03 am

maybe it was one of life’s great love affairs but it just happened to be short lived. maybe they knew they weren’t made for one another but they had 30 days to make the absolute most of it. maybe they’ll both look back fondly on this month for the rest of their lives. they’ll be making love to their mediocre spouses and remembering that month. lol.

Exiled

November 14th, 2013
9:04 am

Cough cough…the good gals of MIA blog don’t do this…whaeeet,?

One night/month stand?

You know DiVA,sometimes u got take these extreme measures.

Some gals’ sex is like Chinese food..looks and tastes good when u pummel the vjay but the feeling don’t last long enough.

So u bench her….
It is what it is.

Since we be getting into winter soon,expect an influx of 1 to 2 months long deals to be concluded.

It makes sense though…Walmart is upping the price of covers! :lol:

Good morning MIA!

SlimNu

November 14th, 2013
9:05 am

Well sometimes after you get the sexual tension out of the way, it just feels like a deflated balloon. For instance, there could be a man and woman that are good friends but they flirt often. One day they end up messing around and they are left sitting there like, why the hell did we go there. Then they go back to being straight up platonic friends. Once you get that monkey off your back, you can think more clearly

SlimNu

November 14th, 2013
9:09 am

Ex – No one said we don’t or haven’t done it but speaking for me, I don’t seek out month-long stands.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
9:11 am

morning…..

yeah, tis the season for one month stands….but I think I’mma hold out for the one I’ve been pursuing…..

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
9:13 am

Slim, can I pick on you today?

disco

November 14th, 2013
9:14 am

a month long stand is just a one night stand that was better than both parties expected. lol. let’s face it, if one or the other wasn’t satisfied they wouldn’t come back for more. I think the real issue is that one or both parties doesn’t see the other as relationship potential. it’s a get some mission and that’s it. it will eventually run it’s course and possibly with no hard feelings.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
9:18 am

Serial dating is real, y’all.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
9:18 am

WTH, one month stands?? WD said her guy friend starts out with good intentions, but the “relationship” fizzles out after one month. Naw, that’s his personal time clock he adjusted his tiny weenie to. Within that one month time frame he’s picking away at the relationship purposely finding fault so he can bolt.

This is plum stupid.

Durty, my cash 3 fell in cash 4 last night. It may swing back over to cash 3 (lol).

Good morning.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
9:20 am

Cutie, of course it is…..

disco

November 14th, 2013
9:22 am

2C – how long does one month stand season run?

random – just saw pic of Jennifer hudson’s pixie haircut. can’t say I’m feeling it. as much as I like her and as much as I love the pixie haircut, that haircut and her do not mix. ijs.

Button

November 14th, 2013
9:26 am

one month stands are in no comparison to one night stands. one takes effort, time and some money and LOTS of lies for a period of time while the other is not. jmo

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
9:26 am

although I said “one month,” it usuaually lasts from mid Nov til mid Feb…..we gotta get in prior to Thanksgiving, so we can eat good, and right after V-day; or some usually like to call it off prior to V-day….just depends….

MsAtl

November 14th, 2013
9:28 am

Morning All!

I’ve never heard of a one-month stand, no I’ve never been guilty of seeking or having one. To me, a month isn’t even long enough to get to know a man and get all the testing and stuff out of the way, much less have been sexing.

Button

November 14th, 2013
9:29 am

2C- say it aint so! lol

Raqi (Must be Married to a 2520)

November 14th, 2013
9:29 am

Diva, you need a new set of friends. LOL

disco

November 14th, 2013
9:30 am

button – imo, not really. the one night stand is quick, easy, over in one night. the month long stand just drags out longer. it doesn’t have to consist of dating, going out, acting like friends. it can truly be a matter of we are both here in our lives right now, I want some, you want some, I’ll call you or you’ll call me and we’ll make it do what it do. doesn’t have to cost a thing. doesn’t require much planning (unless there is a geographical distance or someone is creeping). it’s not that hard.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
9:31 am

Not me, Button, but look around…..check your facebook timeline, and see how many of girlfriends start talkin bout their new dude….the one they just met last week, and movin in this week, and gon’ be at mama and nem’s for the holidays……

Raqi (Must be Married to a 2520)

November 14th, 2013
9:34 am

MsAtl, exactly. I don’t really see fizzling out after one month when IMO nothing has had a chance to really get started.

If Wise Diva’s friend is bedding these women in less than a month and then going MIA he needs to be called out on what he really is. A W***E.

Celisea

November 14th, 2013
9:34 am

While I’ve never had a one night stand, my guess is that’s it’s impulsive and in the moment. A dude “pretending” to be in it to win it…..til he gets some only to find the thrill fastly slipping is a liar, plainly. Buddy is playing games. Diva, Imma slightly reprimand you (in blog love, of course), for set this up as if…..as if dude really catches feeling and suddenly loose, not knowing what’s going on or what the heck this thing he’s doing is called. Ummmm, he’s a playa….and pretends til he catches the coochie….then he’s out!

You know, you could respect a one night stand over this or even a dude just saying hey, I’m thrill seeker. If you let me catch you, the thrill is gon’ be gone shortly thereafter….lol He should be honest and say to keep him interested, don’t kill the chase. Some dudes are like that. You wanna be caught but their attention span last as long as busting one, sooo you just gotta let them chase you…til they stop …….ha ha ha ha

SlimNu

November 14th, 2013
9:36 am

2C – Depends what ‘Picking on me” consists of…

Celisea

November 14th, 2013
9:38 am

Yep, I’ve encountered more than my fingers and toes, dudes that you can tell gon’ lose feelings quick as soon as you give some. You already know, “bet not give him none.” That be those dudes that pursue you relentlessly too. For me, I’ve been nice, chatted, maybe hung out, but in the back of my mind knew, nuuuuh uh.

Raqi (Must be Married to a 2520)

November 14th, 2013
9:38 am

2Can, I have never heard the before Thanksgiving for the food but I guess some do that. LOL

I do know I have heard of guys getting ghost right before Christmas to avoid having to buy a gift. Any man that does this does the woman he was with a great favor. That is a man not worth having.

Sometimes you don’t have do the weeding out, the trifling will do it for you.

Button

November 14th, 2013
9:38 am

to me that’s a cruel way of dating. to mislead a person into thinking there is something budding when actually it’s not. I bet there have been some harsh reprecussions doing this kind of thing.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
9:39 am

I’m not into the short term mini relationships…wiggety wack. I want long term goodness

Here’s $5.75. On point. Sorry, but that’s all I have in my wallet.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
9:40 am

Slim…..not picking on you in a bad sense…

disco

November 14th, 2013
9:40 am

as for one night stands. I’ve had one that I can’t tell you how many nights it lasted. lol. it really went on for a couple of years but we were never a couple. just “in between other thing” friends. it was all good (shoot, it even generated a little smile thinking back on it). even now, more than 20 years later I look back on it with no ill will. last I’d heard (and this info is many years old) he’d moved to Atlanta with some chick. lol.

DuShawn

November 14th, 2013
9:40 am

“Have you ever been guilty of having one month stands”
I’ve been guilty of having three minute stands.

“time where you have started something up with someone but it keeps fading quickly”
Yes, but I typically apologize and hope for another erection.

Button

November 14th, 2013
9:41 am

disco – ” they go through the motions of starting a new relationship and after about 30 days, they cut ties and move on.” this is not just hooking up as you described it’s going the whole nine for a short period of time with one agenda in mind, hit and quit.

Raqi (Must be Married to a 2520)

November 14th, 2013
9:41 am

Celisea, you are right. You can pretty much tell the ones that are trying to get in and out. They are the ones that are trying to fast track the “relationship”.

Wait them out and they will soon be gone. POOF!

Raqi (Must be Married to a 2520)

November 14th, 2013
9:42 am

I am standing her laughing out loud because I am responding to comments and my comments are all stuck in moderation.

Raqi (Must be Married to a 2520)

November 14th, 2013
9:44 am

I think Diva’s friend must targeting very young women because one thing that comes with aging is patience. LOL

Button

November 14th, 2013
9:44 am

disco – @9:30 that’s fwb situation lol

2C – lol I’m not on facebook but I do have gfs that does move rather quickly with a guy and within a month it’s over.

disco

November 14th, 2013
9:45 am

button – it’s all a means to an end. like I said earlier, if the party who wasn’t seeking a more permanent relationship got into a physical relationship in the first 30 days then that party really only played themselves. no point being mad at someone for getting over on you. that’s just me talking though.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
9:45 am

“….the one they just met last week, and movin in this week, and gon’ be at mama and nem’s for the holidays……”

That me laugh because it definitely happens…so sad!

disco

November 14th, 2013
9:48 am

button – perhaps but I’m not one to get hung up on titles. long as somebody gets up and goes home in the morning it’s all good. lol. I never embraced FWB because often times folks aren’t friends. I know I’ve had dudes give me that line “girl we are just friends” and I’ve countered with “do you sleep with all your friends”. it’s semantics. casual sex is casual sex whether it’s one night, one week, one month, a year. if it’s not serious, it’s not a relationship, it’s casual. and guess what? casual is okay if you are okay with it.

Button

November 14th, 2013
9:49 am

disco – ohhh chile you’re smiling all thru that post lol

Reio

November 14th, 2013
9:51 am

Morning all!

This ‘one month stand’ is something new to me. Sounds like its sweeping the country. I don’t know. Not something I would do.

“to me that’s a cruel way of dating. to mislead a person into thinking there is something budding when actually it’s not”

Exactly. This is why I would end relationships so quickly during my dating years. Once I determined that it would not work, I ended it. For her sake as well as mine. I was chastised by friends and family for this, but I knew I was doing the right thing.

I hope yall ain’t been talkin bout me behind my back, since I haven’t been able to check in lately.
Yall proly was. Sayin all kinda sh!t while I wasn’t around.

SlimNu

November 14th, 2013
9:53 am

Leggs – You have me beat, all i have is $5.35 in my purse. lol

disco

November 14th, 2013
9:54 am

button – yep. that was during my hoodrat/project chick days. my cred was upped big time with that move. in some ways I got more props than the real girls of the neighborhood players did. dudes used to have me dole money out to their other chicks. they wouldn’t let their other chicks push their rides but I could. I was bout it back then. (yeah ghetto fab but so what – lol).

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

November 14th, 2013
9:54 am

ooohhh, or the BD that show up and stay through January to get in on that refund check….

those are classic

Button

November 14th, 2013
9:57 am

disco – we’re not on the same page, you’re talking about two consensual adults doing casual schex knowing full well of where they stand with each other but I’m talking about one person misleading another into thinking they are in a relationship when they are not. Telling lies.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
9:57 am

Wise Diva, will you please free my comments?

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
9:59 am

Morning All!!

Topic – So a name has been put on it now, huh?LOL! Actually I think this is kind of the case alot of times, maybe even more than one nighters. In this situation, the 2 hook up, it was okay and neither have anything else going on so they kinda kick it a bit. Not full-fledge dating, but not quite FWB either. One may be kinda testing the other out for relationship potential. Maybe it was like someone else mentioned, they were already friends that got a little tipsy and hooked up one night. Or it’s two that have been flirting alot and decide to go on and try each other out. It ends up not being what either want and it fizzles. They may even hook back up on and off until they meet someone more permanent.

Dating is a bell curve, I think. One nighters on one end, month to a few months in the middle and serious relationships on the other end.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
10:01 am

I’m just not into using chics…….no ‘mo….once upon a time, tho….bwoi, looka here!!! Refund checks…those were the shonuff come up!

disco

November 14th, 2013
10:01 am

button – almost every man breathing has lied to some extent at some point in time to get some. it’s part of the game. it’s your job as the woman to make the best decision for you. ignore the lies, see through the lies, accept the lies. it’s up to you. ultimately when doing the do, you are doing it (hopefully) because you want to and not because of what dude said to you. I understand why it’s different for you (you sound like a romantic type – lol) but for me, it all boils down to doing you.

Celisea

November 14th, 2013
10:02 am

Why do you think we lose interest so fast? Is it because we prefer the short-term mini-relationships?

Diva? Seriously? You’re asking as in wanting to know like for real, for real, or posing the “what do y’all think” solely as a post?

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
10:05 am

Kimmie, there definitely is a name for it. Dude ain’t nothing but a *****.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
10:06 am

Raqi, why does it have to be the dude’s fault?

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
10:10 am

Celisea, I think a lot of these posts are just Wise Diva doing her job? LOL

When I first read the post I immediately asked myself how old are these friends she is circling with. I think I know around how old she is so it is just hard to believe men in her age group are still playing these childish games.

I know there are men that will be still playing games well into the graveyard days…but forreal? I think it just a job for her.

I have a topic that I want to send her but I don’t think it will get published for fear of how it will be perceived. Which I know it will not be perceived well at all.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
10:14 am

2Can, in this case, because that is who was presented in the post.

Yes the women that allow this are just as much the blame. With age comes patience.

But it reads as if this dude is chasing the tail and getting ghost. Things happen. That’s life. But when it becomes your normal behavior you are to blame.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
10:14 am

Reio ~ rest assured, no one was speaking ill of you. I would not allow it (lol).

Celisea

November 14th, 2013
10:16 am

Raqi – I’m there with you in on this one….lol Diva is around 40ish and I thought the same thing. She’s got dude friends STILL playing these type games?? Most should be settled (as in mindset) by now. But yeah, I guess given this is a “Misadventures” blog, we gotta have a topic, hay.uh?

And if this is a for real, for real scenario, as a bff, I’d be that best friend that he dreads….lol At this age anyway

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
10:17 am

And you know what? I am not even going to call it “losing interest”. It’s achieving what he set out to achieve and moving on.

He needs to be a big boy and approach women with his true motives. However we do know he will get less women to go along with that. That’s why he pretends to want something more. LOL

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
10:17 am

Raqi….pose your question…..or better yet, tnymcky2000@yahoo.com I’ll answer it…..

Celisea

November 14th, 2013
10:17 am

I don’t know how “hay.uh” got in my post…lololol

Celisea

November 14th, 2013
10:21 am

I agree. Dude needs to grow up and be a man. Okay, so he’s not quenched that thirst for chasing tail and losing interest. He should though, be honest (since he’s now an adult) and just say he’s not looking for anything serious. Just a bit of physical fun. I too get many women won’t consent or go along, but trust, there’s always those bottom feeders and low hanging fruit that will go along. Grant it, they’re usually hoping they put it on him so good that he’ll call them later or heard something other than the truth he put before them, but he’ll get a taker or two.

Be a dang man and say what you want. I also get women shouldn’t take everything at face value, but what else does a woman have to go on, but the words YOU, as a man spoke to her???

I know, I know. I already know…lololol

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
10:21 am

2Can, why is it I must be married to a white man for me and my husband to truthfully be happily married?

Reio

November 14th, 2013
10:21 am

” almost every man breathing has lied to some extent at some point in time to get some”

What? Really?

Well, It’s a good thing you said “almost”, cause otherwise I’d have to take issue with that. Although, I don’t suspect that you would give a hoot whether I had an issue with it or not…hehehehehe

Anyway, I don’t recall ever lying to a woman to get “some”. Hell, why lie?. She has no desire to give me “some”, or just playing hard to get?, Hell, I figure, just move on to the next one.

No woman, in my opinion, deserves to be used in that way. She’s thinking that maybe you’re gonna be a good catch for her, but all the while, all you want to do is “hit it & quit it”

That, my friends, is the definition of a “two-legged dog”. Worthless vulture.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
10:24 am

Oh, I forget to state that I was told “you must be married to a white man”. That’s what got my dandruff up.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
10:25 am

why is it I must be married to a white man for me and my husband to truthfully be happily married?

you don’t have to be married to a white man to be truthfully happily married….that’s what [you] chose…if we’re talking about you….but ummm, whomever we’re talking about has some issues within self to even make that statement..

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
10:27 am

Raqi, whomever told you that mess, tell ‘em to make a guest appearance on here…..you marry whom you want….black, white, blue, purple…if he/she makes you happy!

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
10:27 am

“It’s achieving what he set out to achieve and moving on.” – I said the same thing. Going in, he knew how and when he was getting out of it.

Button

November 14th, 2013
10:28 am

disco – yeah I’m a romantic at heart but I aint no fool either! do get it twisted lol

I know ppl lie and I also don’t know too many women that is ok with just giving themselves to a man just bc he winked best believe he said something to her to get her to believe that he was there for the long haul. The only women I know (not actually know) that gives up schex all willy nilly with no feelings in regards are prostitutes.

disco

November 14th, 2013
10:30 am

reio – of course we know that the blog community is not representative of the community at large. we just a whole bunch of “special” folks up in here. still I’m sure guys have used countless lines in the quest to get the draws. I say lines because while they may have meant it, they just as likely didn’t. as I posted earlier, a means to an end. if it makes anyone feel better I’ll throw in the fact that maybe, just maybe, they did that in their teens or early 20s but have long since grown out of it. lol.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
10:30 am

Raqi ~ any woman making that statement is simply showing that she is disillusioned with the men she’s dating. She looks at the white man as having “the greener grass.” Her value system is helter skelter.

