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Why does sex change things?

My friend Brooke wants to do a dating do over. She wants to go back in time before she and her guy decided to become intimate. There has been a change in his attitude towards her and she thinks it is because they had sex. He isn’t as attentive or affectionate and he acts kind of distant towards her at times. Now she wonders if they had sex too soon at three months.

Why does sex sometimes change the dynamics in a relationship?

Do you believe that the way men and women view sex in a relationship differs? In a new relationship, how do you know if it is the right time to get physical?

If things change after sex, would you break things off?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

211 comments Add your comment

abc

November 6th, 2013
4:34 pm

To paraphrase Reio, all relationships start out as strange. Sure, intimacy changes things — motivating either a search for more strange, or to no longer be looking. I think that’s self evident.

Mrs. SexyCool

November 6th, 2013
4:37 pm

But that’s the thing – just like there are those of you that don’t want to wait – there are those that will wait – even if they don’t want to wait or won’t admit to being willing to wait.

And after I reached a certain maturity and confidence in self, I realized that IF my thing was to wait and he didn’t want to, well, he just eliminated himself and I was fine with that.

It is really about chicks letting themselves get too caught up emotionally and not being able to see past one dude to the next one.

Reio

November 6th, 2013
4:40 pm

Ladies, in my opinion, in a new relationship, should this come up early, is to make sure he knows that you are not against it in the future. Don’t just keep putting him off with no indication that the possibility exists.

abc

November 6th, 2013
4:42 pm

I’d say the longest I’ve ever had to wait is a couple of weeks, so I don’t know if I would or not.

Sassy Me

November 6th, 2013
4:43 pm

Don’t just keep putting him off with no indication that the possibility exists.

Point made, point taken…understood.

IF my thing was to wait and he didn’t want to, well, he just eliminated himself and I was fine with that.

Exactly!

DuShawn

November 6th, 2013
4:44 pm

I waited for Wifey longer than three months. She spent several nights in my bed and still would not give me none. I enjoyed being with her so much it didn’t matter. We were grown, we both knew it was inevitable.

Mrs. SexyCool

November 6th, 2013
4:45 pm

Totally off topic – I just got off the phone with M. My husband does IT for me.

I’m about to go home….and cuddle. (lol)

Exiled

November 6th, 2013
4:45 pm

I waited for more than 2 years but I had moved on by the time it happened.

And it wasn’t even All that!

U wonder??

Reio

November 6th, 2013
4:48 pm

I think the longest I waited may have been just over a month. She was sweet and kind. And gave me the impression that she was not against two people be intimate in a committed relationship, which was all the information I was seeking in the first place. Ironically, the one I married, didn’t even make me wait THAT long. After our initial conversation on the matter, initiated by me, she let me know how she felt about it, and we began pleasing each other not long after that. I stuck around because she let me know that she was not against it.

Sassy Me

November 6th, 2013
4:50 pm

I’m about to go home….and cuddle.

Awwwwww….

Sassy Me

November 6th, 2013
4:57 pm

Have a good evening y’all :mrgreen: