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Archive for November, 2013

Happy Thanksgiving!

I am off the rest of this week. I want to take this post to thank each of you readers for checking in each day. It has been such a pleasure reading your comments. I am thankful for you!

What are you most thankful for?

Is there someone from your past you are grateful to have met? Do you look back on any experience and feel thankful that you went through it?

Have a wonderful Holiday!

Bu Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

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Are bars good for meeting people?

I have been arguing debating with my friend Jeff about whether or not bars and clubs are good places to pick up women. Jeff is a little high strung (sorry bud, it’s true!) so of course he scoffs at the idea of meeting quality women at bars. I, on the other hand, have met the most raging, offensive jerks at networking events and ummm church. So I don’t believe that bars are all that bad if you want to meet someone nice.

Photocredit: ThinkStock

Photocredit: ThinkStock

The last time I was at a Happy Hour I met a really great guy. I was out celebrating a promotion, not even really looking to meet anyone at all. Then a guy that was next to me struck up a conversation and it was instant sparks – totally unexpected.

When we went on our first date, he actually said, “I did not expect to meet someone of your caliber at a bar!”. Just goes to show you that we have to drop some of our old ways of thinking. There are very few places you can’t meet someone nice. I mean, other then funerals and family …

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Dating: How honest should we be?

Everyone says that relationships work better when there is honesty. Oddly enough, honesty can have the opposite effect in dating. Can you remember the last time you were totally honest on a date? Do you know how someone would react if you said exactly what you were thinking?

I think everyone tries to filter themselves and put their best foot forward. This usually means we aren’t saying the total truth because the whole truth could get…well rather awkward! So when it comes to dating, how honest should we be and how long should it take for total honesty?

Do you think that people can handle honesty?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

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Anatomy of a good date

Believe it or not, some of us have never experienced a great date. We have been on lots of bad, boring, or blah dates, but great? Not many of us can say that. A really great date doesn’t have to be over the top or costly, either. I think that the ingredients of a great date is: location (conducive to conversation), chemistry (serious attraction sparks), and laughter!

What do you think makes up a great date? What are things that make a date miserable?

Do you think you have to plan great dates or do they just happen spontaneously?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

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Should size really matter?

Some women get tagged with the title Size Queen because they have certain preferences in how large a man’s “package” has to be. They believe that this is the only way to guarantee pleasure so they kind of discriminate those who don’t meet the size requirements. Is that really fair, though?

I have debated with friends about this before because I understand how important it is for men and their pride when it comes to a man’s “big ego.” Some men are insecure about their size and they try to compensate for it in other ways. Other men are oblivious or in denial about it. Whatever the case, when you are with a partner you care about, you find a way to empathetic and sensitive to them.

It’s rather silly to break up with a guy because of his size, but I know a lot of women who do it.

Do you think size really matters? Aren’t there ways to work around it?

How do you adjust and adapt so that this is not a real deal breaker?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in …

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Should men be protectors?

I got a couple of text messages from my friend Felicia the other day. She was kind of freaking out because her new boyfriend did not “defend” her when they were out on a date recently. They were sitting in a movie theater when some jerk said something rude and a little threatening. Not only did her guy not say anything, he implied that she should watch herself with strangers.

Felicia is very traditional and she believes the man should take a leadership role as protector and provider. Needless to say, she is considering breaking up with this guy because she believes his character is lacking to let something like this happen.

I wonder if women today still think men are our protectors? Should a guy defend his woman’s honor in our so called modern society?

Ladies, is it important that you feel safe around the man you are dating? If he shows any kind of weakness, does it mean he is not a suitable mate?

Guys, do you hesitate to play the role of protector with women you date? …

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Office romance: good, bad, and the ugly

Considering the amount of time many of us spend at work, it is not a surprise when romance enters the picture. I believe dating your co-workers is probably one of the riskiest moves a person can make. There is potential for a lot of drama and if things don’t work out, you are left to carry the burden of your bad romance in the office.

I have heard of couples who say that dating someone at work was the only way they were ever going to find anyone. I have also witnessed a really bad break up among co-workers. Worst case scenario has to be the couple who literally got into a physical fight when one dumped the other.

Do you think that dating a co-worker is appropriate? What if the person was your boss?

What are the pros and cons of dating at work? What are some tips would you give on office romance?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Are good girls hard to find?

A lot of single women worry about projecting a good girl image. This is especially true if you are a GRIT (girl raised in the south) – because being a lady is practically preached to us the minute we hit puberty. Sometimes, I wonder if women worry too much about image of purity, though.

I argued with my guy friend about this recently because he was complaining about how hard it was to find a “good” and positive woman to date. He said that many women project this image but after getting to know them, they don’t always share his values and morals.

How important is it for men to date women with “wholesome” with a good girl image? It seems that women with a little edge gets attention but how long does that kind of attention really last?

Guys, do you ever question the image of the women you date? Do you wonder if they are who they say they are? Do you think good girls are extinct?

Ladies, do you ever feel pressure to appear demure and innocent as to attract the “right” kind …

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Dating: When cultures collide

I think one of the best parts of dating is when you get to meet someone new who can expose you to new experiences. Whether they hip you to a new language, different foods, or even music, our lives can actually become richer from some of our dating misadventures!

While having things in common can be good, dating someone from a totally different background, culture, or race can be enlightening! One of my friends is dating a guy from India. She is from Atlanta and has never been out of the country. Since she has dated him, she says that outlook on the world has really changed.

Of course, dating someone from a different culture can have its challenges. Sometimes customs, traditions, and values differ so much, it becomes hard to manage a relationship that has to merge all these things.

Have you ever dated someone who is from a different cultural background? Do you think it made things more interesting?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

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Guilty of one month stands?

So I have heard about one night stands before, but apparently one month stands are all the rage now. Do you know what a one month stand is? Basically, it happens when one person wants to hook up but won’t come out and say that. Instead, they go through the motions of starting a new relationship and after about 30 days, they cut ties and move on.

One of my guy friends is guilty of this dating habit and I finally called him out on this pattern he has. He claims that he has good intentions but “these mini-relationships” fizzle out fast, not too long after the orgasm, I imagine. It makes me wonder if there is any real interest in starting something new or do we just convince ourselves that it is something real.

Have you ever been guilty of having one month stands? Have you had a period of time where you have started something up with someone but it keeps fading quickly and you are on to the next?

Why do you think we lose interest so fast? Is it because we prefer the …

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