Donell

November 14th, 2013
10:30 am

So, basically dude is running around tricking women out of their drawls under the pretense that they’re starting a relationship? This just about tops the corny chart… And then disappears off the map w/ no explanation? Buddy is asking for that good ole house key drug down the side of his car. Whether a man is a one night stand type or marrying type, either way, temporary or permanent, its all done in pleasure for the woman. Don’t get me wrong, I’m running around without a collar or leash and love multiple women, but there’s nothing “playa” about lying, working her emotions for 30 days, sexing and then disappearing. That’s just my opinion.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
10:31 am

And you know what bothers even more than that statement? The fact that when a lot of black men hear that statement repeated they get bend out of shape however still be the main ones dissecting and devaluing the happy marriage of their own kinds.

Nobody is perfect. But that doesn’t mean the good doesn’t outweigh the bad for some. When folks continue to make those stupid statement and belittle their own, they are pretty much saying “We as a people are incapable of (Insert the Good. The Happy)”.

Now imma leave yall with that while I take the little man to the doctor.

2Can, I will find your answer when I return.

Button

November 14th, 2013
10:31 am

Raqi – “you must be married to a white man”. WOW who said that?

Reio

November 14th, 2013
10:32 am

“Reio ~ rest assured, no one was speaking ill of you. I would not allow it ”

Thanks Leggs. Just not in the mood to have to come back on here and get some “straightin”

The best thing these types of guys should do is go down to the avenue and get one of those little girls that’s walkin round. That way everybody knows what time it is. No lies. No deceit. No problem.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
10:32 am

2Can, I am married to black man. But that’s hard to believe for some I guess. LOL

BBL

MsAtl

November 14th, 2013
10:33 am

Raqi- Whoever told you that mess is some special kind of ignorant! I really get tired of the view that marriage is not for Black people and Black men don’t know how to commit or don’t want to be married. There are fools in every race.

Celisea

November 14th, 2013
10:33 am

The only women I know (not actually know) that gives up schex all willy nilly with no feelings in regards are prostitutes.

Mmm hmm, I just ignore folks that brag about being slutty. That mess ain’t cute. Don’t get me wrong, do you…but you can’t compare indiscretions to real live stuff that affects people.

I’m gone to do some work

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
10:34 am

my answer is already ^^^^ there! no need to discuss it any further….

disco

November 14th, 2013
10:35 am

button – that was my entire point. he said it, she believed it. shame on her if it wasn’t the truth. that’s all I’m saying. sure we could argue dude was wrong for lying all day but as the girlfriend who has to listen to other girlfriends whining and crying about “he done me wrong” – well. I don’t want to hear it. he didn’t play you. you let yourself get played. that’s simply my stance on the matter. make better choices and deal with the consequences and please please please don’t come crying to me expecting some daggone sympathy. it’s just not my style. now, if she calls wanting me to ride shotgun, well… that’s different.

Reio

November 14th, 2013
10:37 am

Donell – ” its all done in pleasure for the woman.”

How so? I’m not sure what you mean. Can you elaborate?

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
10:38 am

Button, when you gon’ break up with your man?

Button

November 14th, 2013
10:38 am

with all this dipping his stick every 30 days I sure hope he’s wrapping it up. Unwanted pregnancy and std’s aint no joke.

Button

November 14th, 2013
10:41 am

disco- shame shouldn’t be placed on the women for believing a lie. Shame should be placed on the dude for telling her the LIES! it’s always the same ol same, women are blamed for every darn thing!

disco

November 14th, 2013
10:43 am

button – we’ll agree to disagree (my point in the previous post). you be the girlfriend that listens to your girlfriends go on about men being dogs and I’ll be the girlfriend that tells those heffas to grow the eff up. lol.

Button

November 14th, 2013
10:44 am

2c -when he takes his last breath. lol

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
10:44 am

2Can, it’s not even a matter of marrying who you want to marry. That’s a given. But when a black man says something foolish like that and mean it, he is saying black men can’t deliver in the Happily Married category. And dude was trying to say that black men aren’t even interested in making it really work when I just walked away. ANNNND this man is married. To a black woman. You know I guess now I know why she always looks unhappy and stressed out.

Imma be late. LOL

Reio

November 14th, 2013
10:47 am

disco – ” well. I don’t want to hear it. he didn’t play you. you let yourself get played.”

How would she know she’s being played? Some guys are very experienced at lying. She gives him the benefit of the doubt, and he turns out to be a stankin dog. Not her fault. HE is the one that’s wrong. Not her. She actually trusted him. And let’s say that instead of waiting one month, she had him wait 3 months. Then he dumps her. What’s he difference? She still gets used.

Exiled

November 14th, 2013
10:48 am

m just not into using chics…….no ‘mo….once upon a time, tho….bwoi, looka here!!! Refund checks…those were the shonuff come up!

lol :lol:

2C..was it u back then using the rich chic at ur job?

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
10:48 am

Donell ~ we don’t know if he’s skipping out w/o an explanation. Seems like men like that are sexing just to prove something to himself. Probably as a door frame he puts notches in like parents mark their children heights. He’s stroking his own ego (after the woman does the stroking..lol).

Raqi ~ I thought everyone here knew you were married to a black man. Girl, keep doing what you’re doing because you’re happy, Mase is happy, the children are happy and you have that walk-in closet and gourmet kitchen. Strut like a proud peacock (lol). Seriously, you’re a strong woman, keep snickereing at the idiots who want to “try you!”

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
10:48 am

thanks, Button……

Wish List
Button

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
10:51 am

Ex….I wasn’t using her….she kept throwing it out there, and asking; so, yeah, I put in my order!

disco

November 14th, 2013
10:52 am

reio – my only point is that I learned a long time ago to not blame folks for my choices. I own my part in my actions. whining and crying and blaming other folks just irks me. if they are that wrong then accept your part for allowing a wrong person into your life and get over it.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
10:54 am

Damn, Raqi, a black man said that to you! I thought it was a woman. I stand my my post, but now the black man is devaluing himself saying he’s not equipped to make a woman happy. Wow, how does one walk around with that mindset all day everyday?

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
11:00 am

Some things that definitely help:

DON’T get to comfortable too quickly (i.e. breaking out the hole-y shirts and sweatpants before you even get to date three, etc). I mean I don’t wanna be Morty and Lee Kaufman from the swiffer commercial and we didn’t even do the grown up yet.

DON’T move too fast (i.e. naming imaginary kids, insinuating that you would like to be engaged to this person or married to them, etc).

Reio

November 14th, 2013
11:00 am

disco – The only way a woman can blame herself for being used and deceived, is in the instance where she saw it coming. The handwriting was on the wall, but she chose to ignore it and got burned.
jus sayin.

Donell

November 14th, 2013
11:06 am

Reio, what I mean is whether one night or long term, Im still aiming to please her as well as myself.

Leggs, you could be right about buddy not disappearing. I take “cut ties” as vanishing though.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
11:06 am

wonder who Liv gon hunch tonight on Scandal…..Fitz, or the other dude…..

Leggs, what’s up Harrison? he got spooked for some reason last week…

disco

November 14th, 2013
11:09 am

reio – another case of agreeing to disagree. I stand by my stance that I don’t blame people for my actions. even if my action is an “inaction” or the inability to detect/acknowledge the writing on the wall.

2C – liv is a perfect example of a chick that keeps playing herself. she irked me so bad that I done stopped watching the show. lol. I haven’t seen it in weeks.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
11:09 am

Au Contraire, Donell, if you’re intentions aren’t for the long haul, then you’re lying to yourself that you aim to please her…..if you wanna please her, hang around a bit;

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
11:12 am

here’s the irony in her situation, disco….alot of women applaud her, but look at her, she’s a well paid, highly intelligent, wh ore!

Donell

November 14th, 2013
11:15 am

2, see the difference is she would know that it was just a one night thing upfront! No stories over here… So as an adults if we chose to please each other for one night, where’s the foul or lie to oneself?

disco

November 14th, 2013
11:15 am

I tell you the shopping devils are out in full force. I just got an email for 40% off at Nordstrom and 30% off lands end (who shops there?)

2C – I can respect that but she’s always whining and crying. she’s not really screwing the dudes, they are screwing her. she just stays caught up (like I said before with all that “no, don’t stop” foolishness). I don’t like it. if she’d flip the script it would be all good but…

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
11:15 am

what’s up Harrison? he got spooked for some reason last week

2C – I’ve been waiting for them to get to the dirt on Harrison.

Hey Disco! Liv hasn’t really been getting none these past few weeks. They’ve been focusing more on her daddy and her relationship with him, and her mama, whose supposed to be dead but we all know she’s not. And the whole secret Remington operation.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
11:16 am

I can see it from both sides. On the one hand, some guys are really good at lying, pretending, behaving, acting. It’s even harder now because these guys just change and adapt with the times. So while a girl is saying to herself “Hey, ok I could have done that better. I could have been less welcoming, more discerning, asked these questions…I’m gonna make sure this doesn’t happen next time around”, at the same time you have another dude that’s already learned how he can pull the wool over the next girl’s eyes…BETTER. It seems like a nasty vicious cycle…. All you can do is control your emotions, be vigilant, and have the patience to wait it out and see if his actions are consistent with what’s coming out of his mouth. I guess…I don’t really know.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
11:18 am

well, Donell, if they know upfront, then it ain’t no lie…..I like those kind myself….

that is, until Ms. Right comes along…

disco

November 14th, 2013
11:18 am

kimmie – well you see they done lost me. I haven’t even thought about scandal. oh well. I gave it the old college try.

