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Open to open marriage?

I was at a friend’s party recently and a bunch of couples were in attendance. Somehow the topic of marriage came up and one of the guys said that he and his wife contemplated having an open marriage. Of course, we all got nosy and asked loads of questions but they were pretty candid about what they wanted to try.

The husband basically said that he did not feel that monogamy was a realistic idea in terms of “forever faithful” so why not be practical about it? They agree to be honest when they meet someone they are attracted to. They also believe that they can date and pursue romantic interests as long as they inform the other.

I personally can’t imagine doing this type of open marriage, but I won’t knock it. I just think traditional marriage is not for everyone. If a couple can find a way to make this work for them, who am I to judge?

Would you ever consider having an open marriage? Do you think it is realistic?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

317 comments Add your comment

YesSheIsCute

November 13th, 2013
1:05 pm

@Leggs my downstairs neighbors put the Christmas tree up earlier last week. I was like dang, it JUST turned November :? I live by the Brandsmart in Stockbridge. I might see what they are talking about for Black Friday.

Exiled

November 13th, 2013
1:06 pm

I think greed, selfishness, and lack of morals is more reason why people are not following the bible

@Leggs..RIGHTS…

Homosexuality is sanctioned as a way to give folks equal Rights…and this followed the granting of women’s Rights..

When women won their “Rights”,that was the beginning of the Right movement…..and the license to denigrate the way God intended it.
Now,these days,go on a pedestal and denounce gay Rights and see what hammer is gon hit u..even though u will be standing on God’s good grounds….

tell me some..Abraham,Isaac etc all those folks had more than one wife..they were immoral?

where is Celisea?

talk baout open marriage bad.

who is gon hunch ALL these women with no hubbs?

God’s will has been violated by man’s one wife rule!

Its abomination!

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
1:08 pm

“He’s MY husband and I ain’t sharing. #ThatIsAll”

I am LMBO. You get the best comment of day award.

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
1:09 pm

Durty has it bad, real bad!

YesSheIsCute

November 13th, 2013
1:12 pm

I like poetry :D

Exiled

November 13th, 2013
1:13 pm

and some of u are in the habit of hunching urselves with instruments bought fram stores…

and u talk about God with the side of ur moufs! :lol:

sickening!

I tell..man need to stand up and March..so these guberments sanctions Polygamy!

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
1:15 pm

YSIC ~ it’s not Black Friday anymore…it’s Black Thursday (lol). Well, some still have Black Friday, but it’s going to be taken over by Black Thursday.

“When women won their “Rights”,that was the beginning of the Right movement…..and the license to denigrate the way God intended it.” – You make it sound like women had no “right” to seek equal or just treatment and respect. You make it sound like by them speaking up, they missed their station to be belittled, to want better for themselves. You make it sound like their “rightful” place was two steps behind the man doing whatever he told her to do. I see nothing wrong with them standing up for their “rights.” Please remember, it’s not only the advent of women’s rights that may have corrupted the land. The greed of man also corrupted the land and men who think women are less than them corrupted the land and their own souls for believing they themselves are God!

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
1:16 pm

Not that you all care…but…

The only decision I am on the fence about not too sure I made the right decision is in the new Nest is the master being on the main level while the kiddies are upstairs.

My thought process at the time was having a certain level of privacy for now and when we get older not having to go up and down the stairs so much every day.

After the boy moves out the two youngsters are going to then be upstairs alone. Hopefully I will get used to not being just down the hall from them quickly. I do know the first few nights staying there is going to work my nerves worrying about my babies being “alone”.

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
1:17 pm

“and some of u are in the habit of hunching urselves with instruments bought fram stores…”

and some of you are in the habit of hunching yourselves with your own hand!

SlimNu

November 13th, 2013
1:22 pm

Ooooh poetry….ya know i’m into that Durty….but we wanna know who you are referring to. No blog open relationship here though :roll:

YesSheIsCute

November 13th, 2013
1:22 pm

You know, I really cringe at the term hunching. I always envision the Hunchback of Notre Dame (Quasimodo) everytime you guys say it. Carry on.

SlimNu

November 13th, 2013
1:25 pm

They were discussing what Akon on the radio saying how monogamy not being in the makeup of men. Call it brainwashing or whatever but I’m not into sharing my significant other, knowlingly anyway.

Exiled

November 13th, 2013
1:25 pm

true dat..Leggs..
any man that self relieves…..shame on them….with all these many women around..how can a real man self hunch?

marry as many women as u like and u can hunch as much as u like

God sanctions it!

SlimNu

November 13th, 2013
1:25 pm

some of you are in the habit of hunching yourselves with your own hand!

Leggs – Good comeback! lol

SlimNu

November 13th, 2013
1:27 pm

Ex – So are you trying to tell us that you don’t self-hunch??

kimmie

November 13th, 2013
1:29 pm

Raqi – I’m so behind. So the house you all inherited in VA was a no-go? Either way, I’m happy and excited for ya!

Dudes kill me trying to blame their tired views of women on the women’s rights movement!LOL!

Disco – Going to Florida the week of Christmas. So very excited to get away. I’m not gon do jack. Let the hubs run around with the kids at the theme parks. I’m chillin, hangin, and getting my spa on!

Mrs. SexyCool

November 13th, 2013
1:31 pm

Yay for you, kimmie. (lol)

Mrs. SexyCool

November 13th, 2013
1:32 pm

I’m actually going the first weekend of December for a girlfriends’ retreat. We have rented a big A house and have hired a chef to do all of our shopping and cooking for the three days.

I. Can’t. Wait.

Celisea

November 13th, 2013
1:34 pm

I’m on vacay for two weeks at Christmas :mrgreen: Yay, Celisea!!

Celisea

November 13th, 2013
1:35 pm

And what’s better than a vacation? A planned vacation :) Yay, Celisea Oh, and an significant other.

kimmie

November 13th, 2013
1:35 pm

SCool – Dang girl, that sounds like it would put a Real Housewives episode to shame! Sounds fabulous!!

Exiled

November 13th, 2013
1:35 pm

I think greed, selfishness, and lack of morals is more reason why people are not following the bible

@Slim

NEVER…unless its involuntary…..
like say,if i havent hunched for a bit and i go to urinate,sometime a man can get h0rny right there and find themselves puking semen after the urine gets out..u get the feeling of a little hottness…its involuntary….i have no control on that other than to hunch to get a woman and hunch…

now to really plan it and say..lemme sit down here and self hunch. and start the pump fake like i am hunching…thats crazy…unless i were in prison and denied of service …maybe ..just maybe….

Self hunching is weak!…why..u cant get a woman…??

lame

Exiled

November 13th, 2013
1:36 pm

So are you trying to tell us that you don’t self-hunch??

@Slim..i meant to paste this…sorry

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

November 13th, 2013
1:40 pm

@Raqi

Believe me, if I had to do it over again, I’d have had the kids upstairs and the master (as one side of the house and) downstairs.

Mrs. SexyCool

November 13th, 2013
1:45 pm

kimmie – we better not have any RHOA type drama. (lol)

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
1:46 pm

Dudes kill me trying to blame their tired views of women on the women’s rights movement!LOL!

Me too!!!

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
1:48 pm

That sounds like a fabulous vacation, Mrs.SexyC. Enjoy.
Celisea ~ enjoy your 2 weeks off.

Celisea

November 13th, 2013
1:50 pm

Leggs – Thanks…I plan to really enjoy that time :)

kimmie

November 13th, 2013
1:51 pm

Leggs – My thing is, if you are doing what you need to do and are secure with yourself as a man, why should women having rights threaten you in any way?

Exiled

November 13th, 2013
1:57 pm

Dudes kill me trying to blame their tired views of women on the women’s rights movement

these are God’s views,not mine nor dudes…

read ur bible ladies..dont just listen to Eddie or Creflo’s(or whoever) compromised delivery and take that as gospel.

because of women’s superior numerical numbers these days,a lot of messages,even church sermons are female targeted…to win female audiences and bring money to the parties(churches) involved.

But that aint God’s true message..a lot of times…it is a doctored message.

It is what brings the $$$$$$$$$$$

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
1:58 pm

Kimmie, you remember that Happy Wife, Happy Life comment? Well my b-i-l’s wife and I were back and forth on it. She was worrying her other half about it and he was worrying my other half about it.

My other half told me to just let her have it so HIS life can be at peace. Forget my happiness. He needs peace in his life. I grudgingly let her have it (Not to mention it was his inheritance to do with what he wanted, not mine. LOL). Everyone was HAPPY now except RAQI so I subtly pouted for a lot longer than any grown woman should pout about anything. LOL

During a discussion one day we both agreed that even though moving to VA is not profitable for him right now we did want to find a new house.

We got the CO for our new house last week.

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
1:58 pm

SexyCool, that sounds like fun.

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
1:59 pm

I’m with you, kimmie. Not only that, why do you have to always bash women and not recognize the great strides women have made. How come the fall of the woman is because of Women’s Rights. Why not speak on the rise of women because of women’s rights?

The man formerly know as DAN - still...Superior

November 13th, 2013
2:01 pm

I envy yall sometimes….

My “vacation” this Christmas break will consist of sleep.

Next year we have 2 trips to Minnesota for two separate weddings and I (at least) have to go to TX for my homegirl’s wedding.

FML

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
2:03 pm

Dan, I think I will feel less worry as I get used to it. I know I would be less concerned now if they were a lot older. But I’ll get used to it.

The whole privacy thing is what we look forward to. Not having little kids and any kids for that matter, just a few doors away but an entire set of stairs away. LOL

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
2:05 pm

I was told that I live on vacation. LOL

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
2:09 pm

read ur bible ladies..dont just listen to Eddie or Creflo’s

You always mention those two. Do you really think anyone on this blog listen to doctrine from their point of view. I think not.

kimmie

November 13th, 2013
2:10 pm

Exiled – We know you follow the old Testament. You pick and choose what you want to follow & believe anyway. Alot of stuff is man’s interpretation too. I never have followed Eddie or Creflo.

But if expecting to be treated with respect, free to think for myself and get paid equally for the same job is going against the good book to you – count me guilty. Imma have to pay for all this sinning I’m doing every day I guess. The God I worship is a loving God. He would not have given me, and other women, these rights if he didn’t want us to have them.

That’s all the preaching I’m doing. I’ve broken my rule of discussing religion as it is! :)

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
2:14 pm

I have so much vacation not sure what to do this time around. I know I’m taking the week of Thanksgiving off, probably 1-2 weeks for Christmas wrapping into NYE. I have to use all before 2/14. Had to put in my cash out option just yesterday for 40 hrs.

SlimNu

November 13th, 2013
2:18 pm

Dan – Attending weddings sounds like it really isn’t your thing…hence the FML. lolol

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
2:21 pm

Cuite, you flirt too much.

:shock:

YesSheIsCute

November 13th, 2013
2:23 pm

Leggs I need to get like you. I hoarded held on to a week and a half vacation and really thought I was doing something. At least you have the option of using yours. They are denying us all of our holiday requests so basically it’s use it on the weeks in between the holidays or cash out. :(

YesSheIsCute

November 13th, 2013
2:23 pm

@2C What did I say?! :?

2CPTG©

November 13th, 2013
2:25 pm

can’t you see these blog dudes are trynna dismantle this thing we got going? I’mma need for you to stay focused on us…..

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
2:26 pm

I bet you won’t say it to my face…monitor.

Raqi

November 13th, 2013
2:30 pm

I am cracking up at myself because I know there is at least one person saying “what is that crazy woman talking about?, at least one person saying “I wonder if she is talking about me?” and at least one person saying “I can’t stand that “B”!” LOL

kimmie

November 13th, 2013
2:31 pm

Raqi – Sounds to me like you got the better deal. A husband at peace and a house designed just like you want.

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
2:32 pm

Hey Raqi ~ with the birth of Elizabeth, did your sleep number change (lol). I’ll never forget that random!

Leggs

November 13th, 2013
2:33 pm

and at least one person saying “I can’t stand that “B”!” LOL

Naw, no one here is saying that! May have been past bloggers, but everyone in Blogsville are good folk (lol).

Exiled

November 13th, 2013
2:34 pm

dont just listen to Eddie or Creflo’s

@Leggs..there was a proviso after those 2 names to accomodate whoever u listen to…u decided not to copy and paste that..thats on u..

@Kimmie….u going off script..i said none about equal pay etc….thats for another day..dont u think?

So u ladies dont believe in the old testament?