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Open to open marriage?

I was at a friend’s party recently and a bunch of couples were in attendance. Somehow the topic of marriage came up and one of the guys said that he and his wife contemplated having an open marriage. Of course, we all got nosy and asked loads of questions but they were pretty candid about what they wanted to try.

The husband basically said that he did not feel that monogamy was a realistic idea in terms of “forever faithful” so why not be practical about it? They agree to be honest when they meet someone they are attracted to. They also believe that they can date and pursue romantic interests as long as they inform the other.

I personally can’t imagine doing this type of open marriage, but I won’t knock it. I just think traditional marriage is not for everyone. If a couple can find a way to make this work for them, who am I to judge?

Would you ever consider having an open marriage? Do you think it is realistic?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

317 comments Add your comment

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
2:36 pm

everyone in Blogsville are good folk

no we ain’t…..cause some of my blog gals gon’ make me pull out the baby powder, and get some straightenin!!!!

YesSheIsCute

November 13th, 2013
2:38 pm

@2C I’m so focused!

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
2:40 pm

@2C I’m so focused!

ok, sugar, gon let Durty know you’re off the market….

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
2:41 pm

Ex ~ I saw the proviso. Was just wondering why you always say those 2 first. No harm, no foul! Just a question.

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
2:41 pm

Kimmie, I think I did. I am embarrassed to say how long I was angry. LOL But I do like the fact that I was well over it when we decided to buy another house.

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
2:41 pm

Leggs, my sleep number changed with Mason. Carrying him was very different from carrying Liz. Now my number fluctuates depending on how my day goes. LOL

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
2:42 pm

Raqi ~ have you noticed that when you come around someone talks about baby powder?

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
2:42 pm

“Naw, no one here is saying that! May have been past bloggers, but everyone in Blogsville are good folk (lol).”

Leggs, you know I know better, right? LOL

kimmie

November 13th, 2013
2:42 pm

….u going off script..i said none about equal pay etc….thats for another day..dont u think?

Exiled – When I hear “women’s rights”, equal pay and right to vote are front and center. Before those rights, here in America at least,women did have the right to come and go as they pleased, didn’t need to walk 10 stepps behind a man or ask his permission to speak. What are you talking about??? :shock:

As for the Old Testament, there was all kinds of torture and warped ways of doing things for everyone, not just women. Jesus arrived in the New Testament to clear up all that. I “believe” what’s in the Old but “follow” the teachings of the New.

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
2:44 pm

Leggs, who Toucan?

Girl he better talk about babies and powder with Disco or YesSheIsCute. He knows in our next life there won’t be no babies. Just me and him going thru the motion. LOL

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
2:47 pm

Kimmie, we chose wide plank hardwood floors for our new house.

(I know you don’t care but this is me trying to distract you. LOL)

kimmie

November 13th, 2013
2:50 pm

Raqi – No need, you got me distracted, I said my peace to Exiled! Tell me more about the house! What are you doing to the kitchen? Do you have a Oprah-sized walkin closet in the master? Do you have a fireplace?

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
2:51 pm

Raqi, don’t pay Leggs no mind…..she needs some, that’s all……Leggs, gon go to dinner with ol dude and finish it up with a nice lil nightcap……for your benefit, of course….

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
2:51 pm

Yes, Raqi…was simply deflecting albeit quite poorly (lol).

Toucan is @2CPTG

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
2:54 pm

ya know, I gotta admit…..knowin how the majority of y’all blog gals look, and communicating with a few off blog…….all y’all beautiful….

I wanna hunch all y’all…….

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
2:55 pm

Raqi ~ 2C cannot have that convo with disco. She’ll throw a brick at him.

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
2:56 pm

2C cannot have that convo with disco. She’ll throw a brick at him

I gotta brick for her ass, and it ain’t a square one…..nor the kind wrapped in celophane…

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
2:57 pm

she needs some, that’s all – you guys kill me always saying that. But, you’re right, I’m going to finish it up with a night cap. He’ll get in his car going to his home and I’ll get in mine going to my home. I’ll go under the kitchen sink and probably pour myself a double!

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
2:59 pm

Thank you, 2C. Not on the hunching part (lol).

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
2:59 pm

2C ~ I don’t care what you wrap it up in, you best wrap it up!

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
3:01 pm

fa real, Leggs….I chat with some of these gals,and be like damn Ma, and you’re single???? I tell you, it’s a blessing and a curse knowing some of y’all……

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
3:02 pm

Kimmie, you know I am modest. There isn’t much to tell. (LOL) A couple of fireplaces and a decent sized closet. You will see the link to my temporary New Nest blog when I post it.

Imma wait on the Oprah sized closet for when 2Can and I meet up in the next life. LOL Oh yeah in our house by the lake.

Exiled

November 13th, 2013
3:02 pm

I “believe” what’s in the Old but “follow” the teachings of the New.

@Kimmie..ok..maybe u know ur bible better than me….where in the New Testament does it say No Polygamy? or Monogamy..

the script please…

Anybody?

YesSheIsCute

November 13th, 2013
3:05 pm

Speaking of brick, it’s brick outside. I mean if it’s gonna get this cold I might as well move back to New York or Germany.

@Leggs why do men always attribute something to either “needing some” or “that time of the month”? Sex is not a cure all and menses is not a curse. I’ll stop it right there before I get on my menses soapbox.

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
3:08 pm

Ex…..

1Corinthians 7:2 “each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband”

disco

November 13th, 2013
3:09 pm

leggs – 1:17. good one. speaking of grown toys. I went to bingo at the beginning of the year. had to buy a “dobber” or whatever they are called. only went to bingo once, tossed the thing in a drawer. how come someone rifling through the drawer said it looked dirty. I was like “dirty? I only used it once”. turns out they meant it looked like an adult toy. some people. I was cracking up though. an adult toy right there in the dining room. doesn’t that beat all? lol.

Mrs. SexyCool

November 13th, 2013
3:09 pm

Rock/kimmie – I was just looking at some of our old emails when I was telling you guys that M had said that we needed to keep the wedding budget to $2K.

You know we spent closer to $6K – 7 if you include my dress. (which I still need to decide what I’m going to do with it.)

YesSheIsCute

November 13th, 2013
3:10 pm

Oh snap! And on that not sorry DB I’m off the market….

YesSheIsCute

November 13th, 2013
3:10 pm

Durty Burd

November 13th, 2013
3:12 pm

2C…YSIC don’t tell 2C we are about to starting this dating process…hehehehehe!

Raqi…Never tne b-word, but use is crazy, you work mase like an old skillet in momma’s kitchen…lol

2C…Send some of the blog ladies over cheer, I will glad fullfill some of those wants… :)

There are some fine sistas on the blog, YSIC send me a pic…at durtyburdet007@yahoo.com

Wake-up, wake- up lets Hunch tonight, Baby I’m hot like an oven and I can’t hold it much longer, wake-up wake-up lets hunch tonight. Hunching is good for me, its hunching healing….. hehehehehe!

Exiled

November 13th, 2013
3:13 pm

Sex is not a cure all

@Cutie..sex wikll cure ur high blood pressure and angst…..No lie!

any of these gals who have a short gun every time a man says some and they get angry…if u observe closely,they aint getting none.

I will tell u a lil secret because I been on this blog long enough…..
Kimmie and Sexcool..they used to be loud moufs and whatnot…(no diss ladies,just my observation)

since they got hitched…theyre very mild mannered…speak very calmly etc..u can sense the maturity and calm in their delivery,even when we dont agree….

what u think caused that Cutie??

Take ur pick! :lol:

disco

November 13th, 2013
3:14 pm

kimmie – re 1:29 chilling and hanging. it made me think of the wood when they were “chilling / macking”. lol.

leggs – re vacation time. I’m thinking of going to turks and caicos (or somewhere) with mine. trying to work it out.

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
3:14 pm

YesIsSheCute, you may joking but that is so true. What is the matter with us it has to have something to do with the love box. I think they are obsessed with our love boxes.

Exiled

November 13th, 2013
3:14 pm

1Corinthians 7:2 “each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband”

@2Can….

ok….it does not say “each man..with his own one wife’

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
3:15 pm

SexyCool, have you thought about selling it at a consignment shop?

disco

November 13th, 2013
3:15 pm

raqi – 2:44. huh????? lol.

2C – was that a threat or a promise? lol.

kimmie

November 13th, 2013
3:16 pm

….where in the New Testament does it say No Polygamy? or Monogamy..