SlimNu

November 14th, 2013
11:19 am

She looks at the white man as having “the greener grass.” Her value system is helter skelter

I can atest to this being some BS…hell, learned that second hand from my sister. The last two white dudes she dated were CRAY! lol

Button

November 14th, 2013
11:19 am

disco – well you’re just different for not holding a person accountable for intentionally misleading you.

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
11:21 am

All you can do is control your emotions, be vigilant, and have the patience to wait it out and see if his actions are consistent with what’s coming out of his mouth.

Yes – That’s it in a nutshell to me and how I approached dating. I played it reeeaaaal cool. Don’t get too comfortable, too clingy, be a little aloof until time has passed and he’s showed you more of his hand. Not saying you will never get burned, but you will not have given up so much of yourself if that does happen. Saves you alot of grief. Always have what’s gonna be best for YOU at the forefront of your mind.

Donell

November 14th, 2013
11:24 am

2 – Indeed my brotha

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
11:25 am

Disco – I must say the crying & whining got on my nerves with Liv too. A lot of folks get caught up in the steamy sex stuff with her character. I’m more focused on the other storylines going on. The “romance” has gotten to be an afterthought when I’m watching it now.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
11:28 am

2C ~ Harrison’s storyline is going to be juicy. I’ve been waiting on it since the end of last season. I was thinking him and Olivia were brother and sister, but with this ruthless person coming into the picture making him pee on himself I have to look at another angle. Not sure what’s going on but it’s going to be a good one. I just hope his story line doesn’t have him looking like a mamsy wamsy type of fella.

disco ~ I agree, Olivia is her own worst enemy. Supposedly, she’s representative of women who are strong on their jobs but weak and stupid when it comes to their love life and whom they choose to bed. Although she definitely has father issues, she’s a inexperienced in relationships. The strength she displays on her job masks her wounded, tortured soul. Sometimes I too want to throw my shoe at the tv but I don’t believe in damaging my own stuff.

Reio

November 14th, 2013
11:29 am

Let me say this.

Years ago as a young child in grade school, I had a crush on my 6ht grade teacher, Miss Tolbert. Back then, they used to have what they called a supply room. A small, cramped, windowless, tiny room, just around the main hallway, where teachers would go, or send students to get more supplies for them.

Had Miss Tolbert given me a hall pass and told me to go to the supply room and get two erasers and a box of chalk, I, of course would have done it. Now, had she told me to do this, then proceeded to follow me to the supply room, come inside, close the door, faced me, put her hand under her dress, and her fingers in her coochie, pulled it out with all kinds of brown, green, shiny lookin stuff on her fingers, and told me to lick it off? I would have GRABBED her finger with BOTH of my hands and stuck it as far down my throat as it could go. And begged for some more. That’s how much I wanted her.

But even if she and I were both adults, as badly as I would have wanted her, I would never have used her to get that finger in my mouth. She would not have deserved to be used in that way and I knew it. No one does. It takes a heartless fool to do otherwise. Jus sayin.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
11:31 am

Years ago as a young child in grade school – ha ha ha, you mean decades ago (lol).

disco

November 14th, 2013
11:34 am

leggs / kimmie – well the fact that I’m not a big tv person coupled with the fact that “ms. no don’t stop” gets on my nerves just doesn’t give me the desire to watch it. at some point, on some boring weekend I may sit and get caught up online. I just have a feeling I’ll be somewhat disappointed.

also, I’m not sure what they are doing with being mary jane (is that it) but I have a feeling it’s going to be a lot of the same foolishness. I know it’s hard for a sister to find a man but do they have to make us all “man-dumb” on tv? ijs.

Button

November 14th, 2013
11:34 am

Reio – pulled it out with all kinds of brown, green, shiny lookin stuff on her fingers – that’s Nassy as heyal! she need to go and get a quick check up down there cos something something something just aint right!

Reio

November 14th, 2013
11:38 am

Button – I didn’t care what was right or wrong. I WANTED HER!! I was quite young too. Didn’t really understand what I was feeling, but I sure was feelin it.

But even as an adult, If I found someone that really turned me on like that, I could never simply use her just to get her in the bed. I was never able to do that

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
11:38 am

disco – On Being Mary Jane – I watched the first episode they aired earlier in the year. I could not get past the stupidity of her character. Yeah Liv is stupid too in her personal life, but like I said earlier, I am hooked on all of the other intrige with the show. It’s a whole lot better written. Mary Jane, on the other hand, seems to be centered around her. I just don’t see being a fan of it.

Button

November 14th, 2013
11:43 am

Reio – I’ve never wanted someone that bad but I do get what you’re saying you threw me off with the brown and green shiny coochie stuff. just think had you licked it off her fingers you would forever have a yuck mouth lol

disco

November 14th, 2013
11:47 am

I don’t think I wanted anyone in grade school other than my second grade crush (who is now a doctor – talk about the one that got away – lol). I didn’t really want him want him though. I never ever had a crush on a teacher until when I was in my 20s and actually dated one but I guess that doesn’t count. I don’t think boys/classmates got to be sexy until junior high but we all know junior high boys simply played too much. snapping bra straps, flinging rubber bands, begging for your daggone lunch in the cafeteria and always talking about “dese nuts”. lol.

Exiled

November 14th, 2013
11:47 am

some guys really good at lying pretending …umm

@Yes…! and Yes..

and to think that some of the dudes in Atlanta are undercover?

That’s a whole nuther.

I wldnt be surprised some of y’all are being Mcmillaned and uall know none bout it’

Uall can’t brag to ur gals bout ur mouf skills anymore! :lol:

Careful :lol:

Reio

November 14th, 2013
11:49 am

“………had you licked it off her fingers you would forever have a yuck mouth lol”

Didn’t care bout nuthin. Too young. Too stupid. Too inexperienced. Too horny. I guess.
But even then, I would have never used her or any of my classmates just for sex.

Willie Dynamite

November 14th, 2013
11:51 am

Afternoon all,
After reading a lil bit I think I am in the minority. I don’t subscribe to the lying and making it seem like a relationship but other than that I can relate. Shiid as a young man stowing away for 2-3 weeks sometimes a summer with a chick was the norm. You don’t have to lie and/or fake a relationship for that. I’m sure most of the fellas here if they thought about could name several chicks they kicked it hard with for a month or two then K.I.M. Of course I know none of the blog ladies have done anything like that.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
11:52 am

disco ~ I’ve only caught the first episode of mary jane. Have no idea what’s going on with that show but was told she too compromises her integrity for a man. That was just one person’s observation.

Button ~ you did get that what Reio is saying didn’t happen. Her fingers weren’t nassy (lol).

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
11:53 am

Nevermind Button ~ I’m the one late.

disco

November 14th, 2013
11:59 am

leggs – being late made me think of day late and dollar short which made me think of terry mcmillan which made me wonder if you have read her latest book. I don’t recall the name of it because she’s really not on my must read list anymore. these days, I read her books if they happen to be available and I have nothing else to read.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
12:00 pm

Leggs and Kimmie can I have an “publishable” (LOL) email address for you?

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
12:01 pm

Button

November 14th, 2013
12:01 pm

Leggs – I know it was a fantasy, nassy still though.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
12:06 pm

I’ve read a day late and a dollar short…took me a while to get into that book. Haven’t read her latest becasue like you, she’s not on my must read list. I’m going to start “Someone Knows My Name” this weekend.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
12:06 pm

Raqi, I’mma pretend I didn’t see your email addy….

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
12:06 pm

@Button and @Reio I met an Egyptian/German guy in Germany when I was in college. I was still pure (What can I say I got a later start than most!). Anyway, I didn’t know it at the time what I was feeling. All I know was my mind stopped and I was salivating and apparently forgetting to swallow. I didn’t even realize I was drooling on myself while staring at him until my friend pointed it out and asked if I was ok. That’s never happened to me before. Never happened again.

All of that to say I know what it’s like to want someone that bad.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
12:07 pm

YSIC ~ I sent you an email yesterday, did you get it?

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
12:09 pm

“All I know was my mind stopped and I was salivating and apparently forgetting to swallow. I didn’t even realize I was drooling on myself” – So much material to work with, but I’ll leave it for some other miscreant (lol).

YSIC ~ reading that post made me think of Lady Sings The Blues when she sees Billy Dee for the first time and she slides down the wall marveling in his fineness (lol).

DuShawn

November 14th, 2013
12:10 pm

This topic is really for youngsters. Once most women reach their late thirties and beyond, she can spot bullshid a mile away. You can’t convince her that you feel some kinda way about her just to get in her panties. You can’t use a grown woman unless she lets you. That’s one good thing about being grown. Why lie when the truth will do. A man stands a better chance of just coming clean. If he says “look sweetheart, I like you…I want to hang out with you, treat you respectfully and if you allow me, eventually sleep with you. Realistically, I will prolly tire of your company in a month or so…..what do you say?” Some real chicks will say “Let’s do it…….but I’m prolly going to get tired of you in a couple of weeks.”

disco

November 14th, 2013
12:11 pm

leggs – someone knows my name was pretty good. another slave novel but with some interesting twists and spins.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
12:13 pm

LOL 2Can you are not interested in the business I have with these ladies.

If you send me an email be nice now.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
12:14 pm

Leggs I haven’t checked it yet. I will check it on my lunch break. I hope disco’s link for the bomb SJU cruise is in there too! :D

disco

November 14th, 2013
12:15 pm

D – really? because I know some grown azz dingbat chicks. haven’t I mentioned them here? the ones who take in (I mean date and support) homeless men. the ones who allow men to beat them and then take the abuser shopping because buying him things makes him happy and making him happy is what makes her happy. the ones who put their own children out in the street because the (homeless/unemployed) man they took in doesn’t want them there. the ones who bust their butts trying to work and maintain and then have a shiftless unemployed dude dropping them off at work and keeping their car all day. I could go on. lol.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
12:16 pm

SexyCool? Celisea? MsAtl? YesSheIs?

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
12:18 pm

@Raqi are you asking for my publishable email?

disco

November 14th, 2013
12:18 pm

yes – that link is gone. I’m hoping to get a good offer from ncl. I think I’ve narrowed it down to princess and ncl. I’d like to do allure or oasis but RC ain’t trying to cut no breaks.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
12:20 pm

Raqi, I’m not gon’ send you an email….cause you know I play for keeps; and I’m not even gon’ do it to you….but come on here talkin bout you single…..

DuShawn

November 14th, 2013
12:20 pm

Disco – That’s why I said “most” women. You what’s funny? My wife says that all my friends are retarded. It appears as if all your friends are idiots……….birds of a feather ;)

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
12:24 pm

See 2Can that is why have mad respect for you.

disco

November 14th, 2013
12:24 pm

D – I’m not claiming all these fools as friends. I just talk to a lot of folks and folks feel comfortable confiding in me. now, I admit, a couple of my friends have been hemmed up in small mess but my friends aren’t battered and my friends know how to get money, not give money. nope, these chicks are acquaintances who are open with their business. lol.

I don’t know what it is about me but folks love to spill their guts to me. it’s not like I’m empathetic or anything. often times I’m bordering on downright abusive. still, they always come back to tell me more stuff. go figure.

MsAtl

November 14th, 2013
12:25 pm

Are you fricken kidding me???
Hello Steve Harvey Morning show crew! I’ve been with my man on and off for 14 years. 4 years ago during a break up, he had a set of twins that we are now raising together. He works a regular 9 to 5 job that’s 10 mins away but gets home after 6 daily. As for me, I work the grave yard shift starting at 1 a.m. to 9 a.m. I leave work, pick up the twins and keep them all day. When he gets home he makes a drink and find something to do other than spend time with the twins. If and when he cooks he has the nerve to cook food the babies can’t eat because he cooks everything loaded with hot peppers. He said, if they’re hungry enough they’ll eat know matter how spicy it is. He also claims he can’t watch the twins and cook at the same time, another excuse to keep them out of his way. He comes home to a clean house every day and heads to work leaving it a mess. We agreed I wouldn’t complain about the mess and clean daily if he gives me an massage once a week…that was a joke! I’m still waiting! And the killer..the twin and I sleep in separate rooms, before I leave for work I lay them quietly by his side. I’m a house wife that pays half the rent, cleans the house and watches the kids. Did I mention there is no sex life! This man has cheated on me, stole from me, allowed his oldest child to steal and disrespect me. We don’t go out together, we don’t even watch t.v. together. When I complain about our situation he says, “where are you going to live and not have to pay on the water and gas and electric bills. I’m not getting any younger, is it time to walk away! Am I being pimped!?

MsAtl

November 14th, 2013
12:26 pm

Disco- Now that is a dingbat chick!!!

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
12:27 pm

MsAtl I pity that woman. How much self-loathing can you possibly HAVE?

MsAtl

November 14th, 2013
12:27 pm

Raqi- I emailed you

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
12:31 pm

MsAtl…..have you agreed to be my agent? If so, when you gon send the stuff off to that gal in the news?

disco

November 14th, 2013
12:31 pm

atl – I heard the tail end of the responses but didn’t hear the letter. you are right. dingbat. smdh.

Celisea

November 14th, 2013
12:39 pm

Raqi SexyCool? Celisea? MsAtl? YesSheIs?

Ma’am? You called?

Mrs. SexyCool

November 14th, 2013
12:46 pm

One month stand, huh? Yeah…been there, done that.

That’s usually how long it took for me to see that it wasn’t going anywhere, that dude wasn’t who he said he was, or that it was clear he still wanted to have a team – that I wasn’t interested in being on.

#Next

MsAtl

November 14th, 2013
12:46 pm

2C- Your agent? I didn’t realize I had an application in, lol. No Sir. I don’t recall whether her information was listed; I don’t know her. a friend sent me the article and I thought it was interesting.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
12:50 pm

yeah, MsAtl, you kinda recruited yourself…..I will say tho, this can be quite lucrative! There’s a market for my talents!!!

Mrs. SexyCool

November 14th, 2013
12:59 pm

Hey, Rock….(since you called my name…lol)

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
1:05 pm

Oh, I get it now Raqi you were just calling my name? I’m here! :D

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
1:06 pm

Celisea and SexyCool, I was asking if you had a throw away email that you could share with me. I posted my “old” email address a page back so that you would not have publish yours. That’s all.

MsAtl

November 14th, 2013
1:07 pm

2C- recruited myself? What kind of twisted analysis is that? Did you call the attorneys?

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
1:07 pm

“We agreed I wouldn’t complain about the mess and clean daily if he gives me an massage once a week…that was a joke! I’m still waiting! – That’s because you’re stupid. That entire letter made me hot under the collar and I don’t even have a collar on today!

Is she being pimped! Yes, but she’s pimping herself. He’s only doing what this numbskull allows. So many idiotic layers to this letter I’m going to leave them all alone!

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
1:08 pm

I don’t care how many times I go thru it, it never not breaks my heart when one of my babies have that pitiful “you let them hurt me look” when they get a shot. My heart is melting. LOL

If any of you were wondering, No iPhone is not where it is. I hate this thing.

MsAtl

November 14th, 2013
1:10 pm

Leggs- “That entire letter made me hot under the collar and I don’t even have a collar on today!” Lolol. Did she really call herself a housewife? They are not married. He has a maid and nanny!

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
1:15 pm

Oh yeah, I cannot stand why people put titles on themselves that are not deserving, I don’t care how long he has you under his foot. You’re right, she’s his maid, his nanny and let’s add one more, his woman that allows him to have his fun on the side, spend his money on others and comes home to a house where his punk a$$ is master. Gotta love America!

Mrs. SexyCool

November 14th, 2013
1:17 pm

O/T – when we win MegaMillions or PowerBall, we will have a baby.

Durty Burd

November 14th, 2013
1:18 pm

Good Afternoon!

Ah yes Mrs. Raqi get all the ladies to post their e-mail addresses it will be on an poppin…j/k

On topic: We constantly talk about being honest about your intentions, and this is one of those cases. This has been going on for years, men have no intentions to establish a long term relationship and when they achieve their goal, the vanish…Women do this as well, they break up with an ex, start sexing another dude, then go back to the ex…

MsAtl…It funny how folks take the name without going thru the legal process. We have been together for 20 yrs that is my husband, although we do not have a marriage cert.

MsAtl

November 14th, 2013
1:22 pm

Durty- Yes. I was talking to a niece and she said “my husband.” I interrupted her and asked when did she get married. She said, we’ve been together for five years so I call him my husband, so I told her to call me back when she got married.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
1:27 pm

Durty ~ reading is fundamental. She posted her addy, and we email her there so she now has ours (lol). Whew, that was funny!

Durty Burd

November 14th, 2013
1:30 pm

Leggs..I know you know me, I like to incite a little sumthing, sumthing…
Lucky Leggs did u hit that pick 4 last night?
I am playing the 414 pick three.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
1:32 pm

“when we win MegaMillions or PowerBall, we will have a baby”

Imma go buy a ticket for you. LOL

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
1:34 pm

MsAtl/Durty/Leggs – Naw, no faking the funk ever here! No calling me wifey or him husband or wearing a ring on THAT finger though we are not engaged, no none of that!! One guy I dated awhile wanted me to were this ring my aunt gave me on that finger. I told him no can do!

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
1:35 pm

Great comeback, Raqi, but I think you should start running now because Mrs. SexyC has run marathons and is a member of BGR Club and will catch you by your hair and sit on you until you repent!

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
1:36 pm

In fact I am going to empty out my bank account and buy a whoooole bunch of tickets.

Let’s see…how many tickets to help SexyCool make babies?

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
1:37 pm

I have $43.28. How many tickets can that buy? 20?

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
1:39 pm

LOL Leggs. She is the one that said she want to have a baby. I am just helping her get to the goal she needs to reach to start the process.

Well not start the process because she is already doing that. LOL I am trying to get her the funds she needs to remove the “barriers”.

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
1:39 pm

Raqi – I’ll pitch in and donate to the “SexyCool & M’s Baby Fund”! Let’s see, where did I put that dollar?

:lol:

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
1:40 pm

“One guy I dated awhile wanted me to were this ring my aunt gave me on that finger” – WOW, never heard of such a thing. That had to be a test to see how gullible or desperate you were in wanting him by your side. Didn’t even offer to buy a ring, even a friendship ring and pass it off as something else. I am officially blown away. Pretty sure you’re much the same person. Did he really think you would agree to that (lol). WOW!

Speaking about titles, my oldest brother has son by this girl back in the 80’s. They never married, never lived together, but she contacted me a few months ago (thanks Mama) and insist on calling me “sis-in-law.” If I have to ask her again to not call me that, it won’t be pretty.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
1:41 pm

Yeah Kimmie let’s start a pool for her.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
1:41 pm

Mega Million tix are $1.00 and Powerball is $2.00. You need me to add to the purse (lol).

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
1:43 pm

Raqi ~ I think this might be more powerful than the baby powder/dust. You now have $45.28.

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
1:46 pm

Leggs – He was a trip!LOL!! We were dating long-distance at the time, and I think he was feeling uneasy about me just being out here “on the loose” but was not doing anything about it! His daddy even told him he needed to, in today’s terms, “put a ring on it”, and offered to help him buy me one. He refused. I was telling him about this ring I inherited from one of my aunts. Before he could even get it good out of his mouth, I said no way!LOL!!

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
1:48 pm

LOL Kimmie. Is his picture beside the word “LAME” and “TRIFLING” in the dictionary?

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
1:52 pm

Raqi – It should be!!LOL!!

MsAtl

November 14th, 2013
1:54 pm

Kimmie- I think the funniest thing I’ve heard was when my ex said “my fiancé’s husband” at our pre-divorce hearing. I was looking at him, like- you damn fool! (Cue MsAtl is stuck on her ex in 5..4..3..2..)

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
1:57 pm

Why does that make you stuck on him? You’re simply recalling something you remember. That’s normal, no?

MsAtl

November 14th, 2013
1:59 pm

Leggs- just being sarcastic. I expected to get that comment from Ex.

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
1:59 pm

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
2:07 pm

MsAtl ~ I got the sarcastic part. Comment was really for Ex as well (lol).

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
2:16 pm

According to The Dictionary of Life:

Amorous: Raqi

Bright: Raqi

Caring: Raqi

Devoted: Raqi

Endearing: Raqi

Flaunting: Raqi

Gorgeous: Raqi

Haughty: Raqi

disco

November 14th, 2013
2:21 pm

yes – san juan is sounding better and better. I just saw the most absolute gorgeous specimen at lunch today. he had Puerto rico written all over him. the problem was he also had “jailbait” written all over him. I guess he was probably around 20 or so but still. yep. I think I will put more energy into checking out Puerto rico options.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
2:25 pm

Are you going to do the rest of the alphabet, Raqi?

DuShawn

November 14th, 2013
2:25 pm

“Didn’t even offer to buy a ring…..” That reminds me of what one my young female relatives told me her little boyfriend did. Mind you, she was like a sophomore in college when this happened. Her and the dude she was dating were beginning to get serious. She called and told me lil buddy gave her a rock. I’m like babygirl, you’re too young to get married. I hope you didn’t accept the ring. She said, no you don’t understand. He gave me an actual rock wrapped up in a ring box. Hold up,… like a rock off the ground. She said …yes. He told her, that ….peep game….”that a rock is solid and it’s symbolic of the foundation of our relationship” ……You know I had to laugh. I schooled her to that jitterbug bullshid. I told her she should’ve hit him in the forehead with that rock.… but I give lil buddy an “A” for creativity. Many young girls are dumb as a box of rocks, so it was worth a try.

disco

November 14th, 2013
2:29 pm

D – omg. that is really and truly a good one. much props to dude. lol. you right though. some chicks would have cherished that rock for ever. it would have been sitting in a glass case on the mantel.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
2:32 pm

Raqi, you were doing good til you did that……

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
2:32 pm

Du – That reminds me of that episode of Martin when he forgot their anniversary. Gina had made this nice dinner and gotten him a gift. He ran and grabbed a candle and rolled it up in some paper and gave it to her. When she opened it, she’s like “Really? a used candle?”. He looked at her all serious talking bout “A candle that burns, for our love”!LOL!!

disco

November 14th, 2013
2:39 pm

kimmie – martin has so many great lines. I still laugh when I think “toooooth – paste”. or “crazy, deranged” or “coretta, these MFs must think I’m soft”. lol.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
2:39 pm

Why is that 2Can?

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
2:40 pm

I can’t continue Leggs. The person in charge will not allow the others thru. LOL I guess her inbox filled up quickly.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
2:42 pm

Honestly, as far as the “rock” situation goes it really just depends on the person. For the most part, I would feel like most guys are running game because most guys are jerks. Then there are a select small minority of emotionally volatile romantic guys out there that would have truly meant what they said about the rock and truly loved (at least in their mental mind they think they love) this woman. You have to know what you’re working with.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
2:45 pm

Kimmie, guess what I am going to attempt to make for dinner tonight? Beef wellington. My bestie makes a great dish but this is my first time trying it.

disco

November 14th, 2013
2:45 pm

yes – maybe I’d accept a rock from a geology nerd right after we went spelunking. lol.

MsAtl

November 14th, 2013
2:46 pm

Disco- 20 is legal, lol. Although I have to say, the 20 year old that hit on me this summer was told to go sit down.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
2:47 pm

Can I answer, can I answer…nevamind.

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
2:48 pm

Disco – Martin is up there with my alltime favorite shows. I knew my hubs was paying attention wheh early in our 1st year of dating, he had his daughter to greet me with a giftbag one day when I came over. In it was the box dvd set of the entire run of Martin. I realized then he was a keeper!LOL!!

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
2:49 pm

Yall want a “rock” has a gift? Have a kid or two. You will get a paint rock. A bunch of dandelions. A wired half dried mud ball.

You have to acknowledge it as A Paper Weight. A Bouquet of Flowers. An Wall Ornament.

disco

November 14th, 2013
2:50 pm

atl – it’s legal and he was fine but there’s just something so wrong with it. mm mmm mmmm. he had the close cut hair, the mini beard/goatee thing (that I feel like Puerto Ricans can rock like no other) and a dimple. ha’mercy. some little young girl probably somewhere smiling right now. lol.

atl – i think of me with a 20 year old and i think of me having to fight that child’s momma. lol.

DuShawn

November 14th, 2013
2:50 pm

“romantic guys out there that would have truly meant what they said about the rock ………”Cutie, reads like you would’ve been receptive to the symbolic gesture. Imma try that with wifey on our upcoming anniversary. I will let the blog know how well that goes over…..If I could still use my fingers

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
2:50 pm

What the answer Leggs?

In fact what’s the question?

disco

November 14th, 2013
2:52 pm

raqi – speaking of dandelions. remember back in the day when you would go “momma had a baby and the head popped off” and then you’d pop off the top of the flower. well, my friends 6 year old gifted her a bunch of them and without thinking she started popping the heads off. the 6 year old immediately bust into tears. lol. I laughed when she told me but calmed down enough to call her an ungrateful wench. lol.

kimmie – I have all the martin stand up dvds. my son has the entire sitcom series.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
2:54 pm

DuShawn,, give your wife the sun framed by the biggest window in your house and tell her that is how bright and hot your love burns for her. When she is angry at you just take her to that window and point. Don’t say a word just point at the sun. LOL

There will be nothing sentimental about it really but it will make her crack up and stop being angry with you.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
2:55 pm

Disco, I am LMBO. That is hilarious.

disco

November 14th, 2013
2:57 pm

raqi – I thought so too. he was so proud of himself and his gift of flowers and she destroyed them right in his face. kids are funny. another friend has a 3 year old who has the nerve to get upset and tell his mother to go to her room. lol. he hasn’t quite figured out that that’s his punishment, not hers.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
3:05 pm

LOL Disco. You have got to love them.

One of the biggest difference I am seeing in raising boys versus girls is between the hub and I, we get about 3 cards or pictures a week from the little lady.

She makes us a card or draws us a picture just because it’s Thursday. LOL I used to throw them away until she started wanting to see that card she gave the week before.

MsAtl

November 14th, 2013
3:06 pm

Disco- The thought of me with a 20 year old brings images of me telling him and my 19 year old to get off the video games and clean up, lol.

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
3:09 pm

Gas up the Pacer!

disco

November 14th, 2013
3:09 pm

atl – ditto but I repeat… this little youngster was fine. gone make me go to subway everyday. he’s my new favorite sandwich artist. lol.

disco

November 14th, 2013
3:12 pm

kimmie – make up talk. I want a dark lipstick. any suggestions? dark as in deep brown. no reds or plums or anything.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
3:12 pm

@Disco I haven’t tried Puerto Rican yet…. but I wouldn’t mind. I still would have talked to that guy you saw as long as he were legal.

That reminds me of that PR guy that worked for Delta. Why oh why did he have to have a temper tantrum when things didn’t go his way? I just don’t get it.

disco

November 14th, 2013
3:15 pm

yes – no ma’am. I’ll call a little hottie cute but I don’t want nothing no little kid has to offer. 20 (or so may be grown) but I ain’t got time for that. I’d be that chick asking him what’s up with his daddy, his uncle, hell, his granddaddy. lol.

Button

November 14th, 2013
3:19 pm

some men get it, they just want to make us happy. A good man want to make/keep his woman happy. My guy said to me the other night “I just want to make you happy” I replied, you make me happy (smile). Now I could’ve said ” dude I was happy before I met you or I’m a happy person” or something along that line but I didn’t. He said he’ll do anything for me to keep me happy, happy to be with him. “sigh”

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
3:19 pm

Disco – MAC makes one, a deep brown. They must have had some overstock of it, because they gave it to me free awhile back earlier in the year. It did not work for me, for some reason. I can do dark, but it has to have some red or wine in it. Anyway, I ended up tossing it so I forgot what it was called. The dark lip is very in this fall/winter too. I did get a nice deep reddish brown from them that looks great, forgot what it is called. I will let you know tomorrow after I check it out tonite.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
3:22 pm

disco ~ back in the day “Get Down Brown” was the to go to lipstick…rich and dark. Perhaps they still make it (lol). If I remember correctly, kimmie used to wear it too????

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
3:23 pm

Maybe it wasn’t her.

DuShawn

November 14th, 2013
3:23 pm

“give your wife the sun framed by the biggest window in your house and tell her that is how bright and hot your love burns for her. When she is angry at you just take her to that window and point….” Raqi – Shiiiid.. I B Dayum. Unlike the marriage you often describe (with animated Disney humming birds and butterflies, sugar and spice and everything nice). Me and wifey are different. After three babies and almost 20 years of putting up with my shid, she expects and deserves all her gifts to have number and letter combinations ( VS1, VVS2, E350, 535I, 750IL ). Trust, she would fail to see the humor in the Sun in the Window frame. You trying to get my forehead split to the white meat.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
3:24 pm

@Du it really depends on the guy (his personality and idiosyncracies), and what type of rock it was (it can’t just be some pebble from off the street and it really depends on the texture, color, size, the type of finish it had, etc). Any old guy can’t just try some lame attempt at that and get away with it.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
3:25 pm

any of y’all belong to any Fraternal orders? Greeks?

disco

November 14th, 2013
3:27 pm

leggs – get down brown? I like the sound of that. who makes it? my next mac trip I’m grabbing a viva glam and whatever brown I commit to. I eventually need a new blush color too but baby steps (besides y’all know that stuff costs too much – lol).

D – I didn’t want to be presumptuous and post something like that but it is definitely what I was thinking re raqi’s sunshine post. lol.

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
3:28 pm

Leggs – It wasn’t me. Browns just don’t work well on my lips. Gotta have at least some gold or bronze or a red mixed in it.

Disco – The darker MAC lipstick I got for fall is the Mineralized Rich lipstick line in All Out Gorgeous.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
3:28 pm

@disco I’m sold on MAC too since I discovered Ruby Woo :D Iman also has some nice browns. A little pricier but hey it’s cosmetics.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
3:28 pm

And DuShawn I see that totally went over your head. Didn’t realize you wouldn’t comprehend the joke.

Button

November 14th, 2013
3:29 pm

Kimmie – I love the dark plum llipstick. It’s does something to me when I wear it.

What’s this winter fashion? I don’t know, I”m cluless.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
3:31 pm

I will stay on the bright side of the lane from now on.

Leggs, that’s what I am talking about. One track minded to where too dim to get the LOL in a ungiveable gift. Yeah I know ungiveable is not a word.

Miss the whole she will crack up at pointing at the sun.

disco

November 14th, 2013
3:33 pm

kimmie – thanks. I’ll check it out.

button – I haven’t been shopping (well I haven’t been buying) lately. I walked away from a pair of black wedge peep toes yesterday and I’ve been thinking about them all day. I do believes (yes believes) I am going back for them. I also just ordered two pair of earrings from natural girls rock.

kimmie

November 14th, 2013
3:33 pm

Button – Plum looks great on me too!

I know riding boots are supposed to be very big this winter. Skinny cords, like the skinny jeans. I have a nice coat I got last winter, black & winter white houndstooth that I am definitely going to rock. I add a red scarf for a pop of color.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
3:37 pm

If I had said get her to have threesome or something vile like that he would have got it at first read.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
3:37 pm

disco ~ I just googled it. I think it was Posner who sold it back in the day. I have no idea how to get the exact name now.

Raqi/Dushawn ~ I thought the sunlight framed by the window as cute and laughable. Cut the tension when things get rough but can also have you pouncing out the room like a child who’s lollipop was snatched away. It’s all on the person. Pick your battles. Sometimes, something like that is all that’s needed to calm things down.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
3:37 pm

get out ya feelings, gal…..

and come cuddle on the dark side wit me….we can be heathens, and not give a damn….(you know, in your imaginations)

Button

November 14th, 2013
3:40 pm

disco – go get em! I can’t rock to peep toes too often, only if I’m going be sitting for the better part of the day, for some reason they hurt my big toe.

Kimmie- I’ve been seeing the riding boots, last winter too matter fact. I might get me a pair, still deciding.

disco

November 14th, 2013
3:41 pm

leggs – first I haven’t heard posner in forever ever. they still around? second, re picking battles. man, if I’m already upset about something and some joker talking to me about the sun out the window things are about to go even more left real quick. ooh-wee.

DuShawn

November 14th, 2013
3:41 pm

Raqi – I got it the first time. My response was equally light hearted. This forum does not afford the luxury of facial expression or vocal inflection. Consequently, the intended tone of some comments are lost…….I’m not dim.

DuShawn

November 14th, 2013
3:43 pm

Fraternal orders? Greeks? Im da bruz.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
3:43 pm

Yes, riding boots were big last year and I see they’re big this season too.

Button ~ I’m with you on those peep toes. I wear them sometime, but they look weird to me (on my feet).

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
3:43 pm

Leggs, I was not even meant to be taken serious. But yeah.

(I don’t think it’s smart to blog after having cross words with your cable company. LOL)

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
3:45 pm

2Can, I am not in my feeling like you think. LOL I just…you know.

disco

November 14th, 2013
3:45 pm

leggs – peeps? I love them. what I hate is the so-called classic pump. I think it’s just too plain and boring. it needs some hooks, straps, buttons, something. lol.

Button

November 14th, 2013
3:45 pm

disco – believe it or not, but I hate hate hate shopping! I battle back and forth with is it a need or a want.

Button

November 14th, 2013
3:47 pm

Kimmie – I’m digging the remnants from my plum lipstick tube with a toothpick to polish my lips lol

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
3:48 pm

@Button Rainbow has a sale going on buy one pair of boots get one half off. I got me a great deal one pair of over the knee and one pair of riding boots. I just hope they last me the season. That’s all I’m asking.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
3:49 pm

Du…..you lost me? you in?

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
3:49 pm

DuShawn, if you say so.

Imma put on my Cinderella Disney pumps and walk on over to 2Can imagination.

Button

November 14th, 2013
3:50 pm

disco – thanks for saying classic pumps, I need to take mine to get the heels recapped and polished. I refuse to buy another black pumps.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
3:50 pm

DuShawn ~ I thought it obvious you got Raqi light heart comment by your response with “white meat.” I thought all was tongue in cheek. My comment was simply saying sometimes something that corny can have one laughing turning an argument to “man, you better get out of here!”

DuShawn

November 14th, 2013
3:51 pm

“……….something vile like that he would have got it at first read.” Imma let that slide cause I’ve been reading you for years and on the real, I dig the lady you appear to be, but keep your eyes on your fingers……..and watch what you type.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
3:51 pm

I think, I’m not sure, but I think I’m feeling some type of way about 2C and all of his blog wives. Pseudo-, Quasi-, Imaginary or otherwise.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
3:52 pm

I love the classic pump. I have brown, blue, red, burgundy, silver, bronze and a few more reds (lol).

DuShawn

November 14th, 2013
3:52 pm

2c – imma Que

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
3:53 pm

“that corny can have one laughing turning an argument to “man, you better get out of here!”

Leggs, exactly. Corny to get a laugh out of someone. I guess that is too much of stretch for some. If it aint vile and vulgar then some are not interested.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
3:56 pm

DuShawn, that is not first time you have been side ways with me. I just choose to ignore it in the past. Today you caught me…

Button

November 14th, 2013
3:57 pm

Yes – oh really? I haven’t been in Rainbow in years. I’ve gotten my long sleeved tees from there. That’s the only place that sells the long tees that I like.

Yes – lol @2C and his sister wives on the blog.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
3:58 pm

OAN I’m so excited this will be my first Thxgiving where I’m cooking, in my own place, with furniture, my family from NYCand a kid. I’m even going to invite some guests. I’m feeling grown up for once y’all. No vagabond house hopping this holiday! I’m trying to creat a menu while we speak.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
3:58 pm

Button ~ Rainbow has great sun dresses!

disco

November 14th, 2013
4:01 pm

raqi – I looked at it as if I’m already mad and you up in my face talking about “I love you” (or “girl I’m giving you the sun” – lol). my brother used to do that when we were kids. he still does it now. it still burns me up. darn it. we are fighting. I am angry. stop playing with me. lol.

random – you ever see a news headline re a fire near your side of town and panic for a split second like “what if my house is on fire”. smdh.

Celisea

November 14th, 2013
4:01 pm

I went to Brooks Brothers (outlet) and they had boots org 600.00 ish (can’t remember the exact price…was over $600) at 75% off. Don’t you know a sista was sick that they didn’t have my size??? I was trying too…trying my darndest to make a pair fit…lol

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:03 pm

That is wonderful, YSIC. You should be proud, esp since you’re no longer vagabond house hopping (lol).

I called my crazy sister and off the wall niece who lives in NC the other day to invite them for Thanksgiving. Apparently, they both needed at least 3 weeks notice and cannot make it this year. Statements like that you just let it slide. I turned it around and said ok, I’ve now giving you a year’s notice. I have no doubt there will be an excuse next year. Can’t choose family, but I’ve extended an olive branch. Why so late, I just thought of inviting them the other day so I immediately picked up the phone. I was too late with the invite.

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:04 pm

Leggs- I cannot keep sunglasses. I lose em as quick as I buy em so I went to dollar general and bought a boat load of sunglasses maybe 10 at 5 bucks a pop and I put them all thru the house and my car so when I lose it I will won’t have to go out and buy another one which usually take me forever to do. I know a good pair of shades will cost a pretty penny and since I lose them so often I refuse to spend much moolah on em.

Celisea

November 14th, 2013
4:04 pm

Now, I don’t know if that was a mark down, mark up, and back down scheme, but I fell for it…lololol

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
4:05 pm

Disco, exactly. I am trying to be mad and you playing. But that maneuver is too Disney. LOL If we mad gosh darnit we gone stay mad and fight like WE are supposed to.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
4:06 pm

Cutie…..calm down, lil mama…..Raqi is married, and there is no crossing that boundary…ok, rest assured.

matta fact, gon’ change your last name….YesSheisCute©

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:06 pm

Leggs – Oh gosh you said sun dresses I read sun glasses.

disco

November 14th, 2013
4:07 pm

raqi – and that right there is what I’m talking about. I think that is the closest we have tracked yet. lol. you know we agree some and disagree some but that right there. mm hmmm. that right there. lol.

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:08 pm

Celisea – dontcha just love it when that happens? lol

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
4:08 pm

DuShawn come and let me give you a church hug and we can make amends. You are going to have my husband running up on an iceberg tonight and he not even know why. LOL

(Disclaimer: That’s a LOL)

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
4:08 pm

That’s what up Du……

<~~~~~ AΦA

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:10 pm

Button ~ thanks for the laugh. I’m reading you saying to myself thanks for the random on sunglasses (rofl).

disco

November 14th, 2013
4:10 pm

button – it’s okay. I just bought a new pair of fly Rx sunglasses. no telling when I’ll wear them as I’m fortunate not to drive into the sun on my commute. still I like them. in fact, I didn’t even mean to buy sunglasses. just getting regular glasses and those bad boys practically jumped across the room and said I had to have them.

Celisea

November 14th, 2013
4:11 pm

Button – I was just sick that day…lol They had pumps and what not beyond reasonable, but even for this square broad, I wasn’t feeling. Dirt cheap too. I hung around them boots til I went through nearly every box…lololol

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:12 pm

Yes – I have a craving for some good ol fashion collard greens with smoke turkey leg.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:15 pm

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:17 pm

Button ~ in two weeks there will be collards practically behind every door of someone you know (lol)…there will be a “vat” on my stove (lol).

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:18 pm

disco – I’m always wearing my sun glasses well except for over cast days and sometimes I still need em. oh well I’m guess I’m a sun glass freak lol

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:19 pm

Leggs – I’m talking grandma collard greens, she called them college greents lol

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:23 pm

That’s how my greens are, grandma college greents!

disco

November 14th, 2013
4:26 pm

button – maybe if I ever splurge on progressive lenses. lol. I’ve never been into shades like all that. I’ve always kept a pair in the car for when I need them but that’s about it. once my glasses broke in DC and I had to wear shades all the way home because I didn’t have extra glasses with me. I don’t like “being in the dark”. lol.

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:26 pm

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:28 pm

disco – have you tried or thought about trying transitional lens? They seems pretty neat with the changing from glasses to shades as needed.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:29 pm

I love my transitional lens. They get dark enough to look like real sunglasses.

disco

November 14th, 2013
4:32 pm

button – oops. guess that’s what I meant by progressive. transitional. lol. either way, they are out of my budget and I’m not that pressed for shades so it’s all good as far as I’m concerned. so how come a friend recently clowned me because I bought glasses to match my hair color. I can’t be the only one who does that. lol.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
4:33 pm

@Leggs :lol: :lol: @ college greents yall are too funny!

Well I get the short notice because people have schedules but still its NC you can drive from there to here in what 6 hours???

I’m lucky my mom and sister get to fly for free and my niece is using my last free ticket to come down here. Everyone else is either driving or local. All I ask is that my mom just acts like a normal human being while she is here. I do not want any one woman homages to the exorcist this holiday. Nor do I want any interpretations or interpolations of such performances.

disco

November 14th, 2013
4:35 pm

yes – back in the day when I had a buddy pass hookup you couldn’t tell me nothing. life was good then. sigh. the good old days. lol. there’s a trip report that I read. some chick that lives in Atlanta and works for some airline. she be getting her travel on. I don’t even know her and yet I envy her. lol.

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:36 pm

Leggs – they sure do.I’m still amazed by them.

disco – the only color sun glasses I don’t like is white. tsk tsk, you want to piss me off, gift me some white sun glasses.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:39 pm

Faith by WHAM is playing…love this song!

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:41 pm

The song is too short!

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:43 pm

Leggs – you’re going wayyyy back with that one.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
4:46 pm

@disco Thanks for the reminder! I need to enjoy these benefits while I can lol as soon as this kid goes back to Germany I’m going with her to commemorate the return of my jetsetting days! I can’t wait. I only went on 3 vacations this year! How pathetic. I usually fly at least 8-10 times in a year. I have one more for next month I’m taking my daughter to Miami. But that’s not enough. I really wanted to go to SJU, PUJ and AUA this year. Sigh.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
4:47 pm

oh and Leggs just checked my email! Thanks :)

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:47 pm

It would have been nice if they mixed “You’re One of My Kind” by INXS right behind it.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:50 pm

The best time to love with your whole heart is always now, in this moment, because no breath beyond the current is promised.”

disco

November 14th, 2013
4:50 pm

yes – you are welcome but just so you know, I didn’t remind you so you could rub it in my face. lol. I’ve been pricing flights to Miami and they make me want to go to the airport and just start slapping people.

disco

November 14th, 2013
4:51 pm

yes – actually who all gets buddy pass hookups? I might have to start flirting harder at airports. lol.

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:54 pm

it’s been good yall, have a good whatever it is you’re about to do :)

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
4:57 pm

@disco my bad! lol didn’t mean to rub it in. But how you can find the hookups, that’s a good question. I don’t know. I might have to start flirting with the customer service agents at the airport myself now that you mention it. I need a travel buddy that works for another airline because with this new buddy pass system being based on perfect attendance….sounds like I won’t be getting any LOL