Every now and again, I get an email from someone asking me for tips on how they can make their partner change. They get it in their heads that if they love someone enough, give them great sex, and sometimes financially support them, then eventually they will become the person they want them to be. This is when I know it’s basically a fairy tale that people are seeking, I call it Matrix Dating – not based in reality, but stuck in some kind of matrix that is half real, half fantasy.
Listen, there is no real way to make someone become marriage material. I do believe that people can change and grow, but I don’t think this growth can be coerced and manipulated. I have heard some men say that their woman forced them to grow up and become more mature, but I never heard anyone say it was because they demanded it.
Do you think that there is a way to inspire someone to grow and change? If someone has great potential, can a person mold them into becoming someone who is marriage material?
Has a relationship ever changed you for the better? How did they change you?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog