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Guilty of one month stands?

So I have heard about one night stands before, but apparently one month stands are all the rage now. Do you know what a one month stand is? Basically, it happens when one person wants to hook up but won’t come out and say that. Instead, they go through the motions of starting a new relationship and after about 30 days, they cut ties and move on.

One of my guy friends is guilty of this dating habit and I finally called him out on this pattern he has. He claims that he has good intentions but “these mini-relationships” fizzle out fast, not too long after the orgasm, I imagine. It makes me wonder if there is any real interest in starting something new or do we just convince ourselves that it is something real.

Have you ever been guilty of having one month stands? Have you had a period of time where you have started something up with someone but it keeps fading quickly and you are on to the next?

Why do you think we lose interest so fast? Is it because we prefer the short-term mini-relationships?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
3:48 pm

@Button Rainbow has a sale going on buy one pair of boots get one half off. I got me a great deal one pair of over the knee and one pair of riding boots. I just hope they last me the season. That’s all I’m asking.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
3:49 pm

Du…..you lost me? you in?

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
3:49 pm

DuShawn, if you say so.

Imma put on my Cinderella Disney pumps and walk on over to 2Can imagination.

Button

November 14th, 2013
3:50 pm

disco – thanks for saying classic pumps, I need to take mine to get the heels recapped and polished. I refuse to buy another black pumps.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
3:50 pm

DuShawn ~ I thought it obvious you got Raqi light heart comment by your response with “white meat.” I thought all was tongue in cheek. My comment was simply saying sometimes something that corny can have one laughing turning an argument to “man, you better get out of here!”

DuShawn

November 14th, 2013
3:51 pm

“……….something vile like that he would have got it at first read.” Imma let that slide cause I’ve been reading you for years and on the real, I dig the lady you appear to be, but keep your eyes on your fingers……..and watch what you type.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
3:51 pm

I think, I’m not sure, but I think I’m feeling some type of way about 2C and all of his blog wives. Pseudo-, Quasi-, Imaginary or otherwise.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
3:52 pm

I love the classic pump. I have brown, blue, red, burgundy, silver, bronze and a few more reds (lol).

DuShawn

November 14th, 2013
3:52 pm

2c – imma Que

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
3:53 pm

“that corny can have one laughing turning an argument to “man, you better get out of here!”

Leggs, exactly. Corny to get a laugh out of someone. I guess that is too much of stretch for some. If it aint vile and vulgar then some are not interested.

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
3:56 pm

DuShawn, that is not first time you have been side ways with me. I just choose to ignore it in the past. Today you caught me…

Button

November 14th, 2013
3:57 pm

Yes – oh really? I haven’t been in Rainbow in years. I’ve gotten my long sleeved tees from there. That’s the only place that sells the long tees that I like.

Yes – lol @2C and his sister wives on the blog.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
3:58 pm

OAN I’m so excited this will be my first Thxgiving where I’m cooking, in my own place, with furniture, my family from NYCand a kid. I’m even going to invite some guests. I’m feeling grown up for once y’all. No vagabond house hopping this holiday! I’m trying to creat a menu while we speak.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
3:58 pm

Button ~ Rainbow has great sun dresses!

disco

November 14th, 2013
4:01 pm

raqi – I looked at it as if I’m already mad and you up in my face talking about “I love you” (or “girl I’m giving you the sun” – lol). my brother used to do that when we were kids. he still does it now. it still burns me up. darn it. we are fighting. I am angry. stop playing with me. lol.

random – you ever see a news headline re a fire near your side of town and panic for a split second like “what if my house is on fire”. smdh.

Celisea

November 14th, 2013
4:01 pm

I went to Brooks Brothers (outlet) and they had boots org 600.00 ish (can’t remember the exact price…was over $600) at 75% off. Don’t you know a sista was sick that they didn’t have my size??? I was trying too…trying my darndest to make a pair fit…lol

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:03 pm

That is wonderful, YSIC. You should be proud, esp since you’re no longer vagabond house hopping (lol).

I called my crazy sister and off the wall niece who lives in NC the other day to invite them for Thanksgiving. Apparently, they both needed at least 3 weeks notice and cannot make it this year. Statements like that you just let it slide. I turned it around and said ok, I’ve now giving you a year’s notice. I have no doubt there will be an excuse next year. Can’t choose family, but I’ve extended an olive branch. Why so late, I just thought of inviting them the other day so I immediately picked up the phone. I was too late with the invite.

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:04 pm

Leggs- I cannot keep sunglasses. I lose em as quick as I buy em so I went to dollar general and bought a boat load of sunglasses maybe 10 at 5 bucks a pop and I put them all thru the house and my car so when I lose it I will won’t have to go out and buy another one which usually take me forever to do. I know a good pair of shades will cost a pretty penny and since I lose them so often I refuse to spend much moolah on em.

Celisea

November 14th, 2013
4:04 pm

Now, I don’t know if that was a mark down, mark up, and back down scheme, but I fell for it…lololol

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
4:05 pm

Disco, exactly. I am trying to be mad and you playing. But that maneuver is too Disney. LOL If we mad gosh darnit we gone stay mad and fight like WE are supposed to.

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
4:06 pm

Cutie…..calm down, lil mama…..Raqi is married, and there is no crossing that boundary…ok, rest assured.

matta fact, gon’ change your last name….YesSheisCute©

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:06 pm

Leggs – Oh gosh you said sun dresses I read sun glasses.

disco

November 14th, 2013
4:07 pm

raqi – and that right there is what I’m talking about. I think that is the closest we have tracked yet. lol. you know we agree some and disagree some but that right there. mm hmmm. that right there. lol.

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:08 pm

Celisea – dontcha just love it when that happens? lol

Raqi

November 14th, 2013
4:08 pm

DuShawn come and let me give you a church hug and we can make amends. You are going to have my husband running up on an iceberg tonight and he not even know why. LOL

(Disclaimer: That’s a LOL)

2CPTG©

November 14th, 2013
4:08 pm

That’s what up Du……

<~~~~~ AΦA

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:10 pm

Button ~ thanks for the laugh. I’m reading you saying to myself thanks for the random on sunglasses (rofl).

disco

November 14th, 2013
4:10 pm

button – it’s okay. I just bought a new pair of fly Rx sunglasses. no telling when I’ll wear them as I’m fortunate not to drive into the sun on my commute. still I like them. in fact, I didn’t even mean to buy sunglasses. just getting regular glasses and those bad boys practically jumped across the room and said I had to have them.

Celisea

November 14th, 2013
4:11 pm

Button – I was just sick that day…lol They had pumps and what not beyond reasonable, but even for this square broad, I wasn’t feeling. Dirt cheap too. I hung around them boots til I went through nearly every box…lololol

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:12 pm

Yes – I have a craving for some good ol fashion collard greens with smoke turkey leg.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:15 pm

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:17 pm

Button ~ in two weeks there will be collards practically behind every door of someone you know (lol)…there will be a “vat” on my stove (lol).

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:18 pm

disco – I’m always wearing my sun glasses well except for over cast days and sometimes I still need em. oh well I’m guess I’m a sun glass freak lol

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:19 pm

Leggs – I’m talking grandma collard greens, she called them college greents lol

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:23 pm

That’s how my greens are, grandma college greents!

disco

November 14th, 2013
4:26 pm

button – maybe if I ever splurge on progressive lenses. lol. I’ve never been into shades like all that. I’ve always kept a pair in the car for when I need them but that’s about it. once my glasses broke in DC and I had to wear shades all the way home because I didn’t have extra glasses with me. I don’t like “being in the dark”. lol.

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:26 pm

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:28 pm

disco – have you tried or thought about trying transitional lens? They seems pretty neat with the changing from glasses to shades as needed.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:29 pm

I love my transitional lens. They get dark enough to look like real sunglasses.

disco

November 14th, 2013
4:32 pm

button – oops. guess that’s what I meant by progressive. transitional. lol. either way, they are out of my budget and I’m not that pressed for shades so it’s all good as far as I’m concerned. so how come a friend recently clowned me because I bought glasses to match my hair color. I can’t be the only one who does that. lol.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
4:33 pm

@Leggs :lol: :lol: @ college greents yall are too funny!

Well I get the short notice because people have schedules but still its NC you can drive from there to here in what 6 hours???

I’m lucky my mom and sister get to fly for free and my niece is using my last free ticket to come down here. Everyone else is either driving or local. All I ask is that my mom just acts like a normal human being while she is here. I do not want any one woman homages to the exorcist this holiday. Nor do I want any interpretations or interpolations of such performances.

disco

November 14th, 2013
4:35 pm

yes – back in the day when I had a buddy pass hookup you couldn’t tell me nothing. life was good then. sigh. the good old days. lol. there’s a trip report that I read. some chick that lives in Atlanta and works for some airline. she be getting her travel on. I don’t even know her and yet I envy her. lol.

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:36 pm

Leggs – they sure do.I’m still amazed by them.

disco – the only color sun glasses I don’t like is white. tsk tsk, you want to piss me off, gift me some white sun glasses.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:39 pm

Faith by WHAM is playing…love this song!

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:41 pm

The song is too short!

Button

November 14th, 2013
4:43 pm

Leggs – you’re going wayyyy back with that one.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
4:46 pm

@disco Thanks for the reminder! I need to enjoy these benefits while I can lol as soon as this kid goes back to Germany I’m going with her to commemorate the return of my jetsetting days! I can’t wait. I only went on 3 vacations this year! How pathetic. I usually fly at least 8-10 times in a year. I have one more for next month I’m taking my daughter to Miami. But that’s not enough. I really wanted to go to SJU, PUJ and AUA this year. Sigh.

YesSheIsCute

November 14th, 2013
4:47 pm

oh and Leggs just checked my email! Thanks :)

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:47 pm

It would have been nice if they mixed “You’re One of My Kind” by INXS right behind it.

Leggs

November 14th, 2013
4:50 pm

The best time to love with your whole heart is always now, in this moment, because no breath beyond the current is promised.”