Exiled – I have no idea. I didn’t say either were there or not there to begin with. I do know there are alot of things that were “done” by folks in the bible, but God didn’t sanction them, saying “hey this is what you are to do”. Alot is still left up to how man interprets it. Folks believe and follow what they want to believe. Polygamy is not practiced by the faith me & my husband choose to follow.

I think it’s a difference between today’s topic, open marriage and polygamy. I thought polygamy meant having more than one spouse, not just being free to have more than your spouse as a sex partner. I could be wrong though, cause it’s not a part of my world in any way. Shrugs

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
3:17 pm

Ex……I would openly agree with you, but Cutie is giving Durty his walking papers, so ummm….

Nah bruh….one man, one wife….

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
3:18 pm

Durty Burd, that statement leads me to believe you have been around these blog parts for quite some time. I know I took at least a 2 year break from here and I don’t recall your name before my LOA.

I only know it from these last few times I have visited here. Who are…or were you back then?

SlimNu

November 13th, 2013
3:18 pm

I’ll go under the kitchen sink and probably pour myself a double!

Leggs – Thanks for letting me know where you keep your stash lol

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
3:19 pm

disco, no threats here……but ye’en gon’ shake nuttin, so ain’t no need in even going there….just know I’on need no blue pill…

Mrs. SexyCool

November 13th, 2013
3:19 pm

The biggest reason I haven’t done anything with it is that I’m not completely crazy about our wedding photos.

For two reasons:
1. We really did not give ourselves enough time between the ceremony and the reception for photos. Mostly because we were trying to keep the afternoon short and sweet.

2. Our photographer did a LOT more editing with our engagement photos and I like them better.

So, in the back of my head, I have this thought that I’m going to have another photo session with M and I in our wedding attire so that I can get better editing.

But so far…it’s just been this idea that’s been in the back of my head.

Celisea

November 13th, 2013
3:21 pm

I want a snack….uuuggghhh

MMeello – Stop playing with God!!!

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
3:21 pm

Disco, I think 2Can would make a good father. Gone head and get with that.

He is a lot shorter than I normally prefer (LOL) and a bit darker than I have preferred but I think he may be a good catch. Despite popular belief a certain height and skin tone does not a good man make.

kimmie

November 13th, 2013
3:22 pm

Disco – LOL!! That is hilarious because when I typed that I was thinking of that line in The Wood!!LOL!!

Raqi – Sounds very nice!! Me & hubs were discussing what we would want in a dream house. The Oprah-sized closet, a fireplace in the master bedroom, a gourmet kitchen and an outdoor kitchen & entertainment area was on my list. An indoor/outdoor pool/jacuzzi too.

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
3:22 pm

disco, in reference to Raqi’s 2:44…..she and I got this thing set up for next lifetime…I don’t disrespect the sanctity of marriage, so I got dibs on the next go ’round….

I bet Durty over there sayin…..ain’t this some sh!t, this nikka got coochie lined up in heaven!

disco

November 13th, 2013
3:23 pm

raqi – I repeat – huh?????? lol. did the blog get together and perform a séance or something? y’all trying to jinx ole disco? lol.

leggs – who is in charge of the baby dust?

disco

November 13th, 2013
3:24 pm

raqi – also just how short is shorter than you normally prefer? you know I asked 2C for stats but he was acting all stank a dank dank about it.

Exiled

November 13th, 2013
3:25 pm

2 Can..when we go on our safari to south africa ,hopefully next year,im gon encourage u to marry 2 women in the traditional marriage ceremony over there….as long as u still not married here in the states..

maybe u can later convince these ladies how good that is because they have a lot of misconceptions…..

when u have more than one,u got :

no “i got a lil headache” excuse

no “im on” excuse

no” i aint giving u none because u did not do” abcd…none of that

no, “im in a bad mood” excuse..
‘it was hard at work today” excuse

and u know when u getting some because ur gals got bedroom calender schedules….

and defionately no meh perfomance issues because of competition..

Everybody Brings it! :lol:

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
3:25 pm

SexyCool, that’s a good idea. My friend Mari was pregnant and showing when she married her hub so they had professional shots taken after she gave birth to her first. However she was already pregnant with #2 during the photo shoot but just not showing yet.

Pregnant at her 6 week checkup. LOL

Are you and M going to have a little one?