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Open to open marriage?

I was at a friend’s party recently and a bunch of couples were in attendance. Somehow the topic of marriage came up and one of the guys said that he and his wife contemplated having an open marriage. Of course, we all got nosy and asked loads of questions but they were pretty candid about what they wanted to try.

The husband basically said that he did not feel that monogamy was a realistic idea in terms of “forever faithful” so why not be practical about it? They agree to be honest when they meet someone they are attracted to. They also believe that they can date and pursue romantic interests as long as they inform the other.

I personally can’t imagine doing this type of open marriage, but I won’t knock it. I just think traditional marriage is not for everyone. If a couple can find a way to make this work for them, who am I to judge?

Would you ever consider having an open marriage? Do you think it is realistic?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

317 comments Add your comment

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
3:26 pm

“…why do men always attribute something to either “needing some” or “that time of the month”? – That’s all they know about women if they turn moody. Can’t be anything they’ve done or said so it has to be one of the two. Forgive them Father for they know not what they say!!!!

disco ~ I get chills whenever I see “1:29 ” Love that number!

SlimNu ~ I thought that was everyone’s likka cabinet when they don’t actually have a real likka cabinet.

kimmie

November 13th, 2013
3:26 pm

Exiled – :lol: I’m just as loud-mouthed and sassy. Marriage did not change that. I choose my battles better now and most times, just don’t give a flying flip!!

Mrs. SexyCool

November 13th, 2013
3:27 pm

Not on purpose. We’ve still got the dog. (lol)

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
3:27 pm

Raqi, don’t tell disco sh!t…..you know my email addy, you wanna know something, make a move!

YesSheIsCute

November 13th, 2013
3:27 pm

Awww 2C is so smart! Openly “disagreeing” to keep the peace. I like smart guys :D

@Raqi now I know that sex stimulates serotonin. And serotonin is that happy chemical but geez I don’t think it has anything to do with a woman saying something contrary. And menses doesn’t either. I’m just less tolerant.

daddy swiss

November 13th, 2013
3:28 pm

disco — I don’t know about the dust, but I’ve got the extra strength baby cream, so be careful when you walk past me…. lol

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
3:30 pm

“a fireplace in the master bedroom, a gourmet kitchen and an outdoor kitchen & entertainment area was on my list.”

Kimmie, since you mentioned it…yep, yep, yep and yep.

The outdoor kitchen was his thing. His list consisted of a family media room with a big screen for watching football and a grand outdoor kitchen.

No man cave like all his buddies tried to talk him into. His train of thought is he actually likes spending time with the wife and kids so he doesn’t need a room in his own house to escape from us.

Exiled

November 13th, 2013
3:30 pm

I choose my battles better now

see Cutie!…she said Now!

:lol: :lol:

disco

November 13th, 2013
3:30 pm

2C – easy. easy. down boy.

swiss – duly noted. lol.

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
3:32 pm

Disco, my hub is 6′4″. My late husband was 6′2″ and son’s father is 6′2″. 2Can is shorter than 6ft.

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
3:34 pm

Raqi, I’mma need for you to not do that…..disco wanna know bout me, she know how to reach me….that 3rd party sh!t is lame….

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
3:34 pm

SexyCool, do like I did. Just throw away the birth control and let nature do what nature does.

But don’t hate me after the 3rd pregnancy and a couple toddlers at 40+. LOL

disco

November 13th, 2013
3:34 pm

thanks raqi. now for a little instigating.

2C – you can’t tell raqi what to do. lol.

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
3:35 pm

Raqi ~ those heights are dizzying to disco…she short too!

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
3:37 pm

disco ~ mail call.

kimmie

November 13th, 2013
3:37 pm

Exiled – I do talk alot of trash sometimes, just clowning, and my hubs loves it! He’s a preacher’s kid, so he loves it when folks let their hair down. I’m actually kinda quiet and observant most of the time, especially when out. Not anti-social at all, just like to take in the atmosphere and what everyone is saying. Contribute some to the convo, but love to hear what others are saying too.

I love to clown and keep the kids laughing and on their toes!

disco

November 13th, 2013
3:37 pm

2C – what would have been lame is if I would have emailed you, we would have got to chit chatting all willy nilly and then somewhere down the line I would have found out you were 5’5” tall. that would have been lame because I would have been like “oh heyall naw”. lol.

leggs – I’m short but trust, those heights are not dizzying. I can put those heights to work. short dude, we be bumping heads (literally and figuratively but mostly literally). lol.

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
3:37 pm

YesSheIsCute, I remember one day I was in a really off mood and I wanted something but did not know what it was. The hub tried his best to convince me that I wanted or rather needed “Him”. I know my body and I knew I did not want or need sex. I convinced him that he would be the only one satisfied when it was all over. I needed something else.

Which turned out to be a heart to heart with my sister and about very personal matter.

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
3:40 pm

I hear ya, disco. I didn’t really thing they would be dizzying since you’re over 4′.

Mrs. SexyCool

November 13th, 2013
3:40 pm

Um…yeah….no….(giving you major side eye right now…lol)

We are in wealth-building mode right now. I ain’t got time for no babies.

Durty Burd

November 13th, 2013
3:42 pm

Raqi..Elijah, L.u.r.k.e.r.007 I had many names back in 2009.

YSIC…I see u have not experience the awesomeness of the O…Let me take you there, because it what I do. Let me be the one you come running too, I’ll never be untrue, lets get together, loving you whether times are good or bad…Come on YSIC lets get together…

Disco…Curtis Mathis…one from the past, a very good brand at the time…Was Mr. Hero’s in your parts? My favorite FFR..

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
3:43 pm

2Can, I am sorry. I will stop. (You see what life is going to be like with me in your next life. LOL)

However in my own defense I am trying to get her to give you try. Seriously. No joke. When I said you seem like a pretty good catch I was not joking. She needs to get in there while the window of opportunity is open.

I am her wing-women in your court.

daddy swiss

November 13th, 2013
3:43 pm

“short dude, we be bumping heads”

disco — Tall dude, same story. Just different head. lol

disco

November 13th, 2013
3:43 pm

durty – I don’t know anything about mr. hero’s.

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
3:45 pm

Durty ~ I thank you for your honesty. I already knew, but thanks

YesSheIsCute

November 13th, 2013
3:45 pm

@disco I have dated short before. The shortest I dated was a guy my height before (I’m 5′4).

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
3:46 pm

Raqi….I don’t need or want a wingman for disco….matta fact, I’on even like her no ‘mo……

I don’t have a prollem with my height; cause I didn’t have a say in that matter…..but those things that I can control…..I got ‘em under control….

YesSheIsCute

November 13th, 2013
3:47 pm

@DB did you just quote the Reverend? Al Green/ :lol:

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
3:47 pm

SexyCool, I need to invite you over for Christmas so you can watch mine play for a while and then fight for a while. Then you will be telling M, “Baby please give me one of those for Christmas next year. Pleeease.”.

disco

November 13th, 2013
3:48 pm

swiss – touché. lol. still that seeing eye to eye thing – smdh. honestly though, larger men tend to me more receptive to my big mouth and idle threats. they know it’s just who I am, how I am. shorter/smaller men tend to take it more personal. like just because I called them a midget bastid I meant something by it. lol.

raqi – thanks. your efforts are appreciated.

kimmie

November 13th, 2013
3:48 pm

Speaking of back-in-the-day, I heard Rick James song Bustin Out this morning. That was a really funky joint!

disco

November 13th, 2013
3:49 pm

2C – if you don’t like me no more then you probably never liked me in the first place. I’m all torn up though. where’s bluz? I wonder if there is room on the couch for me.

disco

November 13th, 2013
3:52 pm

y’all I’m feeling like Yvette in baby boy when she said jody don’t love her no more.

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
3:53 pm

2Can, I think the whole height thing (now that I am older and more mature) is so stupid.

All my younger years I was attracted to tall guys. Although I am married to a tall guy my love and attraction for him has absolutely nothing to do with his height.

When I first decided that I wanted to “be” with him it was because he was a tried and true friend. At that moment when I gave myself to him his height nor skin tone had nothing to do with it. It was his character, friendship and love that drew me in.

Celisea

November 13th, 2013
3:53 pm

where’s bluz?

Once again, someone brought me out….lolololol She here…not “she’s here”….she here….ummm, in spirit of course :)

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
3:53 pm

disco, it’s aiiiight, like the gambler, you gotta know when to hold ‘em, and when to fold ‘em……

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
3:56 pm

“larger men tend to me more receptive to my big mouth” – swiss, you’re letting that go by (lolol)?

Mrs. SexyCool

November 13th, 2013
3:57 pm

I got over the height thing as well. With M, he and I are practically the same height. He may have me by an eighth of an inch.

It’s not like he’s a shorty. I have actually come to realize that I’m glad that he is the height that he is. It’s a perfect height.

However, there was a time when I would not have dated him because he was not tall enough.

#GoFigure

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
3:57 pm

2Can do you like much older women? Have you considered Leggs? I know she feels most men her age are lame. You seem to be enough energy to keep her entertained.

disco

November 13th, 2013
3:58 pm

2C – aww sookie. know when to walk away, know when to run. you never count your money, when you sitting at the table, there’ll be time enough for counting, when the dealing’s done. lol.

leggs – stop. i been putting all kinds of invites out there today haven’t i? lol.

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
3:58 pm

Raqi, when I was younger, it was a hangup for me, but them gals would be like “he so cute,” so I took that sh!t and flipped it, developed a swag outta this world, and used all of it to my advantage…..shiiiid, I was the original “Biggie Smalls!”

Mrs. SexyCool

November 13th, 2013
3:59 pm

o_O

Didn’t see that coming…

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
4:00 pm

da hell is this, hook 2C up day? Raqi, I’m good, boo…..

Durty Burd

November 13th, 2013
4:00 pm

YSIC…That is from the Rev. Green…Once I get to know I will have some personal words for you… :wink:

No one brought you out! U just cannot help yourself..There is some bad in you Celisea…

Raqi’s favorite Phrase “I gave myself to him” I going to use that…lol

disco

November 13th, 2013
4:01 pm

raqi – are you calling leggs “much older”? lol.

2C – what? you really on the blog looking for a love connection or just some email friends?

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
4:01 pm

2Can, I am just kidding about Leggs darling. That was for her not you. You just read it before she did. LOL

Durty Burd

November 13th, 2013
4:03 pm

SlimNu, YSIC, and Leggs give yourselves, give youselves to me! lol

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
4:04 pm

“do you like much older women?: – that sentence would have had the same affect if you eliminated the word “much” (lol). 2C and I are…well, it’s complicated. J/K…we’re like siblings.

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
4:04 pm

disco, I am NEVER looking for a love connection, baby-girl….love develops….. from those that you meet, and form a bond with…..

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
4:04 pm

disco ~ ok, I’ll stop. :lol: :lol: